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I am recovering from prone masturbation. I haven't masturbated in that fashion for about 3 weeks since I saw this site, but I still really feel the urge to do it during the night. I've tried wearing more clothes, but I still get aroused when lying against the bed. What should I do? (age 16)

A: Are you able to masturbate by hand yet? That will make it a lot easier to overcome prone masturbation. Then when you get the urge to masturbate prone, you can masturbate supine. You will like it a lot better that way.

1/4/08


Thank you for this site because you describe how I masturbate perfectly. I have not gotten as hard as I usually do lately. Will that be back to normal once I do what you say? Once you wait a week, do you have to do it by hand daily? Because I really don't have the time to do that. (age 16)

A: Your erections are apt to be stronger when you have given up prone for a month. You don't have to do it daily right away, but you should be masturbating daily by hand within a few weeks. Most guys your age are able to make the time somehow. You might also find it doesn't take as long to do it by hand as your prone sessions now take you.

1/9/08


I have been masturbating prone since before puberty and have been suffering from erection problems for two decades. In the past decade or so, I visited several doctors (including urologists and psychiatrists), and they all said my ED problem is not physical. I'm physically fit, have never smoked, only drink a little alcohol, and have done no drugs.

I still have morning erections in bed. I have erections on drugs like Viagra (but they last only for a couple of minutes in intercourse). But other than these two situations, I don't have erections even when I am sexually excited (with a girlfriend or seeing images or pictures). When I masturbate face down, I do it without an erection. Perhaps my brain has already been conditioned by my body for so long that my penis can seldom get hard when sexually excited. At my age, I don't masturbate frequently, usually once a week or sometimes once in 10 days or so. But each time I do it, it is against the bed and my penis is soft. Some years ago a psychiatrist suggested to me that my erectile problems may have to do with my prone masturbation method, and asked me to change to the conventional one. But I only tried once or twice, failed, and then stopped trying it. Now having found your great site, I am fully convinced by the evidence, and I am really determined to get rid of prone masturbation.

However, I have one big question. You said in the comment pages that it is important to practice the normal way of masturbation only when there is an erection. So given my situation, should I take Viagra each time before practicing it? I am quite sure that I won't get any erection (or one lasting long enough) without the drug (except when I wake up in the morning). Also, if I am not successful the first time, should I do it again a couple of days later, by taking another pill? What more can I do to help solve the erection problems? Having you heard any case like mine but is recovered? Can a two-decade erection problem associated with masturbating prone be cured? I am quite despaired. Would be very grateful for your input. (age 46)

A: It is very good that you have spontaneous morning erections. That means your erection problems are not physical. It is not essential that you masturbate only with a spontaneous erection; it is fine if you induce the erection in order to masturbate. Viagra is a good idea when you are first learning conventional masturbation, but I've never heard of anyone needing it for more than a couple of days. Many men have quit masturbating prone after more than 20 years. You can do it too.

1/10/08


I have been masturbating prone for about 5 years now, but nearly always by thrusting into my hand. How much more or less harmful is this? Do I need to stop it? (I have been trying to!) (age 19)

A: Thrusting into your hand is dangerous, although somewhat less so than thrusting against bedding or objects. I sometimes advise males who thrust into pillows, etc., to learn to thrust into their hands when they are having trouble overcoming prone altogether. But it is still short of the ideal of supine masturbation by hand. I recommend that you engage in the abstinence program and work at stroking yourself to orgasm using only your hand, with or without lube. You are fairly young and ought to be able to make the switch fairly easily.

1/11/08


I masturbated prone from the age of 14 until I was about 21, not really knowing any better. I knew the other way existed, but I preferred my method. I eventually switched when I started to notice that my equipment did not seem to match others. It took me a while to notice because how many other guys' equipment do we really want to look at? I noticed that, though I had no problem with erections, it only raised to a horizontal level. It never raised any higher. It was actually quite surprising to me to realize that it was supposed to go higher than that. I have had no problem having intercourse, but to date I am still the same way -- horizontal, straight out, never any higher. Did I screw up some of my inner workings via those years of masturbating prone? If so, is it reversible? Like I said, I've always been this way, for as long as I can remember. It's not really a new problem. Great site, by the way. Wish I had this sort of thing when I was 13.

A: There is variation among men in their erection angle. I have never heard any other male who masturbates prone mention the angle of his erection. My own angle was and is quite high, and I did prone for 15 years longer than you. It is likely that you just naturally have that angle. Congratulations on quitting prone masturbation so many years ago.

1/20/08


I can only ejaculate when I masturbate face down. I tried to switch but it didn't work. What should I do? (age 15)

A: Keep trying. Men with a lot more of a habit of doing it face down than you have switched successfully. You can do it too.

1/21/08


I took your advice and went a week without masturbation to give up prone. However, now I can't seem to find as much pleasure from regular masturbation as prone style. Is this something I'll have to get used to? (age 19)

A: Yes, a lot of males notice this right away. They soon come to enjoy conventional masturbation much more. You will be able to masturbate a lot more easily and in more circumstances than you can now. Give it a chance and don't go back.

2/21/08


When I was 11 I discovered masturbation the prone way. It felt so good and I did it periodically. But then I read your site and how that kind of prone masturbation was bad. So I took the advice and tried to completely stop for a while. I got 3 weeks before finally masturbating to orgasm with my hand. I like it better and I do it every day. (age 13)

A: Congratulations! Your story can be an inspiration to older males too.

3/6/08


I have been masturbating prone for close to 10 years now and typically do it a few times every night. After reading this site, I have decided to stop doing it prone. However, it takes ages to ejaculate from normal masturbation, more than an hour usually. Even when I have had sex, I lasted longer than an hour. Is this a sign of anorgasmia from prone masturbation? (age 17)

A: Yes, that is anorgasmia. Once you get adjusted to conventional masturbation, it will not take you very long. The important thing is to resolve to give up prone masturbation forever.

3/22/08


I am kind of shocked to read all the contents of this site. I am 30 and have masturbated prone for over 15 years. I stopped for 5 days since reading this site but the tension is getting unbearable and using the hand is not working. How long do you think it would take to change?

A: You ought to be able to change within a week or two. You should not be using the hand yet. The idea of abstaining is to go a week with no masturbation or other sexual stimulation at all. At the end of that week, you ought to be able to masturbate by hand. Please give it a try.

4/11/08


I've followed your process and did not masturbate for a week. I've never done it the conventional way and did prone since I was 6 years old. After the week, I tried doing it the correct way, but it didn't work out, since then I tried it for a few days now, but it never works. I also tried using visuals. When I try doing it the normal way, there is no climax, although I get an erection. Should I keep on trying to do it the normal way every day? Is it normal, that it doesn't work right away? Is it harmful if I don't masturbate for a long time? Please help me! (age 15)

A: Keep at it and resist the temptation to go back to prone. When you feel like climax is close, stroke as hard and fast as you can until it happens. Once you learn how, you can work at slowing down and using less force.

4/15/08


I did not masturbate for a week, and then I tried to do it the normal way. At first it didn't work. Now when I try it, small amounts of semen comes out. There is no orgasm. I tried this twice a day for about half an hour. Is this normal? How can I reach orgasm? (age 15)

A: What you describe is normal. When you get to the point where the small drops come out (probably pre-cum and not semen), stroke as fast and hard as you can until you reach orgasm. Once you are successful, you can work at slowing down and using less force.

4/20/08


I almost fainted when I read about this. I have been doing it since age 13. I am a virgin and plan on being one for a while. I was able to cum fast and was worried I would be too fast in the real thing. I then tried to last longer in prone style. The other night I tried the normal way and I just couldnt reach orgasm. Is it too late? (age 17)

A: Of course not. Most males who masturbate prone, including me, were much older than you when we overcame it. You can probably get over it in half the time it took most of us.

4/22/08


Thank you for your continued efforts to help all the members of the support group. You must know that it is highly appreciated.

I'm a 26 year old male, and I used to be a male who masturbates prone until about 5 months ago, which is when I discovered healthystrokes.com and was horrified, to say the least. Since then, I have quit masturbating prone and have been practicing masturbation the conventional way, and I have been successful. Although, even now, sometimes it is hard for me to climax without watching porn. In the process, I have met a beautiful young girl, whom I'm absolutely in love with. I have no trouble getting an erection when I'm with her, and no trouble climaxing either, when she gives me a hand job. But when I attempted penetration, all of a sudden my excitement died and I lost my erection completely.

I'm confused and worried about the fact that these are still repercussions of 17 years of masturbating prone practice? I feel the head of the penis is still quite sensitive and I'm almost afraid of the pain, because until 5 months ago, I had never retracted my foreskin, since I masturbated prone.

A: There is apt to be an adjustment period at becoming sexually active whether or not you had previously masturbated prone. The problem, I think, is that you're worried in advance that you will not be able to stay erect. I recommend being more relaxed the next time you attempt intercourse. Do not worry about whether the erection will persist. Just enjoy what you can do. It is a good idea to abstain from other forms of sexual release (including masturbation) for about 5 days ahead of time.

4/20/08


I have engaged in prone masturbatory practices for approx. 17 years and recently came to conclude exactly what this excellent web site informs. I knew that I must be causing some serious sensitivity issues and that the mechanistic aspects of sex are more closely replicated or simulated in normal masturbation. This falls contrary to my previous beliefs that the prone position more closely mimics the act of sex as my whole body would be involved in the act. Humping a mattress as I would potentially hump a person. Evoking a fantasy as though I was actually humping the "attraction of the day" seemed more visceral and mechanically pleasing as well as involved rather than the typical and previously regarded as "limited" or even "boring" hand job activity. I am extremely grateful for your acumen of prone masturbation. I am a bit curious about another finding of mine that may be related to or possibly a side effect of prone masturbating. Oftentimes when I'm in "the heat of the moment" with my limp noodle trying to muster enough energy to try to get pumped, I may inadvertently rub the couch or bed linens, and at that moment I may become slightly aroused but never torpedo action. Is this merely an association resulting from making love to a mattress for many years or is it something much more serious? The bedding does not turn me on, but has my penis made an association with linen and tumescence/masturbation/ejaculation. This seems very bizzare and freaky. Should I be concerned at all? (age 31)

A: I have never heard of anything like that. I think now you just work at overcoming prone masturbation, and within a few months, your erections will be a lot better.

4/24/08


When I stumbled across this site, so many things made sense to me immediately, I could not believe it. I was happy and horrified at the same time. I'm 35, and I have been masturbating prone for probably 20 years, and have all the symptoms that are described here. After 6 days of abstinence, I was able to masturbate conventionally to orgasm sitting in a chair. It took a while, and almost didn't happen, but I can't even conceive of masturbating lying on my back. My penis just goes soft soon after I start masturbating, even after the near-week of abstinence. I want to be able to do this, and I'd like to be able to masturbate without the help of porn. Will I ever be able to do this? Thank you so much for this website, truly.

A: You are judging yourself pretty quickly. Your erections won't get better instantly, but you should notice a difference within 3-4 months of switching. You've done the hardest part already, giving up prone masturbation and learning to masturbate conventionally. There is nothing wrong with using visual aids. At your age, most males use them almost every time.

4/27/08


I started masturbating through self discovery, and I always did it face down until I stumbled across this page. Is it OK to stroke your testicles? Does prone masturbating have any real harmful effect or does it just take your mind off of sex? (age 13)

A: Yes, stroking testicles is OK. Prone masturbating is indeed harmful and should be avoided. It doesn't take your mind off sex any more than any other kind of masturbation.

5/3/08


Could some kind of chastity device be useful in abstaining from ejaculation while trying to quit masturbating prone?

A: I hope not. Surely you have enough self-control that you can get by without a barbaric, medieval chastity device. Taking a sleeping pill before bed can work at least as well. The answer lies inside you, not in some painful gadget.

5/4/08


I abstained for a week and then tried to masturbate the conventional way. I am trying to reach orgasm, but it won't work. Just some pre-cum comes out during masturbation. I have been trying it now for a month. I have another problem. There is a scar on my penis that goes from the border of the top part of the penis down to the testicles. It lookes like a red stripe. Is this normal? (age 15)

A: It is not a scar. That is called the raphe. It is a seam that would be your labia if you were a girl. When you get the pre-cum, just stroke as hard and fast as you can until you ejaculate. Once you have learned to do that, you can work at going more slowly and with less force.

5/8/08


Finally after 1 month and three weeks, I reached orgasm through the conventional way. Thanks a lot for creating HealthyStrokes.com. Without it I would have never managed!!! (age 15)

5/22/08


I am in the process of trying to quit masturbating prone. When masturbating on my back, I find it very difficult to achive orgasm without tensing the muscles in my knees tightly. Is this normal, and might it do harm? (age 18)

A: No. That is very normal. Most people do that at least some of the time when they masturbate, both males and females. It keeps you from getting unwanted feelings from your legs.

5/26/08


I finally learned how to masturbate the conventional way. After about a month of doing so, I now wake up with an erection nearly every morning, something that I haven't experienced in a long, long time. Is this just a coincidence or is it due to me learning the new way? (age 16)

A: I am inclined to say that is a result of your giving up prone masturbation. Congratulations!

5/27/08


I owe you my life, man! Five days after discovering your site, I was finally able to masturbate the conventional way, and I have never felt better. I'm so glad to know that it was not a serious problem and your site is to thank. Keep doing what you're doing and God bless you. (age 17)

6/5/08


I just want to say thank you for making this web site. I am so thankful I found it. I felt very weird that something was wrong with me but because of you, now I know what was wrong.

6/6/08


I am in the process of quitting prone. However, I find it very difficult to achieve orgasm without tightening the muscles in my knees tightly. Might this do me harm? (age 19)

A: You always run some risk of pulling a muscle, but many males tighten their legs, including many non-males who masturbate prone. It is probably serving you better to do that.

6/16/08


I should thank you for creating your web site and the Yahoo group. My problem is the same as everyone else's and was affecting my marriage. The advice offered here changed my life. Your work is amazing.

6/19/08


I masturbated prone from the time I was 13. I quit masturbating prone forever once I read this web site. I went through the program you laid out. I faced certain problems and I gradually went successfully through the 7, 5, 4, and 3 day periods and had orgasms with an erect penis in less than 10 minutes. But when I quit for only 2 days, I either lose my erection or it will take around 45 minutes to reach orgasm. Should I go back and abstain from masturbation for 4 or 5 days? (age 30)

A: At least three. You ought to be able to do it after only two days at this point. Perhaps the problem isn't the abstinence period but not maintaining a proper mental focus. Pictures can help a lot.

6/21/08


I had no idea that masturbating prone was a problem. I have been masturbating in this way for as long as I can remember, and I had no idea that it was harmful or even unusual. Thank you so much for this information. This is very eye-opening. (age 25)

6/21/08


About a year and a half ago, I came across your web site about masturbating prone. The descriptions really hit home and decribed my situation. I'd been masturbating prone all my life and, in my late 20's and early 30's, had been experiencing more difficulty reaching climax in anything other than the missionary position. It had gotten to the point where I actually faked orgasm a few times. I also noticed that I was losing sensitivity. It scared me enough to stop smoking (a few years earlier), and then later to stop masturbating prone. I followed your advice and flipped myself over and started masturbating in a more healthy way. Thank you! I wasn't easy but I managed to get used to it and not do it prone at all anymore. Things improved somewhat for me.

My problem is that now, over a year after stopping prone completely, I'm still having problems keeping a good firm erection either by myself or with a partner. Not all the time, but frequently. It causes me much worry. My sensitivity is way down. I'm not sure if my problem is psychological (I am prone to depression and have been on medication for it in the past, I despise my job, and I'm a nervous and anxious person) or physiological (I'm about 30 lbs overweight, not in good shape, ex-smoker, drink 2-5 alcoholic beverages a week, drink caffeine, etc.) I'm working hard to change my diet and get get in shape. What else do you think I can do to regain some sensitivity and firmness? (age 33)

A: I recommend making sure any anti-depressant that you take doesn't cause sexual side effects, and if it does, switching to one with less risk of sexual side effects. It would also be in your interests to cut down on alcohol and caffeine and lose weight. In your case, prone masturbation can't be blamed for all of your sexual dysfunctions.

7/4/08


Thank you VERY much about your section on prone masturbation. You have helped me so much with this! (age 18)

7/5/08


I just want to thank you for having created this site. I masturbated prone all my life until two months ago. After reading your page, I realized why I was having so much difficulty in sexual encounters with girls, and it was a real eye-opener. I followed your steps to relearn how to masturbate and now I'm cured. I feel like my my confidence has taken an X pill. But I need a chick to test my newly refurbished self with. Really, I feel like I would have had more bad experiences had I not seen this web site before college, so thank you and keep up the good work. (age 17)

7/13/08


I have been masturbating prone for about 4-5 years, and every time I try to quit (even stopping for 2 weeks), I can't ejaculate and just produce urine. (age 17)

A: It would be useful to urinate before you masturbate. It is also helpful that first time after the abstinence period to stroke as fast and hard as you can until you reach orgasm. Then you can work on stroking more slowly and with less pressure.

7/28/08


I am a 44-year old male who would like to thank you for your wonderful site on prone masturbation. I have been masturbating prone since my early teens, and it has affected my interpersonal relationships for 25 years. It wasn't until a month ago that I realized that prone masturbation was the source of my inability to finish with a female partner. Needless to say this anorgasmia has led to my relationships ending prematurely.

When I found your site, it was a revelation, as I had tried other methods such as hypnosis to no avail.

Since reading your site, I have tried to follow the steps to give up prone masturbation, but I've found it is like trying to break a drug addiction. Furthermore, there have been some unforeseen physical side effects that have surfaced since I have tried to transition to the traditional mode of self pleasure.

I truly want to move from prone to a traditional method of pleasure and relationship sex. For me, prone masturbation is a terrible addiction that I did not know I suffered (not denial, just ignorant of the fact that I do it wrong). I was wondering if it is time to see a doctor to address some of these issues. Your thoughts would be valued.

A: Your message is missing some important details, like these "unforeseen physical side effects" and how you have failed at the abstinence program. It has only been a month. Plenty of males take longer than that to get started at the abstinence program, but most are done with prone masturbation within two weeks when they do. Even I wasn't cured of prone until almost four years after I learned about it, even though I was running this site for a year before I seriously tried to get cured, and then I was done with prone in a few days and felt like I had made major progress within a month.

I would suggest joining the online support group if you have not already and paying attention to what the guys in there say. The message archive at the Yahoo group is also a useful resource. Only if you are still having trouble after a while with that would I suggest finding a sex therapist.

7/30/08


I am a 30 year old woman married for a year and on the verge of a divorce. The reason is quite complex and could not be explained either by my husband or by anyone else. I am also a researcher and understand why you cannot disclose your identity.

In one year of marriage my husband and I never had sex. He is 34 years old. He never displayed any enthusiasm towards getting physical, did not even know how to kiss, almost like a child. All my attempts failed to arouse him. If I touched him I never got a response, although instead sometimes he would claim that I was hurting him even though I was gentle. I never saw him erect, but rarely he would be 1/4 erect perhaps. At times, when I could not sleep out of sheer frustration, I would notice that he would, in his sleep, rub himself against the mattress vigorously for a long time and seem to satisfy himself. In the morning I would find certain stains on the bedsheet and his garment, but it never looked like semen stains. I never saw him masturbate like a NORMAL man. He is otherwise very childish in his behavior. His touch was never sexual. He always claims that he is NORMAL. He also did not show any signs of dissatisfaction in the marriage or never bothered to be considerate to me for his own faults. His acute neglect of me and non-responsiveness made me file for a divorce since I consider him impotent. We are going through with it.

I came across your article right now and would like to ask you -- Do you think this is a case of prone masturbation? Do you think he can ever be cured? Do you think any woman can actually feel satisfied with him?

I would like to hear from you. I have gone through tremendous mental trauma over the past year, and I have suffered immeasurably and also lost professionally because of this weird phenomenon that occurred in my life, which I had never experienced. I need some these answers desperately for my own mental health. I have been thinking all this while that I was incapable of attracting him. Please help me.

A: What you describe sounds like prone masturbation, but it is complicated because he is also practicing sleep masturbation. I think the way to cure him would be for him to learn to masturbate conventionally while he is awake. This would reduce the likelihood that he would masturbate in his sleep. He also seems to have a lot of other psychological and developmental problems that would need to be addressed before he could have a relationship with an adult woman.

8/4/08


Reading your site was a big lift. I immediately went into the abstinence program. I am going back to college to change my career for 2-3 years next week. I never thought anything was wrong with doing it with my sheets until I had anorgasmia with the last 4 or 5 partners. I have been masturbating prone after unusual sexual Internet chat roleplays. I thought my problem may be that no woman I am with in real life can match up to the Jenna Jameson look. I have significantly reduced that. You have told others it's healthy to have stimuli. Did I do the right thing in quitting/reducing these roleplays or should use them once I start masturbating the traditional way?

I also smoke at least a little pot every day after work. I was wondering if smoking pot during the abstinence period would help in keeping me relaxed and my mind off sex. I know I need to quit pot too and I will but one thing at a time.

After I start ejaculating the regular method of masturbating, should I practice doing it in other positions to get ready for sex? I am only used to being on my back. I'm not a virgin but it has been years between partners and climax was not reached on my end.

A: I think cutting back on the Internet porn was a good thing. You can try that again after you are cured. I advise against using marijuana, but I don't know that anyone has used it while they were getting cured of prone masturbation. So I don't know if it will make a difference. The only masturbation positions you need in the immediate future are lying down on your back and sitting. You can fool around with different intercourse positions when that time comes.

8/7/08


I just found your site today and it has given me hope. I thank you for giving me at least hope if nothing else. I'm 28 in five weeks and had my first orgasm at 12. I remember my friend talking about "whackin' it." It sounded like fun and tried it myself but didn't find anything happening. I stopped while I still had an erection and my sheets felt really nice. So much that I kind of started thrusting and before I knew it had my first orgasm. From that point on I have essentially been humping my sheets which sounds very similar to these guys. I just do it on my back.

Nearly 16 years later I'm still masturbating with my sheets. I'm not a virgin but not fully experienced either. During my first fellatio, I didn't reach orgasm. I just thought it was because she was a bigger girl and I was not that attracted to her. My next two experiences were a hand job and oral and I had no problems except it took about 30 minutes each. I just thought that was normal. Later, sometimes I'd come after a while and sometimes I wouldn't.

When I was in college, I lost my virginity at 20. I was erect and thrusted into her all night before I gave up on having an orgasm. She felt bad I didn't cum but she obviously told her friends that I was good because of my stamina. The same thing kept happening through college. I usually blamed alchohol for that problem. After college, it has been harder to meet women. It had been years since I had intercourse. Then I had it and as others have said, I lost my erection once it was time.

Over the six years since I graduated college, I became seriously interested in a sexual form of online roleplay. I'd RP and masturbate pretty much every day through college and worse after. At first I thought it was nerves because it had been so long or, thanks in large part to our advertising industry, thought I may need a pill. I even told my doctor about the problem and he gave me Cialis as a "confidence booster" and told me they would work and after a few times I wouldn't be so nervous and not need them anymore. Of course, I did not tell him or anyone else how I masturbate, because I thought nothing was wrong with it. At 27, I realized I had a serious problem and it was affecting indirectly all aspects of my life.

I have been depressed and angry throughout these years of severe prone masturbation because of sexual frustration. The depression is caused by a lack of confidence from being afraid I can't have a satisfying sex life. Boredom is another reason for these habits as none of my friends or potential dates are available in the day or late night. So now I pretty much work, masturbate prone and role-play. That is my life. I know I need to change a lot.

I recently decided to change my career and I'm going back to college for professional reasons. I'm studying to be a teacher. Months before I read your site, I decided I was going to beat all these problems and get the things I want in life. I have cut way back on RP.

A: OK. You have identified a lot of things you want to change. When you are changing careers is a good time to make other changes in your life. Now go out and do them! Good luck!

8/7/08


I came across this site out of curiosity and concern. I have been masturbating prone since I was about 8. I have tried to masturbate the conventional way but I can't seem to get hard or reach orgasm using this method. I am very accustomed to lying on my stomach using the floor, or pressing my penis against a chair. This always produced orgasms for me and felt good. I didn't realize the harm I was doing.

I have read that several other people with a history of prone masturbation have commented that they are worried about long-term effects and I'm in the same boat. I'm hoping that stopping prone masturbation and using the conventional way will cure me. I want to be able to enjoy sex and one day be able to have a family. I have been tentative about having sex with my girlfriend because I am afraid of underperforming or not staying erect or not ejaculating. Please help! I'm worried that I can't fix the problem, but it was calming to see here that prone is CUREABLE!!

After reading the comments on here and realizing I'm not the only person with this problem, I decided to fix the situation and yesterday I started my abstinence program. I am determined to fix this problem and have a great sex life.

Thanks for your time and I really appreciate your site. I feel comfortable sharing and I'm relieved that there is a solution. (age 30)

A: You can be cured and suffer no long-term effects. It has never been proven that prone masturbation causes physical damage. Good luck with your cure.

8/10/08


Will long term prone masturbation (over 15 years) and being a virgin at 29 affect my ability to enjoy intercourse? Can I be cured or have I done too much harm to ejaculate through conventional masturbation or sexual intercourse?

A: I have never known of a case that couldn't be cured. Many men have been cured a lot older than you. Be glad you never have to experience intercourse in your situation. You can get cured before ever having to explain anything to a partner.

8/12/08


Today I completed my first week of abstinence but when I tried to masturbate the conventional way I didn't ejaculate. I tried a few times today but to no avail. However I must admit that a few times during the week I had the urge to masturbate prone but was able to resist. I was able to go the entire 7 days without masturbating. Is it just a matter of time before I'm able to masturbate and ejaculate the conventional way? Does it take time for my penis to adjust to the conventional method? In time will certain areas become more sensitive? (age 30)

A: Those questions are all addressed on the main page. Try again in a day or so and see if you can ejaculate. If not, go back to abstaining for 7 days.

8/17/08


I'm 19 years old and O've been masturbating prone for about 6 years. Recently, I have gotten a girlfriend and we've been getting physical. However, I have been unable to climax whenever she gives me oral or manual intercourse. It is very fustrating and I usually just masturbate prone after she leaves.

Luckily, I came across HealthyStrokes.com. I didnt know this way of masturbating was a problem. I have abstained for a week; however, I am having difficulty cumming. It is frustrating since I want to be able to share sexuality with my girlfriend. Are there any tips you can give me that can be used to overcome this syndrome? I have cheated once since seeing your web site, and this was because of frustration. I can reach orgasm in under 2 minutes with prone, and when I do it conventionally, I can't do it at all.

A: This web site is full of tips about overcoming prone masturbation. You might also join the online support group, which has over 1000 guys to help you. They can also provide support when you feel like cheating.

8/19/08


I used to masturbate prone, and then I found this site. I tried abstaining, but after one day I tried the conventional method. After about 10 minutes, I ejaculated. This took a lot longer than the prone method. Will the time it takes for me to ejaculate the conventional way go down, or will it always be longer? (age 17)

A: It will probably take longer at first, but when you are used to it, it will take less time than prone took. At least that is the experience of older males who were taking about 20 minutes to reach orgasm via prone masturbation. If you were only orgasming after a short time (e.g., 5 minutes), you might not even notice a difference. Congratulations on being cured so quickly!

8/21/08

I have been masturbating almost daily since I was 12. 99% of the time has been in the prone position, thrusting my penis into the bed, pillow, sheet, etc. I knew that it was not the most common position, but I found it easier and more pleasurable to reach climax by humping rather than by stroking. I am only finding out now that this is potentially harmful. Since I started having sex at 19, I've found that I'm able to stay erect for long periods of time but have always had problems reaching orgasm during intercourse, only being able to climax maybe a third of the time. I either get too tired or my partner gets worn out and we both end up feeling frustrated. Besides changing my masturbation method, is there anything I can do to reverse this? (age 40)

A: Changing your masturbation habits is the main thing. Once you have overcome prone masturbation, it can also help to abstain from masturbating for 3-5 days before an expected sexual encounter to see if it makes any difference. By giving up prone masturbation, you are well on your way to better sexual functioning.

8/27/08


I just turned 15 years old and I have been masturbating prone since before I can remember. I waited a week and a half without masturbating prone. When I tried the conventional way I couldn't be stimulated long enough and went back to prone. I'm afraid I can never get better since I have been doing it this way for so long and I really don't know what to do.

A: When I was your age, I had not yet started masturbating, yet I was cured of prone after 22 years. You have barely made an effort, and you are ready to give up. Most guys your age can learn to masturbate conventionally with only one abstinence period, but this is not true for all. Keep at it, and you will find the rewards soon enough.

8/29/08


I'm just thanking you for the help you and your site has provided me and would like to tell you a story.

When I turned 15, I noticed that I had a harder time having erections. I was really puzzled as to why they came easily a year prior but were difficult to have. By the time I was 16, I rarely had ANY erections during the day. I was worried that I had erectile dysfunction, but the people I had asked about it said it doesn't occur in someone as young as me.

Then one day while researching if my method of masturbation was normal (the prone position, rubbing on a bed or the floor), I came across HealthyStrokes.com. Although I didn't want to believe it at first, eventually with enough will power and practice, I started masturbating the conventional way.

Doing it this way is SO much better. I'm finally not limited to a bed.

Also, the best part of the story?

After learning the conventional way, I started waking up with a hard erection every single morning. After not being able to experience that for two years, I finally appreciated it again! Also, I now get many erections during the day. Although it can be inconvenient at certain times, I'm definitely not complaining!

To anyone who thinks that this is a hoax, IT'S NOT! Many guys including me didn't want to believe it at first, because breaking away from the prone habit seemed hard. But pretending the issue isn't there won't make it go away. I've seen a big difference because of this.

Thank you for the help!

8/29/08


I have been trying to quit masturbating prone for 9 months, but every time I try, I cannot masturbate conventionally. I have tried stopping for up to two weeks but I just can't ejaculate unless I masturbate prone, which I only try after trying conventionally for at least 30 minutes. Do you think I have been seriously affected by a prone habit of 4-5 years and already have sexual problems? Do you have any other tips because it is really hard for me to ejaculate conventionally? (age 17)

A: You really need to have the determination that you are not going to masturbate prone no matter how long you have to struggle at it. 30 minutes is not so long compared to two weeks of abstinence. You are throwing away two weeks' hard work whenever you do that. If you cannot reach orgasm in 30 minutes, then you should stop for a few hours (at the very least) before trying again. When you are first trying to get over that hump of learning to masturbate conventionally, it is OK to stroke as hard and fast as you can. Once you have learned conventional masturbation, you can work at slowing down and using less force. You are pretty young. It is unlikely that you already would have sexual dysfunctions.

9/12/08


I'm an 18 year old healthy guy who has been masturbating in the prone position style since the age of 9, and like so many others, thought it was normal. I have always had a huge sex drive, being able to masturbate 6-7 times in a single day with sex constantly on my mind. Due to my religious views, this was always accompanied with guilt and I had always refrained from getting involved with girls, despite many offers.

A: Now you have the chance to get cured of your prone before you decide to accept one of those many offers.

9/14/08


Thank you so so much! I never knew I had a problem until I started having sexual intercourse. My girlfriends thought they were at fault for me not reaching orgasm. I have been masturbating in the unconventional way for the past 11 years. Almighty God has used you to give people like me a second chance. Now I know there is a cure. Once again, THANK YOU SO MUCH! (age 22)

9/16/08


I have been masturbating prone since age of 9 and have conditioned myself to ejaculate in the shortest time possible due to fear of being caught. I can cum in just under 60 seconds if I want! I found this site weeks ago and since then have vowed to give up prone masturbation but have used it twice and have masturbated prone about 5 times. This method takes slightly longer, only about just 3/4 minutes though. My question is when I first have sex, will I cum vey quickly, or like the typical male who masturbates prone, have anorgasmia? Please answer me. I am very anxious about my first time.

A: It could go either way. There is no reason to speculate about it before you try it. You should advise your partner of your potential sexual difficulties and be prepared to give each other a good time even if there is no erection and no orgasm. You can do what she wants or do some non-sexual things that let you feel close to each other.

9/28/08


I always knew that prone masturbation was not correct, but I needed someone to tell me. I have now abstained for 1.5 days. You are a hero! I am very nervous that it is permanent. I have had no huge problems until the last year, which made me engage in prone masturbation more often to prove I could. Lately it has been in an increasingly half-erect position. When it became everyday things really snowballed. Do you believe that a penetrating orgasm would be helped by the experience of conventional masturbation? Or is this just to remove prone? Is conventional masturbation a necessary part of the resensitization? (age 24)

A: I have never heard of someone who couldn't learn to masturbate conventionally. You can overcome prone masturbation, and you will notice an improvement in your erections. I have only ever heard of one person going directly from prone to intercourse successfully without learning conventional masturbation in between. You want to learn to masturbate conventionally. You will like it. It will help you get better in intercourse.

9/29/08


I attempted intercourse around last Christmas and could not get erect, due to anxiety. Because of the shame and further anxiety I have not tried again since but will be doing so soon. I gave up prone masturbation three weeks ago, and I already feel differences! I feel much more energetic and get stronger and have more frequent erections, but the erections are still not as hard as they were when I was 15. I feel more confident after discovering my condition can be cured and my anxieties have decreased. Will the erections come back hard as they used to be? Is it possible to condition myself through masturbating to last long in sex? (age 18)

A: Yes, your erections will be stronger in a few months. It has only been three weeks. You shouldn't expect so much in that amount of time. It is very possible to last longer in sex through masturbation. That is how sex therapists train men to overcome premature ejaculation. Don't worry about PE at this point; most males who masturbate prone (as you've read) have the opposite problem.

9/29/08


It has now been 4 weeks since I quit masturbating prone. I gained an erection yesterday that was 90% full, something I have not had since I was 15. I noticed that periods of abstinence do not affect the erections, but masturbating only conventionally has a greater effect. I only cheated 3 times and this was only in the first 2 weeks of quitting. Since then I have not cheated and erections are better as a result. (age 18)

A: Good job!

10/11/08


It is clear that the sensations produced in prone masturbation cannot be reproduced in a vagina, therefore men who masturbate prone mostly suffer anorgasmia during sex. But why does prone masturbation also result in weaker and less frequent erections? I have not seen an explanation for this. (age 18)

A: It is the body responding to what is needed. If you work the penis by stroking it with a medium fist or inserting it into a vagina, you will need to be hard. If you get in the habit of making a phony vagina for it, by thrusting into or against something that is more rigid than a real vagina, you will get in the habit of not needing to be as hard. The act of thrusting into or against something hard might also be causing temporary stress to the penis that makes it more difficult to get a full erection. Males who quit masturbating prone find that their erections get a lot better within a few months.

10/11/08


I turned 21 recently and have been practicing masturbation prone as described on your web site. I noticed that sometimes it's hard for me to reach ejaculation even when I masturbate prone and that's why i started researching and came across your web site. I'm really nervous and scared because I really want to be able to masturbate with my hands. However, I'm scared of what I read on your web site that maybe I have lost some sexual sensation due to the consequence of prone masturbation and now that I turned 21, it has made an impact. I'm following your guideline now, and I haven't tried to masturbate for two days. I'm currently dating someone and she sometimes gives me erections when I'm around her. Your guideline indicates that I shouldn't have an erection while being on the abstinence period. So do you think i should stop seeing her for a few for days and try out masturbating the correct way?

A: An occasional erection isn't a problem, but you should avoid doing things that will bring on a persistent one, like being around a female who arouses you. I advise against being sexual until you have been able to masturbate daily by hand for a month.

10/16/08


It has now been 5 and a half weeks since I quit masturbating prone and I can confidently say that I'm cured! I can masturbate conventionally every day, so thanks a lot. During this period I have cheated 4 times, the 4th being this morning, followed immediately by convential masturbation. Is it possible that prone masturbation causes permanent shrinkage to the penis? I can swear it has done so to me because my penis length was 6 inches at 15 years old, and since then it has been 5.6 inches. My erections are 95% full now, but the length just does not reach 6 inches, and it most definitely used to. I have a theory that those years of masturbating prone so badly damaged the base of my penis that it does not properly fill with blood anymore, and perhaps this is where that half inch is lost. The base of my penis is the weakest part of my erection. Please let me know your thoughts. (age 18)

A: Prone masturbation does not shrink the penis. The most likely explanation for the disappearance of the half inch (assuming your measurements were correct when you were 15) is that the fatty pad at the base of your penis (the mons pubis) has grown, which could make half an inch of length get buried. There are plenty of guys who masturbated prone for 20 years or longer, and their penises are truly not eroded down to almost nothing. You ought to notice your erections being more firm within a couple of months. Good luck to stop cheating!

10/18/08


I have been masturbating in the prone position since I was 12 and have been getting more and more problems because of it. I often cannot reach orgasm during sex except in the missionary position and have lost a lot of sensation in my penis. I have been able to reach orgasm before without being in the prone position by using a blanket to rub, or using lubricants. How do you feel about the use of lubricants when quitting? Should only a dry hand be used? Thanks a lot for all the information on your site. (age 24)

A: Lubricants are great, but you should not introduce more than one change at a time. I suggest learning conventional masturbation first and then adding lube.

10/19/08


I don't know how to thank you for your guidance. I found your web site about 3 weeks ago after I had a bad experience in bed with someone whom I care about a lot. I was really disappointed and I thought I had screwed the relationship up because of that. I searched and found your web site. I joined the group and followed your steps to make it work. I cannot believe how fast I got cured. I'm 36 and masturbated prone for 30 years. I was expecting it to take me 4-6 weeks, but now after 2 weeks trying I'm easily able to keep my erection and have an orgasm within 5 to 15 minutes. I tried every night from Monday on and it worked. I just wanted to see if I could have more than one orgasm in a night like I used to while masturbating prone sometimes and I could do it on Tuesday. I think it gave me good confidence that I'm able to do it whenever I want. I know I need to do it step by step. Next thing after I get used to this is to try different locations and positions.

You have no idea how grateful I am and I owe you big time for this.

A: Good job! Thanks for giving hope to older men.

10/23/08


I can't thank you enough for all this help. I found your site and at that moment I knew what I had to do. It happened after I had sex with someone but I wasn't able to orgasm. I had been masturbating prone for 4 years and had no idea that it would cause problems. I abstained from masturbating for a week then tried it while sitting in a chair at a computer desk. I came within two minutes. Now, I was just wondering if thats OK or if I have to be lying on my back for it.

A: No, it isn't necessary to be lying down. I only recommend that because it's what's easiest for most guys. Congratulations to you! Keep up your progress!

10/26/08


I masturbate both conventionally and face down. (I stopped face down after reading this site.) I masturbate 3-4 times daily. I easily get aroused. Even though I'm getting good erections at first, but it doesn't last long. Am I having erectile dysfunction? If not, what should I do? (age 23)

A: A better measure would be if you can sustain an erection during intercourse with a partner. It is good that you have given up prone masturbation. That will serve you well. Your frequency of masturbation is extreme. It would be a better test of your erectile capabilities if you were able to get a good erection for a complete masturbation session at least once a day. Once you have proven to yourself that you can do that, then maybe you can increase your frequency. But I doubt it would be good for you to continue masturbating as often as you do now.

10/26/08


I would like to thank you for sharing and educating others on prone masturbation. I have been suffering from this condition from childhood. I must have been around 4-5 years old, and I thought there was something wrong with me since I never knew anyone who had sexual thoughts since kindergarten. I tried to find more about it, but couldn't find anything on prone masturbation before. It is very comforting to know that I am not the only one to suffer from it, and it is curable.

At present, I can do conventional masturbating from time to time. But, I rely heavily on masturbating in prone manner. I intend on treating myself with the information that you have provided.

10/26/08


I just wanted to say THANK YOU SO MUCH! I have been masturbating the wrong way (prone) for many years, and I had tried masturbating conventionally more recently and failed every time. But thanks to your advice and some persistance on my part, I beat it! Thank you for all your help! (age 17)

10/31/08


I followed the procedure for quitting prone masturbation. Believe me it works. I had to wait for 1 week. (age 26)

11/02/08


I first saw your site about 2 weeks ago and it enlightened me in so many significant ways, for I aptly fit into this group of males who masturbate prone. I was incredibly terrified to learn of my dysfunction, and I was even more frightened since I am going to have sex with my girlfriend for the first time very soon. So I decided to never go back to prone ever again in order to drop the habit and move on to the conventional manner. However, during my 2 weeks of abstaining, I kept feeling discouraged and depressed since I tried about every 4 days to use the conventional method to no success. But today I got out stimulating pictures and went at it to great success. Honestly, the joy and relief is indescribable. I thank you sincerely ... you've saved me, my friend. I thought I would never be able to ejaculate without prone and was so disheartened; but sure enough I was able to use the conventional method successfully a little less than 2 weeks after learning I that prone masturbation was a problem. Thank you so much! (age 17)

11/02/08


I came across your page about a half hour ago and I'm still in shock. I started masturbating prone at a very early age and I never realized that this was a problem and that I was suffering from ill effects from doing so. I am able to masturbate in the correct way too. But the other problems that stem from prone, such as being able to orgasm only in missionary position and not getting any satisfaction from fellatio, in addition to anorgasmia, were very strongly present.

I can't thank you enough. I don't know how other people react to what they read in your web page but I just wanted to tell you that you really changed something wrong about my sexual habits, and I have absolute belief in that gradually I will also overcome the negative results of prone masturbating. I hope that many other people also read and benefit from what you say in your site. Have a nice day.

A: You can read this very page to find out how other people react. See what a difference a half hour can make?

11/10/08


Thank you very much for your information. For the past 15 years, I have been masturbating prone. It was always a problem for me to come inside a vagina although I had come few times prematurely once I entered. About 6 months back, I was able to keep my erection for 30 minutes but still couldn't come. Lately I find it difficult to get an erection, which is hurting me a lot as am not able to satisfy my partner.

I stopped masturbating prone for a day and after 2 days I was able to masturbate the conventional way, which is good news. Do you think it's OK for me to masturbate conventionally for a week and should I try vaginal sex with my partner with or without Viagra or do you recommend I shouldn't masturbate at all and try having vaginal sex after only a week? (age 30)

A: If you have read through the cure regimen on HealthyStrokes.com, you know that I recommend that you not attempt sex until you are able to masturbate conventionally on a daily basis for a month.

11/10/08


I have been masturbating prone for a while now, I would say a few years. I can only do this when my penis is not fully erect and is quite soft. I experience a lot of pleasure, but it feels like I? not allowing the semen to exit. It doesn? shoot out, but it just waits until I pull the skin on the tip of my penis. I have tried masturbating conventionally but I never come to an orgasm, and only release a little pre-cum. Is my problem the same, as I am not masturbating by rubbing my erect penis against a hard object, but instead rubbing it against my hand, when face down. Or is it something else? (age 16)

Masturbating prone is problematic. It is bad both to masturbate prone and to masturbate when not fully erect. You seem to know how to masturbate conventionally but cannot do it to orgasm. When you get pre-cum coming out, then stroke as hard and fast as you can until you ejaculate. It will be a breakthrough. Once you're able to do this regularly, you can work at slowing down and using less force. However, you ought to be sufficiently erect in order to do this. Viagra might help, or it might not. Anyway, your problems can be overcome with some persistence.

11/12/08


About 2 years ago I came across this site and was blown away. Not only did I find out what was wrong with me but more importantly how to stop it. I'm currently 25 years old and was a male who masturbates prone for years (possibly started as early as 4-5) and quit when I was 22-23 years old. Since then I've been masturbating conventionally and frequently with good success.

Here is my problem now. I have just recently begun a sexual relationship with a young woman who I have strong feelings for. Due to my past sexual frustrations (difficulty keeping an erection, not being able to cum with a condom, etc.) I've been very nervous and thus far been unable to cum through vaginal intercourse. First, I have felt practically no stimulation in my penis. Granted, I have rarely (in fact, only once) used a condom when having sexual intercourse. The few times I've had it, the girl was on the pill. Thus far, I'm 0-3 with achieving ejaculation while wearing a condom (even with the help of lube). I just don't feel the stimulation that is usually there. Originally, I believed it to be due to constant and excessive masturbation (which I'm now realizing the erections were rarely ever full but only semi). The last time I masturbated was five days ago, and I attempted sexual intercourse both last night and the night before, thanks to assistance from Viagra. I was able to maintain my erections but unable to cum.

I have not masturbated prone for WELL over 2 years (probably closer to 3). I really thought that this was behind me. I do not doubt that my negative thoughts are a part of it and this very well may be a psychological issue but I don't know what to do. While I have no problem pleasing this woman, I want her to know that she's pleasing ME and would LOVE to be able to ejaculate for her rather than faking it.

I am able to to ejaculate practically every day using normal methods. I feel that perhaps due to excessive masturbation, I would take a break for another week and hope that stimulation comes back and I'll be able to finish. I can only hope.

A: It takes time to learn anything new sexually after you've been through sexual problems. It is good to cut out masturbation as much as possible during this period. It would also be a good thing if your partner could go on birth control so you don't have to rely on the condom. They really make a difference in terms of male (and female) sensitivity. I would try to wean off the Viagra if I were you. It obviously helps with the erection but can make your anorgasmia worse.

Follow-up: Things have been well for the most part. I did cut off on the Viagra due to hearing that it can cause you to become dependent on it. However, I have been taking a sexual enhancement: Herbal Dragon. It is apparently an "all natural herb" pill. It does work very well. The sex life has been pretty successful. The anorgasmia has - for the most part - gone away due to cutting out masturbation completely. The reason is pretty obvious -- the condoms. Alas, wearing those blasted rubber things - regardless of how thin they are - makes my already insensitive penis, even more so! Last week, I masturbated 3 days in a row, probably a total of 5-7 times, so when it was time to have sex (a day earlier I had ejaculated 3 times), I was unable to maintain or enjoy the sex. So I'm back to not masturbating. We'll see how it goes.

However, though we've discussed the pill. She did still say that due to it being 99% (and not 100%) effective, I'd may have to still wear a condom. I'm going to go down fighting. She also isn't aware of my history of prone masturbation. I'm not sure when I should bring it up... My erection troubles have improved due to the herbal pills, but there have been nights/days of not taking it and an erection was achievable. It's the condoms, I hate them!

After I ejaculate I seem to be done for a while. I hear of guys that can cum and still be hard as a rock or ready to go within 15 minutes. Not I. Is that due to prone masturbation or perhaps my late bloomer of sex? (Virgin until 23.) I still can achieve nothing via fellatio. Any feedback is appreciated! Thank you for all your help and assistance, Doug. You have no idea how invaluable it's been in my life.

A: Most couples who use the pill in conjunction with another method use vaginal jelly or foam, not condoms. I suggest you tell her about prone masturbation and the problems it causes. She may otherwise assume your sexual problems are due to your not being attracted to her. Men find women to be quite supportive when they're trying to overcome sexual problems. 15 minutes is a lot to expect at your age. However, you ought to be able to perform again in 30-60 minutes.

11/15/08


I have masturbated prone since I was 4. Is this why my testicles are small? I am quitting prone forever right now. Please tell me I didn't do permanent damage to my testicles or my nerves. (age 15)

A: Prone masturbation will not affect the size of your testicles. Your nerves will soon get used to the new sensation of conventional masturbation. I think you will be fine.

11/16/08


I first discovered your site about a year ago. For the new year, I made several resolutions, one being that I would learn to masturbate properly. I then forgot about your site until came back 2 weeks ago. I went 10 days without masturbating, and today I tried for 30 minutes but it did not work. At the end I just went back to prone (masturbating on my stomach). Can you please help me out? What am I doing wrong? Am I not masturbating correctly? (age 18)

A: The main page of this site has all kinds of information about overcoming prone masturbation. You blew 10 days of abstaining by being impatient after only 30 minutes. Instead of impulsively masturbating in the prone position style, you could have waited a few hours, or better yet until the next day, and tried again. You might also consider joining the online support group and reading through the archives. Thousands of males have been through what you have.

11/20/08


I found out about your site a few weeks ago. Prone masturbation describes exactly my problem. Following your method, I was able to ejaculate while masturbating the conventional way. Thanks for the help! However, I continue to have problems with intercourse with my girlfriend. It is getting to the point where we may break up because of it. So far, the only solution is to take Cialis. With it, I can get fully erect even with a desensitized penis. However, my girlfriend is concerned that the pill will cause fertility problems down the road. Any thoughts on this? (age 37)

A: Cialis does not cause fertility problems. That is something that is carefully tested before a drug is put on the market. I suspect that there are other problems. Your girlfriend is unlikely to believe Cialis will cause fertility problems, so I suspect she is using it as an excuse to cover up another reason. You ought to work harder to find out what the real issue is.

11/21/08


I have been masturbating in the prone position-style since I was about 13, but I have also developed an alternative, which is to stroke my penis's erotic buttons, not so much by fist-pumping, although there is pumping involved. When I masturbate this way, I can't have my penis stand straight out; it's usually angled upward against my absomen, or at least upward (I do it sitting in a chair). I'm still stroking with my hand and not really thrusting against anything. I have thought about this way as an alternative to prone (thank you for informing me, by the way). Is this a sound alternative, or is the only cure for prone masturbating my penis at a perpendicular angle to my body?

A: I can't picture exactly what you're doing. The important thing is to give up atypical forms of masturbation and learn to masturbate conventionally. I am not convinced that what you're doing is atypical, but it doesn't sound typical either.

11/21/08


When I lost my virginity I wasn't able to come. That made me even more insecure. I've never been able to come the normal way. (I have tried a lot of times.) According to HealthyStrokes.com, I have the most "innocent" form of prone masturbation. I lie on my stomach and thrust into my hand while my hand is helping. At the moment I haven't had an orgasm in 12 days! I tried to masturbate twice, the first time after 6 days and now after 12 days! But I don't even get close to an orgasm. I really want to be able to masturbate the conventional way so I can have decent intercourse with a girl.

What do you suggest? Should I just stop masturbating until I'm able to come the normal way? Even if it takes 4 weeks? I'll be able to do that but I read that you also say it's unhealthy to not masturbate for a long time. Do you other people that can't get over masturbating prone? Is it possible? Please give me some tips to get cured! (age 19)

A: You are giving up too easily. Be patient and work at making the orgasm happen. It helps to be mentally well stimulated when you try to masturbate even after a week abstinence. Viagra can also help as it takes care of the erection so you can focus on having an orgasm. You are very strong to be able to keep from reverting to prone when you couldn't reach orgasm after six days. And now you've done it twice.

I have never had a case of someone who was unable to learn to masturbate conventionally. You can do it. Just be patient.

By the way, the "unhealthy to go a long time without masturbating" refers to a person who habitually only ejaculates twice a month or less. Taking a break from it to help you overcome prone masturbation is not the same thing.

11/27/08


My girlfriend and I are thinking about intercourse and I have been masturbating in the prone position since I was 9. I've completely quit masturbating in the prone position style but I can't seem to masturbate in the conventional way. (age 16)

A: Your story doesn't make a whole lot of sense. You can't legitimately claim to have quit masturbating in the prone position until you have replaced it with another way of masturbating. Even if you swore off prone masturbation, until you learn to masturbate conventionally, the next time you get a strong urge to masturbate (and I can promise that this will happen), you will have no choice but to do it prone style. I suggest straightening this out before you attempt intercourse. You're too young to be sexually active anyway.

12/4/08


I thought I was screwed up. I could never have an orgasm when I had sex with a girl, at least with a condom. I always blamed the condom. Whenever I had sex with her without a condom, it was so tight that I'd have orgasms. I will give the HealthyStrokes program a try. I've been masturbating prone for about 10 years now. (age 23)

12/06/08


I have been masturbating prone for 30 years. Although I knew it was definitely non-standard, I never thought of it as a problem. I have to admit, I must be a complete idiot for not being able to link prone masturbation with my inability to ejaculate whenever a girl would give me oral sex. I took your advice and gave traditional masturbation a shot after 10 days of abstinence. I tried for 30 minutes lying on my back and both standing and sitting and failed to even feel like I was getting close. I also chafed my penis badly, and when I tried to use some hair conditioner to cut down on the chafing, it burned like crazy. I am so stupid.

Subsequently, I had sex with my wife (missionary) and ejaculated. I went another 5 or 6 days without sex or masturbation and tried again this afternoon. I got some lubricant and copious amounts of visual stimulation ready on my laptop. I tried flat on my back in bed at first and really didn't get anywhere with that so I switched to kneeling. I was getting a bit discouraged after about 15 minutes but then my monkey DNA must have kicked in and ... SUCCESS!

Guys who have masturbated conventionally their entire lives will read this and probably laugh at me because I am sure they cannot conceive of the difficulties that prone masturbation can cause but I am so proud of my achievement.

Was the use of pictures and lubricant cheating? Is my success tainted? (age 42)

A: No, those were both OK to use. Congratulations to you! I hope you will be able to ejaculate from oral sex soon. Please keep us posted on your progress.

Follow-up: I tried without lubricant yesterday afternoon. Success in less than 10 minutes. Amazing. I can't thank you and your web site enough. Without the Internet, I don't know how you would be able to reach so many people with this kind of information.

12/7/08


I am uncircumcised and have been masturbating in the prone position style since I was 13. I read your page about prone masturbation and decided I needed to change. I tried mastubating the regular way for 20 minutes but nothing is happening, and when I go for more than 10 minutes, the tip of the foreskin kind of swells up and so does all of the skin around my penis. Can you give me any tips to achieve masturbation the right way without my penis swelling up? (age 15)

A: You can't expect to switch with only 20 minutes of work. You can read through these comments here and find many, many males who had to work for a couple of weeks to be able to masturbate supine the first time. I also suggest you put up with the swelling up while you are trying to overcome prone masturbation and then start using lube once you are comfortable with conventional masturbation.

12/7/08


I masturbated prone since I was about four. Since finding your site, I have not masturbated prone for about 5 months now. I have taught myself to masturbate the conventional way but my erections still haven't improved that much. What should I do? I told my mother and now I am going to the doctor soon. (age 18)

I suggest printing out this page for the doctor or at least giving him the web address of HealthyStrokes.com. You might see if the doctor will refer you for a RigiScan screening. I suspect that you are paying too much attention to your erections and that they are either fine or are improving gradually and you haven't noticed.

12/8/08


I masturbate by rolling up a blanket and placing my penis in there and then humping. I also hump a wet towel sometimes. When having sex with a woman I have a hard time getting a solid erection. It's never rock hard. I have trouble doing doggy style too! Is this from prone masturbation? I can do missionary OK. I've been masturbating this way all my life. I have done it conventionally a couple of times but it's easier and feels better prone. Your site is great! I read a lot and I think I know how I can fix my problems. I never thought I'd be able to find readings on this as I thought it was only me! (age 29)

A: Yes, what you describe is typical for males who masturbate prone. Be glad you can reach orgasm in missionary at least. Some guys can't.

12/11/08


I unknowingly masturbated prone for years, and whenever I tried the normal method, it felt so strange, I would just stop. Eventually, I got more used to it, but then I would start squeezing my penis so that I would not ejaculate. I cannot find any information about this latter technique but I'm wondering if it is also dysfunctional. I still masturbate prone occasionally - but after reading this today, it seems it's time to change for good! I'd like to thank you for your site. (age 29)

A: Congratulations on deciding to overcome sexual dysfunction. Squeezing to stop orgasm is in general dysfunctional, but it is also a technique recommended to overcome premature ejaculation. (However, once a male overcomes PE, he does not need to do the squeeze technique any longer.)

12/14/08


I'm a 17 year old male who has been masturbating prone since I don't know when. I learned about the hazards of prone masturbating about 9 months ago and I haven't masturbated that way since. Instead I masturbate sitting in a chair while watching porn on the Internet. Recently I tried to have sex with my girlfriend and I could not get an erection. For the past 2 months I have abstained from masturbating for about 5 days and then masturbated. It was about 75% successful. My erections were about 75 percent of the best ones. Now after a month of abstaining and conventional masturbation, I can ejaculate in about 3-5 minutes. My erections are at about 85-90%. For the past week I have used video stimuli (per your post of 12/7/08). I also found out that fantasizing is harder to do (I used to never need porn) to obtain an erection. Should I keep abstaining (and for how long)? Can I use video stimuli? How long will it take for me to get rock hard erections back? Why can't fantasizing get me hard like it used to?

A: The purpose of abstaining is to overcome prone masturbation and learn to masturbate conventionally. You have achieved that. Congratulations. Secondary abstinence is suggested when you are having trouble with intercourse. I advise males to abstain for 3-7 days before a sexual encounter and see if it makes a difference. Going longer than a week will probably not make it any easier. The erections you describe ought to be good enough for intercourse even if they are not as perfect as your best erections. The reason you can't get an erection for intercourse is in your head. The solution involves being more relaxed around your partner. Whether you use videos is up to you. If you think they are making things worse, then discontinue them. Fantasizing might be different since you took the video shortcut. You should be able to fantasize your way to an erection, but as you get older, erections are not as automatic. They might never be 100 percent of what you remember, but that is due to aging and not necessarily due to prone masturbation. Just work at it, and you are apt to notice your erections are back to normal before you realize it.

12/26/08


For years I was a male who masturbates prone, but I haven't done that for a couple of years. My girlfriend and I are monogamous, test regularly for STDs and have been clean, and she's on the pill, so we usually have sex without condoms. However, no matter what I do, I can't orgasm inside her, which is something we both want. What's going on here? (age 25)

A: I would be interested to know what your orgasms are like when you masturbate and how long it takes. How much force do you use when you masturbate? Prone is an atypical form of masturbation, but it is not the only atypical form. In the short term, it might help if you abstained from masturbating and ejaculating for 5-7 days before attempting intercourse again. In the long term, it might help to get a doctor to rule out a physical problem and perhaps to see a competent sexologist.

12/26/08


I've been masturbating since I was 13, sometimes prone. Once, my mother caught me naked in my room. I was asleep and naked under the sheets. (I slept that way to get aroused) I'm not sure if she knew why I was naked, but she only told me not to do so when I sleep over at friends' houses, and she never mentioned it again. I am now 20 (I read how the prone position can lead to sexual dysfunctions) and have stopped doing it. Is it too late to restore sensitivity to my penis? Also, I recently experimented masturbating with a honeydew melon. I didn't get caught but it was really gross due to the messiness and wasn't all that pleasurable. Is this due to prone masturbation?

A: If you didn't masturbate prone exclusively, the amount of sensitivity lost is apt to be small. You will be better off by staying away from prone masturbation. Masturbating with the melons was messy and unpleasant because that's how melons are.

1/1/09


I've read the article on prone masturbation on your web site. I used to masturbate in the way you describe but over the course of the past year relearned how to properly masturbate and am enjoying the results! Thank you!

Do you think there could be a connection between improper masturbation and sexual orientation? I questioned my own orientation when I was first learning how to masturbate prone and thus used visual stimuli of a certain orientation, but since learning how to masturbate properly, I think about the other orientation while masturbating. The only time I ever had gay thoughts was during improper masturbation. You say on your web site that masturbation affects your mental sexuality (or something like that). I guess my question is, is there any research on what people think about while masturbating and how that affects your health and orientation?

A: I doubt that either sexual orientation causes you to learn to masturbate a particular way or that learning masturbating a particular way influences your sexual orientation. When I first started doing surveys about this, I found that there was a lower rate of prone masturbation among gay males. I posited that because gays masturbate frequently among themselves, that a male who masturbates prone would get corrected by his gay partners. Relatively few of the males who contact me or post in my Yahoo group are gay. I don't have much of an answer. However, Kinsey speculated in his landmark 1948 Sexual Behavior in the Human Male that gays engage in prone masturbation because they are fantasizing about being penetrated from behind. I have never heard that statement from a male who masturbates prone.

1/1/09


I have learned to masturbate conventionally but I can't achieve orgasm or ejaculation. I get an erection, go somewhere private, and use soap as a lube. I stroke my penis with a loose fist for 15 or more minutes and concentrate on arousing ideas and after a while it feels quite good but no orgasm. When I used to orgasm in the prone position, I don't think there was any pre-cum. Is this normal? Congratulations on such a great site where people can openly ask questions about masturbation! (age 15)

A: You haven't learned to masturbate conventionally if you can't orgasm that way. There was certainly pre-cum, but it is easy to miss when you are masturbating prone and not as sensitive to what is coming out as you are when you're able to see the penis while you do it. Soap is not a very good lube and might be a hindrance while you're getting used to the new feeling. I suggest going without lube. When the good feeling comes -- it shouldn't take 15 minutes -- stroke as hard and fast as you can until you have an orgasm. Once you have it down, you can work at going more slowly and stroking with less force. You might even decide to use lube again. Take it one step at a time.

1/4/09


Hey man! Thanks for this. I've been wondering why I can't orgasm when I have sex. I just found this site today and I'm gonna try a week of no masturbation. I can't wait to see how it works! (age 17)

1/8/09


I just orgasmed and ejaculated for the first time non-prone. I got an erection looking at pics and then stroked my penis in the sitting position while looking at pictures and then closing my eyes and fantasizing. After 5 minutes I felt this feeling and knew it was coming. I opened my eyes and ejaculated. Thank you for your great informative web site! I got a rush a few times when looking at the pics. Do you think I should be able to orgasm without them? (age 15)

A: I wouldn't give them up just now. They seem to be critical in helping you overcome prone masturbation. Once you are habituated to masturbating in non-prone fashion (after a month or so maybe), it would be a good idea to try not to use them every time.

1/8/09


I read your discussion and have stopped masturbating face down.Within a day I was able to masturbate sitting upright but it takes much longer and even a little distraction turns me off. If I try hard and focus on something erotic, I ejaculate in somewhere around 15 minutes. Is pushing a little hard on my penis and ejaculating in a conventional way better or should I give take seven days to abstain and then masturbate and get a faster ejaculation without pushing it too hard?

A: 15 minutes is kind of long at your stage in getting cured. I suggest going longer than you are now between ejaculations, but once you have managed to masturbate to orgasm by hand, there is probably no reason to abstain for as long as seven days.

1/10/09


I can't believe I never learned about prone masturbation. I started masturbating around 13, masturbated prone until I was about 19-20. I have a slight tear right below the head of my penis from rubbing it against my leg when in the prone position. It doesn't bleed, but it hurts mildly when agitated from regular masturbation. Intercourse doesn't seem to bother it. Do you think this is treatable? (age 25)

A: I have never heard of a case of trauma like that being permanent. If it hurts, you should have it examined by a doctor. Be sure you tell the doctor what you told me, including that it's over 6 years old. I don't know what the treatment is -- stitches, maybe? -- but would appreciate being updated by you so I can learn something new.

1/11/09


The comment of 10/23/08 troubles me. I also have been masturbating prone for 30+ years, never realizing the trouble. For several months I've tried the program. I abstain for a week or longer, and sometimes it still takes over an hour and I don't get close to orgasm. How much time should I give a session? 15 minutes? 30 minutes? An hour?

I've had mild success sometimes, and on occasion even managed to ejaculate while inside my partner! (It never would've happened if not for this site! Which she found for me, btw). Sometimes I've fallen off the wagon because after masturbating for an hour with no success, I know I can just roll over and be done in a few minutes.

I also have a fantasy that I have done for 30+ years - it's what I think about when I masturbated prone. It does not involve intercourse. Are these two very distinct issues? I worry that I'll never be able to orgasm the normal way daily, let alone within only a few minutes. Do you think it's still possible for me? Between the two (prone masturbation and the fantasy), I think I need therapy (the fantasies are always related to S&M). Can you recommend the best way to find a therapist who may be familiar with prone masturbation, other than calling every one of them in my area? (age 43)

A: You ought to be able to reach orgasm with a half hour. Most guys who have been abstaining successfully for as long as you say are completely over prone masturbation in that amount of time. It might be worthwhile to stroke as hard and fast as you can until you have an orgasm. Then when you are used to the new feeling, you can work at using less force and lasting longer.

S&M fantasies are fairly common and are probably not central to your issues. You don't say where you live, so I have no idea what therapist to suggest, if any. If you e-mailed me privately with your location, I might be able to look someone up. You could also find a sex therapist near you at http://www.americanboardofsexology.com.

1/15/09


When I came across your site, I was just about to turn 21. I had been with my girlfriend for 6 months into our relationship with no sex, mostly because I had a history of masturbating prone and the sexual problems that result. I came across your web site, read the case studies, and couldn't believe other people had been masturbating the way I had. I came to your site seeking a cure, and I did what you said to do. I think it took me a month of stopping, and starting back up prone, then stopping again for an entire week. Each night I'd try my hand for a little while, and I finally got it down the right way.

It's been over 6 months since I came across your site, and read it in its entirety. My girl and I have been having sex like rabbits, and I've been masturbating the conventional way ever since. I just wanted to say thanks, and give you credit, for had it not been for you and your wonderful site, I'm sure I'd still be masturbating with the aid of my bed, wondering why I can't do it the usual way, and not having sex with my girl. She'd have most likely dumped me, and I'd still be a virgin for fear of not being able to keep an erection.

Thank you, Doug, from the bottom of my heart. I'm so in love with the girl I'm with, and it makes me happy to be able to make her smile. Sex is an amazing aspect of life that I'd have hated to miss out on just from masturbating the wrong way. (age 22)

1/15/09


I was a male who masturbates prone until I encountered your site, and I followed the weeklong abstention method. It worked better than great. I ejaculated MUCH more then a teaspoonful and at such a velocity that some hit my hair until I pointed it away. Since then I haven't produced as much, nor at such a high velocity. Was this the result of the week-abstention? I want to experience that again (without the hair part). (age 19)

A: Congratulations on such fast success! Yes, the extra large ejaculation was due to the abstinence period. Now you will know to control your ejaculate better next time. Good luck.

1/16/09


I find that the only way I can masturbate to the point of ejaculation is to rub my penis against my mattress. I know from reading your page that this is wrong, but when I do it with just my hand nothing happens and it gets painful. I don't use any form of lube because I don't know what would work well. Is there anything I can do or can you recommend some form of lube? (age 14)

A: I suggest you read my main page again, more carefully, to find out what I recommend in your situation.

1/17/09


I have been masturbating in the prone position style for about 10 years. I didn't realize it was a problem until I got married. (I had no sexual experience before marriage.) I began to realize there was a problem when I couldn't keep my erection long enough for intercourse. I went to check things up at a urologist. He recommended I go through a Doppler ultrasound test (which measures the blood flow to and from the penis via injection simulation). Unfortunately I was diagnosed with a venous leak (blood is not trapped properly at my penis). As you can imagine I was very depressed knowing that this cannot be cured easily. I didn't take stock of my erections before marriage. Through y masturbation, I felt my penis semi-erect and thought it was fine and normal. Then I found your web site. I was so happy when I found out that my style of masturbation has a name, and that it can cause ED, and of course I am happy to know it is reversible. Of course I quit masturbating prone (it was fairly easy for me) and begin to masturbate the conventional way. I realized that my erections are good. Could prone masturbation cause a wrong diagnosis in a Doppler test? I have read in another web site that the test is not enough to diagnose venous leak. Have you heard before about a wrong diagnosis of venous leak because of prone masturbation? I have asked my urologist but he didn't seem to believe that prone masturbation is a cause of those problems. (age 26)

A: Yours is the first concrete physical diagnosis I have heard of a man who masturbates prone in seven years of writing this web site. Of course, I am not a doctor and cannot offer an alternative diagnosis. However, you owe it to yourself to find a urologist who is willing to accept prone masturbation as a cause of sexual problems and get a second opinion. In the meantime, I would encourage you to keep working at giving up prone masturbation and learning to masturbate conventionally. There is a good chance you will find your erections much better within a few months and will then not bother to find out about the venous leak diagnosis.

1/17/09


I have emailed you before re my boyfriend. He has never been able to ejaculate during sex and I am not sure why. I have read a lot about how Internet porn is becoming a problem and asked my boyfriend whether he watches porn or not. He HATES talking about his masturbating but after me asking him a couple times he finally told me he looks at porn about once a week. How often is regular for a guy his age (21)? Is this too often?

I have suspected he has a problem with ejaculation because he has told me he masturbated wrong (face down) as a child. Now, he tells me he does it correctly. He has always been able to ejaculate when masturbating but never with intercourse. In fact, he feels very little pleasure at all with sex. I've tried oral sex and manusl intercourse and he feels no pleasure with those either.

Is there something he can take to maybe help? He gets an erection fine. Toward the beginning of our relationship I felt that sex was not a big deal, but after two years of this it is beginning to wear on me. I hate to say it, but it is putting a major strain on our relationship. We only have sex once every couple of weeks and it sucks on my part, but I hate having sex and knowing he isn't enjoying it, let alone really feeling much.

A: According to a suvey of over 10,000 males by the web site HealthyStrokes.com in the second half of 2007, 387 21 year olds reported an average frequency of 7 times per week. It is normal for guys to masturbate once a day or more until age 24, and even then, the frequency only goes down a little bit. I strongly suggest he work to overcome his prone masturbation. He would benefit from the help of a competent sex therapist. Help him tell you what would make it enjoyable for him, and if he won't, then just make sex as enjoyable as possible for you. A good sex therapist might help you get all this sorted out.

1/20/09


I suffered for years from a form of prone masturbation and have now begun to masturbate properly 100% of the time. Before, I learned to reach orgasm without erection, and I would not get an erection when fooling around with my partner. Now that I have stopped and am re-learning the proper technique, will I be able to get an erection again when I am around my partner? (age 28)

A: Yes. That is how getting cured of the legacy of prone masturbation works. You should notice a difference in your erections within a few months.

1/21/09


I found your site exactly a week ago after masturbating in the prone position style. I am 30 years old and have been doing it this way since I was probably 7 or 8. I have tried to masturbate the conventional way in the past but never been able to ejaculate. I would always finish up on my stomach on the carpeted floor. Today I finished a week of abstaining and this morning I tried the conventional way. It took me about 15-20 minutes and I came normally for the first time. I tried again within the hour and this time it took me longer (about 25 minutes) and I was able to ejaculate again and this time I actually saw myself do it.

I have not been sexually active in a few years and in the past I was never able to reach orgasm with a girl. Past girlfriends have always thought it was their fault. I use porn usually when I masturbate prone and I know I am not always erect all the way when I ejaculate. I used porn both times today but I was able to ejaculate when I only fantasized in the end.

I am still nervous though. Today I was hard and then I would lose that sensation and then I would get hard again. The same has happened to me during sex, and my ex would get me hard and then when we changed position I would get distracted and lose the erection. Will I be able to sustain my erection in the future? What do I need to do to rectify that? I have never used any pills. Have I caused permanent damage to my penis and can I never sustain an erection? Thank you SO MUCH for this site. I feel accomplished today and I know I have to stay strong and not go back to prone masturbation. (age 30)

A: I think you are getting cured too fast. Masturbating twice in an hour doesn't give your body much of a chance to get used to the new sensation. In a sense, you are fighting your body's natural need for a refractory period anyway. I usually tell people in your situation to wait two days between orgasms and only go to one day when they are really working well. There is also no reason to be worried about future performance in intercourse right now. Just concentrate on getting used to the new feeling of masturbating. You will probably be much more confident about masturbating non-prone style by the time you have sex with a partner again.

1/31/09


I have been masturbating conventionally since I was 13, never prone. About two weeks ago, I had the urge to masturbate by rubbing against the floor (sounds so corny when typed). I have found it harder to gain an erection since then. I can still masturbate conventionally (and that is my preferred method), but it takes longer for me to become aroused, and I need to concentrate harder.

I have stopped masturbating prone. I was wondering what would be better for restoring my libido -- continuing to masturbate conventionally until my body readjusts, or abstaining for a while as you suggest for males who masturbate prone who cannot masturbate conventionally? (age 15)

A: It is good you recognized your mistake and stopped so quickly. However, I find it hard to believe that you did something to cause all that sexual trouble. I think it is in your head. You obviously don't need to go through a full abstinence regimen -- the purpose of which is to make it easier to learn to masturbate on your back, something you obviously know how to do. But I think it would be good for you to take a few days off anyway just to get some sexual rest and maybe think about what led you to try something like that because of an urge.

Follow-up: I still have not been able to get erections as quickly as I used to. Also, I don't think it's "all in my head" because this was happening after my prone session, but before I came to consider the possibility that masturbating prone caused my problem, so I don't think it's psychological.

A: Give it some time to get normal. You are probably paying too much attention to your erections right now. I find it very hard to believe that a single incidence of prone masturbation would cause as much trouble as you allege.

2/4/09


I first experienced masturbation as prone/face-down (around 12 years old), and after a relatively short period (a year) I realized other guys did it differently, so I taught myself to do it that way. Most of my thrusting would involve me rubbing my penis against my underbelly (reproducing the same simulation as prone) and also I would get more out of handling the head than out of handing the shaft, which I read on your site is a part of the danger posed by prone masturbation. Do you think this sounds plausible? If so, I think this is something you should address: prone symptoms, even though you masturbate conventionally. I've had some erectile dysfunction during foreplay situations because of this, because it just didn't feel the same. I am still a virgin, so I can't talk about actual penetration. (age 21)

A: Prone masturbation isn't the only cause of sexual dysfunction. You didn't switch from prone to conventional masturbation; you replaced it with a different but also atypical method of masturbating. I would recommend getting over the penis-rubbing thing and learn to masturbate only by stroking with your hand. It is hard to say that you are having ED if you've never tried penetration. Also, concentrating on the shaft (especially the base) instead of the head is very characteristic of prone masturbation; not the other way around.

2/7/09


I HAVE BEEN MASTURBATING THE PRONE METHOD FOR SIX YEARS. NOW I WANT TO STOP DUE TO THE DANGERS. WHEN HAVING SEX I COME VERY QUICKLY THE FIRST TIME AND THEN FIND IT VERY HARD TO GET A FULL ERECTION TO HAVE SEX FOR THE SECOND TIME AND I KEEP LOSING MY ERECTION. IS THIS DUE TO PRONE MASTURBATION? I HAVE ABSTAINED FOR SIX DAYS. I MASTURBATED YESTERDAY FOR THE FIRST TIME USING BABY OIL WITH NO VISUAL STIMULI. IT TOOK ME SIX MINUTES TO EJACULATE. I WAS APPLYING A BIT OF HARD PRESSURE TOWARD THE LAST FEW MINUTES ESPECIALLY THE PENIS HEAD. MY NEXT SESSION WILL BE IN FIVE DAYS. AM I ON THE RIGHT TRACK? (age 26)

A: If you reached orgasm in only six minutes, I don't think you need to wait a full five days. If you are orgasmic in sex, your problems might not be as bad as you think. Most males don't report that their prone-related problem is that they can't have sex repeatedly; it's that they can't complete intercourse at all. I think you are doing just fine.

2/10/09


I stopped masturbating prone, and abstained for seven days and then masturbated conventionally and had an orgasm within 10 minutes. What is the target time I need to shoot for when masturbating conventionally? How long should I abstain? What if during one session it took me 15 minutes or more to reach orgasm? What if I had an orgasm with a less than a fully erect penis? (age 30)

A: Anywhere from 5-15 minutes is good. If you can orgasm within 10 minutes, then you can definitely cut your abstention time by days. You should only masturbate with a fully erect penis. That is what you want to train yourself to do.

2/13/09


I greatly admire what you are doing with your web site. I think the depth and elaboration with which you describe such a taboo subject is very brave and inspiring, but above all, an incredible help to people like me.

I would like to relate my personal story to you because I have not encountered any cases like mine on the web site (although I confess I haven't been able to read *all* the responses people have written, but at least a search for keywords didn't return anything), and as such I think it may serve others who have the same experience. Although I have never masturbated prone, I am pretty sure that the way I have masturbated until now would have the same detrimental effect (leading to the same kind of dysfunctions that males who masturbate prone suffer from). Also, I have dealt with some other masturbation-related issues in the past that I think I might as well include.

It all started with the way I discovered masturbation, at quite a young age (I'm guessing 8, maybe 9 years old). I used to have this big stuffed monkey that I slept with, and for some reason I would always fall asleep hugging it with my arms and legs. In other words, I would always have this soft thing between my thighs. Once, in an experimental mood, I did the same thing without wearing any underwear. It felt good and when I rubbed my penis against it this made me have my first orgasm. In the weeks after that I went from rubbing this stuffed animal against my penis to using my hand, but in a similar way. Rather than making an open fist, I used a flat hand, and with it would rub my penis against my abdomen. However, I would always have something (usually some stuffed animal) between my legs while doing it.

Some years later (I was still quite young - under the age of 12 I believe), I learned from a cousin that this was a very weird way of doing it. He told me that he did it in a different way, using his open fist to stroke his penis. It made sense, also in the context of the signs about masturbation (e.g. suggestive hand movements in a joking context) that I certainly did pick up from time to time (I should add that as a consequence of skipping a grade, I was always around boys at least a year my senior). So I tried it out, found it quite satisfactory (although initially less so than my old method - but only initially), and adopted it as my new standard masturbation practice. Still always keeping something soft between my thighs.

Ironically, it turned out I was still doing something deviant. Rather than exerting most force while stroking down, pulling the foreskin back and effectively simulating penetration, I was pulling upwards! I was pulling my foreskin further over my glans than it already was. This had one advantage: upon ejaculation my extended foreskin would prevent the semen from squirting out and making a mess. At best it would simply leak out a bit, but usually I would be able to get to the toilet and spill it there without even getting my pants dirty. Only last year did I discover that I still wasn't doing it right. I lost my virginity, but noticed that penetration did not feel pleasant. The reason was it forced my foreskin to retract - something it didn't do without much resistance. I started doing some research on the Internet and it turned out I probably had either phimosis, an abnormally short frenulum, or both. Most importantly, I found that both these conditions had been associated with certain abnormal masturbation techniques. Examples of such techniques included both ways of masturbating I had ever used up until that point.

So, I finally started doing it the absolute, established, proper way, I thought. I changed from stroking up to stroking down, found that this too was a way that could lead to Rome, and moreover that it gradually made my foreskin looser. Except...there was still the thing between my thighs. Of course it had been some years since I had done away with my stuffed animals, but I had resolved this by folding up my blankets and putting them between my thighs instead. I continued doing so with the new, proper-direction-stroking method.

Now we come to the present (hope you're still with me). Yesterday evening, when I was talking to a girl whom I have casual sex with and she mentioned how I can never come inside her, but only by masturbation, and only with something between my thighs (when I'm with her, that something would usually be her breasts). I replied saying that this was simply a "sensitive spot" for me that had to be stimulated, and that lack of this stimulation made it much "harder" for me to come. The fact is I don't do prone, and definitely not in the last years. However, I think that always squeezing these things between my thighs while masturbating, and in the case of the bed sheets also actually pulling them up into my thighs, has had the same effect, for two reasons: - I did consistently exert some abnormal pressure and don't remember the last time I succeeded without it, and consciously I knew that indeed this was something peculiar, and possibly quite harmful to my sex life. So again I turned to the internet for help, and may I say thank heavens I came across your web site and read about this thing.

So, as I said, at no point in my life have I really masturbated the base of my penis for years on end - I have the symptoms. Erectyle disfunction (can get it up, but often doesn't stay hard), and failure to orgasm during intercourse or by any other means of stimulation but for my deviant masturbation technique.

Today, I started my 7-day period of abstaining, as you recommend on your website. I am confident that in time I will be able to orgasm without having those parts of my groin stimulated in some way, and finally start enjoying intercourse the way it was meant to be experienced. Especially once I have also completed my phimosis treatment (foreskin stretching + application of corticosteroid cream).

If anything I think it may be a description of one of the widest ranges of masturbation-related problems found in a single person - at least I sure hope that the number of guys who've had to go through the same process is limited. You are most welcome to use it, or parts of it, on your web site as a case study if you so wish, and if you or a fellow visitor of your web site have any questions, I'll be happy to answer them. Thanks again for a brilliant and most helpful website. I wish you the best of luck with it, and keep up the good work! (age 18)

A: What you describe is not prone masturbation, but it is a different atypical form of masturbation that could possibly be as bad as masturbating prone. You are doing the right thing by seeking to overcome your atypical style. I also recommend joining the online support group where there are many males who can help you out. I have heard about having something between the thighs many times, but it is because it helps the man sleep and is not used during sex, so we might be talking about different situations here.

2/13/09


I have been masturbating prone for as long as I can remember. I have never been able to ejaculate when masturbating in any other way. Moreover, having read your site, I get the impression that the way that I masturbate is particularly bad. I lie face down with my penis semi-erect. I link my hands and put them beneath my penis. I then sandwich the sensitive skin on the bottom side of my penis just behind the head between the thumb joint on one of my hands and my pelvis/inner thigh. I increase the pressure by lifting my legs in the air, putting my lower body weight on the skin that is sandwiched between my thumb joint and my hip area.

In 25-odd years of doing this regularly, the skin on the underside of my penis has become loose, slightly callused and even a little discolored. I think there has also been a serious deterioration in sensitivity.

I have been sexually active since the age of 17. Up until recently, I had never ejaculated in any other context than masturbating prone. I normally dealt with this by lying to my partners, which, believe it or not, would work, sometimes for years. I suspect the ramifications on my sex life, relationships and psyche generally have been profound. I am single. I have also developed in the past 7 or 8 years some pretty extreme sexual fantasies/fetishes. Have you heard of this happening as a side effect of a life of prone masturbation and the consequent inability to ejaculate with a sexual partner?

I ejaculated during intercourse for the first time about 4 years ago with a girl to whom I was particularly attracted. I have since ejaculated perhaps 5 or 6 times during sex, always in the morning, always during missionary position. The rest of the time, though, I can't ejaculate. 5 or 6 ejaculations with a woman in 13 years is pretty depressing. I have also started to develop problems maintaining an erection.

I have always been in denial about this problem, despite not being able to ejaculate except with my penis's skin pressed between my thumb joint and my hip. As the problem's always been there, there's never been a real catalyst to do anything about it despite its significance. For a long time, I thought I could continue to lie to girlfriends and only deal with it when it came time to have children. In any case, I didn't know what to do. I tried to masturbate normally without success in the past, once or twice after a week of abstinence as I groped my way to the cure you suggested. However, my efforts to cure myself were pretty desultory and extremely occasional.

Needless to say, I am going to start your suggested cure. I must say that I am not hopeful. Stimulation other than my method of masturbation has never led me anywhere close to ejaculation. Whether it be conventional masturbation, oral sex or vaginal sex, it's pleasant but it's nowhere near the kind of physical stimulation that typically lets me ejaculate. I worry that I have desensitized my penis so much that I'm beyond help. I have no idea if it is going to work but obviously I have nothing to lose. It would really help to have some reassurance that a 30 year old with a desensitised penis and a particularly physical and, I think, unusual form of prone masturbation has a good prospect of recovery. Are you aware of anyone else who masturbates like me? Also, what are the success rates generally?

Thank you in advance and thank you for your work in trying to help people who suffer from these kinds of problems. I am very grateful.

A: There is no reason to be pessimistic. I have never heard of a case that couldn't be helped. Many, many men were cured when they were older than you, including me. I would advise you to join the support group for males who masturbate prone. Everyone who posts there has a similar story to yours, and many of them are recently cured or are currently becoming cured. We have also documented much more punishing methods of masturbating than yours. I have also never heard of anyone developing fetishes or paraphilias as a result of prone masturbation, although I have heard some males who masturbate prone mention that they have them.

2/14/09

Follow-up:

I now want to express my gratitude for the service you're doing. I took your advice and stopped masturbating with the plan being to see how I went masturbating normally after 2 weeks. However, fate intervened and I met someone who may turn out quite special about a month ago. Bearing in mind that I had probably previously ejaculated only about 10 times with a woman, imagine my surprise now that I have ejaculated with her about half the (numerous) times we have made love. I've even talked to her about this issue. I had never done that before.

So I'm not following your prescribed method, in that I am yet even to attempt to masturbate conventionally. But I seem to be training myself to orgasm with a woman I care for which is fine by me. I haven't relapsed at all yet. I may work on masturbating conventionally in the future but right now I am preserving my libido for her.

A: I only recall one other person ever being cured of prone masturbation through intercourse. Good luck to you if it works, and please let me know about your progress.

3/17/09


Regarding prone masturbation, one could end up hurting the penis if they put their body weight on their penis while masturbating, but it doesn't mean that prone masturbation will always put weight on your penis. In my case, I stack up pillows vertically in 2 rows and insert my penis between the 2 rows. I use condoms to avoid a mess. This gives me enough room for my penis and avoids putting my body weight directly on my penis. It is not sandwiched under my abdomen. This also wraps my penis from all sides and gives me a closer feel of sexual intercourse. I also lie on my back and masturbate but I would like to do it in different safe positions. I usually avoid masturbation not because I find it unhealthy but because if I start, I'll be doing it twice a day for 3 or 4 days. So I go on a spree once in 3 or 4 weeks. Then I start watching porn as I feel the tension grow and I end up masturbating. This is my general masturbation cycle. Is this fine? Usually after watching porn movies, I end up ejaculating quickly (2 or 3 minutes) the first time but in later acts of masturbation in my cycle I ejaculate after 15-20 minutes. Sometimes it takes more than 30 minutes. Is this fine? Are you a professional in this field or do you advise based on your experience and knowledge? (age 21)

A: The weight of the body pressing down is not the only reason why prone masturbation is bad. You also have the tremendous force of your legs behind your thrusting in prone masturbation, which is obviously greater than the force your arm provides in conventional masturbation. I also think there is some sandwiching going on between your body and what is under you. I also think your "masturbation cycle" is a bad thing. You ought to accept masturbation as something normal, healthy, fun, and necessary for males to do. This means masturbating daily, or nearly so. It does not mean consciously keeping from masturbating until the tension gets to be too great and then going out of control for 3-4 days. What you are talking about is what sailors once did during periods at sea (at a time when masturbating in those quarters was frowned upon). That kind of practice often led to prostate trouble. It is common for subsequent acts to take longer than initial ones. In general, I would say even things out so the cycle repeats itself daily rather than every month. And I have said many times on this site that I am not a health care professional.

2/14/09


I just went on this site and realized how bad masturbating prone is. I am 19 years old and a virgin and have masturbated in the prone fashion my entire life. I have turned down sex many times fearing I would be unable to perform satisfactorily. I have tried mastrubating the conventional way a few times but failed to reach orgasm. I came close but couldn't. I was frusturated, upset and went back to the prone style. Do you have any tips or advice that can help me to masturbate the correct way? I am going to abandon the prone style for good and will just keep trying to do it the right way. I think I'm nervous and my failure to orgasm during conventional masturbation is mostly psychological. Thanks for listening to me, and thank you for creating the HealthyStrokes web site.

A: This site is full of tips. You might also join the online support group. It is extremely likely that your problem is psychological. When you get the feeling that you are close, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you reach orgasm. Then you can work on slowing down and using less force.

Follow-up: I made a commitment to never masturbate prone again. I'm going to refrain from masturbation for 1-2 weeks and then try the conventional method. If I have a wet dream during this period (I have had a few recently as a result of not masturbating), will it affect my ability to reach orgasm the conventional way when I try it?

A: I have never heard of that situation before. Why don't you wait until it actually happens and ask me then. You might have more to share then depending on how you feel about it happening.

2/17/09


I stopped masturbating prone and am going through the program you describe on the HealthyStrokes.com web site. You said that a person should masturbate conventionally on a daily basis for at least one month or more. How much more should I go for? Will I be cured 100% from prone masturbation and its harmful consequences which include erectile dysfunction and anorgasmia? When can I start having intercourse? Can I have intercourse normally such as any normal person after I am cured? Will there be a need to revert back to the program you described? (age 30)

A: Masturbating daily for a month in conventional fashion is how you know you've gotten past prone masturbation. Then you can work on having sex with partners. You might not notice a difference right away, but most males are able to tell within 3-4 months after giving up prone masturbation that their erections are different. Many cured males say that they are 100% cured and 100% normal. You probably not need to go back to the abstinence period again.

2/22/09


I have recently discovered the perils of my habit of prone masturbation. My girlfriend occasionally performs manual intercourse on me. However its is nearly impossible for me to reach orgasm;. therefore we both feel badly as a result. I was wondering what I could do to help my situation and ejaculate before my girlfriend gets tennis elbow. (age 15)

A: I would advise against doing anything with a partner until you have overcome prone masturbation for at least a month and are able to masturbate daily by hand. You will know when you can make progress with your partner. Good luck with her tennis elbow. That is a real problem among philagyners and philanderers.

2/22/09


Thank you so much for this site! For quite some time, I knew that my method of masturbation was different from the kind described in sexuality books and the way other guys talked about how they masturbate. But I never knew that it was unhealthy to masturbate prone. I did that on an almost daily basis since I was very young.

I?ve tried to masturbate more like the conventional way, but every position except my ususal, wrong, position leads to failure to reach orgasm and ejaculate. So I thought maybe stopping masturbating for a week or two would make it easier. But it did not, and I resorted to prone.

Then I stumbled upon this site and at first I didn?t want to believe it. I was quite shocked that the description of a typical case of prone masturbation was so accurate regarding my own situation. And after a while it felt good to read the comments knowing that I was not the only person in the world with this problem. So I followed the advice and abstained from prone masturbation for a full week and then tried to masturbate sitting behind the computer desk. I failed after trying for quite some time, like I was used to. Very frustrating but thanks to this site, I didn?t make my usual mistake of restoring to prone masturbation. I tried the next morning but failed again, but still no prone behavior. Last evening I tried again and after an initial failure, I finally was able to reach orgasm and ejaculate sitting in a chair and using one hand! I am still far from being cured but at least it feels like a step forward. Thanks again for this great web site!

A: Thanks for a great story of practice makes perfect. You will be probably be done with prone masturbation a month from now and might not even remember too well what it was like. You will be masturbating daily by hand then and getting ready to move on to partners.

3/1/09


I've always masturbated prone and was completely unaware of its potential harms. Around age 28, I started to experience occasional erectile dysfunction (approximately 30% of the time). I used to think it was due to alcohol (although alcohol had not affected me before). To compensate, I would use Viagra. Recently I have also been unable to orgasm on several occasions. I will now stop masturbating prone and report back if I see any difference. From what I've read here, it looks promising. Thank you for this site. (age 30)

A: Alcohol is bad for sexual performance, but prone masturbation is worse. Good luck with giving it up. Using Viagra when you're ready to try conventional masturbation can make it easier.

3/3/09


What part of masturbating prone actually damages the penis? The way the penis is thrust against the floor/item, the angle at which one ejaculates, what? Also, is it prone masturbation if I flip onto my stomach during ejaculation? (age 17)

We don't know for certain that prone masturbation damages the penis. Nearly everyone gets better only through abstinence and masturbatory reconditioning. If the penis were being damaged, then it seems like some other work on the penis would have to be done. The force of prone masturbation is not as bad for the penis itself as it is for the expectations for intercourse that are being built up in the practioners head as he masturbates. He gets used to a lot of force in masturbation and expects the same in intercourse but then is disappointed and unable to perform when he does not get the same feelings. The pressure at the base of the penis is also very different in masturbating prone from what a male gets in intercourse or in conventional masturbation. Flipping over at the point of ejaculation is a popular maneuver, generally to keep the semen under control. I will admit to doing that myself for many years. Then I saw Jennifer Jason Leigh doing it in Single White Female. Wow. Was that ever exciting.

3/14/09

Hi Doug. I have been abstaining for 2 months now with no success in ejaculation! Is it dangerous? I had NO wet dreams over this period. What you do advise me? (age 26)

A: I'm confused. Are you trying to overcome prone masturbation? I would suggest abstaining 5-7 days and then trying to masturbate with only your hand. While you are learning, you can use a lot more force and speed than you usually would. If it doesn't work, wait a few days and try again. If you still can't reach orgasm, I suggest getting a prescription for Viagra, which will take care of the erection so you can focus on having an orgasm. It is good if you have gone 2 months without masturbating prone.

3/14/09


My husband is a male who masturbates prone and getting ready to start your program for changing to conventional masturbation. He seems to think it would be easier for him to practice the correct way if I am in the room with him. He does not want to watch porn to stimulate himself and thinks me being there to touch his body in other places would help him. Is this a problem if it doesn't bother either of us or should he do it on his own?

A: I have never heard of anyone doing that. It is very stressful to go days without ejaculating and then to feel the pressure even from your own head to perform in a new manner. I can't believe it would be easier with someone watching. However, it would make more sense if you were only there long enough to help him get a nice erection and then left him alone.

3/18/09


I want to stop this habit, but the conventional masturbation technique doesn't feel very good to me right now. Also I lose concentration and get discouraged when I do it that way because I think it won't work (age 14)

A: You seem to be giving up pretty easily. It will work. It works for every other guy. It will work for you. Tell yourself that. It will feel very good to you once you get practice at it. Think of what it would be like to do it wherever you want, like the computer or the bathroom.

3/19/09


I have stayed away from prone for about a month. I was getting to the point of masturbating conventionally. Then I had an unsuccessful attempt at sex and later had one relapse back to prone. If I've only relapsed once, how big of a deal is it? How often should a guy my age be masturbating? I saw something on the site about masturbating daily to totally rid yourself of the problem. (age 34)

A: Just restart your abstinence period to the last time you masturbated prone. You should be able to masturbate by hand 5-7 days after that. According to a survey of over 10,000 males by HealthyStrokes.com in the second half of 2007, which included 588 males age 30-34, inclusive, the average male in that age bracket masturbates 6.1 times per week, or a little less than once a day. Masturbating daily for a month once you're able to do it by hand successfully ought not be such a challenge.

3/23/09


I'm 22 and still a virgin. I had a VERY strict upbringing and have only recently decided that I am OK with having sex before marriage. I began masturbating in the prone position-style in 8th grade and transitioned (out of curiosity, actually) to the normal method during high school. I only discovered the concept of prone masturbation being a cause of sexual dysfunctions via your site today. Since transitioning, I have used mainly the conventional method, but I have occasionally mixed in the prone style. As far as frequency, I would estimate once every couple of months with a few spikes in frequency (ex. a chain of 3-5 prone sessions over a 2-3 day period) over the past 10 years, but I haven't kept a logbook. My best guess at my last prone session would be about a month ago, and it was an isolated session (not a frequency spike). Having found a partner with whom I wish to lose my virginity, should I expect any residual problems from my past prone masturbation habit?

I think your site does the entire English-speaking world a tremendous service by bringing this material into the open, and I thank you for that service.

A: I suggest you give up prone masturbation forever, but I doubt that you would be feeling the effects of prone masturbation now, after more than four years of conventional masturbation. I would also recommend that you abstain from masturbating for 5-7 days before your anticipated sexual encounter. Once you are accustomed to having sex, then this interval can be reduced or even eliminated.

3/24/09


I followed the advice on HealthyStrokes.com and abstained from prone masturbation for one month. It was difficult but I remembered what you said, "NEVER resort to masturbating prone." Today I tried masturbating the conventional way and was able to ejaculate after about 20 minutes of trying and it felt great! However the orgasm felt weird -- less intense and shorter then prone masturbation -- and it seemed less semen came out. Is this normal?

Anyway, thanks again Doug for helping me get over prone masturbation. I owe you one!

A: I wouldn't have thought you needed to abstain for a month. Whenever you learn something new sexually, it is apt to feel different from what you're used to. As you get accustomed to conventional masturbation, you will enjoy it more as you learn to have control over your orgasms.

3/29/09


Wanted to thank you for your site which has a lot of helpful information. I have been bumping my head against the wall for years wondering what was wrong with me. I started taking it rather seriously when I met my current girlfriend who I really wanted to ejaculate with during intercourse. I have now begun the journey toward recovery and I feel great that I have finally come to find the solution. Many blessings to you.

4/1/09


I am 23 years old. I have been masturbating by humping my bed since I started doing it at around age 11. I rarely do it with my hands and I find it hard to go without masturbating for even a day! I want to stop masturbating face down. I don't know what I should do because it is very hard for me but I am worried that humping my bed has damaged my penis as it always points toward my belly button when I am erect. Is that possible that masturbating prone caused this?

A: You can start by following the program for overcoming prone masturbation on the main page. All of us who have gotten past prone masturbation have started that way. I didn't think I could quit either but I did when I set my mind to it. The direction your penis points is normal.

4/17/09


I learned to masturbate on my own and unfortunately I learned to masturbate prone. This persisted for several years. However, once I started to use magazines and other media, the prone position became very inconvenient, so I switched to a lying supine. Is it possible that my years of masturbating prone may have harmed me in any way? Currently, when I masturbate, I wrap my penis in Kleenex. I have tried to masturbate with my hand and lube but I have had several problems with this. These include minor problems like the masturbation sensation feeling strange and the orgasm being not nearly as pleasurable and major ones like the feeling of my penis's movements in my hands during ejaculating being very disturbing, almost to the point where this feeling overrides my pleasure. What do you suggest to help with these problems? Also to avoid problems with cleaning up, is it OK to cover just the tip of the penis with tissue or cloth during ejaculation so that semen does not go everywhere? Finally, what are the best types of materials to use as lubricant? I have tried to use simple hand lotion in the past but I often have to add more halfway through. Are there other more effective lubricants? (age 16)

A: You have a lot of issues with masturbation! This is unusual, even for a guy who used to masturbate prone. If you are only 16 now, and if you only started at 12 or 13, then you couldn't have done prone for too many years. It is pretty easy for guys to get past prone masturbation at your age and younger. You ought not expect any negative effects from that period of masturbating prone. Wrapping your penis in Kleenex is not normal. The abstinence program that I recommend for overcoming prone masturbation on the main page of this site can also help you learn to use lube properly. After 5-7 days of abstinence, you will be able to respond more easily even to a feeling you are not used to. There is nothing wrong with stopping in the middle to apply more lube; however, it will be less necessary to do this if you use a silicone or oil based lube. The disadvantage to getting used to an oil-based lube is that you cannot use it when you become sexually active due to its degrading effects on condoms and other latex products. If the feeling of your penis during orgasm is truly a problem, I suggest seeking psychological help.

4/19/09


First, thank you for this site. I've been masturbating prone for most of my adult life and recently decided to learn to do it the right way. After following the advice here, I was able to masturbate conventionally. I continue to do so with consistency, but I have one concern. It usually takes me anywhere from 20 to 30 minutes to reach orgasm. Is this a problem? And if so, is there a solution? (age 40)

A: You don't say how long it's been since you started masturbating conventionally, but it usually takes a while the first couple of weeks. After that, it will probably take less time than it was taking you to masturbate prone.

4/23/09


I've been with my girlfriend for about 18 months and have had sex 3 times with her, but after we are done, I have to masturbate because I cannot ejaculate during sex. I used to masturbate prone. The last time I did it was about 2 months ago under two mattresses. To be honest, it did hurt my penis. Also, sometimes I have had my hand tight on my penis while masturbating, but since then I have been masturbating regularly and safely and I ejaculate in about 5 minutes. Also, is it bad for me to ejaculate, then keep masturbating until I ejaculate again, but only a little bit. (age 15)

A: It is good that you have quit masturbating prone. Now that you have done that, you should also work on using less force. Try to see how good a little bit of touch feels. I strongly recommend abstaining from masturbation for 5-7 days before having intercourse again. I would recommend against your continuous masturbation pattern. That isn't going to help anything.

5/6/09


Since I was 10 years old I've been masturbating face down. I tried having sex once, and when I tried putting it in, my penis went limp. I don't get erect as much and I am beginning to notice a decline in my erection size. So this is one of those "last thing I needed to happen right now" stories, as I'm sure you've heard tons. Anyway, I've spent the last two hours on your site, and I need to know practically how to change and start doing it correctly, and if it's possible to correct my problems? I've tried so many times to stroke and masturbate that way, but I end up getting exhausted after 20-30 minutes of stroking, or my erection goes away after it is ineffective, and then I feel the urge to flip over and start humping and I'm done in 10-20 minutes. Please help me! (age 25)

A: You've come to the right place for help. I suggest joining the online support group for males who masturbate prone. The main page of HealthyStrokes.com has a cure program to help you overcome prone masturbation. It is normal for erections to be less frequent around your age, but you need not worry that the size of your erection is decreasing.

5/11/09


I cannot believe that I just happened to stumble across HealthyStrokes.com. I am a 21 year old college senior who has been masturbating this way since high school. I have had three girlfriends, all of whom I dumped because I was embarrassed over my inability to perform. I would always make up some sort of external excuse, and ended these relationships because I was nervous they would discover that my inability to perform was a regular thing. I have never had any problems getting an erection, but for some reason during intercourse this suddenly became a TREMENDOUS problem, and an orgasm seemed impossible. Do you really think I can unlearn this behavior so easily?

A: Yes, I do. Thousands of guys have, and those are only the ones who told me or the support group that they did. Who knows how many have overcome prone masturbation without saying a word? I hope when you are cured of the effects of prone masturbation, you will call those girlfriends up again and pick up where you left off.

5/12/09


Thank you 1000 times! You have changed my life! After I had thought of suicide because of my erectile dysfunction, you have given me a clue about my case and thus gave me a way! I have been masturbating prone for about 12 years. My first sex-with-partner trial was for 7 months. It has horribly failed because I couldn't keep a good erection. On 9 January 2009 I came across your web site and you recreated me from scratch! On 23 March I managed to ejaculate using the conventional method and I depended on Viagra to maintain a rigid erection. I was happy with the result though. On 17 May I came with a good fantasy and a pretty good erection that lasted for an hour without Viagra!! So thank you again and again you are really an angel! Yet I have a question: Has anyone reported you that the problem has returned to him after being cured? I am a bit worried about that. God bless you Doug! (age 26)

A: Men's erections tend to get better the farther they get from masturbating prone. When people tell me their problems come back, I generally find out that they have lapsed back into the prone habit. Good luck to you.

5/21/09


I've been regularly masturbating since I was 12 years old. I never did it the standard way by hand while lying on the back or sitting on a chair. I'm not even sure if "masturbating prone" is the exact method I'm using. I lie on my stomach, place my erect penis between my left thigh and the mattress. My penis points toward the sidewall of my room, while my body is parallel to the sidewall. All I do after that is move my butt in a sideways motion, so that the underside of my penis gets a back and forth kind of stroke by my left thigh. My penis does get sandwiched between my left thigh and mattress so there is some pressure applied. The penis does move a bit, but its the left thigh that performs all the action. Is this method a variation of the normal way, or is this what you call masturbating prone that leads to problems? (age 30)

A: I don't think anyone would call that a variation of the normal way. What you describe is an idiosyncratic method that sounds a lot like prone masturbation to me. I would advise giving that up ASAP. It will not help you achieve normal sexual functioning.

5/27/09


Thanks for the wonderful site. I had been masturbating prone ever since I could remember. What followed were unsuccessful attempts at sex. I was not at all able to maintain an erection. When all options seemed to have run out, luckily I stumbled upon HealthyStrokes.com. The first time it took me around 45 minutes to ejaculate via conventional masturbation but after that it was easy. I was able to have sex and have even had a kid. (age 29)

A: A post-prone baby! What good news!

6/2/09


I am 21 and have had trouble getting hard enough for sex, and it sounds from your article like the problem might be prone masturbation. I have been masturbating face down since I was in 6th grade. I am planning on trying your method for getting away from prone masturbating, but I am curious if I have done any incurable damage. Will I be OK in a couple of months?

A: That is the experience of everyone else who has overcome prone masturbation. Most men notice that their erections are stronger within a month or so of masturbating prone for the last time. We do not believe that prone masturbation causes physical damage.

6/3/09


I've been masturbating prone and without a full erection for pretty much my whole life and I definitely am suffering sexual consequences, so I'm going to try to fix it now. I remember being about 13 or 14 years old and getting such hard erections and the angle of my erection was nearly vertical; it stuck up straight in the air. When I get erections now, they seem to be much weaker. My size hasn't decreased, but my erections are nearly horizontal with only a slight upward angle. This is worrying me as I am only 18 years old. If I get over my prone habit, will I regain the erection strength I had before?

A: It is usual for erection angle to decline as you get older, but you are correct that you shouldn't have seen that much change in only 5 years. Most guys notice that their erections are better within about three months of quitting prone masturbation.

6/4/09


I have been done with prone masturbation for 3 weeks now. Since then I am used to masturbating daily the conventional way. I mean daily, day by day, without missing a single day. And sometimes I have done it twice (or 3 times) in a day. Is this harmful? I feel that my erections are not 100% rigid as they used to be right after I overcame prone and started masturbating supine. Is it an illusion? Please advise. (age 27)

A: There is nothing wrong with increasing your frequency to what you were used to after you have overcome prone masturbation. (However, according to a survey in the online support group for males who masturbate prone, about half of males say they masturbate less than they did when they were masturbating prone and only 1 in 6 say they do it more.) It will take about three months for you to notice a difference in your erections.

6/5/09


I came across your site by chance. I can't make up my mind if this is a joke or not but I have a history of prone masturbation. I tried masturbating by hand for a good week or two weeks, and I could not ejaculate to save my life. Then I masturbated prone because it feels so good and I ejaculated like a madman. I don't have anxiety or anything, but how long can it take to train yourself to orgasm the conventional way?

A: You might join the online support group, which has over 1000 members, none of whom think it's a joke. The idea is to abstain from ejaculating for about a week so you can let your penis get to be more sensitive. Most guys can masturbate conventionally after five days. Some take a week and a few find they have to go two weeks before they can masturbate to orgasm by hand. Most notice that their erections are improving within 3 months of quitting prone masturbation.

6/7/09


When I was 16, I rigorously masturbated prone, against a pillow and the bed for about 9 months. The weird thing is that I didn't masturbate to orgasm, but just for pleasure. I didn't know about orgasms then. I did ejaculate once or it might have just been a burst of pre-cum. I think I weakened that muscle. It started to hurt a bit after 9 months so I found this site. I tried masturbating the conventional way, and it actually worked! However, no orgasm. For the last year I've been masturbating, and I get pleasure, however I rarely orgasm. Out of the 100 times, I've had maybe 8 small orgasms. 2-3 medium sized. It's super frustrating. Also I noticed that early on, I would ejaculate earlier than I thought I would, and I would try the "stop and go method" and ejaculate when I didn't want to, when I was trying to hold off right when I got to that point. I'm really nervous and frustrated. (age 18)

A: You talk about ejaculating but no orgasm. For most males, orgasm and ejaculation happen at the same time. If you are having one at your age, then you should be having the other. After giving up prone masturbation for over a year, you should be having no problems. It might be worth seeing a doctor.

6/15/09


I wanted to let you know that HealthyStrokes.com has given me hope to learn to masturbate conventionally. As opposed to what I have been hearing on this web site, when I was a child I learned to masturbate by applying significant pressure in a prone position while my penis was soft (non-erect).

However, because this sensation is obviously completely different from that experienced with a lover during intercourse, I have been unable to cum at all for the past two years of sexual activity. Being able to pleasure a woman for an indefinite amount of time is a "dream" of many men... However, it is absolutely horrible for my personal love life. Though my girlfriends have no doubt enjoyed our sexual engagements, I, on the other hand, have not been able to feel any feelings close to orgasm.

As of now, I have begun my abstinence period, and I hope to God that I am able to rid myself of this syndrome. I am 22, and have masturbated in this way for the entirety of my sexual life, so I am expecting this to be very difficult for me... however.. I won't, I can't, lose hope.

Please continue your good work, and if I ever have the chance, I will promote your web site to the best of my ability, so that many men like me can get the information they need before they develop damaging habits like this.

6/20/09


I used to masturbate prone with my blanket. Now I masturbate supine with a blanket. Is that still bad? (age 18)

A: Yes, it is. It is good that you quit prone masturbation, but masturbating with a blanket is still not a good thing. I would work at giving that up.

6/20/09


Thank to your help and your WONDERFUL web site, I have been able to overcome prone masturbation. My problem (before being cured) was sort of not being able to keep an erection. Now, and during masturbation, this problem has completely disappeared. I am used to masturbating daily for about a month and a half now. However, I need your advice concerning intercourse. Is it the TIME now for me to have a sexual intercourse successfully? Or you advise me to wait for another period of time? (age 26)

A: You are good to try it now!

6/20/09


I'm shocked and very scared of what I read. I think I accidentally discovered masturbating prone when I was extremely young as in even age 5. I remember rolling around the floor on a ball and realizing it felt good and continuing to do so more and more often, and by age 7 or so I was using the floor exclusively. I'm 17 now, and for 2 years I've figured it isn't probably good for me but I didn't know why or how until now. I'm scared that because I've done it for so long I will (or do) have serious problems. I have had 2 relationships within the past half-year and although I can easily get erections, I have never been able to ejaculate with another person. Also, I'm not sure if this is significant, but typically when I masturbate prone I stop myself before ejaculating and hold it in.

A: Those are both bad habits, but you can easily break both of them. You can read hundreds of comments from males on the HealthyStrokes.com site about how they overcame prone masturbation at much older ages. I also suggest joining the online support group. Over a thousand people there have been through the same. As for the stopped ejaculate, that is just a matter of not stopping and letting yourself ejaculate freely.

7/11/09


Is it the same kind of rehabilitation for people who masturbate against a floor instead of a bed? Is the floor worse because its a harder surface? (age 17)

A: Yes, the treatment plan is the same. I am unsure if the floor is worse. Everyone can get over masturbating prone.

7/19/09


You have really saved my life, Doug! God bless you man :) (age 26)

7/20/09


I masturbated prone when I first started at 8 years old and did it about once a week for a year and then moved onto conventional masturbation on my back. I have had sex 9 times now with 3 different partners. All three were fairly inexperienced (one was a virgin, one had had sex twice before and the other had only had two sexual partners). None of them have been able to bring me to orgasm. I used to think this was because they just weren't very good at sexual things but I am now worried that it is because of my practice of prone masturbation when I was younger. I can still make myself orgasm from masturbation. (age 16)

A: It is hard to believe that something you quit at age nine could be affecting you now. I am uncomfortable with your description of them bringing you to orgasm. You should try to bring yourself to orgasm inside them. That is a better way to think about it. If you are expecting them to do all the work, then you might never have an orgasm in intercourse.

7/25/09


I have masturbated prone since I was about 10 years old. I had a wet dream caused in part by rubbing against the bed. It felt so good I wanted to replicate it again and the only way I knew was to rub against the bed again. It became the only way I masturbated. I want to stop now because I can't have sex properly. I am also afraid to pull the foreskin back on my penis. I have tried your technique of not masturbating (for ten days now) and then trying to masturbate the conventional way but it hasn't worked for me. Should I just wait a few more days or what should I do? (age 29)

A: What you call a wet dream was really sleep masturbation. Anyway, the important thing right now is to not give up. I suggest masturbating as hard and fast as you can until you have an orgasm. Once you have figured out manual masturbation, you can work at stroking more slowly and with less force. Viagra and its competitors can help at this point because they take care of the erection and let you focus on having an orgasm.

7/31/09


I came across the site about a month ago, and I can't even begin to say how relieved I was to find it. I'm 19 and I have practiced prone masturbation for ages now (although in a specific way -- see below), but, with all the tips and advice on the site and some serious determination, I've been able to kick the habit and learn the normal way.

I am, however, concerned about something else. On several occasions, when I've been making out with a girl, I've ejaculated (after only a few minutes) in my pants -- very embarrassing. And even though prone masturbation usually has the opposite effect, I wonder if this isn't related to my old habits. I used either a T-shirt or pair of boxers between my legs to masturbate (I would tug to get the necessary pressure). After learning about the hazards of prone masturbation, I thought maybe I'd somehow conditioned myself to get over/hyper-stimulated when a lot of pressure (especially from some kind of cloth) is applied to my penis, as it is when it remains in my pants while kissing.

Is there more information on premature ejaculation and prone masturbation (even though this seems to be the exception and not the rule)? And does anyone have any advice on how I can correct the problem (especially because I've just met someone that I'd like to become more serious and intimate with).

A: Premature ejaculation is rare among men who masturbate prone, but it is certainly not unheard of. From the way you describe it, you haven't had much sexual experience. You make no claim to experience PE in intercourse. So, I don't think you should assume a priori that you will experience such. The first step is to give up prone masturbation. When you become sexually active, if you experience PE, you can deal with it at that time.

7/31/09


First off, thank you. For years I had suspected that my method of masturbation was the cause of my erectile dysfunction and inability to reach orgasm with my sexual partners. Now I have hope that I will soon overcome prone masturbation and have a healthier sexual life.

I have tried, in the past, to switch over to supine masturbation and had been unsuccessful at climaxing, or had urinated instead of ejaculating at the climax point. After reading your site, I tried the 7-day method. I was able to get an erection and was completely mentally stimulated, but wound up urinating again. I immediately masturbated prone that night. Determined, I tried to abstain again for about five days and after masturbating with my hand I ejaculated what seemed to be watered-down semen.

My question is if this is normal? Have others had similar experiences? I have not gone back to prone position after my last couple of attempts as to not waste the time I have put into recovery. Will my ejaculations get thicker as I develop more sensitivity to regular masturbation?

I am in a new relationship and my partner is aware that I am in "recovery." This places added pressure to recover and I am trying to stay focused. Thank you for all you've done. (age 27)

A: Yes, what you describe is typical. Your first ejaculations from regular masturbation will seem thinner than what you're used to experiencing from prone. This is because of the new sensation and a generally increased sensitivity in your penis that will lead you to stop before you've ejaculated completely. As you get used to the new sensation, you will keep masturbating for a few seconds longer than you are now, and your ejaculations will be closer to what you're used to. This is completely normal.

8/1/09


I just needed to share my experiences with prone masturbation. It's been a long and hard road for me to give it up. I have masturbated prone since I was 13. It was the only way I had ever masturbated. I knew it wasn't normal but I didn't think I was doing myself any harm until I accidentally found HealthyStrokes.com. I tried for months to quit and eventually after many failed attempts I found out that my prone habit had led to phimosis, where the foreskin cannot retract properly. But thanks to your site and reading all the success stories, I eventually managed to cure myself of both prone masturbation and phimosis and can now masturbate conventionally several times a day if I want. So thank you for running this great site with the advice you give. It's really helped me and I'm sure it will help many others.

As I say, a long, difficult road but it was well worth it. I have healthier erections and better orgasms and I am finally not restricted just to my bed. (age 18)

8/1/09


I'm 24 years old and I have a history of masturbating prone. I've been masturbating since I was 13 and I always did that in the prone position. Sometimes I masturbated once and sometimes a few times a day. After such a long time of masturbating prone can I still unlearn prone masturbation or is it too late for me? I'm still a virgin and I'm afraid that oral sex and normal sex will not give me pleasure.

My girlfriend is overseas right now but she is coming back in December and we are planing to have our first intercourse then. Will I be able to get better by then? And if I do get better will I have pleasure from oral sex?

I tried masturbating the normal way a few times but it just did not give me any pleasure. Will your method help?

A: Yes, you can achieve a lot between now and December. I think this is a good time for you to quit. I would say make a plan to learn conventional masturbation by September 1, and be doing it daily by October 1, and then take October and November to get used to the new feeling. You will probably notice a difference in your erections by December 1.

8/1/09


Thanks a million for creating awareness about prone masturbation through this web site. I had been masturbating since I was 12 in the prone fashion. In the last 5-6 years I had a feeling that i was doing it the wrong way but found no evidence it back it. I even asked a sex specialist about it and he did not find it wrong. The problem started since i have been actively having sex in the past year with my girlfriend. I was never able to orgasm through oral sex or intercourse. I was searching the Internet about this method of masturbation to find if it was atypical. After almost a year of search, I found your site last week which answered all my questions. I was so relieved that there was a solution. It's been 8 days since I last masturbated. Today I was very horny and finally masturbated in the regular fashion with my hand. I did it standing and I was able to succesfully orgasm and it was a great feeling. I tried it again in the sitting posture after a few hours. I was successful again. Now I am looking forward to do this again next week to forget the prone style and get used to the regular style. I am looking forward to orgasm while having sex with my girlfriend. I thank you again for your help. (age 30)

A: You probably won't have to wait a whole week to do it again. Congratulations! May I ask what web searches you were using for a year that didn't bring you to my site?

8/6/09


What do you think of my girlfriend who thought that masturbating prone means that I am not a real man? I used to have erectile dysfunction while attempting to having sex with her, and after getting cured (with the aid of HealthyStrokes.com), she refused to return to me, saying that I will never be good at sex even after being cured, and that one used to masturbate prone all his life will never be equal to one who didn't. Please tell me your advice. How can I reply to her? (age 26)

A: She is being unnecessarily harsh. According to a survey of over 10,000 males by HealthyStrokes.com in the second half of 2007, among 4319 currently sexually active males, 678 former males who masturbate prone reported having sex with partners an average of 3.1 times per week while 3447 males who have never regularly practiced prone masturbation reported an average of 3.02 times per week. This is a statistically insignificant difference. In terms of anorgasmia, the former males who masturbate prone (N=559) gave it an average score of 4.0 (where 1=almost always have anorgasmia; 5=never have anorgasmia), while never males who masturbate prone (N=2886) have an average score of 4.05. This is also a statistically insignificant difference. In terms of erectile dysfunction, the former males who masturbate prone (N=563) gave it an average of 4.17 (1=almost always have ED; 5=never have ED), while never males who masturbate prone (N=2904) have an average of 4.24. Although larger than the other two measures, this is not statistically significant either at either the 90 or 95 percent confidence levels.

The short answer is that males who have given up prone masturbation can put sexual dysfunctions behind them and wind up the same as males who never masturbated prone.

P.S. Your girlfriend is a jerk. Take this opportunity to find someone new.

8/8/09


I've been masturbating prone for so long I can't even remember when I started. I usually have done it on the floor with no erections. I've often masturbated on the bathroom floor on the carpet through clothes. About 8 months ago when I met my fiancee and we attempted sex for the first time, I could not obtain an erection. I went on like that for a while until I started using ED medication even though my doctor insisted it was my nerves. I am only 21 and would hate to have to use ED medication forever. I don't masturbate daily but when I do I'll lie on my unerect penis and crush it for sometimes hours. I tried abstaining but I couldn't. Sometimes I would start masturbating prone and end stroking with my hand with about a 65% hard penis. I finally decided about two days ago that I would abstain from everything. It's been two days. Last night I had a dream that I was gonna have sex but couldn't get it up. I can't remember the last time I woke up with an erection. Once in a while I get an erection but it's very weak. Do you think I have permanent damage? I have an extremely attractive fiancee and I just hate that I can't please her without pills, and sometimes they don't work. Do you think I can be cured? Your web site is great. Am glad I found it now and not later. (age 21)

A: I have never heard of a case that was intractable. Your method of masturbating has been especially punishing. You need to start by vowing never to do it that way again. It's OK to use the ED medication the first few times you try masturbating after abstaining. Keep in mind that ED medications won't help you get an erection; you still have to get aroused on your own, but they will let you keep that erection for a very long time.

8/17/09


Since I read your web site and it relates to me, I tried twice to masturbate the conventional way and both times I ended up doing it the prone way. Just yesterday I was masturbating conventionally and after 20 minutes nothing happened and I couldn't help myself so I ended up doing it the prone way. Now I really don't know what to do because my girl is waiting for me until I'm ready and I can't seem to teach myself to masturbate correctly. Should I keep trying or what should I do? (age 18)

A: Yes, I think you should keep at it. You might join the online support group. We've all been where you are now. It would probably be easier if your girlfriend weren't putting pressure on you to have sex. Then you could find it easier to relax and learn to masturbate conventionally.

8/26/09


I don't know if I masturbate prone, but I find it almost necessary to use a golf club cover with a very soft sock inside. I don't think this hurts me for future intercourse but the sensation is much more than I get when masturbating with my hand. I also think that intercourse (with that extra female stimulation) will cancel out the need for this. I almost can't enjoy masturbation nearly as much without it and I'm not sure if I can orgasm without it.

A: If you are thrusting into the sock/head cover, you have masturbating prone. If you are stroking up and down with it using your hand, it is not technically prone masturbation but it is an atypical masturbatory style that is at least as bad. As a rule of thumb, if you can't masturbate to orgasm using only your hand, you won't be able to reach orgasm inside a partner. The stimulation from a female is not going to be more; it will be less. I advise giving up your routine ASAP and working at being able to reach orgasm through ordinary stimulation.

8/29/09


Thanks a lot for your support and help. Many can do what you did but not that way, at least they would make a fortune out of it! God bless your life. I have been rescued thank to your web site for about six months now. I was experiencing erectile dysfunction and weak erections while having sex and masturbating. I didn't imagine that my special fashion of masturbation is having a name and that it is the cause of my curse. After following your program I became better. My erections are stronger and I can last for a long time. The problem is I am still afraid of trying sex. I wouldn't bear another failure in an intercourse trial. Is there (and don't laugh at me) a way to tell if I will be successful at sex or not? During masturbation I feel my erections are good and hard but I am not sure if it is hard enough or not. Also, I feel my penis tip is not so hard for penetration. (age 28)

A: You say your erections are stronger, and it has been over six months. Most men are ready for intercourse well before then. The only way you can know for sure is to do it. It might be a good idea to get an ED pill like Viagra to use as a backup in case it is not right the first time.

9/4/09


I masturbated prone from 13 to 20. But I changed to conventional masturbation at age 21. I have problems sustaining an erection for a long period of time when I am having intercourse. I don't have anorgasmia or any other problem. I regret ever masturbating prone. I wish there had been Internet and sites like yours during my adolescent age. (age 37)

A: I doubt that prone masturbation is still affecting you 16 years after you gave it up. A lot of males start having erectile dysfunction at your age. It might be better if you could have an orgasm while you know you can still keep erect instead of waiting until your erection goes away.

9/16/09


I have been masturbating prone since I was 12 or 13. I never really thought anything of me not ejaculating when I would get oral sex in high school. However, once I got to college and really started to engage in sexual intercourse with a lot of girls, I started to get worried about not being able to finish. I followed your abstaining plan and was able to whack off conventionally and finish for the first time like that today. Thank you very much. There's no way in hell I'm ever going to do it lying on my stomach again. (age 21)

A: Congratulations on your many successes!

9/27/09

I masturbated from age 14 prone and used to do it as many as 4 times a day. Thanks to your site, I have stopped that. After doing the conventional way I have seen that it roughly takes me 3 minutes to having an ejaculation. Is that very early or late? My semen seems to be more white. Is that good or bad? I can keep from masturbating for up to 2 weeks since I switched. Is it OK if I masturbate once every 2 weeks (maybe twice)?

In the three years I was masturbating twice a day through prone masturbation, the area between my legs around the penis has become displaced (come out from its position). I am thin so when I wear tight jeans it looks very odd and doesn't look like normal people. Is this because of prone masturbation or just any masturbation? (age 17)

A: It is typical for guys to reach orgasm more quickly when they change from one way of masturbating to another. Before too long, you will be better able to control how long it takes. 3 minutes is not a bad time. Your semen is probably no different. You are just better able to notice it when you can see yourself ejaculate. It is not good for a male to go two weeks without ejaculating. That is the absolute minimum to keep from having immediate prostate trouble. Most guys your age masturbate every day. Dr. Graham Giles recommends that younger males masturbate at least six times a week to prevent future prostate cancer. I have never heard of anyone's pubic area being pulled out of position due to masturbation, prone or otherwise. Try not to worry about it. If it really bothers you, then why do you wear tight jeans?

9/27/09


I was having the prone masturbation problem before. Thanks to your site I have started doing the conventional way now. The conventional way feels much better and with conventional I do it 6 times a week and abstinence is not needed for me. Is that OK? Is it necessary to abstain for 7 days as suggested? How long should a session of masturbation last at my age? (age 17)

A: The abstention period is to make it easier for you to learn to masturbate with your hand. Once you can do that, there's no longer a reason to abstain. According to a survey of over 10,000 males by HealthyStrokes.com in the second half of 2007, which included 664 current 17 year olds, the average masturbation time at age 17 is 10.7 minutes, and the median time is 8 minutes. That means half of guys take 8 minutes or longer and half take 8 minutes or less.

9/28/09


I would like to thank you heaps or your fantastic web site. I have masturbated in the prone position for 8 years and have always known it was not the way most guys masturbate. I decided to read your web site and from the knowledge I gained from it, I decided that I had better start to use the conventional way and managed to ejaculate straight away in 6 minutes. I might have been too hard or fast but I am sure it was OK and can manage to become better at this over a period of time. I will be recommending your site to others and I am very grateful. (age 16)

9/29/09


I masturbated prone for about 12 years. I have experienced erectile dysfunction, and a urologist diagnosed my case as venous leak using a Doppler ultrasound test. After I saw your web site, I knew what my problem is and I overcame it. Currently, I have no erectile dysfunction. I think I never had venous leak (because real venous leak can never be cured). My question is, can a history of prone masturbation cause a false diagnosis in a Doppler test? (age 27)

A: Only the urologist could say what led him to that diagnosis. To calm your mind, I would suggest going to a different urologist for examination of possible venous leak and seeing what he comes up with.

10/1/09


My participation in this Q/A forum has ended as it became clear that masturbation was the primary concern (and OBSESSION!) rather than sexual fulfillment in a RELATIONSHIP with one's [FEMALE] partner. With me, Delayed (or "Retarded") Ejaculation is the concern, BOTH while masturbating AND during intercourse. "Correcting" or "improving" masturbation technique(s) have proven virtually useless in resolving this condition. (I'm convinced that the vast majority of respondents who masturbate prone [Q & A-ers, if you will] are overly preoccupied with auto-arousal, and in many cases, simply "reach orgasm" as the result of their latent adolescence and subliminally homosexual tendencies. I'll be seeing a urologist later this month concerning my problem with anorgasmia, but also other issues as well. While I'm certain this site has been helpful to many who do indeed have problems associated with prone masturbation, this is but one of multiple factors contributing to my particular situation. Thank you for your concern, and for taking the time to read this comment.

A: I don't think you understand the problems those with a history of prone masturbation have. Males who masturbate prone, for the most part, enjoy masturbating prone more than they enjoy conventional masturbation. If solitary enjoyment were their only goal, then no male who masturbates prone would want to switch to conventional masturbation. The reason males want to change their masturbatory style is to achieve better results in intercourse. We've heard from males as young as 13 who have never even seriously considered coition want to switch from prone is because they desire to have sexual intercourse. If it seems that males who masturbate prone have latent adolescence, it's because you've internalized masturbation as a juvenile thing to do, which it assuredly isn't; or because, typically, it is younger males who discover that something is amiss with their first attempts at intercourse and come to forums like this one. Masturbation is a basic sexual practice, like throwing a ball is in sports. If you can't get the basics down, you'll not do well at advanced activity.

10/1/09


I used to masturbate prone. Thanks to your site, I have started doing it the conventional way. I read your article saying males who masturbate prone should follow the abstention process. You said that if you don't masturbate for 7 days, it might be all you can think of so what should I do? Now that I have started masturbating the conventional way, it takes me 2-3 minutes and I do it 7 times a week. Will abstention help me increase the time of my ejaculation from 2-3 minutes to more than that? Is it better to see something on TV and masturbate or masturbate without seeing anything? (age 17)

A: The point of the abstention process is to help a male give up prone masturbation and learn to masturbate conventionally. Once you are successful at masturbating conventionally, there is no longer any reason to abstain. The 7 day abstention is usually only for the first time a guy is trying to masturbate with his hand. It is also typical for a male to take less time to ejaculate when he switches than he was taking with prone. 2-3 minutes is not unusual for your age and your point in this process. Your average will probably be longer soon. There is nothing wrong with masturbating after seeing something arousing on TV. What I advise against at your age is using pictures to masturbate every time. You ought to be able to get by on your imagination while you're still in your teens.

10/1/09


I've been masturbating in the prone position since my teens. I never really knew that it was atypical, until I stumbled upon your site. I decided to learn to masturbate in the conventional supine way, and began my abstention period. After abstaining for four days, I masturbated the conventional way by lying on my back and with my hand and could ejaculate. I've been able to acheive orgasm by standing and sitting too. It's been 2 weeks since I first started to masturbate supine, but I'm able to orgasm in this way only by the use of photo or video stimuli (not porn but the normal usual stuff in magazines, modelling videos, etc.) Is this OK? Today I tried to masturbate without any stimuli but couldn't reach orgasm. It took some time and I eventually stopped and gave up. I've been masturbating in the conventional fashion almost every day ever since I first achieved it. (age 21)

A: Yes, whatever visual aids you want to use are fine. Many guys start with swimsuit and modelling photos when they are young, but nearly everyone is using nude pictures by your age. Congratulations on giving up prone masturbation.

10/4/09


My girlfriend and I finally decided to find out why I have trouble during intercourse, and we found HealthyStrokes.com. I've masturbated prone more or less every day since I was 6 years old. I have never ejaculated from standard masturbation or from sexual intercourse. I recently abstained from masturbating prone for 7 days, and it took me over 45 minutes to ejaculate the standard way. Many of your posts say it will hopefully be less than 10 minutes (especially at my age) after abstaining for a week. I am worried that since it took me so much longer to ejaculate the standard way, and that I have never ejaculated the standard way before this, and since I have never ejaculated during orgasm, this process will be very difficult for me. What do you think? Also, my girlfriend is being very supportive and I was wondering if there's anything she can do to help (not physically, from reading this web site I know that would likely be counter-productive). (age 23)

A: 45 minutes is not so long for the first try. Good for you! I advise against doing anything sexual with your girlfriend until you are able to masturbate by hand daily for a month. If she understands why you can't have sex, then she is helping plenty. Good luck on your progress.

10/6/09


I'm 21 years old and have been masturbating prone since I was 13. I had no idea it was bad and I've been freaking out. I'm very glad I found out. Thank you for this site. I'm not a virgin and engage in regular sexual activity (if not often intercourse). Should I be worried about 8 years of masturbating prone causing permanent damage to my sexuality? I don't know if this helps or not, but I always only used my hand beneath my body. I have never thrust directly against sheets or pillows.

A: It is good that you don't report issues with intercourse. If you give up prone masturbation, you can be masturbating conventionally in less than a week and notice an improvement in your erections within a few months. You need not worry about your past prone masturbation. Thrusting into your hand reduces your chances of getting anorgasmia, but it doesn't make much difference when it comes to erectile dysfunction.

10/7/09


I practice prone masturbation and it is clearly dreadful. I'm thinking of trying to fix it. But I may never be able to achieve orgasm again if I do. My frequency of masturbation, from the beginning of 2009 to October 15, 2009, is 360 times total. That's roughly 36 times monthly. E-mail me back if you would like to message me via e-mail or mailing address. (age 23)

A: I prefer to communicate on this web site instead of by e-mail. If you want to talk to some other men who have overcome prone masturbation, please join the online support group. I have never needed anyone's mailing address. I think you will be able to orgasm just fine after you have given up prone masturbation. You apparently have 450 orgasms a year, and you also appear to keep track of them somehow. Far from never orgasming again, I think you might find even more ways and places to orgasm after you give up prone.

10/16/09


Your web site is great and very very useful, especially for young kids. I have given up prone masturbation (after 12 years of practicing, and suffering erectile dysfunction because of it) thanks to your site. However, I have some concerns. After getting cured, my masturbation sessions may last for an hour (perhaps longer) under my complete control. My erection is good and maintained but not with the same quality. It may go harder or softer according to the status of stimulation. I wonder if this is a normal situation. I haven't tried intercourse yet and won't until I am sure of my performance. That's why I am asking you this. (age 30)

A: I have the impression that you only recently switched to conventional masturbation. If so, it generally takes about 3 months to notice a difference in your orgasms. You might join the online support group to gain insight from the experiences of other men. You ought to be able to try intercourse after you have been able to masturbate by hand daily for a month.

10/17/09

Follow-up: Actually I switched to conventional masturbation 5 months ago. As I told you, I may begin my session with pretty hard erection with high stimulation. During my session I may lose my interest toward the porn I watched, and as a result, my erection may go softer (still maintained but not so hard). After switching to another more attractive video, my erection returns to be hard again. Is this normal? I mean, is it normal that the quality of erection is not maintained during the session? Will I face problems during intercourse? Do I have to see a urologist?

A: I don't know that you need a urologist, but you should be working at maintaining the erection throughout the session. If you fear losing your erection, then it is better to reach orgasm more quickly before the erection goes away. Then you can work at stretching out your sessions. It might help to view the material for a longer period of time before you start masturbating. Lots of males use Viagra or its cousins to help them keep their erections longer.

10/22/09


I practiced prone masturbation for years, and after discovering this great web site, I followed the cure program and overcame prone and started to masturbate conventionally. Yet I can only masturbate with a sustained erection that can last for as much as I want only once a day. If I masturbate after a few hours of my first masturbation session on a particular day, my erection will be much weaker and difficult to maintain. The same thing will happen if I masturbate a third time on the same day. Is this normal? Or is it due to the effects of the prone habit? How can I overcome this problem? (age 32)

A: It is typical for men your age to masturbate only once a day and only occasionally have a second session in a day. If you are trying to masturbate twice or three times a day every day, that is apt to be why you are having problems. It might be related to prone masturbation. It takes a while for your erections to get normal after you quit masturbating prone. However, according to a survey of over 10,000 males by HealthyStrokes.com in the second half of 2007, former males who masturbate prone masturbate only slightly less (6.6 times per week) than males who have never masturbated prone (6.8 times per week).

10/25/09


I am trying to stop masturbating prone, and I didnt make it the full week before trying. I waited 4 days, and tried the conventional way, and it wasnt successful. Do I still need to wait another whole week if I never ejaculated? (age 21)

A: No, count the original four days as part of the week. So try again when it's a week from the last time you masturbated prone.

11/4/09


I came across your article and was shocked. I always wondered why I did things differently from normal, and why sex was never as enjoyable as masturbating. Is it ever too late to undo? I am 25 and have masturbated this way since 12 or 13. I have had a number of partners in that time. Since I was about 20, I have masturbated prone about 2-3 times daily, sometimes 4-5 times a day. I'm afraid the damage is irreparable.

A: Many, many men have been cured who were older than you and had been masturbating prone much longer. I have never heard of a case that was intractable. However, even after you overcome prone masturbation, you should be aware that your frequency is quite high, especially for someone who is trying to be sexually active. I suggest getting on with the cure regimen and seeking support from the online support group. You can be masturbating conventionally by American Thanksgiving and feeling normal by Christmas.

11/5/09


I want to start by saying that I've really been enjoying reading your site. Not only is it the most informative site about masturbation, but some of your replies to readers make me laugh heartily. I'm hoping now that I've found your site, my life can change for the better.

I've been masturbating in the prone position since I was 7, and I'm 19 now. I learned to do it that way because I caught my older brother doing it that way. I've been with my girlfriend for over 4 years and we've never been able to complete sex. Most times I would just use her leg instead of the blanket to masturbate on. We could never have sex because anytime she would give me fellatio or a handjob to get me erect, my penis would just go soft again as soon as she'd stop. If I do have an erection that happens to last a minute, she's usually not ready for penetration.

When I'm cured, should my erections last longer than a minute? Anytime we tried putting a condom on, it would go soft. A huge problem is I don't think my penis is sensitive at all. I've spent 30 minute sessions trying to masturbate the conventional way, and even though it's given me an erection, not once has it ever felt pleasurable. When I do it prone, I can feel much pleasure building up until I orgasm. I also find it a lot easier to fantasize while masturbating prone. My girlfriend has given me a 15 minute act of fellatio and I know it's supposed to feel a lot better than it did. She kept me hard but there was just no way I could orgasm. I fear I broke my penis head's sensitivity.

What will it be like once I'm cured? I always just thought I had erectile dysfunction and I bought these $15 pills at Walmart that were supposed to give me an erection but did absolutely nothing, so I threw them out before they damaged me in some way.

I haven't masturbated in 3 days now. I'm planning on doing it the conventional way after 4 more days like you suggested. So if I look at erotic images, or touch myself at all before the 7 days, would I be losing its chance of it getting sensitive?

A: You are the first man I've ever heard claim to have learned prone masturbation by seeing someone else do it that way. Your experiences with sex are, unfortunately, typical for males who masturbate prone. The point of giving up prone masturbation and learning to masturbate conventionally is to restore sensitivity to your penis. Just abstaining for 5-7 days is enough to heighten the sensitivity of most males. It's not the case that if you look at erotic images, you are ruining your chances of reaching orgasm, but there is really no reason to look at them if you're not planning to masturbate, is there? And it is very important to avoid touching your penis sexually until you think you can give conventional masturbation a try.

By definition, when you are cured, you will be able to masturbate conventionally by hand daily. After about a month of that, you should be able to have sexual intercourse. Given your erectile history, I might suggest getting a prescription for Viagra. Lots of males with a history of erectile trouble have used it to help them masturbate conventionally after the abstinence period. It will also help you keep your erection so you can have intercourse. Obviously, you don't want to use it permanently if you don't have to, but it can be quite useful in getting you through this transition.

11/6/09


My boyfriend, now 23, admitted to me six weeks ago that he's been masturbating prone since he was 6. When we had a serious talk, which led to his discovery of HealthyStrokes.com, he was both shocked and scared to hear exactly what has been happening to him and what may happen in the future. At that point, he decided to follow your plan. Ever since then, once every few weeks I have asked how it's going. The first week he said it took about one hour, and the second week he admitted he was not able to ejaculate the standard way and resorted to prone, but Ive tried to encourage his progress abstaining from prone. I'm trying not to pressure him so I've only asked about the progress twice since then. We've been dating almost 4 years and he has never ejaculated with me (at first I thought he was too nervous). He said since the first week of trying to masturbate the standard way he has not "cheated," but he has also not been able to successfully masturbate this standard way. When I asked if he waits the full week, he said once in a while.

I want to support him but it has been rough knowing its been almost 2 months and he has not made progress, and I'm not sure that I believe that he has not "cheated" during this time. He believes a standard ejaculation will not come any time soon. I've asked him about 3 weeks ago to email you for help, but I know he will not. He now says he regrets telling me at all because otherwise he could keep doing what he was doing. We don't live together and I am concerned not only about our future, but also about his health. Can you please help me? Or should I keep trying to encourage him to contact you himself?

He has said he has not ejaculated for 5 weeks. I can't tell if he's being honest with me, and although I've tried to make him understand, I don't think he understands that we're in this together and I'm not having sex (and I've only masturbated once) since he's started. I don't know how long I can keep this up if he is not putting his all into this. I thought this would be a few months' process, but almost 2 months in, there is no progress. When I brought this up with him it was because we were only having sex about once a month, unsuccessfully. I appreciate your help! (age 23)

A: It is admirable of you to help your boyfriend, but he has to be the one who wants to change. He says he regrets telling you because then he could continue to masturbate prone. I suspect he is still masturbating prone. If he could masturbate successfully in conventional fashion, he would have told you. I don't believe he could go five weeks without ejaculating at all. Most guys his age can learn to masturbate conventionally in less than two weeks. Once they have done that, they can usually have intercourse successfully within a month. If he doesn't want to e-mail me, perhaps he could join the online support group. He could read messages there without actually having to post anything himself. There is also a support group for females. It includes both females who masturbate prone themselves and those who are helping male partners overcome their prone habit.

I know you know this, but there's no need for you to give up masturbating yourself.

11/7/09


I would like to thank you for the information provided by this web site. It has helped me overcome prone masturbation successfully. I had realized I had a problem for a long time but had no idea how to resolve it or how to go about it. I also agree that information on prone masturbation and its dangers should be more available. If I had known earlier how to overcome it, it would have saved me a lot of grief.

11/10/09


I am a 27 year old male and I have had trouble all my life pretty much keeping an erection and ejaculating while having intercourse. This started when I first tried to have sex at the age of 19. This has caused so many problems and confusion in my life, I can't even tell you. I have been questioning my sexual orientation for so long and at one point obsessed about it and couldn't understand what was happening. I considered the possibility that I was gay and came up with all of these reasons why I was gay. Even little stupid reasons like being a sensitive guy. The only fact that escaped me was that I just didn't feel any attraction to men. So you can imagine how confused I was. I went to many different doctors trying to diagnose what was wrong with me. Your web site has pretty much lifted this curse and burden above my head.

When I was young I found out how to ejaculate when I was lying down in bed and just rubbed back and forth and essentially humped the mattress. That was it for me. I loved the feeling and kept on doing it the same way until recently. So I humped the mattress for 17 years! I had always seen other guys motion with their hands but I liked the way I was doing it and just didn't want to try anything different "because if it ain't broke...don't fix it" Well, it was broke and has created an enormous amount of grief and confusion later in life. All from the whim of rubbing up and down a mattress. It's kind of sad to think that if I just had learned the right technique I could have avoided this mess altogether. The problem was even apparent when I first started getting sexually active.

Luckily from the age of about 19-23, I didn't have any consistent problems. I could always tell my penis was not 100% and every so often I could not get an erection or ejaculate. The first time I tried to have sex, she was on top and I couldn't get going at all. I blamed it on being drunk and it pretty much destroyed my ability to continue a relationship with her. I was angry but I didn't let it bother me and I moved on. Finally I started dating a girl and had sex for the first time. She was on her back of course and it worked OK. This relationship became more serious and eventually we ended up dating for about 2 years. In those two years, there was a month period where I just could not achieve an erection. I went to see the campus doctor and tried different remedies but nothing seemed to work. Suddenly for no apparent reason that I could tell, I was able to have sex again and went back to the same old OK sex. Apparently it was much better for her but the sensation for me was never that great. I didn't even really enjoy getting blow jobs because it was hard to feel anything. The relationship just fell apart for her cheating on me and other reasons. I had sex with multiple women after that and had problems off and on but whenever I had a problem getting an erection I just blamed it on her and my inability to trust another woman. Furthermore, every girl I had sex with I thought I had gotten an STD and got tested thinking I had herpes. Then i had to wait 30 days to get accurate test results to confirm I didn't get a disease. I have had sex wih over 20 women. Can you imagine freaking out after every single one for 30 days?

About 1 year ago ago, I had been dating this wonderful girl for about 9 months and really liked her. This was the first time I had really liked a girl this much in years. The whole time we were dating though, I had a consistent problem with getting it up. More than usual even. This was extremely disturbing and got me all spun in different directions. I went to urologists and specialists trying to figure it out. Even Viagra wasn't working. Then it hit me ... I had a huge panic attack and thought the problem was not me, it was the women. I thought I must be gay. Whenever I would see a good looking guy, I would think I was attracted to him because I knew he was good looking and the reason I was confused was because I had been brainwashed by society to be straight and I was hiding my true feelings of being gay. Now I was going to have to date men and change my life around. This pretty much threw my world upside down and sent me into a deep depression. This woman ended up breaking up with me because I was so depressed around her and wouldn't talk to her about it. I lost my job, my house, and I even lost sight of what truly mattered. Even though I still thought about girls when masturbating prone, I just said that was because that was the way I had been doing it for so long and that I would warm up to masturbating to men. Well, that never happened, but HealthyStrokes.com did.

When I first read this web site, I thought what nonsense. I thought I was just using whatever excuse I could to get out of being my true gay self. But then I read more in depth about the explanations and the studies, and looked at the science involved. Everything seemed to make sense because I always thought I had more trouble on my back. I didn't want to give my hopes up as this being the solution but I wanted to give it a shot. So I stopped masturbating for 2 weeks and followed the plan. It took me 45 minutes my first time and I got a sore penis but I eventually ejaculated and it felt so much different. I stayed on the plan and it took me 3 months but now I am capable of using my hand and masturbating using the appropriate technique at will. I still like the prone method because I am so used to it but I refrain as much as possible. Then I pretty much forced myself to have sex with a woman. Even though I feared being limp, I went into it thinking if that happens I can keep trying and not to pay too much attention to it. Well, not only did I get an erection, but the sex was better than I knew it to be. I wasn't even really attracted to the girl but she is a good friend and I felt really comfortable. At that point I knew what having real intercourse was like. It was almost as if I was having sex with a woman for the first time and it was incredible. I immediately thought what sex would be like if I really loved the girl -- that would be amazing. I was so overcome with emotions and happiness that I had to tell you my story. I still have the reminisence of fears about being gay, not achieving an erection, and getting an STD, but now I feel like finally I can overcome those fears eventually. I am sure this story sounds stupid to many people but I am pretty much in tears when I am writing it because it represents 10 long hard years of sexual frustration and confusion, but more importantly the end of my lack of self- confidence and self-worth. I can't thank you enough for HealthyStrokes.com. I am truly in your debt.

11/17/09


I'm 21 and have been masturbating for years but in a way that doesn't require an erection. I simply lie flat on my stomach, put my hands down, and massage my penis against my knuckles until I ejaculate. I can ejaculate that way a lot and within 1 minute every time but can't ejaculate the conventional way. I have no problem getting an erection and maintaining one. I am scared that when I do have sex for the first time and am looking at having kids down the road, I won't be able to ejaculate during intercourse. But again, I've never had sex so I don't entirely know if that's the case. What do you think about all this?

A: You are a textbook case of the dangers of prone masturbation. It is very bad to masturbate that way, and even worse because you do it without an erection. I urge you quite strongly to give that up ASAP and forever.

11/17/09


Doug, I want to say thanks again for helping me become cured of prone masturbation! I have been masturbating on average once a day for the past 9 months using the correct, normal method by hand and it feels great! I have actually forgotten what prone masturbation feels like!

Thanks again man!!!! This site is amazing!!

Dylan

11/22/09


When I first saw this site, I was absolutely in shock and to tears over the fact that I could have problems with sex. In fact, when I tried to masturbate with my hand after reading this, I couldn't even get an erection. However, I think this was more due to anxiety than prone masturbation. I went a week without masturbating prone and then came back and switched to my hand with very little problem (took about 20 minutes my first try, 10 my second). Thanks for this resource, it has been very informative and has helped me a lot. Does sexual dysfunction simply go away after you start masturbating the usual way? Is it that simple? Thanks again for this information. (age 16)

A: The first step is learning to masturbate the conventional way. After that, you will notice differences in your erections and orgasms within a few months. If you are already sexually active, you will also gradually notice improvement in your abilities. However, it is not instant. Practice makes perfect.

11/28/09


I have always masturbated prone since I first started 2-3 years ago. I had heard that most guys masturbate with their hands, but I figured there was no difference or harm done with doing it prone. I am now in the process of quitting my prone practices. I want to have a problem-free sex life in the future. But I have a problem. I have tried the regular way before and was able to achieve the same as masturbating prone, but I used a sheet in my hand. Is there a difference in holding something around the penis and just doing it with your hand?

I find it completely weird that my parents even now, have never explained sex to me. I learned it all from friends and just hearing things at school. Had you asked me a year ago what a condom was, I couldn't have answered. I know that I can't rely on my parents for information now, so your site has helped a ton. Thanks. (age 14)

A: It is better if you don't use the sheet. Using the sheet is just another dysfunctional method of masturbating. If your penis is too sensitive, then I would suggest starting to use lube after you give up masturbating prone.

12/6/09


I am happy to report that after 6 years of masturbating prone, I had my first ejaculation through conventional masturbation today. I unfortunately discovered masturbation the wrong way when I was 13, and had tried to correct it for years without result. I was a virgin through high school and had my first three sexual encounters in college. Each time I had trouble maintaining an erection and obtaining pleasure from the girls. I looked for reasons for my poor performance and discovered your site and it all made sense. I abstained for 12 days, and finally achieved regular masturbation orgasm today. Thank you so much for your information and advice. I now look forward to a life where I am no longer in shame of my abnormal masturbation and fearful that I could not make love to women. (age 19)

Good for you! You will notice a big difference soon.

12/7/09


After finding your site, I have given up 6 years of masturbating prone 15 days ago. Three days ago, I had my first supine masturbation session, and have successfully masturbated in the supine position using my hand the last two days. Each time it has taken me about 15 to 20 minutes to ejaculate. I do it normally and with a full erection, but I keep a tissue between my hand and my penis while I stroke it. Is this harmful? Should I lose the tissue? I am circumcised and would probably need lotion to masturbate only using my hand. (age 19)

A: I advise getting rid of the tissue and starting to use lube. Use a good kind made especially for sex like Astroglide or K-Y Liquid. However, don't make all these changes at once. Try to wean off the tissue before using lube.

12/9/09


After having masturbated prone for a few years, I tried to refrain from masturbating this way, and with success. Since my attempt to stop masturbating in the wrong way, I have been able to do it the right way and get normal erections. However, when I am masturbating, the total ring within an inch under the bell end gets completely unfeeling. Is there something I can do against this? (age 16)

A: It sounds like you are still learning. You are probably using too much pressure. When you masturbate conventionally, you can get by with a lot less force than when you masturbate prone. This is one more advantage of masturbating conventionally. I suspect you will gradually use less pressure as you get used to masturbating with your hand.

1/13/10


I have masturbated prone for over 4 years, and today I masturbated the conventional way to orgasm for the first time, but I did not ejaculate. It was a good orgasm, but why didn't I ejaculate? Is this good or bad, and what should I do next? (age 16)

A: It was only one orgasm, and you are learning a new technique. I would advise you to wait two days and try again. Be sure to keep stroking all the way through your orgasm, for as long as you can stand it.

1/17/10


I have started using normal masturbation exclusively after more than 30 years of prone masturbation. I am actually dumbfounded that I am still trying to figure out how to do it right. I've used my hands countless times over the years but always with saliva and occasionally have used Vaseline or soap, lubes which I no longer use. I am cut. Is it normal to have to use lube/saliva? I try to use just my hand, dry, very gently, but I quickly find I sweat or something, causing me to be unable to ever just run my hand over the skin except for a few lucky moments.

I am now using a real lube (Astroglide) and I was wondering if I should be stroking just the shaft or should the head get equal treatment? I am trying to use as light of a grip as I can but exactly how I should stroke is the main question. (age 39)

A: Don't be dumbfounded. All of us who masturbated prone have had to ask these questions at some point. Some were older than others. It is very normal to need to use lube when masturbating by hand. One simply generates a lot of friction that can't be eased any other way. Since you are just learning to masturbate with your hand, don't worry about how much pressure you use. Just work on being able to reach orgasm by hand. When you have accomplished that, you can work on using less force (and probably also a slower stroke). When you are using lube, you can stroke the head as easily as the shaft, but if you don't use lube, you are much better off stroking only the shaft and only touching the head very sparsely or not at all.

2/2/10


I feel really embarrassed. I have been masturbating prone since I was about 13-14. It just came naturally to me, and my parents never spoke to me about masturbation.

I have been trying it the conventional way the past few days and I find it takes a lot longer and a lot more effort to reach an orgasm and sometimes I can't. Is this normal and have I suffered long term damage from doing it prone for about 7 years? I am a virgin so I don't know how I would perform during intercourse. (age 21)

A: Don't be embarrassed. More than 80 percent of males' parents never told them about masturbating, and close to none of the other 20 percent had their parents tell them how to do it. It is normal that you are having only intermittent success in regular masturbation; you have only been at it for a few days. You ought not expect any problems in intercourse. You can overcome your history of prone masturbation in time.

2/8/10


Just wanted to tell you that I followed the advice on your site to quit masturbating prone and can masturbate the conventional way on a daily basis. I'm a 22 year old male with a normal sex life that prone masturbation no longer interferes with. You do a great service to all those out there who are affected by masturbating prone.

2/10/10


I have been masturbating prone almost exclusively all my life, starting at age 11 when I did it accidentally, and I think that the information given here is inaccurate. After many years of experience I can say with total certainty that problems do not arise from prone masturbation itself, but from related circumstances. The only real problem with prone masturbation is the over-stimulation which can lead to under-stimulation during vaginal intercourse, but I have discovered an excellent technique to overcome this -- using a condom, and rolling up a blanket or duvet in a folded-over ball but a slip-hole on top to replicate as closely as possible real sexual intercourse. Since I have started utilizing this technique, my sexual performance with a partner has greatly improved, even compared to masturbating by hand. I have noticed that I have learned to control my orgasms -- I never have trouble reaching first orgasm and I can also delay it if I want to prolong intercourse or if it seems like it is coming too soon. I have even found that my performance is at its peak following a period without sexual intercourse, and I have come to think of the above-described method, combined with my imagination, as a kind of practice for real sexual intercourse, that only improves it rather than taking anything away from it.

I think that the information on this site is highly problematic, and the crucial flaw is failure to distinguish between effects that pertain to prone masturbation as such, and effects that can happen with any masturbation which places too much pressure on the penis. Treating prone masturbation as a disorder is ridiculous in my view. (age 31)

A: You are in denial. You report having already experienced sexual dysfunction, yet you refuse to believe that 20 years of prone masturbation is the cause. You even claim that replacing your previous prone technique (which you don't describe) with an even more dysfunctional technique of humping a gap in a balled-up blanket actually helps you. Why not take a cue from the thousands of males who have used HealthyStrokes.com to help them overcome prone masturbation and have more fulfilling sex lives. Don't wait until it gets worse.

Follow-up: Actually, you are in denial. You can't even read my comments properly - suggesting that I reported sexual dysfunction as a result of 20 years of masturbating prone, when if I have ever had any dysfunction it was early on, when I was still combining prone and hand masturbation. And the fact that you felt the need to edit my words, carefully excluding only the most problematic bits that you can't argue away, shows just how little scientific credibility is behind your dumb web site. Why would I follow the cue of the fictional "thousands" of males you mention, when I have the firm evidence of feedback from sexual partners and my own experience?

A: OK then. Have fun your way.

2/24/10


I came to this site about 2 years ago and learned how bad prone masturbation was and how I could stop myself from doing it, but I was never able to stop my problem. I masturbate 2-4 times a day, but for the past 2 days I have masturbated the conventional way and only once a day! I have equal pleasure once I ejaculate but I'm scared that I'm going to go back to my old habit because masturbating conventionally is time consuming. (It takes me about 30 minutes to masturbate with my hand and 3 minutes prone.) What can I do to prevent this? (age 16)

A: You're asking for perfection in only two days. It will take you less and less time as you become more experienced at masturbating by hand. Just make a resolution that you're not going back to prone masturbation, and stick to it. Also, I wouldn't be surprised if you find yourself masturbating less once you get used to doing it conventionally.

3/2/10


I've been masturbating for two years by prone masturbating (rubbing against mattress). I've tried it naked but it was uncomfortable. I always did it gently with undies and pants on. When I learned about the danger of masturbating prone on HealthyStrokes.com, I stopped and now do it the usual way. Is there any damage I could have done? (age 13)

A: It is unlikely you did any damage. People improve just by stopping prone masturbation and learning to masturbate conventionally.

3/2/10


I have recently tried quitting prone masturbation after practicing it for almost 10 years. I have good, healthy erections, but I can't seem to climax. All that comes out is pre-ejaculatory fluid, no semen. How long does it take to reach orgasm when doing it conventionally? I also do not feel the need to masturbate as much now that I am not masturbating prone. I am concerned about the delay in ejeculating. Can you help? (age 23)

A: You are almost there. When you get the pre-ejaculatory fluid, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you ejaculate. Once you have got that down, work at being slower and using less force. On average, it takes males 11 minutes to reach orgasm by masturbating, but sometimes it only takes a minute or two. It is not unusual for it to take 30-45 minutes your first few times masturbating by hand after 10 years of masturbating prone. Since you are not ejaculating from conventional masturbation yet, you cannot yet evaluate whether you will be masturbating more or less with your new technique. Good luck.

3/2/10


I practiced prone masturbation and suffered from its effects for years. I went through the cure program described on your web site, and I was able to masturbate conventionally every day for 30 days. When I started having sex, everything went well, yet I suffer from a rapid loss of erection once or twice every thirty times when I perform sex. What is the cure or solution for this problem? Thank you for your help. (age 32)

A: Just keep at it. Given your history, it's expected that not all of your lovemakings sessions will be perfect. Just keep trying to be better and notice the results you get.

3/4/10


I did it! On Sunday afternoon, I finally ejaculated, twice. After a month of feeling discouraged because all that came out was pre-ejaculate and no cum, I finally orgasmed. It feels really good that I don't ever have to worry about prone masturbation because it used to plague me for years, but not anymore. What a relief! (age 23)

A: Congratulations! I'm glad you were able to masturbate to orgasm conventionally. I hope this will help you give up prone masturbation forever.

3/16/10


Tonight, for the first time in my life, I masturbated in the conventional fashion. And I owe it all to HealthyStrokes.com. My days of prone are over. I will never masturbate prone again, or as I have referred to it, "smushing off."

I started masturbating when I was 13. I do not know why I began masturbating prone. I remember hitting puberty and rubbing my penis into the bed every night to get an erection. Then one night, I ejaculated. Through sex ed in school, I knew that I was masturbating incorrectly. I never breathed a word of it to anyone due to my own insecurity. For years to come, all I knew is that I could only masturbate in this fashion. For years I always just told myself that I would one day gather the courage to figure out what was wrong with me. Aside from prone masturbation, I have suffered from anxiety my entire life. I never had a girlfriend in high school not only because I didn't have the guts to talk to girls, but I assumed that I would not be able to have sex due to my prone masturbation. I was always afraid to see a sex therapist or even just try research on the Internet out of fear that I would discover my condition untreatable.

After high school, I actually got a girlfriend. The girl liked me and I just rolled with it. We dated for three years and never had sex. She was overweight and always thought I wasn't attracted to her, although I actually fantasized about her every time I masturbated. After that relationship ended, I was single for a while before I had my next relationship at age 25. This girl was actually very good looking. Many guys were envious of me. We actually had sex. However, I was still far from ejaculating, usually going soft within a few minutes. Like my first girlfriend, this caused much frustration for her. Finally, one day I had the determination to go to Google and punch in "masturbation face down." HealthyStrokes.com was the first web site in the listing. My confidence boosted through the roof. I was overjoyed that not only was I not alone, but my condition could be treated all on my own. Unfortunately, this confidence boost sunk soon. I discovered that I could not sleep at night without masturbating. I tried sleeping pills, but I could never make it more than two days without getting so desperate to masturbate that I crawled into bed and smushed off.

In time my relationship ended and more years passed by. Occasionally I was able to go several days without masturbation. At one point I went two weeks. The chart on HealthyStrokes.com was very helpful. I made several additions to the chart, including a motivational quote next to each day. But every time I attempted to masturbate conventionally, I felt like I wasn't even close. I even tried using K-Y Liquid as suggested on the web site.

Recently, things changed. Weeks ago I found a job. I had been unemployed for several months which did nothing good for my self-confidence. Working again, I found myself having much confidence. I met a girl at work. She is very cute and has a great personality. I developed a crush on her. My confidence became very shaky. I was happy that I met her and that I thought she may like me back. But yet again because of my prone masturbation, I was nervous. I started counting the hours down the chart again. After a week, I began trying to masturbate using the conventional method. A couple months ago, I heard of a product known as Stroke 29 which I heard is the best lubricant for a man to masturbate with. After a week of abstinence, I began trying it. Still I could not masturbate to orgasm. But I remained determined. I saw this girl five days a week and she was my final motivator. I constantly told myself that even if I don't win her over, I was going to begin masturbating conventionally and one day win a woman that made me feel the same way. I was convinced that this would be my new beginning.

Tonight I came home after sixteen long days without masturbating and began looking over erotic pictures and clips on the Internet. I thought about the girl from work. My house was silent except for what was playing on my computer. I was becoming erect very easily. I grabbed the lubricant and masturbated with my hand. It was feeling better and better. I subconsciously thought that this was the time. My penis felt like it had never felt before. I squinted my eyes for a moment and then I ejaculated. I laughed to myself. I felt so silly, with my torso covered in my own semen, yet I kept repeating to myself, "I did it. I really did it." I graduated from high school, graduated from college, but never have I felt the sense of accomplishment that I felt tonight.

I am 28 years old. I know I could have done this years ago. Many times my friends have tried picking girls up from bars and I never could be with them. But that doesn't matter. I have a long life ahead of me. One day I will meet a terrific woman, marry her, have children with her, and have an amazing sex life with her!

My days of masturbating prone are over. Thank you, HealthyStrokes, so very much.

A: Congratulations to you! I know the feeling of finding out about prone but not wanting or being able to abstain right away. Many males have gotten to that point, but it is better to endure the agony for a week (maybe two) and start making sexual progress. I'm glad you were finally able to do that. Your story of how that hot woman motivated you to quit prone also resonates; I've heard many men say something like that over the years, that they had the idea in their head to give up prone sometime, and then when they met a particularly fascinating woman, they decided that time was now. I'm glad it all worked out for you, and I hope you will keep us updated about your progress.

3/19/10


I have just stopped masturbating prone for about a week now. I have tried masturbating the regular way every day since I stopped. After about 15 minutes of barely feeling any pleasure at all, I just stop because it's boring. What should I do? Is it OK to sleep prone if you have an erection every night? (age 13)

A: You are giving up too easily. It will not be boring once you know how to bring yourself to orgasm with your hand. I urge you to endure the boredom for a little while longer. When you feel like you are close to orgasm, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you reach orgasm. Once you know how, you can work at stroking more slowly and with less force. It is OK to sleep on your stomach.

4/4/10


I have been primarily masturbating prone for over 30 years. But I have also masturbated in a more conventional way throughout that time period as well - supine, seated, or even standing on occasion. I don't have any trouble feeling sensation in any of those scenarios, nor does it take a long time to reach orgasm. In fact, sometimes when I'm having trouble reaching orgasm from masturbating prone, I will use my hand in a more conventional approach because I generate more friction, speed or sensation that way. Perhaps I'm not masturbating prone quite the way the others are, though their descriptions sound very similar. My technique is more akin to "dry-humping" for lack of a more descriptive term, and involves thrusting into pillows or something similar (which does sound a lot like what some, but not all, of the others are describing).

It seems to me that both styles of masturbation can lead to over-stimulation of the penis, certainly more than a well-lubricated vagina will provide. Even though I can reach orgasm quite readily from my own touch -- prone, supine, seated, etc. -- it is often difficult to do so during oral or vaginal sex.

Do you really think that the prone masturbation is the primary culprit here, as supine masturbation seems to provide just as much - if not more - pressure and sensation? I don't really need the 7-day abstinence period since I can masturbate fine in a supine position using my hand. But I do have problems consistently reaching orgasm through vaginal or oral sex. Is your approach relevant for me or do I just need to reduce my masturbation in general, use a gentler touch, and vary technique more so that I don't get accustomed to a pressure that most women can't replicate?

Thanks in advance for your advice - and kudos to you for being able to help lots of guys already. (age 44)

A: What you describe is not only prone masturbation but also the most common sexual dysfunction that males who masturbate prone suffer from. If masturbating conventionally, it makes no difference if you are supine, standing, or seated. All of those styles of masturbation involve no pressure on your penis other than from your hand. Prone masturbation puts the weight of your body and the force from your legs onto your penis. You are correct that you don't need to go through an abstinence period, but it would be a good idea to resolve to give up prone masturbation forever. You don't say what your masturbatory frequency is, so I don't know that your frequency needs to change, but I would advise you to abstain from all masturbation for 5-7 days in advance of a planned sexual encounter. As you get more comfortable with your performance, you can reduce the interval.

4/14/10


I have been masturbating in the prone position for years. Last year I learned of your site and been masturbating conventionally. I can achieve orgasm with my hand. I occasionally still cheat by doing it prone, but it is less and less now. My problem is the one side of my penis that gets pressure from masturbating prone is becoming extremely sensitive and more and more now I will orgasm in under a minute with even gentle brushing. I can stroke the head and the other side of my penis forever until I lose my erection and never orgasm. This is a problem because I achieve orgasm way prematurely even with light touching of that area and I lose my erection when I am near orgasm. I try stopping and going to make it last longer, but I lose my erection very easily when I am near orgasming. This makes normal masturbation and of course sex frustrating. (age 28)

A: I recommend no more cheating. Your penis will become more sensitized after you give up prone masturbation, but I suspect some of the difference in feeling from the two sides are due to cheating. You also seem not to have found the optimum way to stroke. There should be a way of touching it that neither makes you reach orgasm prematurely nor keeps it from happening for a long time. Practice makes perfect.

4/20/10


I am 29 years old and have been masturbating prone since I was 11. I started having major ED issues in the last 2 years and got myself tested and found I have very low levels of testosterone and that could be the cause of my ED. Does prone masturbation affect a person's hormones also? I have quit masturbating prone for two months and still cannot get a full erection (looks like testosterone issues to me).

As far as ejaculation is concerned, I suffer from premature ejaculation which is completely opposite from what's mentioned on this site. I am so confused. How long do the ED issues take to clear up?

A: In terms of overcoming the legacy of prone masturbation, you have already done what is necessary by quitting prone masturbation and learning to masturbate conventionally. Congratulations. Your erections should be greatly improved as a result of switching to conventional masturbation within another month. If you really have testosterone issues, they should be dealt with separately. Take some time from getting over your history of prone before launching a new course of corrective action.

5/2/10


I used to be a male who masturbates prone and I have been doing things the right way for about 2 months. About 2 or three weeks ago, my balls hurt a lot for a few days and the pain eased off to something barely noticeable. The minor pain sort of goes away and comes back. I've noticed that if I take a day off from masturbating, it feels better the next day. I have always masturbated every day and maybe took a day off occasionally. What is wrong with me? What should I do to fix it? If it is excessive masturbation then why can't I do it as much so suddenly? (age 16)

A: By changing masturbatory styles, you are changing what your body is used to. It might be that you are ejaculating with greater intensity now and that is putting too much pressure on your prostate gland. Taking a break from frequent ejaculation is a good idea when experiencing pelvic pain. It is also a good idea to lay off caffeine, take sitz baths daily and perhaps an appropriate anti-inflammatory. When the pain has been gone for a month, then by all means go back to your usual frequency.

5/6/10


I have been masturbating since I was almost 13. I never could do it the conventional way. When I first discovered masturbation I was in my bed lying prone and my penis was to the left side of my body. I realized that moving it up and down on the bed, not exactly humping, caused me to ejaculate. Is prone masturbation where you put your penis parallel with your body and hump? Because I put my penis to the left side of my body and go very slow rubbing against the floor or sheets (not humping). Is this a type of prone masturbation? Also, I've tried several times to masturbate with my hand but I get nothing. I don't have any feeling when I'm rubbing most of the time. I tried it for 15 minutes and realized that nothing was happening. I had already abstained for about 4 days after I read HealthyStrokes.com. So I pretty much can't use my hand. Please help me. (age 17)

A: You definitely masturbate prone. You don't have to have your penis perfectly centered under your body and your motion doesn't have to be accurately described as "humping." By being in the prone position and by thrusting, you are masturbating prone. You also have an inability to masturbate the conventional way. I recommend following the abstinence regimen for the full week (perhaps longer) and learning to masturbate in the conventional position. I also urge you to give up your atypical form of masturbation forever. You can be cured.

5/11/10


Can a woman be cured from prone masturbation if she stops masturbating prone and starts masturbating with her fingers the usual way? (age 39)

A: Yes. That is what we mean by being cured. Many women have found themselves more sexually functional after quitting prone masturbation.

5/16/10


I just want to say thank you so much. I had no idea what was wrong with me during sex, and while I knew I masturbated in an abnormal fashion, none of my research turned up anything harmful about it. Then I found your site, and I can't wait for it to change my life. Thank you so much! (age 22)

5/19/10


I have recently gone through a bout of depression, and one of the symptoms of either the depression or the medication has been a much reduced ability to obtain a full erection. However, I stumbled onto your site, and I have realized that I have been masturbating in the prone position since I was around 12. I have had the same problems it seems everyone on the site has had when it comes to sex. While I am not sexually active right now, with past girlfriends I often would lose my erection prior to sex or not be able to maintain one unless I was on top, as well as delayed ejaculation.

My main concern is that I have had trouble maintaining erections when not prone. I also rarely seem to have morning erections, which has become of grave concern to me. I am in good overall health, and I am seeing a doctor soon. But I wanted to ask you if there is a risk I might have, after all these years of not knowing I was doing damage, permanently damaged my ability to erect by masturbating prone? I can get an erection but it feels soft and doesn't last long unless I am prone. The lack of erections at night has me terribly worried all of a sudden. (age 24)

A: The depression medication is certainly to blame for your short term difficulty. You might ask your doctor about Wellbutrin, the only SSRI that doesn't cause sexual side effects. Long term, you would do well to give up prone masturbation and learn to masturbate conventionally. Of course, you would have to be not taking the depression medication to be able to masturbate to orgasm satisfactorily, especially if you are learning a new method. I doubt you did any permanent damage to your penis.

5/19/10


I have been masturbating in the prone position for more than a decade now. As you mentioned in your article, it all started with the way I discovered it when I was 13. It was only after I turned 17 that I realized that my way is not the only way. Since then I have wondered if any of my friends/other boys have the same style or is it just me? I could never really find out, as masturbation is a very taboo subject, more so at my place. So I considered it to be just another style, which I believed fewer people followed.

I have had my concerns about the frequency of masturbation for a while. I masturbate once on weekdays before going to sleep, and 2-3 times on weekends. Is my frequency higher than normal? It causes drowsiness followed by sleep. Sometimes I observe that I have more energy in the morning if I haven't masturbated the night before. Since I have a full time job, and I am preparing for further studies, masturbation ruins my tight schedule of work/study/exercise.

Until today I had never imagined that my style of masturbating is actually an abnormality, and that too a harmful one. Your article has scared the hell out of me. Is there any permanent physical damage involved? As of now I don't have a partner. I have read your article, and I will follow the steps mentioned by you to cure myself. (age 24)

A: Your frequency is not unusual for your age. The average 24-year-old male masturbates 6.2 times per week. Males your age without partners masturbate slightly more, 6.7 times per week. Overall, 28.5 percent of men your age masturbate 8 times a week or more. Masturbation doesn't ruin your schedule; it is a healthy part of your schedule. Prone masturbation does not cause permanent physical damage. Simply follow the steps to give up prone masturbation and you should be able to masturbate with your hand within a week or so. You will notice a difference in your erections within a few months.

5/22/10


Please keep up the brilliant work with your site! I had no idea that I was doing it the wrong way before. Conventional masturbating is more fun, and hopefully I'm avoiding damage in the future. (age 16)

A: Masturbating conventionally is not only healthy, it's fun too!

5/23/10


I have been masturbating prone since I was a young boy. I recently stopped masturbating in the prone position about 1 year ago; however, I was still experiencing issues of sexual dysfunction. I realized this was happening because I would masturbate by thrusting by penis into my hand while lying on my back which I learned was still prone masturbation. I am now trying to recover using the method outlined on the web site, but I also have a partner who wants to have sex. Could having sex be damaging to the recovery process, and even in a way mirror the actions of prone to someone beginning to fully recover, as sex itself consists of a thrusting motion? Should I abstain from sex until I am fully recovered or does it not matter.

Also, despite the recurring idea that masturbating prone cannot cause nerve or physical damage, I think I damaged nerves in my penis as a result of masturbating prone. This is because I began experiencing penile tingling at the base of my penis at a point where my symptoms were the worst. I am currently trying to recover from masturbating prone and am abstaining from sex, but I know that I have physically damaged my penis and really hope I can make a full recovery. I learned that one of the causes of penile tingling is traumatic damage to nerves in the penis which I know was caused by masturbating prone. (age 21)

A: Is there any way you can get this nerve damage diagnosed? Has a doctor performed any tests on you? I am all in favor of you quitting prone masturbation, but there is no reason to assume you have nerve damage. Try to get a positive diagnosis before you decide your penis is damaged. Masturbating by lying on your back and thrusting upward (while non-conventional) is not prone masturbation. If you gave up prone masturbation a year ago, you ought to be OK to have sex now.

5/26/10


After reading HealthyStrokes.com, I think that I have the problem described. I have always masturbated prone since I was like 7 years old. I enjoy masturbating face down very much. I have tried the conventional way but it isn't as enjoyable. What should I do? Stop masturbating face down and after a while masturbate the conventional way? Whenever I do it the conventional way, I can't ejaculate even after half an hour! (age 16)

A: If you're read this site, you know that the program calls for stopping prone masturbation and learning to masturbate conventionally. You don't enjoy conventional masturbation because you've never had an orgasm that way. But up until now, you were just trying it for variety and weren't focused on having orgasms. Once you learn to masturbate to orgasm in conventional fashion, you will enjoy it more than prone masturbation. You will like being able to do it in different positions and circumstances. More importantly, it will teach you how to ejaculate with less pressure, and that will help you greatly when you start having sex with partners.

5/27/10


I remember when I was young, when I first started masturbating, the sensation and pleasure were absolutely incredible. I have been masturbating on my back for a few weeks now after years of masturbating prone, and I can ejaculate each time after a lot of focus, but I am not experiencing anywhere near the sensation I used to have when I first started masturbating. Will that pleasure ever return? (age 20)

A: It might be that what you remember is better than it really was. When you were masturbating in the prone position, you could only do it in one position, and you were more vulnerable to being caught, and you couldn't be as spontaneous, and you couldn't use all the visual aids you wanted. Now you can do it anywhere you want, and anytime you want, and with less pressure, and with more privacy, and you can use videos, or the Internet, and you aren't making your body less responsive to the touch of a partner. If you add all those things together, they mean the total act is giving you more pleasure than you had when you used to masturbate face down.

5/30/10


I had a history of masturbating prone but I quit. I'm now masturbating regularly with my hand but have since developed a callus. How can I get rid of it? (age 18)

A: Using lube would be the best way to keep calluses from forming. If you only recently started masturbating with your hand -- perhaps in the past month -- you are better off not introducing lube right away. I would advise you to avoid the affected area (perhaps by rotating your grip) until you are confident that you could introduce lube and not lose your progress.

6/6/10


I am able to masturbate in the sitting position but I still cannot under front up position. Does it mean that now I am cured from prone?

A: The important thing is that you can masturbate with your hand. If you need to be in a specific position, then I suggest working on it some more. Do not go back to masturbating prone. You are apt to be more comfortable doing it by hand in different positions within a few weeks.

6/8/10


I discovered this site today and I have been a male who masturbates prone for 6 years. I am young and I thought that I had to change this problem right now, otherwise I'll have problems in my sexual life later. (I'm still a virgin.) Already today, I've tested the conventional way of masturbating several times, but I wasn't enjoying it. It was boring and I had to watch a porno film to ejaculate and have an orgasm in this position. After watching the film, it took me about 20 minutes after struggling with trying to find an orgasm for over an hour. Am I really cured? If not, what do I have to do? (age 15)

A: Guys your age are often cured easily, but I hesitate to say you're cured just because you masturbated to orgasm once by hand. You have to give up prone masturbation forever, and I don't read that you're prepared to do that. You have to accept that conventional masturbation will be "boring" (to use your word) until you get used to it. You are only cured when you give up prone masturbation and can masturbate to orgasm by hand daily for a month.

6/12/10


Thank you so much for explaining what the danger of prone masturbating is, as I have been practicing it for a long time, and I never thought it could impact me with problems having sex. It's been a year and a half since I found HealthyStrokes.com and read about prone masturbation and decided to stop with the practice, and all I can tell you is that I mate better with the females ever since! (age 39)

6/12/10


I'm a guy who masturbates prone and hopefully you can help me out. I'm 15 and horny as hell, which is why I'm wondering if you think I really need to wait a week for sensitivity to come back. Can I try it now that it is Day 3 and see if it works, or do nothing until a week is up? I can manage if I really need to wait the whole week, however I periodically get bad urges. I like the chart idea, but to be honest I don't really need it, since it is a self-motivation that I have. I'm afraid I may have already done some sort of damage and hoping this will help correct me.

If I try to do it the conventional way before the week is over and fail, will I have to wait a another week? Or what's the deal with trying to do it the conventional way before the week is over?

Is it OK to masturbate with your back against the wall or a pillow? How do you know if you're using the death grip?

A: I advise you to wait at least five days. The danger is that you might not be able to masturbate to orgasm by hand after only three days and then you will be seriously tempted to flip over and thrust to orgasm via prone. After 5-7 days you should be able to masturbate to orgasm by hand. If you slip up and do it prone, you will have to reset the clock to 0. If you masturbate successfully by hand, you can try it again after 2 days. Sitting with your back against the wall or pillow is fine. Just work at learning to masturbate by hand for now and if your grip is too tight, work on loosening it later. Most guys learn to masturbate by stroking too tightly, too fast, but then when they get used to the feeling they use a lighter grip and slower strokes.

6/18/10


I always knew that my masturbation habits were errant and HealthyStrokes.com comes close to describing what I have been experiencing. However, "prone masturbation" does not quite describe what I do as I am not lying down on my stomach or thrusting into anything. What I do is sit on the edge of my bed, crouching/squating on my knees (facing the rest of the bed). My knees are far apart from each other, not next to one another in a traditional crouch or squat. I don't thrust my hips per se, but I do sometimes rock from side to side. I cannot usually climax in any other position, especially not when I am supine. The question I have is, is this a form of prone masturbation? I am doubtful because I am not really face down, I don't thrust, and I use my hand and not the actual bed or pillow. But the fact that I cannot climax in any other position does frighten me a bit. I do not know how this affects my performance with another partner, as I have yet to have sex. (age 22)

A: While that is not prone masturbation, it is an atypical form of masturbation that will not serve you well in learning new sexual things. Masturbating supine with the hand is a basic skill that every male ought to have. I would encourage you to go through the abstinence/retraining regimen described on the main page and give up the method you now use.

6/20/10

Follow-up: Today was the first time I masturbated in 8 days (as per the regimen you describe on the main page). I still could not do it supine on the bed, but I was able to finish when I moved to sitting on a chair. Would you consider this progress, or is the bed the only goal? Also, do you recommend soap as a lubricant? I used soap while on the chair, and it helped a little bit, although too much of it seems like it dulls the sensation.

A: Masturbating while sitting is fine. The important thing is to use your hand for stroking and don't thrust into or against something. Soap is not a popular lube, especially at your age. I would recommend using whatever works for you. If soap works, then go with it, and only change your lube when you are habituated to conventional masturbation.

6/21/10

Follow-up: I've switched entirely to the chair instead of my old habits. Two issues remain, though. One is that while I'm in the chair, although I don't thrust and I no longer "rock from side to side" as I did before, I still find that I do a lot better when I lean inward. It doesn't work if I'm leaning back against the chair's back, but if I lean in, it works a lot better. Do you think this is OK, or should I try to do it while leaning back? Another issue is, even after eight days of abstinence, I wasn't able to climax while supine in the bed. Would you recommend doing the regimen over again and waiting for more than eight days, or is it possible that this could be a biological problem rather than a psychological one caused by idiosyncratic masturbation habits?

A: I think you should give sitting in the chair more of a chance before deciding that what you need is a longer abstinence period. I suspect as you get more comfortable with masturbating with your hand while sitting up, it will be easier for you to lean back and still keep your arousal. Once you are more comfortable with the chair, then I think is the time to try lying on your back again. I can conceive of no biological problem that would keep you from masturbating to orgasm while leaning back in a chair.

6/28/10


HealthyStrokes.com is the best resource I could ever find!!!! You have all the information I need about masturbating, and I was looking for these for years!!! I am so happy that I finally could get my answers here. I found out about prone masturbation. I started masturbating when I was 3 using pillows and later using harder objects. After a certain age, I started using my hand (still in the prone position). I never knew this is unconventional until I read it here. I have tried to use other methods but it seems impossible to have an orgasm. I saw your great resources to help someone in my situation. I just wanted to thank you for all this help. (age 25)

6/22/10


I just want to say thank you for using common sense and finding a comprehensive solution to prone masturbation. Your site has drastically improved my life, and I finally feel normally again after masturbating prone for 4 straight years. (age 18)

6/27/10


In my quest for porn, I stumbled upon HealthyStrokes.com and learned how much I wasn't being told. They have never gone over this in sex ed and my parents still haven't given me the talk. Thank you so much for your web site. I am currently in the process of quitting. But to no avail. I keep cheating and when I try to masturbate the correct way, I have to use my boxers to do so. I can't do it lying on my back because I curve inward. (age 14)

A: You are young enough that you can quit fairly quickly without cheating and without the boxers. Just focus on doing it lying on your back with your hand. Don't make excuses for why you can't. Lots of guys curve inward and nearly all of them masturbate by hand. You can too.

7/5/10


I have been masturbating prone since I was 6 or 7. Back then I didn't even know what I was doing. Around 13 I learned what masturbation was and kept doing what I had been only to ejaculation now. I am now 20 and I have always masturbated prone because it feels good and I can reach orgasm quicker. I usually just lie on my floor and rub against it until I orgasm. I also masturbate conventionally quite often and have no problem getting to orgasm within 10 minutes or so unless I want to go longer. I notice that my erections aren't as hard as they used to be. I recently began to wonder whether my habit of prone masturbation was the cause of this and now that I found your site I think it is. I'm hoping that by stopping prone masturbation and only masturbating conventionally that I will begin to see much harder and longer erections. It feels great and I ejaculate a lot when I masturbate conventionally. I am still a virgin and want to regain a fuller, harder erection before I am with a girl for the first time because I wouldn't want her to think I have ED at the age of 20.

A: Your plan is a good one. There is no need to go through an abstinence period because you already know how to masturbate conventionally. Your case illustrates that even if Prone masturbation doesn't prevent a man from masturbating with his hand, it can still cause even a man barely out of his teens to notice a loss in his erections. I suspect you will have stronger erections within 2-3 months of giving up prone masturbation forever. Good luck.

7/9/10


I have been severely affected by prone masturbation. I have stopped and have now masturbated the conventional way for an entire week. However, I feel almost no sensation. Should I expect to notice a return in sensitivity within a month? (age 22)

A: It should feel good to masturbate by hand. Try to find out what touches feel the most good. It takes most guys a month to notice a difference in their erections. Be patient and keep up with it. Do not go back to masturbating prone.

7/11/10


I've masturbated prone since I was about 10. I got to the point where I would masturbate without an erection. Instead of the bed, I would use the floor with just a blanket over it. I was actually able to orgasm and ejaculate without an erection. I am trying to give it up and have just reached the 1 week mark. I had no luck masturbating conventionally at all. I'm 17 now and wondering if I should be worried since I masturbated prone to such an extreme. I have no problem getting an erection; I just don't feel much of anything when I masturbate with my hand. I'm also a virgin so I don't know if I can be orgasmic during sex, but in all honesty, I don't think I'd be able to.

A: Don't give up. Just be patient and work at masturbating by hand. Make sure you have a useful fantasy in your head. Don't worry if you're stroking too hard or fast. You can always work on those things once you've learned to masturbate to orgasm by hand.

7/12/10


I've been masturbating in the prone position for a couple of years now. I tried it the conventional way but I just can't ejaculate. What should I do? Keep on masturbating prone or just give up masturbating? (age 15)

Keep trying it conventionally. You will be ejaculating soon. When you feel like you're close, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you reach orgasm. Once you've learned how, you can work at slowing down and using less force.

7/13/10


Just a thank you note. I had noticed by my early thirties that it sometimes takes an hour to masturbate. Initially I attributed it to being just not in the mood, but the pattern became too clear to ignore. Thanks to HealthyStrokes.com, I realized that my problem, of course, was masturbating face down. I am fortunate that in my case the problem resolved itself in about a week, after I learned to masturbate ONLY in the face up position. Thanks again! (age 35)

7/17/10


I'm 24 and I had my first sexual experience only a few days back. Though I enjoyed the sex, I could not ejaculate for hours, and we eventually ended without me ejaculating. I masturbate in the prone position and I realized that it was a mistake only after visiting HealthyStrokes.com. I also masturbate often and watch a lot of porn. If I can abstain from porn and masturbate the conventional way at a much lesser frequency, can I ejaculate like normal guys during intercourse within a few months? I read in some sites that delayed ejaculation is not curable, and that freaks me out. Do I need to take a fertility test, because I'll get married in a couple of years and I want to have babies on my own?

A: You can overcome prone masturbation and learn to masturbate conventionally and have normal sexual relations. You do not need a fertility test. Prone masturbation does not cause infertility. You will be able to have babies on your own, or better yet, with a partner.

7/29/10


First of all, thank you so much for your site. At 17 years old, I currently masturbate prone, but I am trying to cure it with your methods. When I was very young and I'd see a pretty girl, I would rub my penis against my leg. I don't remember how I started, but I know I always did it because it felt good. I did this for several years and until recently, when I found your site. I would always lie down, rub my penis against my leg, and when I ejaculated, I would hold my penis until I could release it into the toilet. Once, when I was about 13 years old, my friend told me the conventional way to masturbate, and I tried it, but wasn't too successful. It never really felt all that good (not bad, just not good) and I never ejaculated. So, foolishly, I continued to do it my way. I've always been worried that I was doing something wrong, but never got any straight answers, until I found your site. Will your method of switching to the conventional way of masturbating help me? And will I be able to have sex when I get married the normal way? (age 17)

A: Yes, you can read throughout HealthyStrokes.com many hundreds of stories of males who became able to masturbate conventionally and then went on to overcome their sexual difficulties. You are in an especially good position because I perceive that you have no sexual experience. I think you will be in fine shape when you do.

7/30/10


After the week of abstaining from masturbating to get rid of prone masturbation, when I try the conventional way, it doesn't work. What should I do? (age 14)

A: Give it a few more days. Don't go back to masturbating prone or you will have wasted all that time. You will be able to do it the conventional way soon.

7/30/10


Are the erections (a year after giving up prone) weaker than the erections of males who never masturbated prone?

A: That's an interesting question. I don't have a ready way to study it. There is no way to get people to self-evaluate their erections that would be meaningful. I tell males that their erections will be back to normal within a few months of quitting prone masturbation but do not have a baseline of normal erections against which to compare it.

8/7/10


I have given up prone masturbation and I feel my erections are perfect, but still I don't try to be with a woman yet as I am afraid I won't satisfy her. What would you advise me? (age 27)

A: You don't know how good your erections are for intercourse; you haven't tried since you were cured. It is a good sign that you think your erections are perfect for masturbating and otherwise. You would be better off having intercourse. Don't worry at this point whether you would satisfy a woman; most women expect that men won't satisfy them when they are new partners. You learn by doing.

8/8/10


I just stumbled upon your page, and it has really opened my eyes. This was the method I first discovered to masturbate and I did it for many years before stopping completely and using the conventional method. I am 22 now and I often (not all the time) have difficulties getting a full erection and maintaining it during intercourse but thankfully have no problems reaching orgasm once I do. I was wondering if this could be a problem caused by masturbating prone all those years ago? And if there was anything you could recommend I do to reverse the damage? I have just recently ended a relationship that started when I was 14 so this issue has me petrified of moving on with someone new. I'd just like to thank you for putting the information up and taking the time to read my questions.

A: You don't say how long ago you switched from prone to conventional masturbation, but if it's more than two years, you ought to be over the effects of having masturbated prone by now. Just don't go back to prone by cheating with the occasional face-down session. You might want to join the online support group and find out what men in your situation have to say.

7/30/10


I have taken your advice and abstained from masturbation 8 days now. I am trying to masturbate the conventional way. It feels good when I do it but I can't seem to orgasm or climax. What should I do? (age 18)

A: The most important thing is don't go back to masturbating prone or you will have blown your 8 days of abstinence. Take another day, and then when you masturbate next, try to get extra aroused and only do it when you have an especially urgent erection. Strangely enough, feeling good is not the goal here. The goal is to get to an ejaculation using your hand whether or not it feels good. I often tell men in your situation that when they're getting close to orgasm to stroke as hard and fast as they can until they ejaculate. Then work on doing it more slowly and with less pressure.

8/9/10


Aren't good erections during masturbation enough sign for being good during intercourse? (age 23)

A: No. They are different activities. Just because you can water ski doesn't mean you can snow ski.

8/10/10

You often equate masturbating prone with the dysfunctions it can cause, but I wonder if it wouldn't be closer to the point to define it as masturbation by holding the penis with one hand and rubbing it against something, be it a bed, or the other hand. If one rubs it against the other hand, that still has the harmful effects you describe (i.e. it allows one to exert too much pressure on it, making it insensitive to situations where there's less pressure, like normal sex). Thanks for your site. I am going to try your method. I have been masturbating in the prone position for 25-odd years, usually once a day at least, and I have lost the ability to have an orgasm and often cannot ejaculate during intercourse. I can only do the missionary position, and sometimes I have trouble getting an erection. (age 40)

A: I have no idea why you're questioning my definition of prone masturbation when you report suffering exactly from the consequences I describe. Very few males who masturbate prone hold their penises with one hand while they masturbate. Of course, holding the penis in the hand and rubbing it against something else is a DIFFERENT atypical form of masturbation which may well be as bad as masturbating prone. I think the bottom line is that males need to be able to masturbate by stroking the penis with one hand. It's a basic sexual skill. Good luck to you, and please keep me updated on your progress.

8/12/10


I'm 22 and I have masturbated prone style since I was 12. I dont really have problems with erections, but I can't orgasm during intercourse. What can I do to cure this? How long will it take? I'm trying to stop masturbating prone, but it's addicting.

A: You don't seem to have read through the main page of this site or this page of comments very carefully. You can be cured within a few weeks of determining to quit masturbating prone.

8/22/10


After the week of abstaining from masturbating, when I try the conventional way, it doesn't work. After another week, it didn't work again. Should I keep on doing it every day or do it once every week? I didn't resort to masturbating prone again. (age 14)

A: The five days or seven days I talk about is only a guideline. Some males will need more time. If you can't masturbate to orgasm with your hand after seven days, try again in two more days. It's good you didn't go back to prone. You are strong! You will succeed!

8/23/10

Follow-up: THANK YOU SO MUCH. I HAVE TRIED THE CONVENTIONAL WAY AND IT HAS WORKED. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS SITE. I AM SO HAPPY.

9/7/10


I have been masturbating face down since I was 3 years old. I started by twisting up a sock, wedging it on the side of my penis, and thrusting into it. Around 12 years old I started to use a rolled up shirt. As the years went on, I would lose more and more feeling in my penis. When I was 19 years old, I started to have erection problems and most of the problems I have read on HealthyStrokes.com. I have stopped masturbating face down with a shirt for about a year now and learned to just use the bed. For the past week I have stopped masturbating altogether. I don't know what to do. I am beyond repair. (age 30)

A: You are not beyond repair. I was older than you when I was cured. Lots of men were. I would suggest joining the online support group for males who masturbate prone.

8/24/10


Let me first thank you endlessly for this priceless resource. I am a 28 year old virgin who had made tremendous strides in self-improvement in the last year in order to get a girl to go to bed with me, but I was unable to actually have intercourse. It was disheartening, to say the least. I thought it was perhaps psychological or that I had desensitized myself through excessive masturbation. Despite abstaining from porn/masturbation and massive and varied efforts on her part, I was still unable to produce an erection.

I am supposed to meet up with her in a week, and because of my 3 prior weeks of abstinence, I was able to masturbate the conventional way three times in the last two days. Is there any other way to expedite the process?

A: Congratulations on learning to masturbate conventionally. I advise against having intercourse so soon after switching, but if the chance comes along so rarely for you, then go for it. Try not to be nervous and do your best. If you still can't complete intercourse, then just enjoy whatever you can do together.

8/25/10

Follow-up: While I've been able to resensitive my penis through normal masturbation, I still due to masturbation to very specific fetish videos now am not turned on by the act of intercourse. Do you think not viewing those videos and watching only typical porn over a period of time would be the cure?

A: Congratulations on overcoming prone masturbation. I don't think the cure for a fetish is more porn, but that is really not my area of expertise. You might work at being turned on by your partner. You should want to have intercourse with her.

9/7/10


I'm a virgin and I masturbate prone, but I can also masturbate while lying face up. I plan on stopping prone, but what does it mean that I can do both? (age 16)

A: You won't have to go through the abstinence regimen that most males who masturbate prone have to do to learn to masturbate conventionally. All you have to do is give up masturbating prone.

8/28/10


I read your article a while back and I've been masturbating prone for as long as I can remember. I was 3 and did it in pre-school nap time. Since I read your article, I've stopped masturbating that way for three weeks, but I'm still unable to use my hand during masturbation, and at times I just really REALLY need to relieve myself, but nothing works. I can't do it in the shower with soap, lotion doesn't work, and neither do lubes. I honestly can't think of any way, and I need your help. My girlfriend and I are saving sex for marriage so I can't ask her for anything sexual and it's become bothersome because she too has noticed me becoming more easily aroused, and there's nothing I can do to "release the floodgates." (age 18)

A: I advise against trying to use lubes or soaps at the same you are learning to masturbate successfully in the supine position. After three weeks, you ought to be able to easily masturbate to orgasm by hand without lube. Just try to get over that hump and then work on introducing lube. It also would be a good idea to define some boundaries with your girlfriend. You might decide, for example, to save penetrative intercourse for marriage but agree to masturbate together or engage in manual intercourse. It is a tribute to your giving up prone masturbation that your girlfriend notices you being more easily aroused than before.

8/31/10


I have been masturbating the conventional way for a few weeks now and my erections are not 100% still. Will they ever return? (age 21)

A: Yes. Most guys notice a difference after a few months. Congratulations of giving up prone masturbation.

8/31/10


I've been doing prone masturbation for about 10 years. I was not aware that it is a problem until I found this site. I am worried that I may have damaged my penis nerves and tissue. If I have, how do I know, and more importantly, is there a cure? Sometimes I have engaged in very rigorous masturbation against my mattress, and after all these years I must have damaged some tissue and nerves. (age 28)

A: I doubt you damaged anything. Many males, including me, masturbated prone a lot longer than you. We get better erections and better duration during sex simply by giving up prone masturbation and learning to masturbate in the conventional manner. No surgery or pills are necessary. You can give up prone masturbation and become more sexually functional.

9/4/10


I have been masturbating prone for about 5 years. I have a girlfriend whom I live with. If I stopped masturbating altogether and had sex with her on a daily basis, would I be cured of masturbating prone? (age 24)

A: I advise against what you propose. The way to overcome prone masturbation is to learn the conventional method of masturbation. I've only heard of one case of someone who was able to successfully overcome prone masturbation by sexual intercourse. I've heard of a lot of others who tried and were still unable to reach orgasm in intercourse, and then they had to start over at overcoming prone. I would urge you to learn to be able to masturbate conventionally daily for a month before trying intercourse.

9/5/10


I masturbated for about ten years in the prone position with my right hand over my left, with a strong pressure on the penis. I had bad curvature to the left and had a Nesbit procedure. The glans of my penis now doesn't keep an erection. Could masturbation have damaged my penis and caused the curvature? (age 25)

A: I doubt it. Few penises are perfectly straight. Usually a Nesbit procedure is performed on men with Peyronie's disease. I hope you have given up prone masturbation. Everyone has recovered merely by quitting prone masturbation. Surgery is not necessary. This suggests that prone masturbation doesn't cause physical damage to the penis.

9/7/10


I stopped prone masturbation for 4 weeks now and I try to masturbate conventionally but I can't reach orgasm. What should I do? (age 22)

A: If you've really gone four weeks without an orgasm, you're stronger than me. I would advise stroking as hard and fast as you can until you have an orgasm. Once you have it figured out, then you can work on stroking more slowly and with less force. You have done the hardest part by giving up prone masturbation. Good for you.

9/11/10


I discovered masturbation with the hand technique while lying on my back. I use this a lot of the time and enjoy it very much but on the weekends I masturbate face down and on my knees with my penis in between 2 pillows, face down with my penis in between the couch cushions or sometimes I rest 2 pillows on top of a dresser and stand up while masturbating. I enjoy the techniques I use on weekends a lot. I also like masturbation with my hand. What if I'm face down but on my knees while masturbating? I'm a virgin. (age 16)

A: Those are all atypical forms of masturbation. The ones where you're on your stomach thrusting your penis into or against something are examples of prone masturbation. I would strongly urge you to give up your weekend variants and to only masturbate with your hand.

9/14/10


If I take an abstinence period of three weeks, will I succeed? I tried an abstinence period of a week but I didn't succeed. (age 22)

A: You only need to start over if you go back to masturbating prone. If you merely can't masturbate to orgasm by hand, just wait a day or two and try again. I doubt you'd need to wait three weeks.

9/16/10


I've been masturbating prone for about 20 years and have noticed a marked decline in my erections for the past several years. I luckily stumbled onto your site earlier this year and have been without prone for 6 months. Although I've noticed a slight improvement, including the return of occasional morning erections, I haven't returned to anything like a normal state, yet. I have been masturbating with a less-than-firm erection these last 6 months, and I haven't followed the exact regimen prescribed on the site. How long is the typical recovery period for someone who's masturbated prone for as long as I have? I'm starting to fear that I may have done some permanent physical damage. (age 33)

A: I was older than you and had masturbated prone longer when I was cured. You ought not fear having caused physical damage. Everyone has been cured merely by giving up prone masturbation and learning to masturbate conventionally. However, it is important to only masturbate when you have a sufficient erection.

9/16/10


I can't thank you enough for this article. I am 25 and have been masturbating prone for almost as long as the Internet is around, but have never read a single convincing article or theory to make me kick the habit. This is the first time that I have got all my questions answered in a single place, got credible reasons of the ill effects of prone masturbation, ways to reverse the habit and move over to conventional method.

Your research on this subject is extremely commendable, and there is no doubt why you have almost 8 and a half million visitors till today. The way you have presented your research, with statistical data, conclusions, reasoning is so nice to read and now I am going to dedicate myself to follow your steps to get rid of prone and get into the majority / conventional method followers.

I didn't even know prone masturbation was a problem until I read this article, and the reasons are not the introductory paragraph about prone, but your numerous statistics that have made me feel that this is exactly what I have! And I need to get rid of it. I do suffer from anorgasmia, dont enjoy intercourse as much as prone, can't do it anywhere but the mattress, lose erection soon during intercourse. Now I will change all that and become a normal guy again, before my beautiful (future) wife finds out!

9/21/10


Is it possible that prone masturbation can cause permanent nerve damage? (age 22)

A: I have never heard of that happening, but I can't say it's impossible.

9/30/10


How is it possible to masturbate using the hand when it causes blistering of the penis? Even when I use lubricant and gentle pressure, my penis feels very sore and starts to develop small blisters after only 10 minutes or so. This never happens when I masturbate face down, even if I masturbate for an hour. I am having no luck at all with supine masturbation and feel that I could practice for the rest of my life and still not do it. I have tried well over a hundred times and still have no orgasm or really not much pleasure at all with my hand. Should I give up and just resign to prone masturbation. (age 26)

A: I would advise putting up with the blisters until you learn to masturbate conventionally. You can put lotion or lube on them after you're finished if they bother you. It is difficult to learn to masturbate supine and learn to use lube at the same time. It's good if you can put up with some irritation of your penis while you're learning. In the alternative, you could wear a condom.

10/2/10


I have been masturbating prone for as long as I can remember. After abstaining for about 2 weeks, I managed to orgasm using my hand the conventional way, but when I ejaculate, it dribbles out. Is this normal? Will it ever shoot like it used to when I was masturbating prone? (age 24)

A: Yes, it is typical for your ejaculatory force to be less when you are learning a new way to ejaculate. Within a few months, you will have mastered ejaculating with the same kind of force you're used to.

10/10/10


When I first discovered HealthyStrokes.com, I was almost overwhelmed, because it was like looking in a mirror. So many of the problems discussed here applied to me. I had been masturbating prone for about 15 years and in that time I could probably count my number of satisfying sexual experiences on my fingers. A feeling of frustration and embarrassment was the norm.

After discovering this site, I immediately began your program to cure myself. I went a week without masturbating and then shortly after that I was able to ejaculate using the proper technique. I noticed improvements right away. I started getting real erections again, and I would wake up in the night or in the morning with a hard penis. This hadn't happened in years. Gradually, however, my erections began getting softer again. I can still ejaculate using the proper technique, but my penis is usually pretty soft when I do so. I also have to admit that in the month and a half that I have been masturbating supine I have cheated and gone back to prone masturbation 3 times. What should I do? (age 29)

A: It is important to keep from reverting to prone masturbation, especially when you're just overcoming prone for the first time. You've gotten your body used to sexual stimulation from the tremendous force of masturbating with your legs. The point of abstaining and learning to masturbate supine is to get your penis used to orgasming from gentle pressure. When you revert to prone masturbation, you're training your body not to respond to the gentle pressure of conventional masturbation or intercourse. After a month without masturbating prone, you ought to be able to masturbate daily by hand. If you engage in prone, it is a good idea to abstain from sexual stimulation for 3-4 days. Then when you masturbate again, your body will be more likely to respond to the touch of your hand. You already know how much better things can be when you put prone masturbation behind you, so you also know the pain that can be caused by cheating. Good luck.

10/14/10


Are pelvic thrusts during supine masturbation OK? I've given up prone now for the past 4 days and tried doing it supine and regular up and down motions in normal masturbation in supine position and then end it with thrusts at the end. My friend says he ends it in thrust motions while standing to masturbate. I was able to complete normally and it seems like a good way to do it now. Is this acceptable and not detrimental beacuse there's no pressure on the base and head of it? (age 22)

A: There is no problem with pelvic thrusting when masturbating supine. However, I would advise you not to do that at first, because you're trying to get away from the feeling of prone masturbation and enjoy all you can experience without doing pelvic thrusts.

10/15/10


I recently attempted to give up prone masturbation in favor of the conventional method; however, I ran into an issue not mentioned on your site. I more or less orgasmed (all the same feelings were there), but instead of semen, my emission was 100% urine. Is this something that I should be concerned about, or will it eventually work itself out? (age 20)

A: You can't urinate while having an orgasm. I think you did something wrong. I would advise you to keep trying to masturbate to orgasm conventionally, but urinate beforehand so you don't have to worry about it when you get your big break.

10/24/10


If you've masturbated prone for 9 years and never have done oral sex before, do you think orgasm from that is still possible? Does baby oil on the genitals work to help make it more sensitive for sexual activities? Is 30 days of supine masturbation before intercourse acceptable or can 30 times of supine be acceptable? You've helped so many people and it's much appreciated. (age 22)

A: You can have oral sex successfully after giving up prone masturbation. Many men have. Baby oil can enhance sensitivity, but a water-based lube would be better since baby oil cannot be used with condoms. I recommend being able to masturbate by hand to orgasm daily for a month before trying intercourse.

10/24/10


What is the success rate to cure yourself from prone masturbation? (age 22)

A: I've never heard of anyone who couldn't learn to masturbate conventionally. If you're asking how many cure themselves as opposed to getting professional help, I don't know, but I suspect less than 1 percent of males I've communicated with have gotten professional help.

10/25/10


I just wanted to thank you so much for your steps to cure my problems and stop masturbating in the prone position. I've been masturbating in the prone position for about 5 years, and I didn't think anything was wrong with it at first. However, it became almost impossible to masturbate conventionally and prone became the norm for me. I knew it was different but still I didn't think anything of it. However, once I became sexually active recently (I'm a late bloomer lol) I had trouble reaching orgasm. I've always known that men normally ejaculate early on their first time and that wasn't the case for me. In fact it was very much the opposite. This is when I started thinking my masturbation technique was wrong and I eventually stumbled on HealthyStrokes.com. I tried the "waiting a week then masturbating conventionally" method twice and failed. However, the third time was a charm, and I succeeded. I feel very good that I can masturbate healthily now like a normal guy. Thank you very much for making this web site! (age 22)

10/26/10


This site has been a life-saver! I wish to express my sincere thanks to the author.

I used to masturbate daily in the prone position for almost 12 years, and began to recognize it as a problem when I became sexually active. I tried quite hard to change my technique, but lacked the belief, will power and proper guidance - this site gave me all three. I successfully altered my technique in less than two weeks after reading the program suggested here. I am so relieved now! Once again, a big thank you!

To everyone of about my age practicing prone masturbation: It truly is possible to rid yourself of the problem - give the program an honest attempt!!

A: Or even if you're a different age! Please give it a try.

10/28/10


I have always masturbated prone. I began to wonder why all the guys in porn use their hand to masturbate. I have managed to masturbate with the hand, but it took 1-2 months before I could have an orgasm.

I find conventional masturbation much less satisfying. It doesn't feel the same. Will this ever change? How long should it take? I have tried sex a few times but have not really enjoyed it much. What should I do? (age 29)

A: Conventional masturbation can feel awkward for the first 2-3 weeks. You will get more used to it and it will feel a lot better. You will know when you've adjusted to conventional masturbation when you feel like you can do it anywhere. The first time you do it sitting (like at a computer), you will notice how much progress you have made. Don't give up and go back to prone. Give yourself a chance to discover the new feelings you're having.

11/2/10


Amazing. Just last night, nearly 15 years after my first bout of erectile dysfunction, I discovered that what I feared most was the cause of the ED. I masturbated prone (and I believe, compulsively) between the ages of 13 and 23 during which time I, like other adolescent makes, enjoyed frequent erections. This all stopped when I was 23, almost suddenly without warning. I saw a urologist who said that the problem was not venous leak (that was the suspicion) or anything he could put his finger on. I became even more depressed since the problem was still there albeit without a cause. Then I came across your web site. So it was my style of masturbation after all. I feel relieved that my search of the cause is over but am angry that it was so self inflicted, so avoidable. (age 38)

A: What should make you even more angry is that people are actively working to keep males in your shoes from finding out about the hazards of prone masturbation. Some people refuse to believe that any form of masturbation can be harmful, and they have, for example, purged Wikipedia of any mention of the dangers of prone masturbation.

11/5/10


Just last night, for the second time, I tried having sex with my girlfriend and for the second time, I could not get an erection right before the sex was supposed to happen. I have a decent erection when she is on top kissing me, but as our clothes come off, I can't seem to maintain it. This time she even tried stimulating my penis and it helped slightly, but not enough to have sex.

So this morning in desperation Google led me to the main page of HealthyStrokes.com, and as shocked as I was, I realized that my way of masturbation may be the cause. I had no idea that masturbating prone affected my sexual health, and if it hadn't been for HealthyStrokes.com, I probably would still be masturbating prone. I looked over the advice you gave about masturbating on your back in order to get rid of prone masturbation, and I had no problem masturbating to orgasm that way. I got a normal erection and my orgasm felt more real than it usually does.

How long will it take me to fix my problem? I can easily stop masturbating prone, but my real issue is getting an erection for sex. Is prone masturbation really a factor in me not getting an erection RIGHT before sex? How long will it be before I will be able to attempt sex successfully? And to treat this problem, will masturbating the conventional way in intervals of two days help? My problem is not only hurting my self-esteem, but I'm pretty sure it's hurting the self-esteem of my girlfriend as well. (age 17)

A: Your problem might not be completely attributable to prone masturbation. It might also be first-time jitters. I suspect it is a combination of the two. Since you were able to masturbate supine immediately, as opposed to needing to abstain from orgasm for close to a week, as most males do, I don't think it is necessary for you to wait an entire month before attempting intercourse, which is what I usually recommend. I also don't think you have to wait two days between masturbation sessions. I think you can do it daily. I would advise no sex for at least a week. When you next attempt intercourse, just be relaxed and don't worry about whether you will be able to erect or not. Just enjoy what you can do with or without an erection. You might tell your girlfriend you figured out what the problem is and are fixing it. If she asks more, I suggest telling her about prone masturbation and its problems.

Follow-up: I was completely relaxed. I really like her, but I've never been in a relationship. I should have been nervous, and yet I was completely at ease. I don't understand what was going on.

A: You are new to sex. There were probably things going on in your mind and body that you weren't aware of. Like I said, be definite about giving up prone masturbation forever, and work at enjoying sex with your new partner.

11/7/10


What if you don't have the erectile or arousal problems associated with prone masturbation, but you notice your aroused penis can't stand up straight and always falls back down to rest against your body, rather like a very stiff tree falls down to the ground? My penis becomes erect and gets a lot of sensation, but when I lie upward it can't stand upright but remains stiff and erect against my body. Is this normal all along or is this a consequence of prone masturbation? If so, is there a way to reverse that problem? I've been masturbating prone for about 14 years now and am a virgin, but I'm worried that when I do have actual intercourse that my penis won't be able to get into the right position for sex. Is that something to worry about or see a need to correct? (age 24)

A: When you have sex, your penis will be in the right position. All it needs is a nice erection. You can't know that you don't have orgasmic difficulties in intercourse, because you've never had intercourse. You also don't know that you won't have erectile difficulties. I would recommend giving up prone masturbation now so that you improve your chances of NOT having to deal with these issues when you have a partner. I would also work on finding a partner sooner rather than later.

11/8/10


I am currently working hard to correct my masturbation routine but it is difficult because it is hard to consistently maintain the discipline to abstain from masturbation for extended periods of time. Why, after all the pain prone masturbation has caused people and the amounts of testimony supporting the idea that prone masturbation is dangerous, is this idae completely absent from Wikipedia and other sites? What can we do to make the perils of prone seen on Wikipedia, because I would have become aware of the problem much earlier if it had been there. (age 22)

A: You only need to go through the abstinence periods for a week or two to learn to masturbate conventionally. You can do it. There was once an article about the hazards of prone masturbation on Wikipedia, but opponents of the idea that masturbating a particular way can be harmful deleted the article and replaced it with a paragraph in the main masturbation article. Eventually that was deleted too. Trying to keep content on Wikipedia requires a lot of time be spent on it and for one to have allies who are respected Wikipedia editors. I had neither. Anyway, it helps HealthyStrokes.com that there is no Wikipedia article, because anyone searching for information about prone masturbation will inevitably find HealthyStrokes.com, whereas when there was a Wikipedia article, a lot of people's searches led them there where they found the concept of prone masturbation being dysfunctyional minimized by editors (one in particular) who were critical of the idea.

11/9/10


I masturbated in the prone position when I was a little kid, but I haven't done that for about 13 years. I now masturbate in the usual position, but I MUST have my legs stretched out if I want an orgasm. I've tried having one while having legs bent during sexual intercourse and it worked, but only once, and I really had to pressure myself. The girl on top position seems to work best. Is this a defect since childhood from masturbating prone? (age 20)

A: I find it hard to believe you're having aftereffects from masturbating prone until you were 7. Lots of males hold their legs tense while masturbating, and more than a few do so during sex too. I would suggest working on having orgasms without your legs stretched. Try it sitting in a chair, on the couch, etc. As you get more accustomed to masturbating without your legs tense, I think you will have an easier time of it in intercourse.

11/12/10


I'd like to thank you on the site and your valuable info that prone masturbation is bad. I started at around 12-13, and I knew it was different but I didn't know of the side effects. I started to use my hand when I was 15, but it has been a slow process. I am now 16, and I use my hand more often. Most of the time I lube up and use my hand to thrust into. I also masturbate by using my boxers and wrap it around but still use my hand. I would like to know if either of my methods are safe. Thanks for this great site. It has helped me and many others.

A: Both of your methods are atypical. Thrusting into your hand is still prone masturbation. It is not much of an improvement over thrusting into or against something else. The second method is also unconventional. I recommend giving them both up and learning to masturbate -- every time -- using only your hand.

11/18/10


I have successfully given up prone masturbation for good!!!! I usually have to urinate after I masturbate conventionally now and it feels so good. Is that normal? I masturbated on my stomach for about 8 years. Have I suffered any long term health damage or will this impact my ability to have sex? (age 21)

A: It is very normal to need to urinate after ejaculating. That is a good sign. You ought to suffer no long-term effects from 8 years of masturbating prone. Many men have fully recovered after a lot more years than that.

11/20/10


I have abstained from prone masturbation for 3 months now, but I am still unable to masturbate using my hand. I always get a lot of sores on my penis every time I try using my hand, and they take a long time to heal. Using lube does not help. Even more concerning is that I don't find the feeling of back and forth rubbing enjoyable at all. At this stage it seems I will not be able to convert to using my hand. I just don't like the feeling at all. I find prone mastubation much more enjoyable. I think converting to the hand is a waste of time for me. (age 26)

A: You are getting sore because you're using too much pressure. The point of switching to your hand is that you provide less pressure that way. If you're trying to replicate the overwhelming pressure of prone masturbation, it won't work. The point of abstaining from masturbation while trying to learn conventional masturbation is that your penis is more sensitive after an extended time without orgasm. I don't think you should give up. Most males who masturbate prone find that conventional masturbation is not initially as exciting as prone, but after a few weeks of being able to orgasm the way most males do, the body learns that conventional masturbation is equally exciting. Keep at it and work at not making your penis hurt. It will do just fine with only a small amount of friction.

11/30/10


I read your article approximately one week ago and tried to abstain from masturbation altogether. I went for three days without masturbating at all, and then tried using my hand, but to no avail. Since then I've tried once or twice a day to reach an orgasm using my hand, but I have not been able to. Today I masturbated prone again, just out of pure sexual frustration. I really want to commit to banishing prone masturbation, but it seems like hand masturbation is not working. (age 17)

A: Be patient. You gave up too easily after less than a week of abstaining. Try again, and this time don't masturbate until the week is up. You should have a much easier time of it then. Three days is not long enough for most males.

12/6/10


I've given up prone masturbation after doing it for 9 years but have replaced it with masturbation with friction with my boxers. That works out really well, but you say it's not good. Is it as bad as masturbating prone? Also, I've tried using my hand and only a small trickle comes out instead of the usual shoot of ejaculate. Should I keep trying my hand or should I keep using my boxers as friction (wrapping it around and using my hands). I'm really concerned because I thought I had left prone behind.

A: I advise against masturbating with your underwear. It is normal for ejaculate volume to be less when you first switch to conventional masturbation after years of masturbating prone. You will learn how to ejaculate more soon. Just keep it up and it will feel better before too long.

12/7/10


I am a 26 year old male. I've just read your notes on prone masturbation. I wasn't aware that masturbating in this position caused the problems described. For a few years now, I've had problems ejaculating and I can now see it was down to the way I'd been masturbating. I had used my hand in the past in the conventional position, but I preferred it prone. Is lying on your side as bad as being prone? Your web site is fantastic - keep it going!

A: There is nothing dysfunctional about lying on your side. Good luck at giving up prone masturbation.

12/9/10


I've masturbated prone since I was about 13. I had no idea it was a problem until, I found out about it on 4chan. I can reach orgasm using more conventional methods already. Is the abstinence period necessary in light of this? (age 22)

A: No. If you can already masturbate conventionally, then all you should do is give up prone masturbation. Good luck!

12/10/10


I am a 26 year old male and I am having problems as a result of prone masturbation. I have been masturbating in the prone position since puberty and thought nothing of it. Recently I got engaged and have been having sex with my fiancee, but she expects me to reach orgasm in 5-15 minutes. I get an erection with no problem and can last 30 minutes to an hour, but she can't stay wet long enough to let me ejaculate in her. We want to have a baby. I don't feel an urge to ejaculate even after 30 minutes. I have decided to give up prone masturbation. Should I see a urologist? I can ejaculate while masturbating in the prone position within 5-10 minutes easily.

A: Your anorgasmia is definitely caused by masturbating prone. I know it will be tough, but I urge you to give up all sexual contact with your fiancee for a few weeks. After abstaining from masturbation for 5-7 days, you should be able to masturbate by hand. Then try again after 2-3 days and keep it up until you are able to masturbate to orgasm daily by hand. I usually advise males to be able to masturbate to orgasm daily by hand for a month before doing anything sexual with a partner. I don't think you will need a urologist. Give my plan a try and see how well it works.

12/12/10


I stopped masturbating prone 4 months ago. I tried the conventional way several times but to no avail. It seems like the longer I abstain, the lower my libido becomes. Am I beyond repair? (age 23)

A: Are you saying you haven't had an orgasm in four months? If so, then that makes your story a suspicious one. I would urge you to be determined to make yourself orgasm through conventional masturbation. Don't take no for an answer.

12/13/10


I've given up prone masturbation after a long time, then I did friction with my boxers for two months and thought I was resigned to that and couldn't masturbate the conventional way, but the other day, I got it right. I was shocked. I tried it again the next day and it worked and the next and the next. It's worked every time. I got it right. It takes a little longer, but day by day it gets easier. It is possible, and it feels at least as good and I dare say even better, and it's the way it should be. It can happen for you even when you've given up. Thank you for illuminating this problem and helping out so many total strangers. (age 17)

12/14/10


I've given up prone masturbation for good for the manual method but I it takes about 30 minutes sometimes to finish. Is this normal? Will it return to a regular length of time? When I really focus, it only takes about 5 minutes. (age 20)

A: Usually when males switch from prone to manual, it takes them less time than it used to. Either way, I suspect you will be back to your old time within a few months. You seem to know it's good to focus.

12/22/10


Thank you for putting up HealthyStrokes.com, your research and your work for the general population.

I am 37 years old. I've been masturbating prone my entire life. I cannot have an orgasm in any other way. I don't use the mattress or a pillow. I apply pressure on my foreskin, using two or three fingers in a piercing motion while rubbing (hard). Most of the time, I can do this to orgasm without even being erect. I usually do this a couple of times a day (sometimes more). There's no apparent damage to my penis (at least not to me).

After reading your research, I believe that this practice has desensitized me to both an orgasm and an ejaculation achieved in any other method. Today it has been one week since I stopped masturbating prone. It has been very difficult (I actually failed the first time I tried to abstain and had to start over again) and I have tried to masturbate in the conventional way a few times but I can't seem to be able to do it. I notice that achieving an erection is easier now than when I used to masturbate prone. However, I lose it after about 10-15 minutes and that's not enough time for me to ejaculate. Is there something I can do ?

It would be beneficial to add some kind of guide to how, exactly, I should be masturbating. As I am 37, how long should it take me to regain sensitivity? Will I be able to get it back at all? Will toys help? Merry Christmas.

A: Aside from the issues you have with prone masturbation, it is very bad for your body for you to masturbate without an erection. You want to train your body to respond to sexual arousal. Any kind of sexual activity without an erection teaches your body it doesn't have to be aroused. You also ought to be able to masturbate to orgasm within 15 minutes. I would advise using visual stimulation and stroking as hard and fast as you can until you have an orgasm. Once you've learned to masturbate conventionally (for over a week), then you can work at slowing down and using less force. Most males notice a difference in sensitivity within 3-4 months of giving up prone masturbate. I advise against toys at this point. Merry Christmas to you too!

12/24/10


I used to masturbate prone but I have switched to the conventional method. I cannot achieve a full, rock-hard erection. Can I fix this? (age 16)

A: You don't say how long ago you switched. It is apt to take 3-4 months of giving up prone and masturbating conventionally exclusively before you would notice a difference.

1/2/11


I've started masturbating conventionally but I can't ejaculate nearly as much. It barely comes out. How can I ejaculate like when I used to do it prone? (age 18)

A: It's normal to notice less semen when you first switch. Don't let it bother you. As you get more habituated to conventional masturbation, you will learn to produce more semen. It is often a matter of not paying such close attention to it. One day you will notice you're ejaculating more than you are right now. This is very normal.

1/14/11


I've been masturbating prone for 6-7 years now, and I always knew there was something unusual about it, but never gave it much thought. Then I came across this site and read about the problems of prone masturbation and it scared the hell outta me. Anyway, from the day I've read this site till now, I haven't mastubated prone. I've tried to masturbate conventionally but it's been difficult. I can't ejaculate as much as I used to and it takes me much longer to do it. How long till I can fully masturbate conventionally? How can I recreate the feeling of having an orgasm through prone masturbating to conventional masturbating? I want to have kids. (age 18)

A: Don't think about it being difficult. Just enjoy it and work at being relaxed. You will get better at it within a few weeks. Within a few months, you will notice that your orgasms are more like they were like being prone. And you will be able to do it anyplace you want and with less force. Your ability to have kids has not been compromised.

1/14/11


I masturbate with both prone and the regular way and am stopping prone. I experience the frustrations of staying erect during oral sex or even for a long period of time when with my girlfriend. Will this go away now that I am stopping prone masturbation and will I have normal erections? (age 18)

A: You are lucky that you already know how to masturbate conventionally. You don't have to go through the abstinence regimen that most readers of this page do. After giving up prone masturbation, you should notice a difference in your erections within 3-4 months.

1/16/11


I used to masturbate the bad way were I would hump my bed. After visiting your site I tried masturbating the traditional way. I'm just not comfortable with it and it doesn't give me the intense orgasm I got from humping my bed. Will it cause problems if I stand up and hump a pillow or if I hump the side of a door? (age 14)

A: Both of those are atypical ways of masturbating that are just as likely to cause you problems later as humping the bed. Give traditional masturbation more of a chance. You will like the orgasms a lot better when you are more accustomed to them. After a couple of weeks you'll be able to masturbate sitting up, at your computer desk, in the shower, while watching movies. This will give you a lot more variety than you have lying face down on your bed.

1/17/11


I've been done with masturbating prone for about a week now. Is the sensitivity in the head of my penis going to become greater? (age 18)

A: I expect that you will notice a difference after 3-4 months. You obviously have to give yourself longer than a week to get used to conventional masturbation.

1/19/11


My husband (38 years old) and I have been married for 13 years and have a very active and satisfactory sexual relationship. However, he experiences ED and delayed orgasm. He masturbated prone as his only form of masturbation in into adulthood and masturbated very frequently (2-3 times per day). As a young adult, he could not stay hard enough for intercourse. This was very traumatic for him.

He remembers a specific time when he seemed to injure his penis or testicles during prone masturbation and, we have both wondered if his past practice of masturbating prone and possible injury could still be affecting his sexual function now. He does not masturbate prone anymore and can successfully masturbate in other positions. We have frequent, satisfying sex, but sometimes it goes longer than I'd prefer and I wish he were able to maintain hard erections during vaginal intercourse with more regularity. If my husband has remaining damage from former prone practice, is there anything that can be done to help him?

A: Prone masturbation is a frequent cause of the sexual dysfunctions you describe but it is not the only cause. Consultation with a doctor and/or sex therapist can be useful to rule out other causes and to find ways of mitigating the sexual dysfunction he's experiencing. I am inclined to ask how he overcame prone masturbation. Knowing how he got from prone to where he is today would be helpful. Are you certain he's given up prone completely? Whomever you consult, you might print out the main page of HealthyStrokes.com and possibly the articles page to make sure that they understand prone masturbation as a cause of sexual dysfunction. You might experiment with abstention periods to see if sex is quicker and more fulfilling after a certain number of days without him orgasming.

1/20/11


Do I have to go through the process of stopping masturbation completely to switch from prone to regular masturbation? Or can I just start masturbating with my hands?

A: The vast majority of males who masturbate prone are unable to go from years of masturbating prone to masturbating manually without a break. The abstention period makes the penis more sensitive. It is easier to reach orgasm a new way after a week than after only a day. A few males are able to switch instantly, but for the most part, you'll be able to masturbate by hand the first time with greater ease if you wait five days to a week before trying.

1/21/11


I used to masturbate face down, but since I read your article, I've tried to do it the traditional way. But after a week of abstaining, I tried the conventional way but couldn't achieve orgasm. Only a little bit of fluid came out. Is it normal for males who masturbate prone to experience my problem? Should I repeat a week without sexual activity and try again? (age 16)

A: If you masturbated prone after your disappointing experience, then you need to start the week abstaining over again. But if you didn't, then you can try again right away. I suspect the fluid that came out was pre-cum. If you keep going at the point where pre-cum appears, you will probably reach orgasm within a minute or two. Just stroke as hard and fast as you can until you ejaculate. Once you've learned how, you can work at using less force and speed.

2/9/11


I have been masturbating in the prone position for the past 12 years. For the past 4 months I can feel that my erection is not happening as it was before. The strength of the penis during erection is very poor. I recently had sex and for the first time of intercourse the penis stood up but I could not achieve erection a second time. Could anyone help me to get out of this? (age 29)

A: I suggest giving up prone masturbation and learning to masturbate conventionally. You will notice a difference in your erections in 3-4 months. Congratulations on being able to complete intercourse once.

2/9/11


I've been practicing prone masturbation for about 10 years, and I always do it when my penis is flaccid. When I try to masturbate conventionally, my penis suddenly loses its erection in the middle of the process. Also, I can't feel anything. Is it because of my masturbation habit? (age 18)

A: I have no doubt that it is. Masturbating prone is bad, and masturbating without an erection is also bad. I suggest following the cure regimen on HealthyStrokes.com to overcome both of those at the same time. You can do it. You will like it a lot better when you are masturbating conventionally.

2/9/11


I am in day 4 of the 7 day thing to quit masturbating prone but if I tried to see if it has worked yet, and it doesn't, would I have to start again? (age 13)

A: Yes. That's why you want to wait 7 days. Better to waste 3 days than to waste the 4 you've already abstained. You don't want to pull the pin on that grenade until you're ready to run.

2/10/11


A few nights ago, I was about to have sex for the first time when I discovered I couldn't keep it up. The moment stimulation stopped for me to go get the condom, it just went down. And it wasn't at that full hard-on stage anyway. I rarely get it to that point. After my girlfriend left the next day, I masturbated to see if I could pick up on anything weird. I realized that once or twice doing so, I would use my hand to push/press against my penis as opposed to the conventional method. I do this semi-regularly. I decided to google it, and I came across your site and discovered my problem.

When I first learned to masturbate, it was through the "pressing against stuff" method described. But I quickly learned to do it conventionally, and I do; except for the semi-regular pressing motion. Thanks to your site, I know I need to stop that. But I wanted to make sure I understood the abstinence period. It's not just to relearn how to masturbate but it's also to kind of reset the sensitivity, correct? Like, going a week or two without sexual release will make it more sensitive and easier to get off. Now, I understand I should refrain from sex, masturbation, and anything really involving pleasure to the penis for a few weeks.

Should I try to avoid getting excited at all? I usually get excited performing oral sex on my girlfriend, should I not do that for her to prevent getting an erection? (age 26)

A: It is better if you don't perform oral sex on your girlfriend while you are abstaining. It is OK to have erections, but the temptation will be high to do sexual things while having oral sex. You want to have maximum sensitivity the next time you try to have an orgasm while making a sexual change.

2/20/11


I just wanted to say thank you. I am 37 years old and had switched between prone and the regular method until my early 30s. After that point I could only masturbate prone and started having anorgasmia. I did not put all the pieces together until recently. I was trying to figure out what was wrong with me and found HealthyStrokes.com. I am on the mend now, three days into once per day for a month. This is very important information and I appreciate your taking the time to provide it.

2/23/11


I am a man who masturbates prone, and I never heard about it until today. The reason I searched it was because I suddenly was unable to have an orgasm, not when I masturbate, and even not when doing it the conventional way, nor while sex. I am shocked to read all this, and I am going trough a hard time. It has been a few days since I had an orgasm, and I've tried multiple times. I get an erection, and I can go up to the part that I almost have an orgasm, the very edge, but I can't go further. Please tell me how to cure this. (age 18)

A: You might have a problem other than prone masturbation. Obviously, I encourage you to give up prone masturbation and only masturbate in the conventional way, but you should not be completely unable to have an orgasm from doing prone. Have you started any new prescriptions lately? Some of them cause anorgasmia.


I want to thank you for getting me out of my frequent prone habit! I was into prone for as long as 20 years. I started masturbating in the prone position style when I was as young as 5 years old, then at 17 or 18, I realized using my hand would also help. I have been masturbating with my hand for 10 years now. But I still masturbate prone while I'm sleeping. I suddenly wake up for 2 or 3 seconds when I ejaculate during prone masturbation. I have followed the advice on your site and not masturbated prone for three months. Last night I masturbated with my hand before sleep. Then I masturbated prone in my sleep. How can I fix this?

A: It's a good thing that you only masturbate by hand when you're awake. To prevent sleep masturbation, it is a good idea to wear more clothes to bed. Sleep masturbation tends to happen when males are sleeping nude or in very little bedwear.

3/4/11


When I try to masturbate the conventional way, and when I'm near climax, my hand becomes tired and I'm becoming frustrated because I can't finish masturbating because of this problem. Got any tips except to switch hands? (age 18)

A: You can also use your other hand to move your regular hand. Just keep the hand you masturbate with on your penis and use your other hand to move it.

3/5/11


I just changed my masturbation style after seeing HealthyStrokes.com. When I abstained for the first time and achieved ejaculation, my semen shot out, but when I tried it again the next day it didn't. Is it because I just masturbated the day before? Also, when I masturbate I only last for about 3 minutes. I always do it fast because when I do it slowly I don't reach orgasm. Is this normal for a male who masturbates prone? (age 20)

A: That all sounds fine. Congratulations on switching. You should expect more force after a period of abstaining than after only a day. As you get used to conventional masturbation, you will find it easier to control all the aspects of the experience. You will like it a lot better.

3/15/11


I have been permanently damaged by prone as I have given it up for almost a year now to absolutely no improvement. Am I permanently impotent because I began masturbating prone before I hit puberty, thereby damaging myself before a critical developmental phase? (age 22)

A: I have never heard of anyone being permanently damaged by prone masturbation nor anyone sustaining physical damage as a result. I really hope you're not the first. I suggest you start by seeing your regular doctor and getting a referral to a urologist who can do some tests on your penis. If they can rule out a physical problem, then you'll know it's in your head.

4/8/11


Man, you're an angel to me. I never thought I could ever reach this state of normalcy without any medical expert help till one lucky day I saw your article and did it made a difference!

I've been masturbating in prone fashion since I was about 15-16, and I only came to know what the danger of prone masturbation is and why it is bad when I saw your article 3 months back. Now I can relate to all the problems I've faced in past due to prone masturbation. And since the day I've read the article, I've not even once done it the prone way, and the reason of me writing this today is for the first time in my life, I am able to masturbate the usual way and also about 3 days back, was the third time that I was successful to ejaculate inside a woman. Do you think we should try for a child right away?

I can't thank you enough really.

A: What a nice story! Thanks for sharing it. I usually advise males to be able to masturbate to orgasm by hand for a month before attempting sexual intercourse, but with your experience, I think it would be worth trying for that baby. You can decide to put that off if your intercourse is not satisfactory, in which case go back to masturbating daily for a month.

4/22/11


When I started masturbating at 12, I used to do it face down where I would press my penis either against the floor or against the bed. I would do it with pants on. It wasn't until I was maybe 14 or 15 that I discovered how normal guys masturbate. However, the majority of my masturbation was still face down using the bed. I would only masturbate the usual way occasionally. At some point (I don't remember exactly when) I started using a new way of masturbation where when I got really erect (usually watching pornography). I would lightly squeeze and twist my penis from outside of my pants using my hand. I would reach orgasm this way. At some point during the past year, this became a really common method. However, I've noticed that over the past few months, I have not been masturbating as much as I used to. In the past, I would typically masturbate every night or every other night, either using the bed or the new method. Now it has become pretty common for me to go days without masturbating. However, when I do masturbate, I have been masturbating the conventional way a lot more.

I've never had vaginal intercourse but from the times I've gotten oral sex and when I masturbate, I notice that I don't last long at all. I hear guys talking about how they can go for 10 minutes and stuff like that, but I find that I typically feel like I'm ready to orgasm after a minute or two of stroking/fellatio. And it seems to be quicker when I haven't ejaculated in a long time or have been holding it in. I think I've always been like this. Is this normal? If not, what is causing this?

A: You seem to be cured of prone masturbation at least as far as you can masturbate conventionally. Congratulations. The second step which you don't seem to have done is to give up prone masturbation forever. I also advise against your new method. Masturbating is supposed to be done with the genitals exposed, not through pants. That you are able to reach orgasm relatively quickly through manual or oral intercourse is fairly typical for males new to sex and suggests that perhaps you will not experience delayed orgasm (a common outcome for males who masturbate prone) when you have vaginal intercourse. For now, don't worry about your time and just work at giving up prone masturbation.

4/24/11


I stumbled across your site a couple of weeks ago and learned that masturbating in the prone position causes erectile dysfunction. I'm a virgin but have been masturbating this way since I was very young. I tried to abstain from masturbation like your site said for a week but no results. I still couldn't orgasm through conventional masturbation. I then waited another week for a second attempt but still no dice. Any advice you can give me? I'm going to college next year and I don't want to not have sex my entire life from fear of erectile dysfunction.

A: Don't give up hope. Since you are a virgin, you will never have to have sex while being habituated to prone masturbation. I suggest joining the online support group and letting them help you with your progress. Most males are able to masturbate conventionally fairly quickly, but some need to spend a few weeks working at it. I am confident you will be masturbating conventionally in time for college.

4/28/11


After using prone masturbation for as long as I can remember, I didn't think it would be so simple to cure myself of my habit. Nor did I think I would find all of the information I needed on one page! Thank you so much for your article. It's life changing to say the least.

5/4/11


I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for describing prone masturbation and the problems it causes in such a beautiful manner. It gave me more than sufficient info and I am really grateful for your effort.

I have been masturbating prone style since I was 13. The frequency was very high during my teenage years and gradually I reduced it, but I still masturbate at least once a day in the prone position. The first time I had oral sex, I really didn't feel much sensation and I could not reach orgasm, but gradually I have started picking up the conventional way.

I am a virgin and am eager to start sex. Will I be able to perform normally in bed and are these defects permanent? (age 24)

A: The first thing is to give up prone masturbation forever. Then I recommend masturbating daily by hand for a month before trying anything sexual with a partner. Your erections will improve 3-4 months after you quit masturbating prone. You will be able to have sex normally.

5/6/11


Thank you for your effort and for this fantastic site. I'm a virgin. I masturbated prone, most of the time with a flaccid or semi-erect penis. After I discovered this site, and after 3 days of abstinence, I succeeded in masturbating conventionally (3 times in a row, in the same day!), so this is a first, great success. But I tried to have sex with my girlfriend without success, and my erections are too weak and too short; when I was in the prone habit, I masturbated 2-3 times a day, and now I think my penis cannot mantain an erection because it is not accustomed to it. What do you think about my case? (age 23)

A: You are breaking a lot of my guidelines. I advise taking a rest between masturbation sessions when you are first learning conventional masturbation. I also advise being able to masturbate by hand daily for a month before trying sex with a partner. It takes time for your erections to improve after years of masturbating prone.

5/7/11


I have been masturbating in the prone position since I was little. I never knew that I had any problem until I found this site. I only can ejaculate in the prone position. I have made your abstention program for more than 2 weeks, but I still have the same problem although my penis is more sensitive, and I finally ended masturbating in prone position and ejaculating in less than 15 seconds. I am very concerned about that. What can I do now? (age 17)

A: The 5-7 days on the web site is only a guideline; some males will be able to masturbate conventionally after less time, and some till take more. Unfortunately, you seem to need more time. Keep in mind that whenever you masturbate prone, you throw away whatever benefit you have gained by abstaining that length of time. The only you thing you can do is start over, and this time exercise greater will power to keep from going back to prone masturbation.

5/10/11


Thank you for creating this page. It literally has been a life changer/saver. From quite a young age until last year, I could never masturbate conventionally but have now succeeded, thanks to your fantastic advice. However, my prone habit was twofold, namely one type when I was watching porn (rubbing my penis against my leg which I've now stopped) and another rubbing my (only semi erect) penis against my leg before going to sleep, which has become something of a ritual that I often need to do to get to sleep. Since last year, I still haven't been able to reach orgasm during sex and I tend to avoid sexual situations in case I can't climax or worse still, get an erection. The occasions I do end up in such situations I'm always drunk or have taken drugs, two things which only make matters a lot worse. Do you think my current practice of masturbating prone is affecting my anorgasmia and erection problems? Is it ever possible to have a completely normal sex life after a history of masturbating prone? Thank you for any response. Having a normal healthy relationship with normal healthy sex would mean the absolute world to me. Thanks for any advice possible, you're a saint.

A: You can have a normal sex life -- many males have after quitting masturbating prone -- but you absolutely have to quit masturbating prone. Please review the cure regimen on HealthyStrokes.com and follow it closely. I also suggest joining the online support group for males who masturbate prone. I also suggest avoiding drugs and alcohol, especially when trying to change your sexual habits.

5/13/11


I am having trouble learning to masturbate by hand. If I stop masturbating face down and can't learn with my hand, what should I do? I am living in a hostel now and I can't masturbate there. (age 27)

A: A hostel is definitely a difficult place to learn to masturbate. I haven't stayed in one since I quit masturbating prone, but I remember well what a challenge it was to find privacy for a few minutes of face-down pleasure. I don't think anyone would blame you if you put off quitting until you were living someplace with more privacy. If you are really determined to learn conventional masturbation now, then I suggest finding out a time of day when you can be alone in your bunk room. It might be early in the morning is the time with the most privacy after all your fellow hostelers have left for the day.

5/19/11


After finding your site at the end of last year, I have stopped masturbating face down, and I have learned to do it with my hand. A lot of the time the head of my penis starts hurting during sex and while masturbating. I hardly ever achieve orgasm. I've been to the doctors multiple times, and I have been cleared of any STDs. Physically my penis looks fine, so they all seem to think it's a mental problem. I'm deeply in love with my partner, and we want to raise kids someday. It's just too painful to have sex sometimes, and when we do, I never ejaculate. However unlikely that it is, I'm worried that I have suffered permanent damage. What should I do now? (age 21)

A: It's extremely unlikely you have permanent nerve damage. If you did, it would probably cause desensitization rather than pain. I recommend against seeing a urologist for this, but if you must, then have them check you for penile plaque and get a Rigiscan exam. I think you might be better off experimenting with brands of condoms that let you have intercourse without the burning feeling.

5/31/11


I have always masturbated prone and enjoyed it very much. I have tried supine masturbation over the past 7 months. Although I have learned to have an orgasm this way, it is still more difficult than prone. My biggest issue is that I get pimplelike sores on my penis every single time I use my hand to masturbate, even if using the most gentle technique possible. The sores can take up to 3 weeks to heal, limiting my supine masturbation to once every two weeks on average. I see no real way to overcome the damage that supine masturbation causes to the skin on my penis. (age 32)

A: Masturbating by hand should not cause sores to your penis. Every day, at least a billion males masturbate by hand. You don't seem to be trying very hard. I would recommend you learn to use lube. It might be you'll have to go through the abstinence routine again in order to be sensitized enough to use lube. A little bit of water-based lube will prevent you from doing any damage to your penile skin.

6/1/11


I've been masturbating in the prone position since I was 6 and now I'm 16. My girlfriend and I do sexual things and I haven't been able to reach orgasm with her at all. I also can't masturbate on my back. It's embarrassing. How long this problem will continue? I'm going to take your advice and hopefully it will be fixed soon.

A: Most males are able to masturbate on their backs after a week of abstaining. Most males are better able to do sexual things a month after they quit prone masturbation and notice a difference in their erections after 3-4 months. You are young and have an advantage. Go for it!

6/13/11


You mention that even a veteran practitioner of prone masturbation can have an orgasm the conventional way after a week of abstaining. I have gone for 10 days on a number of occasions without any masturbation, but I still cannot have an orgasm. I also notice that you list a case study of a man who has been employing your advice for two years without being able to overcome prone masturbation. You should make visitors aware that some people will not be able to overcome prone masturbation, rather than give them unrealistic advice. (age 32)

A: The seven days is only a guideline. Some males will take longer, some less. From my experience, more males will take five days than will need a full seven. If you can't masturbate to orgasm after 10 days, then try 11. Then 12. Then 13. You can do it. I don't believe there is anyone who will not be able to give up prone masturbation and learn to masturbate conventionally. You admit that you have repeatedly given up after only 10 days. By definition, people who give up will not succeed.

6/21/11


I have been masturbating prone against my bed for almost 10 years now and visited your site a week ago. I am unable to masturbate with my hand and am also finding it very hard to abstain for 7 days. I got as far as 3 days but was not able to pull it off.

Do you think I can train myself to masturbate conventionally if I simply begin my masturbating by humping the bed, allowing me to get close to orgasm, and then use my hand? I would try to use my hand more and bed less every time. (age 20)

A: No, I think that's a bad idea. You're just replacing prone masturbation with a different variation. You haven't even tried the abstinence regimen yet. You're not even trying if you only go three days. Most men go three days without ejaculating without even thinking about it. If you really can't go seven days, then at least go five. Please will yourself to avoid prone masturbation forever.

7/2/11


This site is a life saver. I used to masturbate unconventionally for a very long time and I wondered whether prone masturbation is the right way to do it. So I googled a search engine about masturbation lying on stomach and what I got is this site healthystrokes.com. I was shocked and distressed but this site gave me a way to start masturbating conventionally. I practiced what is stated and I masturbate conventionally now. I want to thank the author of the site for saving my life. I owe it to you.

7/6/11


I never heard of prone masturbation being a problem until I saw this web site. I've been doing it that way for years but didn't know it could lead to problems. I don't have any problems doing it the usual way either though. Sex with my girlfriend seems normal and is satisfying for both and I have no problems getting an erection with her. Could years of masturbating prone cause permanent problems if I stop masturbating prone now? By the way, I'm never doing that again! (age 25)

A: I can't say for certain, but there is no point in worrying about it when you're not experiencing problems now and are already able to masturbate conventionally. I congratulate you on resolving to stop masturbating prone and wish you the best in and out of bed.

7/9/11


I genuinely want to thank you for breaking my bad habit. Today after a month of trials I have just succeed masturbating supine! I know this only means I have just begun to get used to masturbating supine; however, for almost 17 years, I have never done conventional masturbation and now I have.

Prone masturbation has been one of my flaws for many years. I get 95 overall average at school, particate in every sports team and speak several languages but I always was ashamed of this habit and I could not laugh at jokes about masturbation. I really appereciate all the information you have on this web site and I really want you to refute those people who think prone masturbation is a mere harmless variation on masturbation; for I know how it feels having sexual troubles from masturbating prone. Please wish me good luck! (age 17)

A: You have my best wishes! I wish you wouldn't think of prone masturbation as a flaw but as simply an improper way of doing something.

7/14/11


I thank you for all of the help provided in your web site and I wish that the problems and dangers that arise from prone masturbation would me more recognized and known. I masturbated prone from a young age to my late 20s. Upon coming across this site, I stopped masturbating prone and never went back to it, and I followed the cure program. I noticed a great improvement in my erections and sex life. When I stopped masturbating altogether and stayed for around 5 months without sex, I tried having intercourse yet my erections reverted somehow back to pre-cure levels. Should masturbating conventionally be used as a maintenance method to keep my erections normal? What about nerve damage? Is the problem or the cure permanent? Is there any advice or guidance you can provide in this regard? (age 32)

A: I am very inclined to doubt that you suddenly stopped masturbating for five months. Masturbating is good for your sexual health. It keeps your body in good shape for intercourse. It isn't surprising that you had bad performance in intercourse after five months of sexual idleness. You should not expect to have had nerve damage as a result of prone masturbation. Once you are over it, you should be over it permanently.

7/16/11


I masturbated prone for roughly 16 years and just recently used your cure. But now that I can masturbate conventionally, occasionally it hurts to urinate. What's causing this? (age 32)

A: You might be using too much force. Lots of males do when they first switch. Within a few months, you will be using less force. Try to feel how good a small amount of force feels.

8/29/11


I am a young healthy male and I have stopped practicing prone style masturbation for 4 months now. Is it normal that after 4 months I still can only maintain an erection with constant stimulation either lying on my back or sitting in an upright position? I have very fortunate luck with girls meeting and dating them, and I want to have sex, but I am waiting until I am fully cured. It seems to be taking longer than usual. Do you think that everyone is different and I should give it more time because I am showing steady progress (I was suffering from ED at a young age)? Or could there possibly be an underlying physical issue (venous leak, nerve damage) and should I consult a doctor about it? I am trying to be as optimistic as I can, and am so glad I came across your site.

A: You seem to be very self-conscious about your erections. Instead of demanding an erection, just do things that turn you on. Read things, watch things, do things, think things. When you are in the right mental state, and it has been long enough since your last ejaculation, you will get erect. If you have been free of prone masturbation for four months and are able to masturbate daily, then you are ready to move on to girls. Don't be embarrassed if your erection is not maximum, or even satisfactory, the first time. Anyway, girls like to help! Show her what you like, and she is likely to work to help you get and stay erect. Just enjoy what you're doing with her and don't worry about having an erection or not. Relaxation is the gateway to excitation.

9/15/11


As it seems to have done for a lot of guys, HealthyStrokes.com helped me to recognize a problem I always suspected I had but could never articulate. It was devastating to realize at first, I mean, I felt like a freak! And I was extremely pessimistic that your advice would ever work for me: I'm 28 years old, I've never reached orgasm except through prone technique, and I have a history of humiliating sexual experiences. I think my sexual failure was killing my self-confidence and I honestly thought I was doomed. Then after a few serious attempts supine it actually worked! I couldn't believe I was capable of it and I felt great. There have been a few teething problems since then but learning this new skill has been a major boost for me. Thank you for putting this web site together. It's changed my life!

9/16/11


I have been masturbating prone. I read everything. At first I was scared but now I'm not. I'm doing what you're telling me to. I haven't fully gone through puberty. I don't ejaculate. Does this make it harder for me to learn the conventional way? (age 12)

A: If you're not ejaculating, I don't think you're at risk of sexual dysfunctions for having masturbated prone up until now. Just learn the conventional way. It won't be harder for you and will probably be easier than for a male who's ejaculated. Then you can experience the joy of having your first ejaculation like most males do.

9/20/11


What is the longest time it could take to become used to hand masturbation? I have been practicing hand masturbation for over a year and still find it very difficult. I cannot succeed more than once a week after all this time. I have only succumbed to prone masturbation a couple of times in the past year, but this is not sufficient to reverse my efforts. I can only conclude that I have some form of deficiency which does not allow me to masturbate normally. I accidently crushed my penis between the handles of pop rivet pliers when I was about 18. Could this have hurt anything? I don't like the feeling of stroking along the shaft or head of my benis at all.It feels very unnatural to me, even after a year of doing it. When I masturbate prone against a pillow there is extremely little pressure on my genitals. Almost all the weight is against my thighs. How can this cause any damage? (age 33)

A: I have never heard anyone take a year to become used to manual masturbation. Most males are back to their usual frequency within a few weeks of learning to masturbate by hand. They get used to the different feeling of hand masturbation within weeks also, and enjoy it very much. I would suggest seeing a doctor to rule out the possibility of damage from that old penile injury. The damage from prone masturbation is psychological rather than physical, in terms of the habituation it causes.

9/23/11


Recently I tried your program. I went through the week and tried masturbating with my hand and can't even come close to an orgasm. I read that someone masturbated prone up until he was just about to climax and finished off with his hand, and did that for a couple of days, and he could do it fully with his hand within three days. I tried this but failed and didn't orgasm. Should I start over with the seven day thing again? I've been trying to masturbate conventionally since the week was over and I don't feel anything even after 5 days of trying. (age 13)

A: You need to give up prone completely to be cured of your sexual problems. I advise against the situation you raised of masturbating prone and only finishing by hand. Resolve to be done with prone forever. You are young and ought to be able to masturbate to orgasm easily after a week of abstaining.


I have masturbated prone all my life without knowing it was a problem. I started masturbating at 8 years old and have been masturbating prone ever since then. I am 25 years old now. I have delayed ejaculation, never have I ejaculated inside a women during sex. It was only 3 months ago that I found your site, and realized the connection between my sexual dysfunction and the way I masturbate. As soon as I read your site, I started correcting the way I masturbate. I did it lying on my back in bed, which did nothing for me. Then I did it standing up, while watching porn in front of the computer. I came close to climaxing in this position, only to be disappointed because instead of semen, it was drops of urine. Then, 2 days ago, I hit a breakthrough. I tried masturbating sitting down, and it happened! I finally ejaculated. And yesterday, I tried masturbating standing up again, but it didn't happen. Then I switched to sitting down, and ejaculated in about 5 minutes. So far, I have ejaculated twice while masturbating the traditional way. I will keep on practicing until I am confident in my ability before I start having intercourse with women again. But my question is, is it harder to ejaculate while masturbating standing up? To be completely cured of masturbating prone, I should be able to masturbate in any position, right? Whether it's lying down, sitting down, or standing up?

A: It is unusual that you had an easier time of it sitting than lying down. Most males have an easier time of it lying down because they can relax completely and take all the weight off their bodies. Most don't masturbate sitting until they've perfected it lying down. It's good that you can masturbate by hand, but I think it is important to resolve this issue you have with masturbating by lying down. You seem to be used to using visual aids. I suggest obtaining some that you can use in bed while lying down.

9/29/11


I have been masturbating prone on the back of a sofa as long as I can remember, around 12 years now. (I'm 20 now.) I don't have an issue with erections, but I feel I lost the joy of prone masturbation. Since I am a virgin I don't know how an orgasm exactly is supposed to feel, but I think that I don't orgasm lately from prone masturbation. I used manual masturbation a few years ago but didn't find it as enjoyable as prone so I came back to what I knew best since I didn't have any idea about the danger of prone. Is this reversible? Will I start having orgasms again when I go to masturbate by hand? I used to ejaculate and reach orgasm ( or what I think was orgasm ) often with a semi-erect penis and enjoyed it more that way than ejaculation with a full erect penis. Is that one of the side effects of prone?

A: I think you have some issue with orgasms, but I can't pinpoint it. I am confused by your saying that being a virgin makes you unable to distinguish an orgasm. At age 20, with years of experience masturbating, you ought to have no doubt what an orgasm is. Some males who masturbate prone habituate themselves to masturbating with partial erections. I can only strongly suggest that you give up prone masturbation ASAP and work at learning to masturbate the conventional way, by hand. It is expected that the orgasms will not fell the same as prone for the first few weeks. You will get over that.

10/1/11


Following advice from HealthyStrokes.com, I stopped orgasming for 10 days and managed to orgasm conventionally. But I didn't follow the instructions exactly. What I did was I masturbated prone until I was about to orgasm, then I switched to my hand. After 5-10 minutes I manged to orgasm. I did the same the day after. However, since then, I haven't managed to repeat the feat. It's been 3 days. Also, when I tried masturbating prone, I accidentally orgasmed prone. What should I do? Also, I am only able to masturbate by hand when lying down on a bed, and not when sitting or standing. (age 14)

You didn't follow the instructions. You didn't give up prone masturbation. The purpose of abstaining from masturbation for a number of days is to make your penis more sensitive so that you'll be able to masturbate by hand. You're not accomplishing anything by masturbating prone until you start to orgasm and then use your hand. In fact, many males who masturbate prone do that anyway. They masturbate prone and then they flip over onto their backs at the moment of orgasm in order to keep from making a mess. Since you haven't given up prone masturbation but merely adopted a variant form of it, you need to start the abstinence period over again and then masturbate to orgasm using only your hand. Once you have perfected masturbating by hand while lying on your bed, you will be able to do it sitting, standing, or kneeling within a few months.

10/8/11


I am in shock after finding out about the dangers of prone masturbation. I am 65 and have been masturbating in the prone position since I was about 12-13. I thought it was natural and had never heard or read that it might be negative. I feel like a complete fool now. I have many of the problems written about on your site - difficulty in ejaculation, almost impossible to ejaculate via oral sex from a woman, difficulty urinating in a steady stream without spraying or dribbling, difficulty ejaculating in anything except the missionary position, etc.

I have a lot of will power and really want to improve my sex life and will work to learn how to masturbate in a non-destructive manner.

I very much appreciate the work you have done in developing this site.

A: It's never too late to learn to masturbate the conventional way. I hope you are experiencing success in some new sexual positions soon.

10/8/11


I really have a big problem. Just a week ago, I thought my masturbating habits were normal. A few days ago I had discovered that my habit of masturbating in the prone position is a bad one. So I have tried to correct that and I have not been able to masturbate in the conventional way. So I looked it up even more. One of the little details of the way I masturbate involves me not even needing to have an erection and I can easily still masturbate in the prone position. I do masturbate prone, BUT its not through stimulation or thrusting my penis into the bed or my hand as a male who masturbates prone would. The palm of my hand is in between the bed and just a couple inches above my penis. I think I'm stimulating my prostate through my perineum. I tried to masturbate the conventional way and I could not no matter how hard I tried. I'm a virgin. Can you help me with conventional masturbation? (age 26)

A: Yes, that's what HealthyStrokes.com is for. We help men like you resolve to learn to masturbate conventionally, and after 5-10 days of abstinence, that's what you'll do. And you'll learn to like it better than prone masturbation. I don't think you're massaging your prostate through your perineum. The prostate is much too far in for that to happen. You're stimulating your penis by thrusting it against your hand. That's prone masturbation. So please go through the abstinence regimen on the main page of HealthyStrokes.com and learn to masturbate conventionally. I also think you're too old to be a virgin, but work on that after you've learned conventional masturbation.

10/8/11


What an enlightening few days it has been! I masturbated in the prone position since I was a boy. I never realized the conventional way to masturbate until I was about 17 or 18. Since then I have used the 2 methods interchangeably although the prone position definitely gave me a better feeling and it was far easier to orgasm in this method (especially the 2nd or 3rd time). I have never been able to orgasm from masturbating standing up and never orgasmed from oral sex - I just thought I couldn't do it. The first girl I had sex with, I was unable to orgasm, every girl since I have had trouble maintaining a firm full erection and had several embarrassing situations where I couldn't get an erection which left both partners unsatisfied. It's amazing to think I have been doing something MY ENTIRE LIFE which has been harmful. I have started practicing masturbating standing up and hope to achieve an orgasm within a week or two. I can't wait to get back to full sexual health. Thank you so much for HealthyStrokes.com. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off me.

A: Good luck, but what you really need to do is quit masturbating prone. Once you do that, I think you'd be able to masturbate standing (and in other places) within a few weeks, and you are apt to be more sexually responsive with females. Also, work at using less force. If you have been alternating between prone and supine masturbation, you are probably using a lot of force.

11/6/11


I didn't masturbate for one whole week and then Monday night I tried the conventional masturbation but I didn't feel anything but I had an erection. I tried to do it slowly or fast and loose or tight but it just didn't feel anything. Can you tell me what's wrong? When I did prone, I masturbated by rubbing myself against the bed. (age 17)

A: Practice makes perfect. If you don't feel like masturbating, then don't. Within a few days, the feeling will hit you, and then you'll be able to masturbate to orgasm using only your hand. Pictures will help too.

11/11/11


Your page on prone masturbation was the first piece of info that I found that could describe why I am experiencing ED at my age, and also other signs. I self-discovered prone position at the age of 6. It just felt good and continued to my teenage years and adulthood. I have been doing it EVERY night. I have been avoiding relationships in fear of not being able to give this habit up. I feel like it's a hopeless situation for me to change since it's been engrained in me since I was a kid. I just wish someone had told me earlier when I was caught multiple times as a kid.

A: You're not too old to change. Just resolve to quit prone and you can be masturbating conventionally at this time next week.

11/12/11


Thank you so much for this site. I thought I was the only one with this problem. I have been very worried that I might never recover, but I now have hope that I will be able to have a normal sex life when I get married.

12/17/11


Like many others, I was first alerted to the fact that prone masturbation was a problem because of Louis CK's standup routine. I immediately searched it and while reading the HealthyStrokes page I was so overwhelmed that I had to run to the bathroom to throw up. That was right before my 21st birthday. I had always suspected there was something wrong with the way I masturbated, but the HealthyStrokes website confirmed my worst suspicions. I also felt like the way I had been doing prone more severely than most because I would GRIND my penis against my towel or blanket-wrapped fist.

Recently I was starting to believe I would never have sex. Then I met the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, and decided that the most important thing in my whole life was to be able to successfully have sex with her. I last masturbated prone last Friday, and since then I've tried the conventional way 3 times, and just a few hours ago I succeeded for the first time ever. I realize I am not completely cured because I still have to be able to do this daily for a month, but I really wanted to share my story because I felt like I was in a more hopeless situation than most, with a more severe form, and yet I was able to overcome it. It's really all about determination and allowing yourself to focus on the pleasure of it. Hope this can be inspiring!

12/17/11


I have masturbated ever since I could remember. When I was younger, I used to make myself fall asleep by rocking on my hands or in the prone position. I wasn't aware of what I was doing until I was about 12 years old, after I had my period. I have been caught numerous times by my sister, and sometimes other family members. It was no big deal. They got over it. I got over it. The feeling that I would get when I would rock on my hands, to me I think is an orgasm. That's what I always thought it was. And that was the only way that I could ever get that feeling. As I got older, I engaged in sexual intercourse with a few guys and I could never get that same feeling. Numerous times I came close to it, but I still never reached that "climax." My entire life I wondered why -- until I met a guy who was actually interested in pleasuring ME before himself. We were messing around and for some reason he couldn't cum in front of me; he had to finish himself off by masturbating. So, I Googled it to see if it was common and it led me to HealthyStrokes.com. Which brought me to the conclusion that the way he had always masturbated was the way that he had to masturbate to be able to cum. Reading further, I read about prone masturbation. My entire life, since I've been having sex, I wondered why I could not have an orgasm and thanks to your web site, I know why! Because I masturbate in the prone position, whose feelings can't be replicated during sex. And I just wanted to say a big THANK YOU, to you for allowing me to discover this.

Also, the same guy I had mentioned above, I told him that in order for us to be able to cum or orgasm we have to just get used to each other, and masturbate the conventional way, a way that can be replicated during sex. He was fingering me one day and I got really, really scared because I felt this feeling that I had NEVER felt before. It was pleasuring but very uncomfortable at the same time. He asked me if I felt like I had to urinate. I said yes, and he said to just go with it. Soon enough, I came! First time ever in my life. Because when I would masturbate I would just get that good feeling.

When I came, it's not a feeling that I feel when I masturbate. I just cum and then I feel really, really relaxed. Are there two different kinds of orgasms? Or if me cumming is an orgasm even though I don't feel that "good feeling." I hope my question makes sense. (age 19)

A: Thanks for sharing your story! I don't remember someone ever reporting that they had a partner who also practiced masturbation prone. There aren't two different kinds of orgasms, but you are recognizing two different feelings as orgasm. The one you had with your boyfriend is a true orgasm, and the one you get when you're masturbating sounds like you're reaching the plateau stage as Masters & Johnson defined it, but not quite getting to orgasm. Now that you know how and can recognize the feeling, I think you can stand to be more persistent when you're masturbating.

2/13/12


Thank you! This site has been a great help to me. I had been masturbating prone for a few years before finding HealthyStrokes.com and changing my lifestyle. One thing that made the change easier is that after finally having a conventional orgasm by masturbating with my hand, I actual liked them more. (age 15)

3/18/12


I just turned 20 this month, and I have been using the prone method since I was a child, maybe even 5 or 6. I definitely am never going to masturbate prone again. I am a virgin, and I have tried to have sex 3 times, and each time I went soft. But also each time, I wasn't very attracted to the girl who I was trying to have relations with.

I already use both the prone and conventional methods. As a child, I only used the prone method, but in my early teen years I began to use both the conventional method and the prone method. Will it be a better transition for me, being that I already have experience using the conventional way? I'm also going to be staying away from any porn, or pictures.

I only realized this was a problem when I tried to have sex the other day and couldn't get an erection. I did get an erection from fellatio, but I didn't ejaculate. As soon as that was over, and I tried to have intercourse, I went soft. I also think part of it may be because I am not very attracted to the girl. I just wanted to have sex with her. Could that also play a part? I also felt some guilt, seeing as I am a Christian. Could a sense of guilt also be a problem?

Last night, I abstained from masturbation, but I noticed that in my sleep I kept waking up and turning over to sleep on my stomach. Is sleeping on my stomach OK, or should I try to sleep on my back?

Thank you for your research on prone masturbation. This should be apart of sex ed in school. I shouldn't be 20 years old just learning about the hazards of masturbating prone, but I am glad that I now know so I can stop.

A: You are ahead of most males who write, because you already know the conventional method. So you don't need to go through an abstinence period. Just give up prone masturbation forever and keep masturbating in the conventional manner. Using pictures is not only not frowned upon, it can make the transition easier. You would probably enjoy sex more if you were attracted to your partners. It makes me wonder why you're having sex with girls you're not attracted to? Even if you aren't completely attracted to her, you ought to be able to get erect and have intercourse with her. It might take a few weeks after your last time masturbating prone, but even most males who only masturbate prone are able to do some intercourse, even if not to orgasm. I would recommend no intercourse until it's been a month since the last time you masturbated prone. And sleeping on your stomach is not at all harmful.

3/21/12


When I discovered masturbation, I discovered the prone position. I continued to masturbate in the face-down position for 2 months until I found this web site. And then I was so scared about my health that I seriously started normal masturbation - but I quit it. I realised face-down masturbating gives me more pleasure. It's easier too. I've been doing this for 5-6 months. I've never felt anything wrong with my body/health during this period. I don't have ANY problems. Do you think I should still quit the face-down method? (age 15)

A: Yes, you absolutely should. No male finds out about the sexual problems that prone masturbation causes until he tries having sex. You are in the enviable position of being able to give up prone masturbation after only 5-6 months of it. And you've already succeeded. You didn't give conventional hand masturbation much of a chance. Give it another try. After about a month or so, you'll like it a lot better. When it's time to have sex with a partner, you'll be glad you did.

4/3/12


While I masturbated prone, I only stimulated one side of my penis (the underside). Now, masturbating conventionally, the top side of my penis (the side that wasn't stimulated) is hardly pleasurable at all. I have masturbated prone for as long as I can remember so I'm wondering if this is unheard of or serious. (age 17)

A: The underside of the penis is more sensitive. Most males masturbate using four fingers on the underside and only their thumb on the top. It isn't surprising that you've noticed you get more pleasure from the underside. I don't think you have a problem.

4/8/12


Healthystrokes.com blew my mind yesterday. It EXACTLY summarizes the issues that I have been having and why. I have masturbated since I was around four years old, almost daily. I masturbated prone so I could hide what I was doing while my parents were still regularly entering my room. I remember getting dry orgasms in the years before any fluids would come out. My private area would throb and I would convulse the same way I do when I currently masturbate.

I've tried masturbating the conventional way by stroking and rubbing but I don't even get an erection half the time. The pressure of prone masturbation is such a great feeling that I can't imagine why men like sex. I've been with 10 women and had one serious relationship (we had sex every other day) yet never have ever been able to ejaculate inside a woman. It's stressful for me because I know my partner will get upset at herself for thinking she's not "good enough" which is absolutely not the case.

I estimate that I've masturbated prone 9300 times. Having ejaculated for 17 years at an average of 1.5 times a day ONLY using prone masturbation seems extremely scary if trying to alter my ways. Can you help me develop a way to change permanently, I want to enjoy sex and have kids and it's not going to work the way I'm headed.

My masturbatory style was not listed on your web site. Although extremely personal, for the sake of science I will explain it. I lie belly down with my penis upwards passing my navel. I then use both hands to push my penis left and right while adding pressure each time alternating directions. I also use hardcore porn 60% of the time and think of women the other 40%. I can also do this method sitting in my computer chair with one hand. I move my penis left and right, putting much pressure on the section right below the head. I was also wondering if a bigger penis makes stimulation even more difficult. My erect penis is 9" long and quite wide as well. I have had plenty of sexual encounters which ended early as the women could not stand the pain of my erection inside her. I am white, 6'0", 21 years old, 200 lbs for your information.

A: You can change. I've never known anyone who couldn't change. You are still pretty young, even if you've got a high M count for a young man. The instructions are all on HealthyStrokes.com. First, resolve to be done with prone forever. Take a week off from sexual stimulation. Then masturbate to orgasm using only one hand, stroking up and down your penis. It might take a while, but it will be worth it. Then do it every day or two until you can do it daily. When you've done it daily for a month, you will be ready to try a partner.

Males who masturbate conventionally can do it anywhere, and as quickly or long as they want. You will like it better than prone masturbation, and you will also start to enjoy sex more.

I've never heard of oversized males having sensitivity issues.

4/13/12


I have been masturbating prone for as long as I remember, but I came across your site and decided to stop. I have tried for two weeks to masturbate solely by hand but have never been able to reach an orgasm or come close. I simply do not feel sensation unless I masturbate prone. Will this change with time? I waited not only a week but two weeks and have achieved no results. I am very worried. (age 17)

A: You have to be patient. Most males your age can switch in less than a week. Some take longer. I recommend abstaining for a week again and then masturbating when you really have an urge to do so. Sometimes this comes about by looking at pictures or videos. Every male can work himself into a frenzy where he has a heavy urge to have an orgasm. Do it when you're in this state, and it will be easier for you than through what you described. You can succeed. You will succeed. You will notice a big difference in your erections and sensitivity after you've gone a few months without prone masturbation.

4/21/12


I have been masturbating prone all of my life, and I have recently made a commitment to stop because I have never been able to achieve orgasm during sex, especially with a condom (not even close). I can masturbate conventionally, but I have to use the stop/go technique, and usually end up with a very tight grip even though I've been telling myself to use a loose grip. It also feels better to squeeze the base of my penis while stroking, and have been trying to get myself to stop doing that as well. Additionally, I cannot maintain an erection while stroking, although during sex I can usually maintain one. Finally, when I near orgasm my leg muscles tighten and sometimes I have wild convulsions where my legs are shaking. It seems I have a long list of sexual problems, would you recommend counseling? (age 28)

A: Not immediately. I would recommend dealing with your problems one at a time, starting with vowing to give up prone forever. When you've been free of prone for a month, then work at using a lighter grip. Using lube can often let a man use a lighter grip. Then stop squeezing the base. Your other problems (erections, leg tension) might go away by themselves once you have your prone and grip issues under control. You can do it!

4/21/12


I masturbated in the prone position for a few months. After some time, I suddenly developed urethral pain and pain around my pelvic/abdomen area. The pain recurs even if I just get an erection for an extended period of time. Can masturbating in the prone position physically damage your urethra? And if so how? Is it like a urethral stricture? (age 24)

A: I don't know anything about urethral strictures, and in over 10 years of working with prone males, I've never known someone who was documented with a penile injury. That doesn't mean it's impossible. Since the meatus (opening to the urethra) might be bearing the brunt of thrusting in prone masturbation, it's possible that prone masturbation could be disaffecting it somehow. I would suggest discussing this with a urologist. Don't be surprised if doctors assume you have an STD and start treating you with antibiotics. Of course, make a decision to give up prone masturbation forever.


I have been masturbating since the age of 12 and I have only ever masturbated in the prone position. It's caused me problems in the past with girlfriends to the point where I can't orgasm from manual or oral intercourse and not during sex when I'm lying down. After reading HealthyStrokes.com, my plan is to abstain for a week and try to orgasm normally, but I'm worried that the damage is already done. How will I know when I'll be able to orgasm normally and how long do you think it will take someone like me to be cured? (age 20)

A: Congratulations on deciding to give up prone masturbation. Most men your age abstain from sexual stimulation for 5-7 days and then masturbate to orgasm by hand within an hour. Within a week or so after that first hand orgasm, you ought to be able to masturbate to orgasm by hand daily. After a month of masturbating by hand to orgasm daily, you are ready to try sex with a partner again. You will notice that your erections are stronger within a few months.

5/11/12


Since age 12 I've masturbated in the prone position, but recently I switched to the conventional way of masturbating, stroking with my hand. I have a few occasional lapses where I go back to the prone position but for the most part I've been faithful to the new method. I've had sex twice and both times I was unable to reach orgasm, but I can masturbate conventionally and reach orgasm within 5 minutes. I don't understand why I'm not climaxing during sex. Please help! (age 18)

A: You are sexually inexperienced, you only recently gave up prone masturbation, and you occasionally revert to prone. Those are the reasons. Your inexperience can be cured with more experience, but it is up to you to keep from doing prone masturbation. Recovered prone males refer to that as "cheating." Most men cheat after they give up masturbating prone, but it is a danger sign if you're cheating more than once a month. Make a resolution to give up prone masturbation forever. You'll be glad you did.

5/12/12


Have all your cases arisen because males didn't know the conventional way to masturbate? I ask because when I was a teen, I tried to masturbate for weeks using my hand before giving up and using my pillow. I'm now semi-cured for the past 6 years thanks to you. I have to lie on my back and it's not very pleasurable. (age 40)

A: I've never specifically asked males if they had ever tried conventional masturbation before discovering prone masturbation. All of them, of course, touched their erect penises in various ways before masturbating the first time. I don't know how many tried and failed at conventional masturbation. I think most males who masturbate prone just tried thrusting and found that it felt good and weren't consciously thinking about hand masturbation. Be glad you've gotten over prone now. I suggest exploring why you don't find it pleasurable.

5/14/12


Your site has benefited me a lot. I saw HealthyStrokes.com about 9-10 months ago. Now I almost never masturbate prone. Having practiced prone masturbation for for about 8 years, since I hit puberty. I have noticed that I have developed a strong anterior pelvic tilt, probably due to the lying in the prone position and thrusting down into the bed. Do you think that the anterior pelvic tilt is due to prone masturbation? (age 24)

A: I have never heard of that, and I can't imagine that masturbating in any position would affect your orthopedic shape. When doctors use braces to change something, the braces have to be in place for at least 12 hours a day. You're talking about humping your bed for 10 minutes a day. That wouldn't make a difference orthopedically even if you wanted it to. Unless a doctor diagnoses you with a tilt, then you have nothing to worry about.

6/15/12


My boyfriend has trouble getting/maintaining an erection during intercourse, and when he does get an erection, he has trouble ejaculating. We are both each other's first sexual partner, and this problem has been going on for a few months. I saw a Google search for prone masturbation when I was using his computer, and I suspect he masturbates this way. I don't know if I should bring it up or if he's already trying to resolve it, but it just seems like things are getting worse and I don't know what I can do to help. (age 17)

A: I would suggest telling him you know that prone masturbation causes the problems he's having -- no need to tell him how you know that -- and that you'll understand if he can't have sex with you for a few months while he works to overcome his prone masturbation.

7/15/12


Since I lived in a single bedroom throughout college, I never encountered a problem with scheduling my masturbation sessions with a roommate. I did share a house and an apartment in my later college years with other men, and the only problems that situation posed was when the guys got loud and rowdy in the living room over a sports game or something and it broke my concentration over my masturbation sessions, sometimes that would kill the mood. The only person to ever walk in on me was my father when I was still living at home. He caught me masturbating prone. When I masturbate prone, I lie down on a towel on the floor, with my elbows propping me up and just pressure on my groin. It was quite strange to be caught masturbating prone by my father. he didn't say anything other than "you don't have any pants on" and he shut the door and walked away. I'm well aware that I need to quit masturbating prone. but it is rather difficult because I obsess over how much and how often to masturbate, and I can masturbate more frequently and control my orgasms better when masturbating prone.

So I have a two prong problem here. It has caused me some problems in my relationships with other men, as often they cannot get me off by simply stroking my penis, even though I was hard and very much sexually excited during those sexual encounters, and often I have to dry hump them or something in order to orgasm. (age 26)

A: Most men don't masturbate when their living room is full of people. It is no surprise that those sessions were disrupted. You are obviously having issues of sexual dysfunction stemming from your prone masturbation. That should be all the reason you need to decide to give it up forever. You seem to know taht is what you have to do. So go and do it. Your prone masturbation is so odd that even your father didn't recognize what it was when he saw you doing it. I think you need to find the help necessary to getting you to make progress on this.

8/12/12


I learned to masturbate prone when I was very young and have done it regularly since then. I am now 19. I recently quit masturbating prone after reading about the negative effects of it on HealthyStrokes.com and I just wanted to say thank you! I hope the people who read this know that curing yourself is possible and the most important step to being cured is willpower.

Have you ever heard of males who masturbate prone with redness on the tip of their penis? Is the redness a result of masturbating prone? I am a virgin so I know the redness is not an STD but I want to know if I should go see my doctor. Thank you for your help!

A: Masturbating, by whatever technique, can cause redness on part of the penis. It is not something unique to males who masturbate prone. It often happens to males who have a history of masturbating prone and then switch to conventional masturbation. Since with prone masturbation you basically didn't have to touch your penis, it is something unknown for you, and you might be using more force than is necessary. As you get habituated to conventional masturbation, you will learn to use less force naturally, and you are apt to see less redness. Another solution is to start using lube. When you use lube to masturbate, it is unlikely that you will produce any redness. Keep in mind that you don't want to start using lube immediately after changing to conventional masturbation since it is one more difference. Wait until you've been masturbating conventionally at least a month before adding lube.

6/16/12


I'm abstaining from masturbating prone so that I can learn how to masturbate the normal and healthy way. Is it bad if I get a wet dream during my abstinence period? Will that cause any setbacks or is that completely unrelated to my path to being cured of prone? (age 26)

A: I have never heard of a male having a wet dream while abstaining prior to switching to conventional masturbation. I suspect youre asking a hypothetical question. The time since last orgasm is what makes it easier for a male to try a new way of masturbating, so I suspect a wet dream during that period would ruin the abstinence and require resetting the clock to the time of the wet dream.

9/4/12


After 15 years of prone masturbation, I have masturbated the normal way. I feel like a man again! Thanks to healthystrokes.com. (age 25)

9/23/12


Thank you for this awesome site. I masturbated in the prone position for the past 6 years. I abstained for 3 days and am able to do it in the conventional style for the first time in my life and have continued to do so in the past 2 days. Thanks again for the support and keep up the good work. (age 22)

11/5/12


I finally masturbated the conventional way after using the prone method since I was a little kid. However, over the past year I have been doing both and about 3 days ago I was doing prone and when I was done, I lost sensation in my testicles and the base of my penis. Is it permanent nerve damage? I can still masturbate to orgasm using my hand; however, my erection is nowhere near strong enough to have sex with as of now considering the numbness. Should I consult a doctor? I'm only 19! I just want to regain sensation in the base of my penis and testes.

A: I would recommend giving up prone forever and only masturbating by hand. After that, you might decide you don't need a doctor.

11/14/12


Thank you so much for your help. I am much indebted to you. Thank you for taking time out of your life to help other people. Before I stopped masturbating prone, I always had a feeling that I would fail at sex. I avoided sex with my former girlfriend for this reason. Now that feeling has been completely erased. Happy belated Thanksgiving and early Christmas.

11/23/12


I only just read your site and have never looked into anything about prone masturbation being bad for me. I've done it prone since I was about 11/12 and do I have any chance now at 21 to change?

A: Yes. It's never too late to change.

11/25/12


If I masturbate prone but can also have an orgasm within 10 minutes with my hand, is it necessary that I refrain from masturbating for a period of time or can I just start masturbating with my hand all the time?

A: The purpose of abstaining is so you can learn to masturbate by hand. If you already can, there is no reason to abstain.

11/28/12


You really are a life saver. I am so lucky I discovered your web site, since before I even knew what masturbation was I have was masturbating prone without knowing. I have followed your guide and today I managed to masturbate manually and successfully for probably the first time in my life. You do not understand how grateful I am. Thank you! Just some positive feedback.

12/6/12


I have been dating someone for about two years and realized after we started having sex that something was wrong. Thankfully we are comfortable with each other and he told me about his masturbation technique and I found HealthyStrokes.com about six months ago and have just given him the information. He is taking this discovery quite hard but realizes there are issues with prone masturbation. What advice can you give me? This is someone who is my best friend and I care about very much, but I do want a complete sexual relationship with him. I am taking a step back and allowing him to take the lead. I do not want him to feel pressure as that will not help either one of us. How can I be supportive of him? (age 38)

A: He knows you know about the problems of prone masturbation, so I suggest you work on it together. Of course, he is the one who has to want to change. If you tell him you're OK with him taking a few months off from sexual intercourse so he can learn to masturbate conventionally, I think that will help quite a lot.

12/6/12


I'm 28 years old and am a college graduate. I've taken human sexuality courses in college. My whole life nobody ever mentioned prone masturbation. I have masturbated this way my entire life because it was the only way I knew how. I've tried several times in my life to do it the conventional way but have never been able to. I find sex more enjoyable than masturbation, but I experience the problems that prone masturbation causes. I had one ex-girlfriend who was able to make me orgasm by stroking it for me but that was years ago and unfortunately we aren't together. I guess I'm writing this as a thank you. I just happened to finally Google it and see if there were others like me; I have always thought it was a harmless thing. I'm going to follow the steps you've listed and with some patience hopefully I can cure myself. Thank you again. I would love to help in any way I can.

A: Thanks for sharing. I hope you will find new sexual promise after giving up prone. If you would like to help, could you contact the professors you took human sexuality courses from and let them know about the perils of prone masturbation?

12/13/12


I am a guy practicing prone masturbation for about 10+ years. I am 19 years old now. Recently I realized I faced several problems of the kind described on HealthyStrokes.com and thus I searched the web for a solution and found your site. I tried the abstinence program and abstained for 3 days before trying the conventional method of masturbating. On the 3rd try on that night I was able to achieve orgasm and ejaculate very quickly, using visual aids, and i felt excited and I immediately tried the conventional way of masturbating again (while still watching the video) and within 5 minutes of the first ejaculation, I achieved orgasm and ejaculated again. Am I on the right track to recovery, or is it bad that I only abstained for three days and took three tries? Why can I not masturbate to orgasm without videos? I didn't always need a video to successfully masturbate in the prone position.

You are doing very well. It is not at all unusual that it took you three tries and 15 minutes to masturbate to orgasm the first time. Congratulations. It is also not bad that you are using videos. Conventional masturbation is something different for you and anything that can help is good. You didn't always need visual aids when masturbating prone because you were used to it after doing it for 10 years. You will be good at masturbating with your hand in a few months and be able to do it in a lot of different ways.

12/27/12


I have been practicing prone masturbation since 1995. I have never had sex so I don't know if it will cause a problem. I was recently circumcised because I had phimosis and as a result I am no longer able to masturbate in the prone position. I have been trying to masturbate using my hand for a couple of weeks now but I am unable to achieve ejaculation. I get an erection though. I talked about this with someone online who was in a similar situation and for him it took a few months to ejaculate using his hand. Do you have any data regarding this? How long does it take to quit prone masturbation and ejaculate using hand?

A: You don't say how old you are, but I'm guessing if you started masturbating in 1995 that you were born in 1982, making you 30 now. I absolutely have data for what you ask. Nearly all males are able to masturbate by hand after a week of abstaining from prone masturbation, and frequently less time. It is better if you take a full 4-5 days to abstain completely and don't stimulate yourself at all in that time.

12/28/12


I am writing to you out of desperation, as I do not know what to do. I am an 18 year old male who started masturbating in the prone position about 2 years ago, discovering it by chance as I failed at the traditional method due to my circumcision. I continued with this for just under a year and then started to realize that every time I began masturbation my erection was less hard or strong. I have not had a proper erection since then. I completely stopped prone masturbation about a year ago. However, I did not take much of a break from masturbation in itself and continued for maybe daily (but very on and off, sometimes abstaining for two weeks or so) with the traditional method, but in the end I found this incredibly difficult in the supine position and took to doing it sat down or stood up.

I am perfectly able to reach orgasm stroking my penis in the traditional manner, most commonly with lube. What worries me is the strength of my erections. It is hard trying to will one to happen, and even then, without constant stimulation they fade. The erections, as I have said are not that strong, and are quite loose (easy to move at the base). I did go to a doctor regarding this, but having given my penis a look over he said it was fine. Could I have damaged the penis and it not been picked up by the doctor? Just recently I went for 2-3 weeks without masturbation and today have started to do the traditional method again, making sure it is only done while on my back. Please advise me as to what the best course of action is: continue traditional masturbation and see where that takes me, longer abstention or see the doctor again? Please, I am very worried that I will have ED the rest of my life.

A: It would be good for you to worry about your erections less. Work not only at masturbating conventionally but at using less force when you do it. Try to use as little force as you can. The doctor was looking for anatomical problems and not for evidence of sexual dysfunction. You didn't mention visual aids but they make a lot of difference in having strong erections, especially at your age when a lot of men notice they're having fewer erections than before.

12/28/12


I've been masturbating prone and sitting in a chair (viewing porn on computer) since I was 16 (I'm 28 now). At 24 I began dry humping in a serious relationship to have an alternative to sex (religious purpose). During 1 of our sessions I thought I felt something uncomfortable happen in my penis. No blood in urine afterward but the next day I had stringy/precum like at the beginning of my urination. A few days later I felt extreme pain in my penis. Went to the doc, explained, he said I was fine. I started having erectile dysfunction at 26 and it feels like it's been ruining my sex life plus taking a toll on my mind. I've been to multiple doctors and I'm healthy (prostate is normal, urine test came back, fine no STDs, no UTI). I woke up in the morning every other day and I have a mild sensation during and after 1st urination. I'm more concerned with my ED. I've gone cold turkey on masturbation for 2 weeks now. Since I've been masturbating for so long how long do you think it will take me to get to normal?

A: If you can masturbate conventionally (with your hand), you don't need to abstain from masturbating; just stop masturbating prone. I'm wondering if your chair masturbation is being done with too much force. I would work on using less force. You ought to notice a difference in your erections within a few months of giving up prone.

1/8/13


I didnt know prone masturbation was a problem until now. I am 23 years old and I've been masturbating in the prone position DAILY for 12 years. My first attempt to have a sexual relationship was last year and it was a complete failure (no erection at all). I thought it was because I had no experience at all but now I have read your prone masturbation article and understand it all. I am extremely worried!! Can this be COMPLETELY cured? I hope I'm not too late.

A: Yes, you can be completely cured. Just follow the steps on the page you read. You can be having a sexual relationship successfully within a few months.

1/9/13


After reading the information on HealthyStrokes.com, I decided that I needed to stop prone masturbation and abstain from any sexual acts for a week, as was suggested on the page. After a week, I proceeded to masturbate using the conventional way, but I couldn't ejaculate. What should be my next course of action? Also, I want to thank you for putting up this web site to inform men about the harmful effects of prone masturbation. Without it, I would have continued masturbating prone.

A: If you can't reach orgasm the first time you try masturbating conventionally, try again the next day. Do not revert to prone masturbation, as you'll have to start over if you do.

1/9/13


I couldn't be more thankful to have found HealthyStrokes.com. I have gone the majority of my life thinking that I am the only person in the world who masturbates prone. I typically use the floor or the bed to rub my clit. Most of my questions were answered, but if it helps your research at all, I'm pretty confident I know why I masturbate this way rather than the traditional way: When I was about 5, I walked in on my parents having sex. I wanted to do what they were doing so I immediately went to try it. I mimicked what I thought was happening and it felt good. I've been doing it ever since. (age 22)

A: Interesting. And now that you've found out, I hope you're working to give up prone and learn conventional female masturbation.

1/28/13


I am 26 now and have been masturbating prone since 11 or 12. I started the regular way around 16 or so but have been doing it both ways on and off. I feel like I have had a desensitized penis for a while now. I don't get as hard as I'm supposed to and I need constant stimulation to keep what is considered erect. What should I do to get a complete recovery? I'm in desperate need of help and I've been to four urologists who say it isn't a physical problem although I don't think my penile glans looks filled with enough blood when hard. Sometimes it is quite hard like it should be but rarely. Also I notice an indent on the right side of the shaft for a few years now. What are the best steps I should take with my current situation?

The thing you should most obviously do is give up prone masturbation forever. You don't need to go through the abstinence period that most males do, because you have already been masturbating conventionally for 10 years. I think you would notice a difference in your erections after a few months of giving up prone. I don't know why you would have an indentation on your penis.

2/17/13


I'm really just here to thank you. I'm probably one of the youngest people ever to stumble across this site, which is pretty lucky for me I guess. I've been practicing prone masturbation for as long as I can remember, but I only realized it was abnormal about a year ago. After some Internet research, I finally found healthystrokes.com, and I realized how much of a problem I had. My method of prone masturbation was on the more severe end of the scale. I used a hard wood floor to pleasure myself.

Your abstinence methods were great, but I would like to suggest a new one -- the easiest place to abstain is on vacation. This is how I managed to stop for a week. When I got home, the first time I tried, I was unsuccessful. It took me a while to realize I had to rub more on the base than the tip. Rubbing the tip just made me want to urinate. Seeing myself ejaculate for the first time was pretty exciting. I tried not to look, as mentioned on this site, but it was impossible. It was everywhere. I almost laughed because I wasn't expecting it. I did try to abstain and quit several times over the past summer, but to no avail. Also, I think growing older may have helped. Although on the outside I appear fairly young I'm a little more developed underneath, about 5.5 inches which I think is big for my age. Anyway, now I'm completely cured! Your site is so helpful, congratulations on 11 years.

A: Congratulations on being cured at age 13, an age at which many males aren't even jerkin' the gherkin yet. I disagree that one should wait for a vacation to overcome prone masturbation. The best of times is now.

2/18/13


I have just now within the past week been trying to break my prone habit, but when I use my hand I have my thumb on the upper-side with four fingers on the under-side (no help from the inside of my hand). With this motion it seems that i put pressure on the inside of my penis instead of using the skin for stimulation. Also, I tend to thrust or flex my penis with this motion. How can I break this habit? (age 23)

A: It might be you need to abstain from masturbating for up to a week to resensitize your penis. When that time is up, masturbate using the gentle pressure of a loose fist. It might help to use lube, but you don't want to make too many changes all at once. I see no benefit to switching from prone to a different dysfunctional style of masturbating. Try to use as gentle a touch as necessary to produce ejaculation.

3/17/13


Up until today I had never had a name for my problem. I have spent my entire life wondering if there are others like me, and now thanks to your site, not only do I know there are, but that it may also be cured.

I am starting my week today, I must admit to being a little skeptical as 25 years of conditioning would seem a long time to cure in a week (I am 39 years old) but I am going to try. I want this to work and I need this to work. I will update you on my progress.

A: Congratulations on starting down the path to new sexual adventures. You will not be cured in a week, but you will probably be able to masturbate by hand for the first time after a week. After that, you will notice changes in your erections and your masturbatory abilities within 3-4 months. Good luck.

3/24/13


I don't know if my husband has ever masturbated prone in the past but in the more than two years that I've known him he has ONLY masturbated conventionally and we still don't have successful sex. This issue is SO misrepresented on the Internet and it is so hurtful to the women involved. Sexual reprogramming takes 1-3 years not a week or a month. Be careful what huge statements you make and what you tell people will cure them.

A: No one is cured in a week or a month. The week of abstention will let a male stop masturbating prone, which is the first step. After a month of masturbating by hand daily, a male will be ready to try intercourse again. From there it will be several months before he notices differences in his erections. How long it takes to be completely successful at intercourse varies from man to man.

Prone masturbation is not the only cause of delayed ejaculation/anorgasmia. The most common one is use of antidepressants or other drugs. If you don't know if your husband has ever masturbated prone, then why don't you ask him? You might indicate a communication problem that might have something to do with this.

3/28/13


2 or 3 years ago I discovered your site and learned that the way I was masturbating was harmful so I stopped doing it for a week, which was more difficult than it sounds. But it worked and I could finally masturbate normally ( thanks again for that!), but I think I might have a problem with penis sensitivity and my orgasm. I was masturbating prone ever since I can remember; I can't remember a time when I didn't masturbate. I think I started when I was 2 or 3, perhaps younger. I am afraid I might have caused long term damage to the sensitivity of my penis cause I can't feel much pleasure when I am rubbing it during masturbation. People describe orgasms as being intense and extremely pleasurable, but when I have one it's just like OK, nothing amazing, just OK. Could masturbating prone for so long have affected the sensitivity of my penis and the intensity of my orgasms? (age 16)

A: I doubt it. I've never heard anyone say that, and I've helped thousands of males with this over the years. Most males initially think that conventional masturbation isn't as exciting as prone masturbation when they first switch, but within a few weeks, their penis changes their minds. It takes a few weeks or months for the new sensation to settle in completely, and by that time, you can also learn how to masturbate in other places, like the computer, car, living room. Just give it more time and don't worry you've done any kind of damage.

4/1/13


I have been masturbating both prone and conventional for a long time now but started prone when I was about 11. I started normal when I was about 16 but can alternate. I stopped completely from prone for like a month but recently relapsed. Should I try to go a few weeks with no masturbation and then start normal a few times a week to get my sensitivity back so I can start having sex and have a relationship? Prone masturbation has put a damper on my sex life. (age 26)

A: If you conclude that prone masturbation has put a damper on your sex life, then why would you want to do it? I recommend giving up prone forever and then sticking with that plan. I don't think you need weeks without any masturbation, but it would be a good thing for you to masturbate in the conventional frequently, and probably daily.

4/2/13


I'm a 16 year old boy and I've been beating off for as long as I can remember. But I have come to realize from reading HealthyStrokes.com that the way I've been doing it is not safe. I do "bed-humping" or lie on the floor and rub my penis against it. I've never done it the usual way. Recently my girlfriend has been giving me hand jobs and I have never come to a climax. She's done everything but vaginal sex. I still can't orgasm. The only way I can orgasm is to masturbate prone. I would like to completely stop and masturbate like a normal male and I need advice on how to learn to masturbate normally and what to do. Is it too late for me? Am I done already?

A: It is not too late. Anyone can change. You're lucky that you are young and still a virgin (vaginally, at least). All you have to do is take a break from masturbating and having sex (perhaps a week) and then your penis will be sensitive enough that you can learn to masturbate by hand. Then just keep it up and pretty soon you'll be ready for sex.

4/4/13


I have been a practitioner of prone masturbation since around the age of 7. I did not know the harm it would cause me. I had sex for the first time a couple of months ago and I did not ejaculate but my erection lasted for quite a while. The girl was very upset and we had sex for a second time and my erection lasted longer but I still didn't ejaculate.

I have stopped prone masturbation altogether now and I have started to masturbate correctly and I have managed to ejaculate by way of dribbling semen on three occasions in three months. When I have ejaculated I have had to squeeze the base of my penis in order to do so.

Will squeezing the base of my penis do further damage and cause me further problems? Will I ever recover at my age? (age 32)

A: Congratulations on giving up prone masturbation. You should not have to squeeze the base of your penis in order to ejaculate. You should be able to ejaculate from gentle stroking of the shaft of your penis and perhaps also the head. You should also be doing this more than once a month. I suggest you keep up masturbating and be careful not to do the squeezing.

4/5/13


My boyfriend practiced prone masturbation and we didn't know it was a problem until we read your article. Thank you so so much! Thanks to it he recognized he had a problem and I finally understood what it was, and it has lifted a weight off.

We followed your recommendations. He started to masturbate with his hand. The first two times he gave up because he didn't arrive, but I encouraged him to continue. The third time he got his first hand-orgasm after 15-20 minutes. The 2 next times, he got it quite quickly, in just 5 minutes. Nevertheless, another problem appeared. He started to have a headache just after the orgasm.

The first time it wasn't so strong, but the second time it was an insupportable pain at the lower back side of his head. It lasted two days. Obviously after that experience he doesn't want to masturbate again. I feel lost and worried. He is 29 years old and that pain had never occurred while masturbating prone. Do you think that there could be any relation between the headache and the kind of masturbation? Have you heard about similar cases? Should we go to a doctor?

A: Orgasm headaches can happen both from masturbation and intercourse and happen to males who masturbate prone or supine or both. Switching masturbation styles does not cause orgasm headaches. Since orgasm headaches are often muscle-tension headaches, perhaps your boyfriend is tensing up muscles in his back or neck unnecessarily just before orgasm and that is contributing. Obviously, he is going to masturbate again, and I strongly recommend he give up prone forever and continue to work on conventional masturbation. If the headaches persist, I think he should see a doctor, even if it has nothing to do with changing from prone masturbation. Reading up on orgasm headaches might also help.

However, I am also concerned by the message coming from you and not him, and your apparent high degree of involvement in his situation ("We didn't know...," "I finally understood...," "We followed your recommendations...," "I encouraged him...," "Should we go...") and your high level of knowledge of his masturbating habits ("He got his first hand-orgasm after 15-20 minutes," "he got it quite quick, in 5 minutes."). It is nice that you want to help him, but HE has to be the one who wants to change, not you.

4/6/13

Follow-up: After writing to you, the headaches continued but he got conscious that the was "in tension." So he tried to relax while masturbating and the headaches disappeared. Now he masturbates normally and really quickly with his hand even in front of me. He's just worried about coming while having sex. I guess that's a question we will learn the answer to in time.

Also, your words have made me think about myself. You're right, I am highly involved in his situation because I consider it OUR situation since sex is something which involves both of us and I find important supporting each other in the process of change. I am happy to be able to talk about sex easily with him as a couple. When I found your article, I shared it with him. Believe me, HE decided to stop prone masturbation. Obviously if he didn't want to do it, it would be senseless. I might be putting pressure on him because sex is important to me. He has thanked me for helping him on several occasions :) Thank you again.

4/28/13


I have always masturbated prone without realizing that this was a harmful and incorrect way to masturbate. I just thought that it was an alternative to the conventional way. I had my first sexual experience with a girl and had sex with her twice and could not ejaculate on either occasion. I then looked on the web and discovered HealthyStrokes.com. I took your advice and started masturbating supine using the normal hand method intent on never masturbating prone ever again.

I am really worried that I have no time left in my life to change and that my prone masturbation is irreversible. Or am I going to have to live with this syndrome for life?

I have tried the conventional way and have had three weak ejaculations in three months. I have not been in the mood for masturbating as I am quite depressed about this. (age 32)

A: There is always time to change. I have never heard of anyone who could not switch from prone masturbation to conventional masturbation. I was older than you when I switched. You can do it. You can do it soon.

You have already masturbated successfully three times. There is no reason to take a month break after each one. Most men your age who are not sexually active masturbate almost once a day. Keep at it. You will enjoy it, and soon you will realize you are ready to try sex again.

4/7/13


I have masturbated prone since I was about 11 or 12, and usually I did this by thrusting against my mattress. I realized this was not normal at about the age 17 and started to masturbate the conventional way; however I have continued to masturbate prone. On average I masturbate once every 2 days. I lost my virginity about a year ago and have had several sexual encounters since then. I have never been able to ejaculate during intercourse. Originally I put this down to the fact I was drunk on most occasions. Recently I have entered into a relationship and have not been able to ejaculate during intercourse, and this is putting a great deal of strain on my relationship as my partner does not believe I am attracted to her. Upon coming across HealthyStrokes.com I have stopped masturbating prone, and now I only masturbate normally. It has been two weeks since I have stopped and am still unable to ejaculate during intercourse.

My question is should I abstain from intercourse for a period of time and just use the conventional method of masturbation until I am able to ejaculate in intercourse? Or do you believe that my problem is not with the masturbation itself but something different?

I find it harder to ejaculate when masturbating conventionally as compared to prone. (age 21)

A: Since you find orgasm different in conventional masturbation, I think a longer recovery time is in order to get you habituated to the different feeling of masturbating by hand. I recommend that you take a month in which your only sexual stimulation is masturbating by hand. Only then should you give intercourse another try.

I suggest you show HealthyStrokes.com to your partner and explain your situation. Surely she will be OK with a one-month break in order to recharge your sexual batteries. Women tend to be understanding when it comes to this problem. Read this page to learn addition examples.

4/10/13


I have abstained from masturbation for a week and even more in the past prior to seeing this site, but I have given up when trying to masturbate using my hand as I could not orgasm and ejaculate.

Your manual assumes that after abstaining for a week, it is I will be able to orgasm and ejaculate by hand. How can I masturbate successfully using my hand if my penis doesn't expel semen and cause me to orgasm after stimulation due to lack of sensitivity? How do I know I am applying enough force using my hand? You get a tingling sensation as pleasure increases steadily as you stimulate your penis; however, what if this feeling in your penis and stimulation of it is not enough to cause you to orgasm? I did feel this feeling, however, after moving my hand up and down frantically for about an hour. I could not orgasm although it was slightly pleasurable.

The reason for abstaining is to make it easier for you to masturbate by hand. Most males with a history of prone masturbation can masturbate by hand successfully after a week of abstaining; at your age, many can do so after only 3 or 4 days. If you are not successful after a week, try again, or maybe try even longer. If you did not resort to prone masturbation after failing at conventional, you can try again the next day. If you went back to prone, you have to reset the clock and start the week over.

Your body is designed to masturbate by hand. It will respond to that kind of masturbation eventually. Good luck.

4/13/13


I am 17 and I was having trouble with intercourse similar to the problems described on HealthyStrokes.com so I am immensely grateful that I found it because it was getting very frustrating. I have been masturbating prone and I will stop immediately. However, I already know the conventional method and I believe I have no trouble with it. Do I still need to go through the abstention period? I couldn't find this on the forums and I wasn't entirely sure after reading the article.

A: The purpose of an abstention period is to resensitize your penis so you can learn conventional masturbation. If you can already masturbate conventionally, then there is no need to abstain. Just make a decision to give up prone masturbation forever. Good luck.

4/14/13


I had no idea I had been doing so much damage to myself before I read your site. Thank you for that. I am 27 years old, and I have been prone masturbating since I was 15. I can't ejaculate with my hand, I can't ejaculate by oral sex, I can't ejaculate while wearing a condom, and the only way I can ejaculate is by prone masturbation or by having sex missionary style. I mostly had girlfriends from ages 22-25 where I would consistently have sex missionary style, and there were no problems. The last two years I have not had a girlfriend and did not have sex but I have been prone masturbating on an almost daily basis. I now have a girlfriend, and last night we had sex for an hour and nothing came of it. I note it was the first time we became intimate. Today I found HealthyStrokes.com, and I had no idea prone masturbation was even a dangerous thing and now that I do, everything makes sense. I am vowing to never masturbate prone again.

Is it possible that even though two years ago I was able to at least have sex in the missionary position, that now I can't? Why would that ability go away? Is it because of my age?

You recommend not having sex/masturbating for a week and learning how to masturbate the correct way. If I stop prone masturbating completely, but continue to have sex with my girlfriend (even during this week period), shouldn't my penis eventually get used to this and eventually I will be able to ejaculate? I just feel if I stop prone masturbating it should have the same result whether I am having sex or not.

This relationship is very new and I want to be honest with her. What is the expected amount of time until it all gets resolved? How long should we wait to try sex again?

A: Men much older than you have given up prone masturbation and succeeded. You can do it. I doubt that aging or frequent prone masturbation made a difference in why you couldn't ejaculate last night. If you kept masturbating prone and having sex with this woman, you would probably be successful some of the time, but not all of the time. And that's the problem of men who masturbate prone. So you're making the correct decision by vowing to never masturbate prone again.

You absolutely cannot masturbate or have any sex during the time you're trying to learn conventional masturbation. The purpose of abstaining is so your penis will be more sensitive and receptive to a new form of stimulation when the week is over. If you were having frequent sex that week, your penis would not be sufficiently sensitized.

I recommend that males be able to masturbate by hand daily for a month before they try sex. Obviously, you would like to expedite that timetable. So I recommend that you consider the ramifications of having sex early, and at the very least be able to masturbate by hand daily before doing anything sexual with your partner.

4/18/13


I masturbate prone lying down usually on a bed. I rub my penis up against my hand and have done this since I was like 5. My penis is always soft when I ejaculate this way. I have a healthy sex life with my wife and she is pregnant. I have no problem getting an erection for sex and ejaculate hard from sex. I have to be lying down though and my legs shake like crazy. I also cannot ejaculate from fellatio or a hand job. I have great sex and always have but can't ejaculate from oral. I also can't ejaculate in any position other than me on top. What should I do? I have never been able to jack off properly. (age 28)

A: If you've read the main page of HealthyStrokes.com, then you should know exactly what to do. Take a week off from sex and masturbation and then masturbate using only the stroking of one hand. At the end of the pregnancy, your wife won't be able to have sex. That would be a good time for you to go through the abstinence/penis retraining.

4/21/13


Allow me to first congratulate you on an excellent web site!!! HealthyStrokes.com has helped me stop prone masturbation at the age of 33. I must have been doing prone since around 12 or 13. So that's at least 2 decades. The first time I reached orgasm was in my bedroom at home where I grew up. Then sometime last year, I discovered your site and made an attempt to use my hands, with no success. Then at Thanksgiving I was back home in that same room, where I first masturbated when I was 12, and in the middle of the night, I took almost 3 hours to use my hands and successfully achieved orgasm. It was an amazing experience! I felt powerful, extremely proud and very masculine. And it was back in the bedroom of my parents' house, where it all began.

Around 14, I was doing prone masturbation late at night, keeping myself up till midnight or 1 or 2 am. Looking at research now, I'm learning that this was extremely detrimental to my health, though at that age you have all kinds of energy and get away with a lot. Over time, in high school, I developed what I now know as IBS. I THINK that this was maybe a combination of doing prone, but also not getting enough sleep. I also ate late at night, around 9 or 10 pm. Then before bed, I would masturbate prone. Is that not putting a lot of pressure on the stomach area? If I had gotten a normal 8 hours of sleep, is prone masturbation possibly related to IBS?

So that cycle lasted for 20 years, and now at the age of 33, I'm learning that I need to get 8 to 9 hours of sleep, need to use my hands, and also not eat so late at night. This transition period is not easy of course in this fast paced stressed world and work we live in - however I'm making every effort to do the right things to stay healthy. I wanted to at least give you some of this information to get more insight. Since I've stopped prone, I've noticed I still have ibs, and some anxiety has come up in the last few months. I'm wondering if the prone position has caused irreversible damage?

A: Congratulations on overcoming prone masturbation. I suppose most boys learn to masturbate in the bedrooms they had at that age, especially males who masturbate prone. I'm glad that being back in that room gave you the symbolic force you needed to overcome prone; however, I would have advised against a 3-hour masturbating marathon. I advise males to abstain for a week before trying so that they will get results in less than an hour.

Prone masturbation, or any kind of masturbation, has absolutely nothing to do with IBS. I also question the relevance of not getting enough sleep and of late eating. Enough teenagers do all three of those things that we'd have an epidemic of IBS among the young if they were causes. Masturbating, prone or otherwise, does not stress your digestive system. Not everyone needs 8 hours of sleep, so don't presume that had anything to do with it. So keep up with whatever your doctor recommends for your IBS but don't expect that masturbating by hand will make it better.

4/22/13


Thanks for the help! I'm 17 and I started reading and I was scared of what I've done to myself! But HealthyStrokes.com is awesome! Thanks for the help! I started my abstinent cycle yesterday and I sure hope this works! Do you think this one week really will work?

A: Yes, one week is long enough for you to be able to masturbate conventionally. Giving up prone masturbation is only the first step. Over the next few months, you'll learn not only how to masturbate with your hand but also how to do so using less force. Soon, you will be able to do it in places you never thought you could. Within a few months, you'll notice a difference in your erections. It only gets better from here.

4/23/13


I started searching about prone masturbation when I heard comedian Jim Gaffigan make a joke about it and said it was a very serious condition. I'm 27 years old and have never been able to masturbate in the conventional way. After reading HealthyStrokes.com, I abstained from prone masturbation for 5 days and then tried to masturbate non-prone with my hand and after about 15-20 minutes I was unable to ejaculate. I came close but was unable to finish. I don't know if I should abstain for longer and then try again or I don't know. I have experienced several of the symptoms such as only being able to ejaculate during certain positions during sex and even losing erections after prolonged sex. I'm really worried about this and was wondering if you might have any other advanced options or advice on how to cure this problem. Any advice is highly appreciated and thanks for bringing this serious issue to the attention of the world.

A: Congratulations for deciding to overcome prone masturbation. Gaffigan is the second comedian who has made this part of his act and has spread the word to more men as a result.

Even if you are used to masturbating to orgasm prone in 15-20 minutes, you should expect that it will take you longer than that the first few times you masturbate supine. I think 30-45 minutes is a better guideline. Once you learn how to masturbate conventionally, the time will drop greatly. I think you will even soon be doing it more quickly than you masturbate prone. That has been the experience of most men. Start the clock over again from the last time you masturbated prone, and just to be sure, go seven days this time. When it's time to masturbate, plan to work at it for an hour. I hope you have a better time next time.

4/24/13


I'm 28, and I had masturbated prone since I was maybe 11 or 12, though I can't quite remember. The inability to come to orgasm, or even stay erect, for a partner happened in my first sexual experience and onward. I spent a lot of my life worrying that I would never be able to have a steady girlfriend, fall in love, get married, or have children. There have been dozens of times in life where I wished to escalate an interaction with a woman and was not able to, psychologically, due to a fear of my inability to be satisfied. I learned early on that it's not enough to give a woman sexual pleasure, because the inadequacy they feel as a result of my being unable to reach orgasm feels degrading to them and leaves them feeling unattractive and dejected.

A girl I'm seeing is a nurse and I told her about my problem before we had sex, so that my inability to reach orgasm would not scare her. In some ways it interested her. Like many times previously, the inability to orgasm during sex put me through a depressive period in which I did not feel the need or desire to masturbate for a week or so. When I started again, I followed the directions on HealthyStrokes.com and was able to masturbate using my hand in about 10 minutes. Knowledge of the feeling of a vagina was helpful, and my partner and I plan on trying again after I've masturbated conventionally for a month or two.

I just wanted to thank you and say I appreciate that HealthyStrokes.com exists. Many of my friends knew how I masturbated, and though my parents walked in on me several times in my teenage years, they never made any attempt to take me to a doctor or concern themselves that I masturbated unnaturally. I think it's hard to explain to people the horrible feeling that can happen when you're full of sexual energy but unable to satisfy it unless you're alone; that is, to be attracted to someone sexually even though you know that they can't satisfy you. There's a huge feeling of relief now that I'm on the road to normality. Thanks again!

A: Thanks for sharing your story. I'll be cheering for you as you go through these new phases. Good luck.

4/25/13


I read your web site not even three nights ago, and discovered that I actually had the prone problem, and it was the joy thing that I did so that I could relieve my needs. So I read over the dangers and I decided to stop then and there. So I abstained from masturbation for 3 days successfully and just last night, I tried masturbation in the conventional way for the first time. And hell, it was mind-blowing. It felt so much better than anything that I can remember doing prone. Thanks so much, HealthyStrokes.com really helped me. (age 14)

4/27/13


I am 16 years old and a junior in high school. I learned to masturbate with the prone method at age 6 and have been doing it more or less once a day since then aside from a few breaks I took. I never realized what I was doing was weird until my sophomore year of high school, since most of the time I'd do it sitting in my office chair by pressuring down with both hands. After searching on the Internet for others like me, I was happy to find HealthyStrokes.com, which had quite a bit of information on prone masturbation and such. This was on 4/6/13. After masturbating once prior to reading your web site on that day, I have stopped cold turkey because I really, really want to fix this problem. Every day now since the first week of abstinence from masturbation I have tried to do it the normal method. It does not seem to work for me. I get myself to a complete erection and I do not feel any build up past that and after several minutes of stroking I eventually lose my erection and have to give up for that night. What do you suggest doing? I am willing to do whatever it takes to be able to masturbate the normal way. I have wanted to for a very long time now.

A: It will work for you. It works for everyone. Try to relax and don't be so focused on having an orgasm. Just enjoy your masturbating session and get into it with visual aids or whatever you need. It's OK if you use a huge amount of force and a very fast stroke speed your first few times masturbating to orgasm by hand. As you get accustomed to the feeling, work at stroking slower and using less force.

4/27/13


I have masturbated prone ever since I was six, and I just stopped and began to do it the usual way last week. However, my left testicle seems broken; it dosent have the ball shape anymore, and a small part of it is coming off but still attached to it. I know this happened when I used to do it prone; how can I fix this? Is this permanent damage and will it not allow me to have children? Please answer soon I am very scared and worried. (age 13)

A: You are probably confusing the epididymis at the back of the testicle with it. Just ask your doctor to examine the testes. He will doubtless tell you they're fine.

5/8/13


I have been masturbating prone since 9 or 10 years old (around 5 years). I came across HealthyStrokes.com a week ago and decided to try quitting. I held off for a week and when I tried to masturbate conventionally today, nothing happened for 30 minutes and it was frustrating so I gave up and jacked off prone. I've never masturbated conventionally. How long should I wait before trying again? (age 14)

You blew seven days of abstinence by being impulsive. Wait seven days again from your last orgasm and try again. If you don't succeed right away, wait a few hours or even until the next day, but don't give in and do prone.

5/12/13


When I masturbate and ejaculate it's only about 1/2 teaspoon of semen. What is the normal amount I should produce? I remember when I was a teenager it was A LOT more than 1/2 teaspoon. Could it be from prone masturbating for so many years I damaged something or affected something in my penis/testicles? (age 27)

A: The average ejaculate volume is 5-7 ml, or just over a teaspoon. It doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong if your volume is lower than that. I don't know how masturbating prone could affect your volume. I recommend giving up prone masturbation forever. After a few months of masturbating conventionally, you will have a better idea of your typical ejaculate volume.

5/16/13


I am in the process of giving up prone masturbation. Is it OK to use the Fleshlight while I am on my stomach or should I also use that when I am on my back if I should use it at all. (age 27)

A: I am against use of the Fleshlight. It is better if you use your hands to masturbate. That is the point of giving up prone masturbation. There is no reason to replace one defective form of masturbating with another.

5/17/13


I have been prone masturbating for 16 years now and wish to stop. I just got the flu today and have no desire to masturbate. Would this be a good time to start the 7 day abstinence program? I usually get sick for about 5 days until I get better. (age 27)

A: Yes, that is a happy coincidence. Around the time your head clears up, you will have a new way of orgasm. Isn't that exciting?

5/18/13


I've been masturbating in a prone position for the last 15 years or so and have had no problem getting and staying aroused during sex but I rarely can finish and when I do it's not nearly as powerful as when I masturbate. I'm planning on stopping since I read HealthyStrokes.com but I've tried the normal way to masturbate before and have never been close to orgasm. After two weeks of abstinence, if I can't finish masturbating the normal way, should I just keep trying each day until I can or should I release how I normally do and then start the abstinence period again?

A: You definitely don't want to masturbate prone again. If you can't make it when you try conventional, just stop and try again the next day. After two weeks, it ought to be pretty easy to masturbate to orgasm using only your hand.

5/25/13


Since age 7 I have masturbated in the prone position by thrusting my penis into my hands. Essentially, I lie on top of my hands and exert a large amount of pressure onto the base of my penis. Your web site is a life saver. I always thought that I was the only guy in the world who did this, and after having intercourse and being unable to orgasm, and barely get and keep and erection, I realized that something was wrong. I still am uncured and am going to start the journey to recovery. I would like all the help I could get. Once I begin the process of being cured I will keep a daily journal to hopefully be published on your site to help other men like me. I believe I suffer the most, as I am unable to orgasm during sex or get an erection.

A: If you've read HealthyStrokes.com, you know the cure regimen I recommend. Basically, give up prone forever and all masturbation and intercourse for about a week, and then you will be able to masturbate conventionally. You might be able to have sex a month after that. It is a happy journey.

6/5/13


A few days ago I read up about masturbation on the HealthyStrokes.com web site, and came across prone masturbation. This is something I've been doing since I was 13/14 and have always orgasmed when doing it. I have done this every day or every other day. I was unaware that this may be why I fail to orgasm any other way. I have had no problem stopping prone masturbation.

How long will it take for me to get over prone masturbation and start feeling sex and able to orgasm?

What technique do I use when masturbating the right way, meaning how to hold and where to hold and how long for and what grip etc?

Can I still have sex while getting over prone masturbation, or should it be avoided until I can?

I never have masturbated by hand will it improve feeling if I do? (age 25)

A: Yes, I am fairly certain that prone masturbation is the reason you have never orgasmed any other way. After a week of abstinence, you should be able to masturbate conventionally. It will feel a lot better for you after a few weeks. When masturbating conventionally, at first you can use as much force and speed as you need. As you get more used to conventional masturbation, work at stroking slower and with less force. Learn to understand the power of a light touch. Having sex while getting over prone will make it more difficult. I recommend being able to masturbate by hand daily for a month before having sex for the first time after switching. You will like the feeling of conventional masturbation a lot better after you are used to it.

6/9/13


First off, let me express my gratitude to you for constructing this site. It has really helped me gain a better understanding of my problem. I started prone masturbation around the age of 3 or 4 at my preschool. I would position my hands firmly near my shaft and squirm and jerk around until I climaxed. I conducted prone masturbation quite often, perhaps every other day or maybe daily, starting around the age of 4. I experienced tremendous climaxes, and this euphoria was just incredible. I ended prone masturbation around the age of 13 when I started to ejaculate and it would end up in my hands. I did it very seldom from the age of 13 to 17, maybe a few times a year.

The other day I was listening to Louis CK explaining the dangers of prone masturbation so I came to your site. I am almost 18 now, and I can masturbate conventionally just fine. However, when I have sex with my girlfriend, which I have been doing for about 9 months now, I have no other choice than to be on bottom and let her do the work. Whenever I try missionary or doggy style, I go flaccid within a minute or two. The only time I don't run into problems is when I'm on bottom or when I am receiving oral sex.

As I enter my freshman year of college, I am afraid of the long-term implications of prone masturbation. I am concerned about my ability to be sexually dynamic as I approach college and later years of life.

What are your opinions about where I stand in terms of my future? Will I need to just accept the situation and stick to bottom? Or will I be okay in time? Any input helps.

A: I am surprised that you're still having trouble considering you gave up prone masturbation four years ago and have been masturbating satisfactorily with your hand since. The thing that comes most readily to mind is to abstain from masturbation for 4-5 days before you have sex. You are apt to have an easier time reaching orgasm and staying erect when it's been that long. As you get more accustomed to sexual functioning, you can reduce the abstinence interval.

6/11/13


Long story short, I'm 16 and a half and just found out that prone is a bad habit and a big problem in the future and I need some serious help overcoming it. Research led me to here. I've been doing it since I was about 8. I am scared I may never be able to recover fully. I am able to become erect while watching videos and hold it for a while, some times I can't and resort to the wrong way. The only way I can ejaculate is prone.

Should I bring it up next time I go to the doctor? I seriously want to overcome this problem and I need help doing it. I'm afraid it's already too late.

A: It isn't too late. You're a lot younger than many men where when they found out about this problem. You probably don't need a doctor. Nearly everyone has overcome prone masturbation through self-help, starting with HealthyStrokes.com.

6/14/13


I've been prone masturbating almost daily for a good 3 years now (I'm 14) and I thought it was normal. I've just read your page and realized its doing me a lot of harm and as of now I aim to never go back to it and I'll be going by people's words on how good your techniques are to cure myself. The last time I masturbated prone was this morning.

My concern is that I'll end up returning to prone because the orgasm won't be as nice as it is with prone. Recently I've been prone masturbating up until ejaculation and quickly turning around onto my back and using my right hand to conventionally masturbate in the 5 second period before ejaculation. My fear is I will end up going back to this.

Have I done myself physiological and physical damage for intercourse when I'm older?

A: The orgasm initially won't feel as good from conventional masturbation because you're not used to it. Within a few weeks of masturbating conventionally, you'll be able to do it anywhere you want and with greater flexibility than you've experienced masturbating prone. I think it's a good thing that you've been flipping onto your back at the point of orgasm.

I've never known anyone who had physical damage from prone masturbation, and I've known men who did it for decades longer than you did. I think you will be fine.

6/16/13


I am a 15 year old male. I have been masturbating prone and I successfully went for a week with out masturbating and I started masturbating conventionally which I did for 40 minutes but had no orgasm. I maintained my erection, watched visual aids to masturbate to, and I am positive I am masturbating correctly. I haven't relapsed yet so now I don't know if I need to start over and wait a week or a couple more days and try again or if I can try again tomorrow since I didn't have an orgasm. I'm not sure what to do.

A: Try again tomorrow. You only need to restart the week of abstinence if you give in and masturbate prone.

7/19/13


I am 19 years old and masturbated prone for a number of years, up until the last year, when I started following your advice. I tried a month of no sexual activity with my partner; all I did was masturbate the conventional way. I now continue to do so, and I would just like to ask what exactly should I do? After the month, I had intercourse and still nothing had changed. Do I go a week without masturbation, a month of it and then a month of being cured before I can achieve orgasm during intercourse? Or is it just one month and then I will be fine?

A: Nothing magical will happen after a month of giving up prone and masturbating daily by hand. You still need to get used to the feeling of your partner's vagina. If you were anorgasmic before, you will not necessarily start having orgasms with her immediately. For the present time, simply enjoy the feeling of having intercourse with her, and don't worry so much about whether or not you can have an orgasm. For most women, it doesn't make a big difference if the man has an orgasm or not. It is also helpful to start masturbating with lube once you're used to doing it by hand. Using a masturbation sleeve like the Super Head Honcho (sold on Amazon and Drugstore.com, among others) also helps a formerly prone male get used to the soft touch of a vagina.

7/24/13


I'm 27 and from Germany. I've been masturbating prone since I was 12 and suffering from ED for years now when I try to have sexual intercourse with a woman. I really had no idea why I have problems with ED and had good erections while masturbating prone. I would never have thought about prone masturbation as the reason, so your site really opened my eyes!! Thank you for that!!

8/29/13


I've been masturbating in the prone position forever. I'm 16 and I've always known the correct way to do it but could never reach an orgasm doing it. Recently I got a girlfriend and it's embarrassing that I can't climax when she gives me manual and oral intercourse. I've quit masturbating prone and haven't done it in over a week. I still allow her to try and give me manual and today I tried to masturbate the normal way with lotion with no success. All I want is a normal sex life. When I masturbate conventionally, I can hold an erection. Today I went 15-20 minutes and didnt feel like I was going to have an orgasm.

A: On HealthyStrokes.com, I recommend abstaining for a week. You have not abstained completely; you have been engaged in manual intercourse, although not to orgasm. I recommend doing a week of complete abstinence and then trying to masturbate to orgasm. You can do it.

9/4/13


I have been masturbating prone since around the age of 10. I only found out about your site recently and have been doing the 7-day abstention program but every time I hit the 7-day mark, a total of 3 times now, and masturbate the conventional way, I get little to no pleasure and don't really get close to orgasm. Do you have any other tips or explanation as to why this is and what I can do to remedy it? (age 19)

A: After 9 years of prone masturbation, supine masturbation will feel different. It will be a few weeks before you're really enjoying conventional masturbation. Don't be focused on pleasure right now. Just work on making yourself orgasm. When you think you're getting close, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you have an orgasm. When you get used to the new feeling, then work at stroking more slowly and with less force.

9/10/13


I gave up prone masturbation succesfully five months ago. When I masturbate in the supine position, I've always used lube. Now I can't seem to reach orgasm without it. Is this a good or a bad thing? (age 24)

A: Most men your age use lube. It is good for your penis and helps you use less force than you might without lube. I think it's good that you are a regular lube user.

9/11/13


I can't thank you enough for raising awareness in prone masturbation through HealthyStrokes.com! I would have never been able to find out what the problem was had it not been for your site. It was so relieving to find out that many other suffered from the same problem that I had. Thank you! When I first stumbled across the site, I was extremely nervous that I had caused permanent damage to myself because of masturbating in the prone position. I immediately started abstaining so that I could learn the conventional way. I learned to masturbate prone when I was 13 years old and didn't know any other way. I am now 20 and by the help of the HealthyStrokes.com site was finally able to masturbate the conventional way! I'm finding it difficult to achieve a full erection when I need it or the ability to achieve an erection at all. The only sure way is to look at pornography. I haven't been able to do it the conventional way without pornography. If I try without the images and try using only mental images, I often lose my erection. I was wondering if I have caused physical damage or if this is just a psychological thing? Will my erections become fuller by abstaining from the prone position or is this something that will not change because of my old ways of masturbation?

A: You are new to conventional masturbation, so now is not the time to give up whatever helps you get or maintain an erection. Even if you did not have a history of prone masturbating, by age 20, the mental pictures of lots of men are wearing thin. So either way, it is not a surprise that you prefer looking at images to losing your erection and not being able to finish. Pictures are not as much of a crutch as they are a time-saver. However, after you have been masturbating conventionally for a few months, you will notice that it is easier for you to masturbate in a variety of settings, and at that point, you should try to get by without images once or twice a month.

9/13/13


After three days, without waiting the full seven, I trIed to masturbate lying on my back. I tried for 45 minutes and ripped myself raw. This morning I tried again with a petroleum-based lube for an hour and still nothing. While I know I should wait more days, I've not reverted to prone or sex with my wife. I am discouraged and frankly pretty messed about the whole thing. Any advice? I've never ejaculated by hand or mouth. (age 34)

A: While a 15 year old might be able to succeed after three days' abstention, you owe it to yourself to give the program a full week. You should not damage the penile skin while masturbating. That is bad. I suggest putting some lotion or water-based lube on your penis (so it can heal, not for masturbating), and then start the clock again. I also advise against the petroleum-based lube when you masturbate again next week. They are the goopiest lubes, and not very many males your age like goopy oil-based lubes. I advise against switching to any kind of lube until you're habituated to supine masturbation.

9/23/13

Follow-up: It feels like today is one of the most important days of my life. I healed up a bit and tried again today (6 days since last prone) and I ejaculated by my hand only lying flat on my back. This is the first time this has ever happened in my entire life. It took about 30 minutes. I tried a few different videos to help. Halfway through I got discouraged and tried to get my wife to have sex. That was not successful, so I went back downstairs determined to finish. I zeroed in on a video I liked, went fast but not as hard as last time, and started to get that feeling and went with it. Next thing I knew I had done it. I almost feel like it wasn't even real! I will wait a few days per your instructions and try again.

9/24/13


I have been masturbating prone for about 16 years. I didn't know it was a bad thing and after read your articles I am planning to quit. What should I do if the conventional way will not work for me after 7 days of abstaining? (age 30)

A: If you can't masturbate to orgasm after a week of abstaining from masturbation, wait two days and try again. Most males, especially as young as you, are very eager to masturbate to orgasm by hand after all that abstaining. Don't be discouraged if you can't do it right away, and definitely don't go back to prone. Just wait another two days and have at it again.

9/24/13


I have masturbated prone since 13. I stopped a week ago. Today (seven days later) I tried to masturbate conventionally, but I didn't succeed. I also didn't exactly know how to do it. Afterward I masturbated prone, but I stopped before getting an orgasm. Then I masturbated to orgasm by hand. Is this a good first step to unlearn prone masturbation or is it useless? (age 20)

A: That is not a solution. The only way to give up prone masturbation is to give it up. Going halfway will not help and might even make matters worse. It is usually pretty easy to give up prone (learn conventional) at your age. Your mistake was that you went back to prone after only trying to masturbate with your hand once. You should have waited a day (perhaps two) and tried again. You should now reset your counter to zero at the last time you masturbated prone and wait a week (perhaps longer) again.

9/29/13


I've been masturbating both prone and conventionally since age 13 (50/50 ratio). I had normal sexual intercourse at age 16, but now at age 19 I am experiencing ED and complete desensitization of my penis during intercourse. How long will it take for my penis to become normal after stopping prone since I can already masturbate normally?

A: Most men notice an improvement in their erections in 3-4 months after giving up prone. It will be easier for you since conventional masturbation is not new for you.

9/30/13


All my life I've masturbated prone. I've always known it's odd but it always felt so good. Only once in my life have I reached orgasm during sex. I started your program on a Sunday, and I didn't masturbate at all for a week, and the following Sunday I reached orgasm through oral sex for the first time ever. In the week since then I've only masturbated twice the conventional way and have orgasmed both times!

Your program really works. I will stick to it. It really is worth it. (age 39)

A: Good job, but I advise against being cured by having sex. I'm glad it worked for you.

10/11/13


I learned how to switch over from prone to conventional masturbation a few years ago from reading HealthyStrokes.com, and I always wanted to say thanks. I feel like you've saved me from embarrassing problems I would have faced during sex with a woman. I used to worry how I'd be able to finish sex if I can't achieve orgasm unless I'm rubbing against an object, but your conventional masturbation tutorial set me straight and put aside that anxiety. The 3 biggest things that helped me were not masturbating for a week which made me more sensitive to sexual stimulation, using a quality K-Y lubricant, and when it came time to masturbate, to do it in a locked room alone and away from any distractions. I hope this tutorial remains unchanged for others , because it really does work. Thanks again.

A: Congratulations on switching!

10/31/13


I have just found your site about prone masturbation and I wish I had found it years ago. I am 38 and have been prone masturbating for 32 years. I have never been able to orgasm from oral sex and very rarely have I orgasmed from manual intercourse. Lately I have real struggles been able to reach orgasm during sex (even in missionary) and no other position even comes close. As of about a month ago, I have even been struggling to reach orgasm from prone masturbation. Is it too late to change at my age? I have tried supine masturbation for the past month and I can't do it. I am really worried about this so any help you could offer would be good.

A: Yes, you can change even at your age. Many men have done it. I am thinking that you should see a doctor for some blood tests to rule out another condition, because you're suddenly having trouble masturbating even prone after 32 years of doing it that way.

11/18/13


You can show signs of carpal tunnel syndrome if you masturbate face down against the bed and put your hand under your body, so your body is pressing against your wrist. I speak from experience. I see now how this behavior has contributed to my being a 58 year old virgin. I will take your advice.

A: I have never heard that before, but I don't doubt that it's possible. Masturbating face down also makes it possible to hurt the feet, if they're going to be pressing against the bed in an awkward fashion.

11/22/13


I have been masturbating prone my entire life. I did a search today and came across HealthyStrokes.com. I absolutely panicked after reading about prone masturbation, as I never knew this was a problem. I simply thought that it was a different style of masturbating. I do have some of the symptoms, and I want to know if I might have permanent damage, and if my penis will be desensitized forever. Is it too late for me at 27? What should I do? (age 27)

A: It is not too late. Please abstain from masturbating for 7 days or so and then learn to masturbate conventionally. You can be different by Christmas!

11/24/13


I masturbated prone since I started to masturbate at 14, and thanks to HealthyStrokes.com, I have changed to the normal way. But with my girlfriend I still cant reach orgasm. I try for 30 or more minutes but I just cant. Im starting to think that Im never gonna be able to fix this situation. Ive never had an orgasm by penetration. (age 25)

A: Keep trying. You don't say how long ago you quit masturbating prone. It takes time to change. It will be easier to reach orgasm inside your girlfriend if you abstain from masturbating for 5-7 days before your intercourse. As you get more experienced with ejaculating in intercourse, you can reduce that interval.

11/26/13


I was free for 9 months. I slipped up then got back on the wagon. I am going on 10 days now and have no intention of going back to it.

A: Congratulations on not masturbating prone for nine months. Most males cheat occasionally by doing prone after they switch to conventional masturbation. Don't be ashamed of having masturbated prone occasionally. You don't need to do the abstinence period over again once you have learned to masturbate conventionally.

12/4/13


I masturbated prone for nine years ages 8-16. Obviously it was more moderate when younger like once a week or even less. As I got older from 12-16 it was daily. The last time I masturbated prone was Thanksgiving of 2012. Since then I've masturbated conventionally 40+ times including going for a month daily last summer. I can masturbate sitting and standing up with legs spread apart. Would you say I'm cured now and can have normal sexual intercourse with a female? Would you say I did any permanent damage? (age 18)

A: The definition of being over prone masturbation is that you can masturbate daily by hand for a month. I doubt there was any permanent damage, and I think sexual intercourse with a female would be fun and exciting and successful for you. I must say I'm suspicious of you only having masturbated about 40 times in over a year when your history is of daily masturbation.

12/27/13


I've been masturbating prone for years and only jack off to pregnant women. How can I stop this and why do you think I'm turned on by it? (age 18)

A: Many people have fetishes. They probably originate in childhood. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them. It's good if you can be turned on by more than one thing. I would suggest giving up prone masturbation first and then working on diversifying your fantasies later. Knowing what turns you on will make it easier for you to learn to masturbate conventionally.

12/30/13


I've been masturbating prone my entire life. I'm confident that I can change, but is there such thing as having permanent damage to your penis? If so, how is permanent damage caused and what would the damage be? (age 29)

A: In nearly 12 years writing HealthyStrokes.com, I've never heard of anyone who got permanent damage to their penis from masturbating prone, but that doesn't mean it's impossible. There is a condition called Peyronie's disease that might be made worse by masturbating prone, but in general men who are diagnosed with it have no history of prone masturbation. I have to ask... if you're confident that you can change, why haven't you?

1/4/14


I started masturbating around 6 or 7. I began in the prone position because I didn't know what I was doing. I discovered HealthyStrokes.com recently and made it a goal to begin masturbating normally and tonight I finally did it. It didn't feel as good as prone but I'm happy I managed to do it normally. I was wondering if it's normal for it not to feel as good for the first few times? Will it start to feel better as time goes on? (age 14)

A: Congratulations on giving up prone at an age when some boys aren't even masturbating yet! After years of prone, it is not surprising that your first time doing it supine felt different. But it is a good kind of different. Keep up with masturbating conventionally, and you will like it a lot better in a few weeks.

1/4/14


I masturbate prone with my underwear and pants on. I think the clothes reduce the pressure on the penis compared to naked penis, but still more than supine masturbation, so it's harmful too. Unfortunately, in my case, sleeping with clothes doesn't help. For me, lying prone is enough to have the temptation to do bed humping. (age 23)

A: I recommend giving up prone forever, with or without clothes. If lying prone tempts you to masturbate prone, then don't lie prone. You can do it.

12/27/13


I have just gotten married to a 20-year-old man and have always thought he was just hard to finish or very finnicky when it came to orgasm, as he's actually never had one in my presence that I know of. It's been a few weeks since we were married but we've known each other for two years (trying to give reasonable time for adjustment from a masturbation to a sex mindset). But I've only now realized that he practices prone grinding masturbation as described on HealthyStrokes.com. All the pieces fall into place. He acts exactly as described by all of the documentation.

I haven't broached the subject with him, I just discovered it now. How do I go about this? (age 24)

A: Interestingly, you don't say whether you're male or female. Either way, he has to be the one who wants to change. If you already know that he masturbates by thrusting in the prone position, then you can ask him if he knows that prone masturbation is a cause of sexual dysfunction in males, and then show him HealthyStrokes.com. After that, he should want to change. If he doesn't, then I think you have a problem.

1/5/14


I've been masturbating prone since forever. I do it by hand too, but mostly it's prone. I'm 21 and I have no problems in ejaculating when masturbating by hand or prone. I do it successfully. But whenever I've tried to be intimate with my girl, either it leads to erectile dysfunction or I ejaculate within a minute in missionary. Other positions lead to ED. What should I do? If I can masturbate by hand successfully, do I need to abstain from masturbating to quit prone masturbation?

A: I suggest giving up prone forever and only masturbating using the light touch of your hand. The purpose of the abstinence period is to enable you to learn to masturbate by hand for the first time. Since you already know how, there is no reason for you to abstain. Just pledge to give up prone forever.

1/6/14


I used to masturbate prone and with the help of you I can now normally jerk off. But I have noticed that in order to reach orgasm, I have to tense up my legs and my butt. This makes it impossible to climax during any sort of sexual activity with my girlfriend. I'm wondering what to do, I've stopped watching porn, but I'm trying to focus on masturbating without flexing my body and to do so I resorted to the help of porn without luck. It seems I just cannot reach an orgasm without flexing my whole body. Please help!

A: Most males (and many females) tense their legs when masturbating. It prevents sensations from the legs from interfering with the orgasm. Many people also do something like this in intercourse. You don't say what you and your girlfriend are doing, but it ought to be possible for you to hold your legs and butt tense during sexual activity with her. As you get more experienced, it will be easier for you to reach orgasm without doing the tensing. Practice makes perfect.

1/11/14


Why is lying down supine the best position (as opposed to standing or sitting) when recovering from prone masturbation?

A: It is most relaxing to lie down. I think that's why most people sleep lying down (as opposed to standing or sitting). Most guys start masturbating while sitting (often at the computer) after they have learned to masturbate lying down, and standing often comes next. One thing at a time.

1/12/14


You're a life saver. I'm 14 and I've been subconsciously masturbating prone every night of my life since approximately the age of 6 and so recently when I realised that I couldn't feel anything whenever I tried to masturbate supine, I went on an Internet hunt which led me to HealthyStrokes.com. From you I learned that I truly did have a problem and I swore to a week of abstinence. After only two days of abstaining, I tried masturbating supine. I tried three or four times in quick succession and on the fourth try I had success, the first orgasm that I ever reached supine as well as the biggest and by far the best one that I have ever reached in my life. I know that I am not yet fully cured, but I'm hoping that it will be a lot easier from here and I know that in time I will become fully used to the supine method and with that I will regain my sensitivity.

Thank you for saving my sex life, my social life and most importantly potentially my future children's lives. You are literally a life saver and your work deserves credit.

To all those who think prone masturbation isn't a problem, open your eyes! Read all of our stories! And even if you don't believe it after all that, take a moment to think to yourselves, "is my sex life worth the effort?"

Put in the effort and listen to this man.

A: Thank you for your kind words. The point I repeatedly make to the doubters is that masturbating by hand is a basic sexual skill and any male who can't do that has a problem.

1/15/14


I am quitting prone masturbation. I have not yet fully grasped normal masturbation, but when I try, my erection responds a lot to pressure at the base. I read about this as a bad thing here, but was wondering if less pressure is applied in this method? Can I indulge myself with pressure at the base, or is it still bad? (age 16)

A: Congratulations on deciding to quit prone masturbation. It does not matter where you touch when you are trying to learn conventional masturbation. If the base works for you, then go for it. As you get more accustomed to the sensation, you will pay more attention to the shaft and head of the penis and less to the base. When you are confident enough in your conventional masturability, then I would suggest using lube, at which point you will be able to stroke your penile head.

1/16/14


I have gotten myself to start masturbating conventionally for almost about an year now. But it takes a long time for me to be able to achieve orgasm in this manner - seven to eight minutes if not more. With prone I remember I had complete control and could even get there in under two minutes. Also, I find that doing it the conventional way requires way more concentration and does not at all feel relaxing. Will this ever pass? (age 19)

A: 7-8 minutes is about an average time, perhaps on the short side for a male your age. Most men let their sessions last at least 10 minutes. You have more control now that you did doing it prone. You are still dealing with the aftermath of the tremendous amount of force you put on your penis masturbating prone. Most would say prone takes more concentration and is not as relaxing as conventional. Have you joined the Yahoo support group? Many in the group could probably give you guidance about this process.

1/17/14


I found out about prone masturbation 3 weeks ago now. I had been masturbating this way for a long as I know. I knew it was weird and I tried masturbating by hand a couple of times but it never worked so I continued masturbating prone. Now I tried to have sex with my girlfriend the first time 3 weeks ago and it just didn't work, she couldn't get me off by oral or by hand. She thought it was her fault and after I explained the way I masturbated, she obviously thought it was weird but we didn't think much of it. Then we found out it is harmful and I really want to do something about it so I can function normally during sexual activities. It has been 2-2.5 weeks since I last masturbated prone and I tried the week without any masturbation or sexual contact at all but I still couldn't get myself to orgasm. What should I do now? Try another week, or just try every couple of days until it works? (age 17)

A: As long as you don't go back to prone, you don't need to reset the week counter. If it doesn't work one day, try again the next day, or after two days, if you were too rough.

1/25/14


I've been masturbating prone since I could remember and I've recently discovered that it is unhealthy and I've linked this to my difficulty to maintain an erection for intercourse. I read HealthyStrokes.com and I haven't masturbated prone (or at all) in over a week. But when I masturbate the regular way it doesn't feel that good. It just feels like I'm touching my penis. My girlfriend gave me a handjob at the 7 day mark and it felt better than usual but when I do it myself it's nothing special. I'm in dire need of help. (age 14)

A: Please follow the instructions more carefully. They call for you to learn the regular way of masturbating. In order to do that, you need to masturbate. It doesn't help you at this point to have a hand job. Just like when you were learning to masturbate the first time, it might only feel like just touching yourself for a while. Within a short time you will get used to the new feeling and enjoy it very much. Take your time and relax.

1/26/14


How many times (roughly) must a man masturbate standing or sitting to be considered cured? (age 18)

A: I advocate relearning to masturbate by lying on your back (reclining on one or more pillows) instead of sitting or standing. My rule of thumb is that you're finished with prone masturbation when you've been able to masturbate conventionally daily for a month, so no fewer than 30 times.

1/30/14


I have made a lot of progress in breaking my prone habit. I now lie on my back, and it has nearly been a year since I switched. However, I am still having difficulty when it comes to sex and not being able to orgasm. I am pretty sure this stems from flexing my abs and legs when I am masturbating, not just when I orgasm. It takes more than just stroking my penis to orgasm. I need definitely need to flex myself. Is this a problem? I just recently tried masturbating without flexing and is very difficult and I found myself relying heavily on rubbing the front of my penis head for great stimulation. 4th of July I had the best sex I've had with no condom. I didn't orgasm though because I feared my pre-cum was enough to get her pregnant. (age 24)

A: Congratulations on giving up prone. Most males and many females hold their legs taut during masturbation, so I don't think it's a problem if you do. I've never heard anyone say they flex their abs. If you're still dealing with delayed orgasm in intercourse after quitting prone, I recommend masturbating with a Super Head Honcho toy, available on Amazon and Drugstore.com. You might also enjoy the different feeling of masturbating in a kneeling position. It is a challenge for the male who tenses his legs. There are other forms of birth control besides condoms. You might look into those.

2/5/14


I am 29 years old and have been doing prone since I was 5. I've never had a wet dream. I didn't realize I could ejaculate until I was 13 or 14. I had oral performed on me when I was 14 and had hand jobs too but I think all I produced was pre-cum. I haven't ejaculated from oral since. I masturbate prone thrusting into my fist and I almost always have a soft penis when doing so. It hurts if I'm erect. I thrust in and out and usually ejaculate within 2 minutes although I can last longer if I want. I've always been worried about this. I have always been embarrassed because my friends talk about masturbating with their hands and I've tried many times but can't ejaculate that way. It's very frustrating. I've been doing prone for so long maybe I can't learn to masturbate normally. Is it too late? When I have sex I always have to ejaculate stretched out and my legs shake. I am married and have a child but I can only have intercourse in a small number of positions.

A: It is never too late to change from prone to conventional masturbation, and I wish you would. You should probably tell your wife what the problem is because you'll need to go about two months without sex. If you start abstaining from masturbation and intercourse now, you will probably be able to masturbate to orgasm by hand about a week from now, and it will take another week before you'll be able to masturbate by hand daily, and once you start masturbating to orgasm by hand daily, you should do so for a month before having sex with a partner. Go for it! You will be glad you did and so will your wife.

2/9/14


I masturbated prone until I was around 19. I have masturbated conventionally for the last 12 years. Am I cured? I have fine sex. (age 31)

I think you are cured, but I hate the word "fine." To me, it always seems like it means merely "OK, adequate, nothing special."

2/10/14


HealthyStrokes.com is extremely helpful. Through it, I learned about prone masturbation, which I have been doing for years. Now that I know it's harmful, I've been trying to stop. The problem I'm having is that I'm not feeling aroused while masturbating conventionally, even while looking at porn or thinking sexual thoughts. On top of that, I'm not sure if I have the self-restraint to stop doing it for a while. How can I change my method? (age 16)

A: Of course you have the self-restraint. You have to decide that you want to change. Then you only have to hold off for about a week. When you try after the week, make sure you're highly aroused and ready to go. You can do it. You are young and can change easily.

2/13/14


I'm 21 and a virgin. I've masturbated prone my entire life, but in April I'll travel to see my girlfriend and she already told she will give me oral sex. I'm really scared, since if I masturbate prone, I won't be able to enjoy it. I already quit masturbating prone 3 days ago. Should I be able to be cured by April? I'm having trouble getting erections while I'm standing up. I only get them when I sit in bed. Is that normal? Can it be fixed?

A: Please keep up with switching from prone to regular masturbation. You ought to enjoy masturbating a lot more by April. But your best bet to reach orgasm through oral sex in April is to abstain from masturbating for at least a week before you see your girlfriend. I don't know why you can't get erect standing. That's another reason to decide to give up prone masturbation forever.

2/17/14


I would like to ask how you define young cause I would like to know which age group I am categorized into. I started proning at a very young age, less than 10. I thrust my penis into my hands. I can masturbrate in the conventional way without any problem (using pictures). I have trouble reaching orgasm when having sexual play with girls. Am I affected? (age 18)

A: Young is relative. 18 is pretty young. You are affected because you have trouble with girls. You can give up proning more easily than a male who doesn't masturbate conventionally. Just decide to give up prone forever and I think you will improve.

2/17/14


How long does it usually take to masturbate to orgasm the first time masturbating conventionally after doing prone one's entire life? (age 21)

It takes longer than whatever you were taking in prone. For many males, the first time takes 30 to 45 minutes but then gets shorter after that. Within a month, you'll be doing it faster than you were doing prone.

2/19/14


I thought I was the only one with the prone problem. I thought I had a problem that was affecting me negatively. I gave up prone 3 days ago, and I will never go back. Is it too late now? (age 33)

A: No, it's never too late. If you really gave up prone forever, you might notice a difference by Easter.

2/20/14


I have been proning since I was about 15 or 16 years old. I've noticed that I can't get erect as much and as long as I used to. When I am erect, my penis points almost straight up, meaning I don't think I would be able to do anything other than missionary sex. Please tell me this isn't permanent and that I'll be able to do other positions after I stop proning. (age 20)

A: You are pretty young and have only been doing prone for 4 or 5 years. From what you wrote, I think you're a virgin too. You can overcome prone this week and be masturbating conventionally seven days from now. You will be feeling much different by the time you have intercourse.

2/20/14


I have been masturbating prone since I was 12 years old (I'm 20 now). It was the way I taught myself to masturbate. I always knew it wasn't normal, however I was completely unaware of the bad effects of prone. I just convinced myself that nothing bad could come of it. It was only a week ago that I found out about prone, and so I followed your steps to recover, and went a week without masturbating.

It seems I also lost my sex drive this week. I actually have not been able to get/maintain an erection in over a week's time now. Today, I attempted masturbation the normal/healthy way for the first time, but found myself unable to hold an erection due to a total lack of sex drive.

A: Congratulations on taking such decisive action! There is nothing wrong with your sex drive. You're just experiencing the stress of making a change in your life. The first few times masturbating conventionally are apt to take longer than you're used to and might not feel all that good. Once you get used to it, you'll wonder how you ever lived so long without masturbating by hand. It will all work out fine.

2/28/14


Thank you for your information. After reading your site, I quit prone for 15 days, and now it's the 7th day and I'm able to masturbate conventionally, and it's as good as prone was. Even though it's only been 7 days, I feel cured. The first time took me 20 minutes, the second 15, and I just did it in 10. I'm doing this while on my bed. When should I try to masturbate standing? I tried in the shower and it felt like nothing. (age 21)

A: Congratulations on quitting prone! I would suggest waiting at least a few weeks before trying another position. Do it sitting or standing when you really feel like masturbating, not just as a new position to try. You will probably be more comfortable with other positions in a few weeks. I happen to think the shower is an acquired taste because the water coming down really alters your sensations.

3/5/14


I've been masturbating prone my entire life. I came across HealthyStrokes.com and realized that I needed to change, but I had a different experience that I want your feedback on. I was getting jerked by a female partner the other night, and I orgasmed for the first time without masturbating prone. I masturbated prone the day before without any abstinence period. Does this mean I'm cured? (age 28)

A: "Cured" of prone means that you can masturbate by hand daily for a month. It is a good sign that someone else can bring you to orgasm by hand, but you can't claim to be cured when you've never masturbated to orgasm any way besides prone.

3/8/14


I have been doing prone since I learned how to masturbate in the summer of 6th grade. If I stop doing it prone, will it make my penis smaller? (age 20)

A: No. Masturbating or not masturbating, or doing it prone or supine, will not make your penis bigger or smaller. But if you stop prone, you might enjoy your penis more and whatever size it is.

3/11/14


I have been prone masturbating since I was 6 years old. At times I did it almost every day and at other times not for a whole three months. Lately I discovered HealthyStrokes.com and am willing to leave prone. Do I need to leave masturbation for a complete week? Then I do it the conventional way, how many times a day? Will I be able to father a child? I'm planning on completely leaving masturbation until I have sex that would be probably when I'm 27. (age 15)

A: Yes, take about a week off from masturbating, and then masturbate conventionally once a day or every other day for a week or so. Then masturbate by hand daily for a month. Prone masturbation does not cause infertility. You will be able to produce babies just fine. I will end by predicting that instead of giving up masturbation completely until age 27, you will masturbate more than 2000 times between now and then. And I hope you have sex before you're 27.

3/15/14


I read this site and was surprised/relieved because everything that people were describing happened to me as well. I started masturbating prone at a very early age (maybe 5-6) and only a few years ago started realizing something wasn't natural about this, but I was not sure what. I am having SO much trouble with masturbating the conventional way, however, because whenever I sleep, I end up masturbating prone. I stopped sleeping naked and started taking sleeping pills, but nothing seems to be working. I haven't been able to masturbate the conventional way. I tried for 2 months now but am beginning to give up and go back to prone when I'm awake. Any suggestions? I want to be sexually active soon. (age 16)

A: Sleep masturbation generally only happens when a male is not wearing many clothes to bed or is sleeping naked. It is normal for the penis to erect during sleep, and the bodies of some males somehow respond by thrusting. I would suggest wearing underwear and something heavy to bed, like sweat pants. That ought to put a stop to your sleep masturbation. Once that is done, I hope you give up prone forever and get to experience the joy of conventional masturbation.

3/19/14


I've been masturbating prone with a pillow on the bed since I was about 13 and now I am 22 and recently switched, thanks to you. I used to sometimes get testicular pain from it. I've noticed that prone masturbation has caused my testicles to get real saggy. Is this normal? Also, they feel pretty hard. I know I should probably go see a doctor.

A: Congratulations on giving up prone masturbation. Prone masturbation does not damage your testes or scrotum. It is normal for the scrotum to sag when the body is warm. The scrotum pulls close to the body when it is cold or when the male is about to ejaculate. It is good for testes to feel hard, but only a doctor can say for sure. Any kind of sexual activity can lead to genital pain. See my page about unexplained prostate pain for more information.

3/20/14


I have masturbated prone since I was around 12 and I have masturbated more or less daily ever since. I always had a feeling that masturbating in this way was unusual and may lead to problems. After noticing a lack of sensation in my penis and reading the information on HealthyStrokes.com, I realize now that I must stop it forever. Because masturbating prone with an erection was quite painful for me, I have almost always masturbated to a flaccid or semi-flaccid penis and was able to achieve orgasm that way very easily. Also, because of a fear of my parents walking in on me, I have always masturbated fully clothed. Should I go straight into conventional masturbation right away after my abstinence period or should I become accustomed to masturbating with an erect penis and exposed in incremental steps? (age 19)

A: I recommend taking it one step at a time. First give up prone and take a week off from any masturbating. Then you should be able to masturbate by hand (unclothed) readily with an erection. Don't worry if you lose your erection before the end. I think you will enjoy regular masturbation a lot more than what you have been doing until now.

4/6/14


I have recently been having problems getting erect. I usually masturbate every two days and when I was younger, I used to prone against my bed. But I could always masturbate using my hand. I stopped doing prone masturbating and now recently I tried prone masturbation again and the day after I couldn't get an erection at all! It seems like my penis is incapable of becoming erect. Could I have damaged it when I was masturbating prone? I'm starting to think I've done permamanent damage. I'm quite worried. (age 18)

A: I've never heard of anyone who did permanent damage from prone masturbation. Most guys merely have to take a week-long break from masturbating and then they can learn to masturbate by hand. Since you already can, you don't have to do that, but it would be a good idea to decide to give up prone forever. I hope you will be able to erect again within a few days. I think it's mostly in your head.

4/9/14


I've been masturbating prone on my mattress since I was 14 and I've been using my hand in the bathtub since I was 16 but I mostly do prone masturbation because I like the practice for when I'll have intercourse with a special someone (though I'm still a virgin). I stopped prone masturbation a few days ago once I found HealthyStrokes.com but I want to do it manually by hand so how long do you think that I should take to recover if I stop prone masturbation? (age 26)

A: You ought to notice a difference in your erections within a few months. Strange as it seems to a male who learned masturbating by doing it prone, stroking with your hand is actually more similar to the feeling of a vagina than doing it prone. Please resolve to never go back to prone.

4/13/14


When I first started masturbating I did it prone. Luckily for me I had not been masturbating for that long and was able to quit, and I can now masturbate conventionally.

The only problem is that I now have a refractory persiod. I never used to have one - even back when I was doing it prone. Is there any way to get rid of the refractory period? Also, I feel like my erections are getting weaker and weaker. (age 16)

A: Congratulations on giving up prone. You always had a refractory period. You always will. This is the time after ejaculation when you cannot get another erection. At your age or younger, it might be as little as five minutes. As you get older, it will take longer and longer. For the next few years, plan on having a refractory period of 15 to 30 minutes.

4/15/14


I am recovering from prone and I no longer masturbate that way. I cannot get erections without touching my penis. I used to get erections from fantasy or by looking at an attractive girl but cannot anymore and only get full erections by physically touching my penis. Do you know this problem? (age 21)

A: Yes, that is typical for males with a history of masturbating prone. Eventually every male gets to the point where he has to physically stimulate his penis to get an erection. It typically happens to males who masturbate prone at an earlier age. The important thing is that you've given up prone. Keep working at enjoying conventional masturbation and other forms of sexuality. Don't worry so much about your erections. Enjoy them when they happen spontaneously, but don't be worried that you have to induce them physically.

4/18/14


I am 18, almost 19, and I see similarities and contrasts in what I have read here and what I actually experience. I discovered prone masturbation at a very early age, probably around 3 or 4, and I did it daily, sometimes multiple times each day, until I was around 12. I lost my virginity when I was 17, but it took about 6 takes to do it. I now have a new girlfriend and we have had sex a couple of times, but I have been unable to stay hard enough to slip on a condom, so we just do it bare.

With both girlfriends, the only time that I stay hard continually is when she is on top. My erection typically comes early on, but it goes away after a short time. As a young teenager, I could get erections all the time, even when holding a girl's hand, and I would even produce pre-cum. Now, when I'm ready to have sex with a beautiful girl, I just struggle to keep it up. I can masturbate by myself and orgasm within a couple minutes if I want.

I really want to put an end to this as it is kind of a self-esteem killer, but I don't want to take ED drugs as an 18 year old. Any advice? While some of my troubles may be due to lapses in mental confidence, I do believe that much of my troubles are due to prone masturbation in my earlier years. Also, I know you seem to refute this notion on HealthyStrokes.com, but do cases really tend to not be permanent?

A: You don't say if you still masturbate prone. Your story skips from masturbating at age 12 to having sex at 17. If you still masturbate prone, then the first thing to do is give that up. If you really stopped masturbating prone at 12, then I don't think what you're experiencing now is a result of that. You have only had sex a few times and are still pretty inexperienced. I would say to keep working on being better at sex and don't go for ED pills yet. Also, keep in mind that you are having unsafe sex, so you should be certain that your partner is disease-free and monogamous and that she is taking steps to prevent pregnancy.

4/27/14


I masturbated in prone position beginning in early childhood. A year ago, I discovered HealthyStrokes.com and tried to switch to the face-up position. It did not work at first and I gave up and went back to prone. But, this past January, after abstaining for one month, I tried again. It took a lot of effort and I had to move my hand superfast, and finally I reached orgasm and ejaculated. Thanks be to God! Since then I always masturbate on my back and never in the prone position. I don't use any images to get excited. I only imagine making love or I remember pictures that I saw in the past.

For the first time in my life I met a woman who wants to have sex with me. I like her, but my penis refused to stand up when we were together. Fortunately, she was forgiving. I have never had sex in my life. Maybe because I masturbated prone for so many years, I won't be able to have sex ever? (age 32)

A: Congratulations on giving up prone masturbation. Congratulations also on finding a potential sex partner. In addition to the problem of having recently changed from prone masturbation, you have the complication of being a virgin into your 30s. Many men have made the switch later than you and gone on to normal sex lives. I suggest that you abstain from masturbating for up to a week before you plan to have intercourse. It would also help if you would explain the problem to your doctor and see if he would give you a prescription for Viagra. Take a small dose -- cut off a piece of a pill. Then you won't have to worry about maintaining an erection. Relax and have a good time!

5/3/14


Since finding this site, I have completely given up prone masturbation. I started using the prone method at a very young age. It's the only way I know how to masturbate. I'm worried I've done permanent damage. I've had multiple girlfriends through the years and while having sex or receiving oral, I've never reached orgasm. It's depressing to say the least. I have no problem gaining or with maintaining an erection during sex; I just can't reach the finish line.

It's been three weeks of abstinence. I've kept busy and my mind off masturbating. I'm trying to be patient, but I'm also feeling eager. I've tried the supine method, to no avail. I just can't seem to find the right motion or technique. I'll wait 2 days and try again. I'm reading and following all the advice & comments on here. (age 30)

A: Make sure your mind is in the right place when you masturbate supine. Most males use images or other stimulating material to get as aroused as they can. After three weeks without an orgasm, it ought to be pretty easy. When you think you're close, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you reach orgasm. Once you've learned how, work at stroking more slowly and using less force.

5/8/14


I've been masturbating prone since age 15. After reading your site, I stopped prone immediately and went into the abstinence period. Today I completed my first week and tried the conventional way and had a good orgasm in 10 minutes. The new method made me so excited, after 4 hours I tried again and had my second orgasm in the conventional way. Both times I watched porn and fantasized myself to reach the climax with new method. Is this normal? Also how long does it take for me to get cured completely? When should I go for intercourse? (age 30)

A: Congratulations! It is very normal to masturbate with fantasies and images at your age. That is not a problem. I suggest you masturbate by hand daily for at least a month before trying intercourse. You will be completely cured when you are functional in intercourse and no longer feel like masturbating prone.

5/9/14


I'm finally cured. April 1 I was able to masturbate conventionally. 1 month later the only problem I still have is I masturbate very fast, and when I have sex with my girlfriend, I'm not that fast, so I can only reach orgasm when I masturbate. What should I do? (age 20)

A: Work at masturbating more slowly. Don't worry about how long your session takes, but try to stroke no more than 1-2 times per second. That's a good pace. It might be you're not ready for intercourse yet. Wait until summer.

5/9/14


I've read about prone masturbation on HealthyStrokes.com. Prone is my preferred way of masturbation. But, I can also masturbate the conventional way, anytime I want, and it takes 10 minutes. Should I still refrain from prone masturbation? (age 19)

A: Yes, you should give up prone. It will not do you any good at all. It is great that you can already masturbate conventionally. So you don't have to do an abstinence period. Just give up prone forever.

5/11/14


I found your web site a few months ago and discovered the issue with masturbating prone, so I decided to stop masturbating in that fashion, but I have encountered a setback. I did your method. I went 7 seven days without masturbating and when I tried to masturbate conventionally, it didn't work. I maintained an erection but I wasn't near an orgasm and I am positive I am doing it correctly. So I figured maybe I did something wrong so I went another week. Same result. Then I did it again and added another day. Failure. Then another day. Failure. Then another. Failure. I kept thinking why I can't achieve an orgasm and I think that my problem is that the way I have been prone masturbating was too rough. After the first two weeks of failure, I masturbated again prone.

This is my method of prone: I masturbate on a rug with a hardwood floor underneath and I thrust into my lubricated hand. That is WAY too rough and that's why I can't ejaculate after several days without masturbating. I couldn't even masturbate while thrusting against my mattress if I had masturbated the day before like I normally do so after waiting a week, I masturbated but instead of with my hand I did it against my mattress and was able to use a lot less pressure. I had an orgasm and I am now in the process of doing your original plan. I am still 2 days away. Am I crazy in hoping that this works and could I have a more severe problem? (age 16)

A: Nearly all males can masturbate by hand after a week of abstinence no matter how forcefully they were masturbating prone. When you're ready to try again, make sure you're relaxed and your mind is in the right place for having an orgasm. Think about whatever turns you on most. It's not clear from your message if you can masturbate prone on your bed or only on the floor. If you really can't succeed at regular masturbation after a week, it might be a useful transitional step if you can masturbate prone on the bed and give up the floor. Some males transition by switching from thrusting against their bed directly and instead thrust into a lubricated hand on top of the bed. Neither is correct, and I only hestitatingly recommend this approach, but some males have gone through several stages to get away from prone.

After you have been successful masturbating by hand, I suggest you get a Super Head Honcho (available on Drugstore.com and Amazon). It will help you adjust to using less force.

5/16/14


I quit prone masterbation after viewing this web site a couple of months ago. Before quitting prone, I could already masturbate the normal way. I used to have difficulties ejaculating when aroused by women but my penis can get erect. Since quitting prone, my performance wasn't significantly better. My girlfriend gave me a hand job but I still find it hard to ejaculate. I ejaculated only once because I did not masturbate for 5 days. Why am I having this problem? Is it because I masturbate too often? Or because I masturbate in a very fast and furious rhythm? (My girlfriend strokes my penis slower and lighter.) (age 18)

A: Congratulations on giving up prone. You should masturbate by hand daily for a month before doing anything with a partner. Work on using a slower and lighter grip. If you can ejaculate with your girlfriend best after five days abstinence, then give up masturbating for five days before a planned sexual encounter. As you get more acclimated to conventional masturbation, you can reduce the interval.

5/20/14


I have been masturbating prone for the past 2 and a half years. I started the abstinence program on Sunday, May 18. On the fifth day (May 23) my girlfriend and I did some sexual things together. We did not have intercourse but she grabbed my penis and shaked it for fun. There was also kissing which gave me an erection.

When I got back home from my girlfriend's, I took my clothes off, fantasized, and tried to masturbate the conventional way. I lay with my back on the bed in the supine position, rubbed my penis with four fingers, also rubbed my testicles and kept on rubbing my penis and testicles. I think a little part of the base of my penis was also feeling my leg. After 35 minutes of continuously doing this, I was able to masturbate. I masturbated with four of my fingers rubbing the base of my penis , I pressed my testicles too, and I was in the supine position. My erection, though not as strong as it used to be when I masturbated prone, and I achieved a normal erection at the same time I ejaculated. While my cum was being produced I witnessed myself getting an erection, not before that.

Two days later on Sunday the 25th, I tried to masturbate by hand, and again I was able to masturbate again. A lot of pressure was applied to the base of my penis. I read on this web site that applying pressure to the base is a harmful thing. Four hours later I tried to masturbate using my fist and I was able to ejaculate in 35 minutes. This time equal amounts of pressure where applied to my shaft, foreskin, and base. I believe only a little more was applied to the base, but I used the fist method in the supine position.

Looking at the method with which I just masturbated , have I masturbated the conventional way? Is something wrong with my penis that I was not able to get a strong erection? What should I do next? Should I abstain from any sexual interaction with my girlfriend? When should I next try to masturbate the conventional way? (age 19)

A: During abstinence periods, you are not supposed to be fooling around with a girl, to intercourse or whatever. It's OK if you try to masturbate to orgasm in the conventional method on the 5th day. Do you mean you were able to ejaculate after masturbating for 35 minutes? That sounds like a good session. You can try again tomorrow. When you first masturbate conventionally after years of prone, it is not important how you do it. Some guys use a lot of force and a very fast stroke the first few times. Putting more pressure on the base is also typical. As you get more accustomed to conventional masturbation, you need to work at using less force and a slower stroke, and to focus on the head and shaft of the penis rather than the base. This is why you should not be sexually active in the first month. Your erections will get better as you are habituated to conventional masturbation, but I advise against engaging with a partner until you have been doing it for a month.

5/25/14


I have masturbated prone since about 12. I have also masturbated on my back by pulling on my penis with my right hand (usually just thumb and index fingers) and pushing or rubbing on the base of my penis at the same time. Is this similar to prone and would the solutions from your site help with that as well?

A: That second method doesn't sound so bad, but it is not exactly stroking up and down your penis with one hand, which is what over 90 percent of males do to masturbate. I suggest giving up both prone and the unusual method and learning to masturbate conventionally by following the instructions on HealthyStrokes.com.

5/25/14


I have stopped prone masturbating for a few months, yet I find my penis behaves strangely when aroused. It is first hard, then soft after some pre-cum, then hard again and then I ejaculate. Am I facing some problems? (age 18)

A: I hope you have given up prone forever and not merely stopped for a few months. I suspect you are taking a break from masturbating around the time you pre-cum. It is better if you go straight from start to ejaculation and don't let yourself go soft during a masturbation session.

5/25/14


I once tried to stop prone masturbating. I was able to hold out for a month exactly since I was on vacation. I noticed that in the first weeks without masturbating, my erections started coming much more frequently and stronger. After vacation I really had to jack off and went back to prone since I was too lazy, and I didn't want to try it the normal way. Now I really want to change and am going to give it about a week before I try normal masturbating. Even if I switch to normal masturbating, is the damage I caused to the tip of my penis permanent? I know that the top of my penis felt really sensitive after a month of not masturbating. If I go to normal masturbating, will I be cured and have a good experience with my partner later in life? (age 18)

A: You are assuming that you have damage to the tip of your glans. That is an unreasonable assumption. You are apt to learn to enjoy conventional masturbation and go on to a normal, healthy sex life. I think you will succeed since you were able to give up masturbation for a whole month. Vacation doesn't lead many males to give up masturbating. It leads most to find creative ways of getting privacy for it.

5/27/14


I've been masturbating in the prone position ever since I can remember by humping my pillow. My penis points straight to the sky when pressed against my stomach and won't go down so doggy-style is impossible. Do you believe this is due to my masturbating in the prone position all my life? I am now trying to learn how to masturbate the correct way thanks to HealthyStrokes.com. (age 20)

A: I have never heard of anyone with that exact complaint. If your penis is really not able to move enough to allow for different sex positions, then you might have some kind of physical issue that a doctor should check out. Even if you do (and I'm not convinced you do), you should still give up prone first. Go for it!

5/28/14


I looked at HealthyStrokes.com a while ago when an ex-girlfriend was trying to figure out how I could stop masturbating prone. At the time, I thought I was way past the point of being able to change, so I didn't pay a lot of attention to it and accepted that I was never going to enjoy a normal sex life. This week my current girlfriend of three months (who knows I don't ejaculate during sex but has never said anything about it) is on holiday so I've abstained from sex (and prone masturbation) and the past couple of days I have been able to masturbate with my hand until I'm finished, which I'm really pleased about. I haven't felt the urge to masturbate prone since being able to do it the normal way, and I truly feel cured. As I'm sure you know, it's not an easy thing to bring up to anybody as the problem seems so unheard of, and the act itself must look really bizarre to watch so I'm reluctant to bring it up to anybody, even those we trust.

This message is just to say a huge thanks for helping people like me who by complete misfortune discovered a harmful masturbation technique at a young age and have had it stick with us as adults. I feel so relieved.

My girlfriend is back on Saturday and I'm excited for our "new" sex life - I was just wondering however, even though I can masturbate the normal way now - will this mean I'm able to reach orgasm during sex? Or will it take a while? I've never orgasmed during sex before. (age 27)

A: Yes, I expect you will be able to reach orgasm in intercourse. But you're rushing it. I advise males to be able to masturbate by hand daily for a month before trying intercourse. You seem to be giving it only a few days. I urge taking things one step at a time. You might want to join the online support group and share your experience with the board or read the old messages.

5/29/14


Thank you so much for your amazing website!!! I deeply appreciate the wonderful job you ve done and your immense enthusiasm to keep helping other people!

I'm a 30-year-old straight virgin Russian guy who was prone masturbating at a relatively early age, that is to say about five or six. I don t remember the first time I enjoyed rubbing my penis against the mattress but I recall the pleasure it gave me. When my mom saw me doing that and asked me to quit the practice, the only lesson I learned was that I had to hide that habit better because something must've been wrong with it.

I started producing semen at about thirteen, and it was around then that I learned from friends about the conventional way of masturbating. I never minded being a maverick, being different from the others, so I just accepted my peculiar way of masturbating as another way of being unlike the people around me. Even worse, when I tried to masturbate in the company of a friend, I couldn't reach orgasm. I even remember carefully squeezing a drop of urine to imitate sperm. The friend was a nice guy so he didn't laugh, although boys that age tend to.

In the year 2006, at age 22, I found HealthyStrokes.com. I don't remember exactly what led me there, but apparently even then I perceived my way of masturbating as something unnatural and abnormal. I read carefully all the texts, but the evidence did not seem convincing enough to me, and there were Internet critics who downplayed the problem. After a couple of days of abstinence I reverted to proning, which I did until February of this year.

Then I read your site again and finally decided to act. I did a dry five days, then I tried to do masturbating conventionally, but to no avail. It took another five days before I reached orgasm with my hand, and I can hardly describe how high I felt! It was the best orgasm in my life so far: In addition to the natural feeling of bliss after ten dry days, I experienced a sweet sense of accomplishment! That was something indeed!

Very soon I discovered that I could masturbate twice a day on average. Sometimes I did three times, sometimes one. That meant I was finally cured.

I feel like sharing some of my conclusions here which you might find interesting:

1) It definitely feels much better to masturbate the conventional way: It takes definitely longer to reach orgasm, and you can concentrate on your feelings, having time to think about girls from different perspectives, in different positions and situations. It is therefore more rewarding this way. Thus, the supine way is more process-oriented than the prone one, whereas both ways yield the same pleasant result. But if you want to genuinely relax and have a great time, supine is definitely your method of choice.

2) I probably seem to be able to masturbate supine slightly less often than was the case with the prone method. Before unlearning, I could sometimes easily do three times a day for three or four days in a row, whereas now it s a bit difficult. The quality of orgasms has become definitely better though. Now I always ejaculate, while before the third time a day would normally look more like pre-cum. After just one dry day, it feels as exciting as one could imagine.

3) My erection has become much more tight and vehement, especially after a day or two let alone three of starvation . Even more importantly, I feel that I know what I should do with a girl now, once I find the one I'll love and like to be with. I have been with girls in the past, but every time it came down to sex, I really was at a loss. It wouldn't be good to rub against her thigh, would it? Now I'm sure everything is going to go perfectly well, and I'll try to observe the five-day abstinence before my first time.

4) The prone way seems to me completely unnatural now. When I remember myself doing it, I can't help but wonder how I could have practiced such a bizarre way of masturbating. Fortunately, I managed to give it up and substitute a better and more enjoyable way of the pleasant act necessary for every man to stay healthy and accomplished.

5) My having unlearned the prone method, and, respectively, learned the conventional one, has dramatically increased my feeling of confidence and self-esteem, weird as it may sound. I now know I've become calmer, more patient (not just because I can masturbate practically everywhere as opposed to flat surfaces only, which used to be the case), and more efficient in my activities. I've probably become more natural, and this also includes my interest for girls. I feel that my desire for the opposite gender has become much stronger and riper!

All that being said, I'd be happy to recommend your wonderful, superb, awesome web site to everyone. 10 per cent of the world s population is a lot; it astonishes me when I think how your web site could change their lives for the better if only they come across the information you so generously provide to everyone in need of it. This is one stellar example of how things, even the most sensitive and intimate ones, need to be addressed and openly discussed, rather than just hiding them and pretending they do not exist.

Dear Doug, I once again say my heartfelt thank you so much to you, but any words would fall short of describing how grateful I am to you for such a simple but efficient way to change my whole life! THANK YOU SO MUCH DOUG!!! OGROMNOYE VAM SPASIBO, DOUG!!!

A: What a great story of recovery! I only wish you had gotten with the program in 2006 instead of waiting until 2014. Those Internet critics are still around and have succeeded in keeping any mention of the dangers of prone masturbation out of a popular online encyclopedia. You ought to be outraged that a bunch of men who have never masturbated prone in their lives told you that it's OK if YOU did so. Please continue to update me as you go out in search of girls!

5/30/14


I used to masturbate prone and I'm really glad and thankful to you for the website, that I've been able to masturbate in the conventional position. Since I've started masturbating conventionally, I usually ejaculate in 2-3 minutes. Once when I had intercourse, I came within 5 minutes and also had some erection problems. (age 19)

A: It is typical for males switching from prone to take a lot less time to reach orgasm once they get used to conventional masturbation. That is one of the benefits of switching: Masturbating is supposed to take as long as you want it to, not 20-30 minutes every time. If you've only had intercourse once since you've switched, or only had erection troubles once, it's pretty hard to make judgments. Stay away from prone and keep working on masturbating with less force.

6/2/14


I have stopped prone masturbation now for a year, thanks to you, but I've gotten bored of regular masturbation so I tried a new method which involved wrapping a pillow like a cylinder around my penis and move the cylinder up and down. I make sure I leave plenty of space around my penis. Is this bad? (age 18)

A: You seem to have switched one atypical method of masturbating for another. Think about this: The vast majority of men only masturbate by stroking up and down the penis with one hand, and they never get bored with it. I am OK with males masturbating with a soft sleeve (like the Super Head Honcho), but I recommend strongly against what you are doing. If you are really so bored with hand masturbation, please see my page of ways to add variety to your masturbation.

6/9/14


I started doing prone masturbation about 5 years ago I would guess. I finally realized I should stop after I was having sex and couldn't get a full boner anymore (though I used to). I am able to ejaculate the normal way, but I don't get as hard as I used to. Is there anything I could do to get full boners again? I'm very nervous about it.

A: You don't say how old you are or how long since you've stopped prone, but most males notice a difference in their erections about three months after switching. It gets better from there.

6/10/14


How much masturbation per week is required for the 3 month improvement (harder erections) according to your statistics? I masturbate now the correct way twice a week, sometimes more. (age 24)

A: Most men your age masturbate about once a day. Twice a week is a very low frequency, especially if you're not sexually active. The same is true for the men switching from prone. I recommend that men masturbate daily by hand for at least a month when they're coming off prone, and most of them continue that longer. More males masturbate less frequently after switching from prone than masturbate more frequently, but I think they go down to 6 times a week instead of 8. For best results, I think you need to ejaculate more than you do.

6/10/14


I am giving up proning since I found HealthyStrokes.com. I am currently in the a masturbate-a-day period. But I was lured by my girlfriend and she gave me oral sex. Unluckily I did not have an orgasm. I have screwed up the schedule. What should I do? Should I redo the 30-day or what? Will this affect my recovery? (age 24)

A: Oral sex should have waited until 30 days were up, but I don't think you need to reset the clock. Just keep working at enjoying daily masturbation and using less force. Most former proners are not able to have orgasms in oral sex right away.

6/15/14


I have been masturbating prone all my life. I only realized it was a problem when I started having regular sex last year and was unable to ejaculate from intercourse with my girlfriend. I have quit prone and tried periods of abstinence as suggested on this site, followed by attempts at supine or intercourse, but am unable to ejaculate still. I don't even feel close to ejaculation. How much longer will it take me to be able to ejaculate while masturbating supine and should I stop having intercourse while I work on the problem? (age 25)

A: You didn't read the site too carefully if you are having intercourse during or after your abstinence period. To overcome prone, you need to abstain from all sexual activity for about a week. After that time, you should be able to masturbate by hand. Then work at doing it more until you can masturbate by hand daily. Then masturbate by hand daily for a month. After that, you can attempt intercourse. Having intercourse before that point is likely to mess up your progress.

6/15/14


I've been masturbating prone my whole life and was wondering how can I tell if I've done nerve damage or been desensitized. Since I've stopped prone and went to regular masturbation, I can still orgasm this way. The first time it took about 20 minutes and a couple days after I was down to 10. I got worried when I read this forum because I just started dating this girl and am still a virgin and got worried. What would be the symptoms be if I messed anything up? (age 20)

A: I've never known anyone to get permanent nerve damage as a result of prone masturbation. Desensitized is what happens to males who masturbate prone. Be glad you're still a virgin and don't have to explain anything to a girl. Keep away from prone forever and you can try intercourse after you've been masturbating by hand daily for a month. In a few months, you will notice a difference in your erections and sensitivity.

6/16/14


Your site helped me about two years ago to realize the error of prone. Switching to the natural way of masturbating was relatively simple, or so I thought. Recently I noticed that when I masturbate I can get along nicely, but only if my legs are closed. I was wondering if this is another dysfunctional form, or if guys do this? I watch a lot of video of guys jerking off (I'm gay) and usually they have their legs spread wide open. Maybe it's just for the show? (age 18)

A: I think you're doing fine. Most male hold their legs straight in front of them during masturbation, to keep sensations from the legs from interfering. That is easiest to do when the legs are together. It's good if you don't have to stretch every time, but I don't think it's a problem. Always remember that porn isn't real. It's movies.

6/16/14


Thanks for the web site. I practiced prone for nearly 15 years. I followed the steps on HealthyStrokes.com, and I have been successful. The thing that was key for me was using lube while masturbating by hand. I wouldn't have had success without it as the first few times took 20 minutes or more.

One thing that I quickly noticed after the first few times is that my sex drive seemed to actually be higher after finishing the normal way. This is totally different from before. It's like I'm seeing in color for the first time.

I don't see myself ever going back. I can't wait for the three months to go by before I'm fully recovered. I also noticed that the head of my penis was discolored (darker) when masturbating prone. It's turning a healthy pink now and sensitivity is noticeably increasing.

A: Good job! I'm glad lube was a success for you. I urge males not to change one more than one thing at a time. I think you will be in top shape when you get used to hand masturbation. Please keep us posted.

6/23/14


I read your stuff around 6 years ago about prone masturbation. I thought I'd come back to thank you for helping me. Whoever you are, you have definitely helped me in the long run. Thank you, I really do appreciate it. :)

7/1/14


I'm 17 years old and have never been successful masturbating any way other than prone. I recently tried switching and abstained for seven days. I was unable to reach orgasm after 40 minutes of trying. Any advice on how I can fix this?

A: Do not go back to prone. If you already have, abstain for another seven days and try again. Relax and don't worry about how long it takes. 40 minutes is not so long. If it doesn't work, don't go back to prone. Wait a day or two and try again. You are young and can change easily. You will be very happy about it in a few months!

7/3/14


I am 24 years old. I noticed your site last year. At that point I had been masturbating prone since I was in elementary school. I did occasionally masturbate conventionally. However, after seeing your site, I stopped prone permanently and have been masturbating conventionally for over a year now with no problem. When I was masturbating prone, a number of sexual encounters did not work out for me as I became flaccid before we could have vaginal or oral sex.

I am still a virgin and have met a girl recently. After conventionally masturbating for over a year now, I had ED once again while trying to penetrate her. When I'm holding her and just being with her, I get erections a lot but I had ED when we decided to have sex. I was drunk but I also didn't masturbate for a few days before that. I'm worried. Why after masturbating conventionally for over a year now, am I experiencing this problem again? I had a blood test to see how my prostate was and it's normal. I always think it's silly that this could never work out for me but it still hasn't to this point and I just don't know what to do. Please help me and once again thanks for this site. I really wouldn't want to mention this to anyone in my life besides a doctor and just want to get this figured out already. What must I do to rid myself of this problem once and for all?

A: I recommend trying low-dose Viagra until you're able to erect long enough for penetration. Please discuss this with your doctor and ask him for a prescription. He will prescribe either 25 or 50 mg pills. Get a pill cutter and cut these into four or five pieces each. Then take one or two pieces before sex. A dose of Viagra as low as 5-10 mg will keep you erect for sex. Think of it as a booster shot for your penis. After you've been sexually successful a few dozen times, you should not need the Viagra anymore.

I also recommend coming clean with your partner about your sexual history and laying off the alcohol.

I have health insurance from my work. If I go to the doctor and get prescribed, can this information be let out to my work or whomever? I wouldn't want anyone knowing about this. Can I just order it online? Why do you think masturbating conventionally has not rid me of this problem? Why am I resorting to Viagra at such a young age? Do you have other suggestions besides Viagra? I feel horny, I get erections and then when it gets to sex, it just goes away. Why can't my mind just hold that erection and penetrate already? Do these longer-term effects happen to people who used to masturbate prone?

A: If you are in the U.S., your medical information is protected by HIPAA. It is unlikely anyone at your work could find out. Other web sites can better explain to you exactly what your employer can find out about your medical history. You can also ask your doctor to put a vague diagnosis code in other than sexual dysfunction. I advise against ordering Viagra online because you are apt to wind up with a copycat instead.

Lots of men, especially sexually inexperienced ones, have this problem when they have intercourse for the first time. Some doctors prescribe something for nerves (anti-anxiety drug like Xanax or Ativan) but these can have a negative impact on sexual function. The thing about men with a history of prone masturbation is that they are used to an excessive amount of force. If you really don't want to try Viagra, then keep trying to penetrate your partner and see what results you get. Sometimes it will work; sometimes it will not. It also might help to seek a competent sex therapist.

I'm going to ask my doctor for a prescription for Viagra. Should the Viagra definitely work? Do you think it's likely that after using it for a little while, I won't need it anymore?

A: Unless you have some serious undiagnosed problem, the Viagra will give you durable erections. Like I said, break the pills into tiny chunks. I think after you've been sexually successful a few times, you won't need the Viagra any more.

7/6/14


I have been addicted to prone masturbation. I can also masturbate the conventional way and I ejaculate in 3-4 minutes. So should I quit prone, because it gives me extreme satisfaction. (age 16)

A: You absolutely should quit prone because in the long run it will cause you erectile and orgasmic dysfunction when you start having intercourse. Be glad you already know how to masturbate conventionally so you can quit prone by willing it out of your life instead of going through an abstinence regimen like most males have to.

7/20/14


I've been masturbating prone for as long as I can remember. I recently learned to do it the right way and I can successfully orgasm anytime. Does this mean I'll be ready for sex? (age 17)

A: Yes, it does. Congratulations to you!

7/29/14


I have masturbated for around 7 years in the prone position. I lost my virginity to my girlfriend around 6 months ago. Sex was great for the first 2 months and then I realized that my erections were not lasting. I was diagnosed with mono around the same time that I realized this so I didn't worry about it because I thought my body was just fighting off the virus and that I would be back to normal within a few weeks. Three months after that diagnosis, I am officially scared because my body feels back to normal except for the fact that I do not get erections easily. When I do get them, it's difficult to keep it erect for more than a couple of minutes. Also, I have realized that I no longer get random erections except for when I wake up.

I am so ashamed of myself that I have started to push my girlfriend out of my life. Do you think this because of prone masturbation? Also, is the week of abstinence absolutely necessary? My girlfriend will ask questions if I tell her I don't want to have sex for a week and it would be rather embarrassing to tell her why. Do you think I can get cured? Thanks so much! (age 19)

A: Yes, you can absolutely be cured. It is indeed necessary to abstain from everything for at least a week and then to abstain from intercourse for another month. It's up to you if you want to tell your girlfriend about prone masturbation, but you should definitely tell her there won't be any sex for about six weeks. Good luck to you, and be grateful that you have a girlfriend to help with your recovery.

7/30/14


I need to know if stopping prone masturbation has withdrawal symptoms such as depression. I have been masturbating supine now but I think I may be getting withdrawal symptoms. (age 18)

A: You are not giving up masturbation; you're only switching from one kind to another. That should not cause you to become depressed. If anything, you ought to be happy that you can now masturbate like a normal guy and be better in intercourse. It takes a few weeks to get used to conventional masturbation but no one has ever suffered withdrawal from prone.

7/31/14


I masturbated prone since I was about 6, and I was never able to ejaculate while masturbating with my hand or during sex. It was after my last sexual encounter, where I once again failed, that I started to look for an answer. I found HealthyStrokes.com, and after a little over a week and a half of abstinence, I was able to ejaculate with regular masturbation in only 20 minutes. While the urge for prone masturbation is still there, I think I can resist now that I know I can do it the regular way. Thanks to the man who made this site. Massive help. (age 19)

A: Why that would be MEEEEEE!!!! You are most welcome!!!

8/7/14


Q: I'm actually shocked. I thought I was the only one who masturbates face down. So weird to see 5-10% of people do it.

I'm not a virgin. I had sex with my first real girlfriend. I wore a condom. I felt almost nothing, and I went soft. She thought I had ejaculated. My next girlfriend didn't want to have sex but we did other stuff. I never enjoyed hand jobs, but I really enjoyed fellatio. However, I never ejaculated with her, and she kept thinking it was her fault. I managed to remove these thoughts by satisfying her orally.

I had sex last week. She was on the pill, so I didn't use a condom. We tried a few different positions. It was painful to have her on top. But her giving me fellatio felt really good. We had sex for about 45 minutes. I went soft about 4/5 times throughout and blamed it on alcohol. I couldn't make her cum. I didn't ejaculate either.

I'm sick of feeling discomfort/strain during sex. My glans is really sensitive, and I don't want girls to blame themselves when I cant ejaculate. I can't get any satisfaction from masturbating by hand. How can I make myself enjoy it? (age 19)

A: You need to decide to give up prone forever and learn to enjoy regular masturbation. It might not feel as good the first few times you do it. But as you get more used to conventional masturbation, you will derive more satisfaction from it, and your erections will be stronger. You are young and can put this completely behind you.

8/22/14


Q: I've abstained for 7 days. I tried masturbating the normal way but I lost my erection three times. The first two times I think I just wasn't into the porn I was watching. The first time I lost it in ten minutes, and the second was in five. Then I kept it for twenty minutes. I made a commitment to myself that no matter what I would never go back to prone. I'm more frustrated then anything else.

So I've waited seven days, I masturbated the normal way for literally 70 minutes and nothing. I'm getting kind of worried over here. should I just wait another seven days and go at it again? (age 19)

A: 70 minutes is a long time to be masturbating. I suggest going no longer than an hour (which is also a long time). Wait two days after your 70-minute session and then try again. I'm glad you've resolved never to do prone again.

8/24/14


I discovered masturbation on my own and unfortunately masturbated prone until I turned 18 or 19. I have masturbated conventionally ever since. I have nothing physically wrong with me and can reach orgasm during sex. When I was masturbating prone, I would reach orgasm really quickly during sex. I often fall into depression knowing that I masturbated prone so many years ago. I haven't done prone for 13 years and know that I'm cured, but it really bugs me the way I masturbated years ago. (age 31)

A: Congratulations on giving up prone and having no sexual problems. You are one of the lucky ones, and you apparently quit prone about the same time HealthyStrokes.com first appeared online. There is no reason for you to be depressed or guilty about how you masturbated when you were a teen. You can't change the past, and you don't need to.

8/26/14


I am 14 years old, from Canada and I have been prone masturbating for 10 years. In the past year, I noticed that I now have a slight curvature on my penis. I took 5 days off and couldn't resist anymore. I had to masturbate, so I did it the normal way, using one hand, and I went really fast. A few minutes later, I ended up squirting the biggest load I have ever created. My mind is telling me that I want to masturbate prone but I am determined to keep masturbating the normal way and never go back to prone. Thank you very much! You have saved my sex life.

A: Few penises are perfectly straight. Congratulations on deciding to give up prone at such a young age. I think you will be fine when it's time for intercourse.

9/6/14


I'm 18 this year and I've been proning for 5 years. I can't seem to masturbate to orgasm with my hand. My girlfriend has been trying all sorts of methods to get me to orgasm but to no avail. I have fetishes. Is that part of the problem along with proning?

A: Your girlfriend can't help you get over prone. You have to do that on your own. Try harder to masturbate by hand. Fetishes will not cause harm. In fact, they might make it easier for you to masturbate by hand since you know they turn you on.

9/15/14


I have a male masturbation toy which is not handheld. The toy itself is the pelvic and buttocks region (no legs/torso) and is about the size of an adult. I received it about 4 days ago and I have been using it the last 3 nights. Earlier today I managed to achieve orgasm while using the toy which with other hand held toys I had never been able to do.

Is using this toy providing the correct stimulation need to overcome my prone masturbation habit? (age 26)

A: The goal in overcoming prone masturbation is to be able to masturbate by hand. All you are doing with this toy is replacing one form of prone masturbation with a different one. Once you have given up prone and learned to masturbate by hand, I think you will learn to reach orgasm with your other handheld toys. I suggest giving up the pelvic toy.

9/23/14


I have been masturbating prone since I was 12. I was horrified when I read HealthyStrokes.com earlier this month that I may devastate my sex life. But as my exams were approaching, I decided to continue prone, so I would be able to release the stress during studies.

I finished my exams yesterday and decided to start my abstinence period. Today when no one was at home, I started watching porn and started masturbating the conventional way and I had an orgasm. I hadn't even completed Day 2 of my abstinence and I have never, ever had an orgasm before using the conventional method. Is it normal that I orgasmed using my hands? Am I cured? (age 16)

A: If you can masturbate again tomorrow and the next day and the next day using only your hands, then I would say that you have successfully switched to conventional masturbation. Congratulations! Please let me know how it's going.

9/28/14

Follow-up: I tried masturbating the second time (this time without porn) on 10/2/14. But my penis started hurting after masturbation. The whole penis felt sore and there was more pain on the head. The pain went away in 2 days and so I masturbated again on 10/4/14 but the pain came back. I just don't feel like stroking it again because of the pain.

I think I am not doing it the right way. It sounds foolish but can you tell me the right way of doing it (without hurting myself!) I read on that lube can lower the friction.

I accidentally masturbated prone yesterday. Now all my hopes seem to be shattered. I know that prone is dangerous but even the conventional way hurts my penis. What should I do?

A: I suggest abstaining for 5-7 days again and then using a water-based lube when you masturbate again. Do not go back to prone, even accidentally. See here to learn more about lubes.

10/9/14


After the first week of abstaining and the first attempt at conventional masturbating, how often should I keep doing it like that? Like once a week then more frequently? Can I try the conventional way while wearing a condom to simulate the feel? (age 24)

A: After you masturbate to orgasm by hand for the first time, I suggest waiting two days before trying again (although most males do it again the next day). As you get more comfortable, then start doing it daily. I don't know why you'd want to use a condom when you are just learning conventional masturbation. That will make it tougher, not easier.

9/29/14


I did prone for 16 years. I was unable to have a good erection for sex. I had sex with help of Viagra but could not ejaculate. I stopped prone 45 days before. I did sex after 7 days abstinence with Viagra and was able to ejaculate conventionally. Then I had sex 5 to 6 times and ejaculated. I also masturbated conventionally succesfully in 15 minutes for the first time after that for 10 days continuously. During that time I didn't have sex. I was able to masturbate daily without any help from Viagra in the conventional way and also was having frequent erections. Then I had sex with Viagra and ejaculated by conventional masturbation. After that I masturbated 2 days conventionally in 5 minutes but for the past five days I am not having good erections. (age 27)

A: You are not a native English speaker, and I think something is getting lost in translation. The important thing is that you have given up prone masturbation forever. Now that you have done that and are able to masturbate conventionally and have intercourse successfully (sometimes with Viagra), you will see your erections get better. They will not necessarily be perfect every time. Keep working on using less force in conventional masturbation and absolutely don't do prone again.

10/7/14


You are my savior!!! I waited for 7 days (tried after 2 and 3 days but was unsuccessful, as you predicted), and then the seventh day I tried once again and after 20 minutes, I ejaculated. I was so happy because I was wondering if it would work but at the end it did! Thanks to you who explained me everything on HealthyStrokes.com. Should I try again tomorrow or should I wait for 2 days and try again? (age 16)

A: Most males are able to masturbate again the day after they do conventional masturbation for the first time, but to be on the safe side, many wait an extra day. It's up to you, and congratulations!

10/11/14


I masturbated prone from the age of 7 until I was 28. Can I masturbate the conventional way standing in the bathroom instead of lying supine on my back on the bed? Does it make a difference? (age 36)

A: Yes, masturbating by standing is fine. Since you gave up prone masturbation eight years ago, you ought to be able to masturbate anywhere!

10/12/14


have been prone masturbating since I was 9 years old. I had my first sex this year while I was a bit drunk and the woman I had sex with I had just met and I wasn't really attracted to her. I didn't really want to have sex with her. But alcohol was making me do things so I got on top of her in the missionary position. When I put my penis into her vagina, my glans started to hurt but I plunged ahead because I didn't want to be a loser or something. I couldn't thrust fast enough to have an orgasm and eventually I lost my erection.

For the first time in my life, I couldn't control my erection. I can get an erection any time just by thinking about something sexy. I didn't reach orgasm with her. She was telling me it's because it was my first time and I'm nervous but I knew what was wrong. I immediately started the week off and after that I got my first ejaculation by hand. But I did it with two hands. I can masturbate in the conventional way now but only with two hands and I slowly go up and down with both. I get a better grip and it feels more like I'm having sex. I've done it about 15 times now.

I also have a weird curvature on my penis and I think it's because I used to masturbate prone. When I masturbate now, I really need porn, two hands, and I really need to imagine my biggest fetishes in order to reach orgasm. When I was prone masturbating, I could imagine anything I wanted and was able to cum. With the conventional way, I don't get that much joy and I can stop doing it with no problem if my mom calls me to lunch. When I was masturbating prone, nothing could stop me from finishing because the feeling was so intense and I was so horny that I just had to finish before getting out of bed. Should I start getting this much enjoyment from conventional way too? I'm afraid that my penis curve is Peyronie's disease. I'm ashamed to tell my parents about it but I would take a urology test just in case.

Since I started masturbating, I have been eagerly waiting for sex and now I hope that when I get a girlfriend, she won't be expecting anything from me because I can't give her good sex. (age 16)

A: First of all, you need to learn to masturbate with only one hand. It is rare that males use both at the same time. Males who are advanced in their masturbation skills can switch hands. All of the males who have overcome prone masturbation have learned to masturbate using only one hand. It doesn't matter which hand it is.

Secondly, you have only masturbated conventionally about 15 times. That is not very many. As you get more experienced, you will come to enjoy it more and more, and you might even forget what prone is like.

I advise seeing a doctor about the possible Peyronie's disease. Modern interventions are possible, and it is to your advantage to get it treated sooner instead of waiting. It would probably be a great relief to you if the doctor told you that you don't have Peyronie's disease. I don't know the laws where you live, but in the United States, a minor can see a doctor without their parents knowing the details.

Finally, don't assume that just because you didn't enjoy your first (drunken) sex with a partner you didn't want to penetrate that you won't enjoy your next sex. Even if you don't, you can still bring pleasure to your partner. One of the paradoxes of anorgasmia is that women often enjoy those long intercourse sessions when a male can't reach orgasm.

Good luck and please keep me posted on your progress.

10/19/14


How long will it take to ejaculate using my girlfriend's hand? It's been only two weeks since I stopped prone (after masturbating that way for 20 years) and I could ejaculate once on my own the supine way. (age 32)

A: I think it will be a long time before you can reach orgasm from manual intercourse. You have only masturbated to orgasm by hand once. You need to be able to do that daily for a month before you should try anything with your girlfriend. A girlfriend's hand is much less efficient at producing orgasm for a male than her vagina. I think you should really take this one step at a time and not expect a manual orgasm from her anytime soon. And I think the Super Head Honcho toy will help you get used to a gentler pressure.

10/26/14


I really appreciate all the information you give about the hazards of prone masturbation. I can get an erection when I want one but I really struggle to keep it until I'm finished. Prone masturbation is the only way I have jacked off. Since reading your site, I haven't masturbated prone. Is masturbating while wearing boxers OK? I usually jack off through my boxers' fabric. I'm just checking to make sure it wouldn't have the same effect that prone does. (age 22)

A: Masturbating through fabric is a bad idea. You are just replacing one dysfunctional form of masturbating with another. So don't ever do it that way. When you are learning conventional masturbation, you don't want anything to interfere with your freedom of motion. So I say no underwear for now. Once you are experienced and comfortable masturbating conventionally, then it is OK to masturbate with your penis sticking through the fly hole of your boxers (but not briefs; they constrict the penis).

11/4/14


When I used to masturbate prone, I would put my penis toward the left and start pumping on the bed. I have given up prone masturbation but my penis has rotated to the left. It's not a normal curve. The whole penis from the base is tilted toward the left. I can feel the resistance when I try to softly rotate it toward the right. Has prone masturbation defected the anatomy of my penis? (age 16)

A: That is a question for a doctor. You are pretty young, so I'm guessing you didn't masturbate prone for very many years. I would urge you to keep your penis as close to center as you can when you masturbate now (supine) and see if that makes any difference. If not, and it still bothers you a few months from now, you can have your doctor check your penis out and ask for a referral to a urologist for more tests.

11/5/14


I started masturbating at the age of 13, that's just a year ago. Unfortunately I learned it prone. A week ago I saw your site and tried to give up prone masturbation, but I failed as the temptation was too great to resist. Now I am more than determined to masturbate the conventional way. I would be obliged if you give me some tips to resist the temptation. (age 14)

A: You are very young and have only been masturbating a year. A week is not very long to change something. Since you are determined, you will be able to last at least five days this time and then masturbate to orgasm conventionally. You can abstain 5-7 days and you can masturbate conventionally. You will like it very much!

11/7/14


I will never masturbate prone again. I waited for 7 days and masturbated supine successfully. I'm concerned that being 28 years old and masturbating this way my whole life that I have done permanent damage. I'm really depressed about this. Should I be worried? (age 28)

A: Prone masturbation doesn't cause physical damage that anyone has reported. You are pretty young and will recover quickly. Many males were 40 or older when they switched and went on to have plenty of good sex.

11/9/14


I have abstained for long periods, sometimes weeks at a time to try and learn the conventional way. However even after trying to masturbate supine for 20-30 minutes, I still feel nothing, not even close to orgasm. I've been trying this on and off for about 6 months now and am really worried I'll never be able to learn/enjoy normal sex. (age 26)

A: 30 minutes is not so long to take your first time masturbating conventionally after more than a decade of prone. Plan to take 45 minutes to an hour. You will get there.

11/10/14


I practiced prone masturbation since ever. I have recently engaged in a sexual relationship and I found that even though I had an erection during the intercourse, my penis was soft and I couldn't climax. Later, when I realized that prone masturbation was the reason, thanks to HealthyStrokes.com, I started masturbation in the conventional way. But while I can climax during the conventional way, my penis is still soft and I am having to stroke it very hard to reach it. I have received clarification for most of my doubts in the comment section, one doubt still lingered. Would masturbating the conventional way make my penis more taut after I follow your prescribed directions? Or is it something else that is causing it to be soft? (age 24)

A: Once you have given up prone masturbation and have been masturbating conventionally for a few months, your erections will improve.

11/10/14


I would like to thank you for all your efforts and help you provide through this web site for males who suffer from the effects of prone masturbation. I wish prone masturbation and its effects were better known by the public.

A: So would I!

11/14/14


I am trying to adopt your cure method but I cant understand how to have an erection without any stimulus. I need some picture or thinking about something in order to erect. (age 23)

A: When did I ever say not to use any stimulus? When you want to masturbate, use whatever will help you get an erection.

11/15/14


I have masturbated prone since I can remember. I found your web site and switched immediately. I can now masturbate the conventional way but I have to flex my leg muscles to help me along. I think I am improving because I do not need to flex as much but it is frustrating. Should I just concentrate more and relax? (age 23)

A: It is not a problem. Most males stretch out their legs when they masturbate, even men who have never masturbated prone. Holding your legs tense prevents sensations from your legs from interfering with your arousal and orgasm. It is good that you are doing it less and less, but it would not matter if you did it all the time.

11/16/14


I am 22. When I was 12, I started masturbating by humping my bed. I don't know why, I guess I was just sure that this is the right way to be with a woman, on top of her.

With the first girl I was naked with, I coudn't get an erection and even when I did, it lasted for only a few moments. I remembered she just looked shocked at me and kept trying and tring every single thing but nothing helped. I felt so pathetic and umanly.

I decided to put that in the past, and was sure it's normal and probably happens to most guys because I was nervous. After quite some time, I decided I must try it again. I met this very cute girl at a bar. I danced with her and had a few drinks and by the end of the evening, took her number. I went on a date with her a few days later and at the end we drove to my house. I was determined to do it right this time and had very high self esteem, and I could get an erection this time but it lasted for just a few minutes and I could not enjoy sex AT ALL. She was pretty sure it was her fault, and I just lied and said I'm just too tired right now, I have work in the morning and were with you all evening till now and blahblah ... anyway, I didn't hear from that woman anymore. The third woman I was with, there was no improvement at all. It was even worse and I coudn't get an erection at all.

By that time I started to really freak out and was sure something is terribly wrong with me. I never connected it to my masturbation technique although I always knew I was not using the "regular way" of masturbating. I often wondered how weird my way of masturbating is and why I coudn't cum using my hands. After three failures with women I started to investigate what could be my problem. And thanks be to God, I found your web site. What a relief it was, all these years to be sure you were some kind of freak, being afraid of asking a woman just to find out you are dysfunctional in bed or to start thinking they are the problem. I had many self-esteem problems with women because of that. I'm a good-looking guy and have lots of friends; I served in the army and am in good shape, but I rarely asked any girl out just because of that very fear.

It took me about eight days to start learning the normal way; the first four days I tried masturbating with my hand every day but it just didn't work for me. Then I decided to wait four days without trying anything. Then came the most exciting and relieving masturbation I have ever had in my life. I feel free at last. I have decided that from that moment on, I would never hump my bed again and would only masturbate the normal way. For now, I want to keep practicing the normal masturbation technique until I master that completely and then I plan to meet a cute girl and to finally give her the sex she deserves, and more importantly to finally function like a normal man in the bed.

Thank you so much for your site. You have brought me new hope and made me realize I'm not some kind of weirdo and that there are many others who had this terrible traumatic experience in their lives. I hope you can make public this letter on HealthyStrokes.com and that my story may inspire others with a history of masturbating prone.

A: Congratulations to you! I hope we will get updates as you go through your journey. You are doing such an excellent job that I really have nothing to add.

11/16/14


I have masturbated prone for as long as I can remember. I've known about this site for a few years and recognized that it was my problem but chose to ignore it. I've only realized how it important it was to fix this problem recently when I've finally started having oral sex from my girlfriend. It felt very satisfying but no matter hard I tried, I just couldn't orgasm. I knew this was due to prone masturbation so that got me back to HealthyStrokes.com. Thankfully I saw this page full of comments (which I didn't see before) and it has helped me regain confidence and hope of changing.

The first time I tried abstaining was about 2 weeks ago. I was able to pass the first week but unfortunately I cheated and went prone anyway so I restarted the clock and as of now it has been 5 days. I've been trying to do it the conventional way since the first day of abstinence but to no avail. On two occasions, a little bit of fluid came out but it wasn't really an orgasm, like it just dripped out as if only because there was no room inside anymore. Is that progress? Also, I would like to know what does "as fast and hard as possible" mean when you said that it's OK to do that at first. Like do you grip your penis hard and kinda pull it up and down or with a loose hand and actually move your hands up and down? For now what I've been doing is doing it with a loose hand and rubbing only the head of the penis and the area close to it because I noticed that I get stimulated when the head gets touched. Is that how I should be doing it? And I do indeed feel more sensitive after all that abstinence but I'm just not sure if I'm doing it right. (age 22)

A: The whole point of the abstinence period is that you're not supposed to be masturbating at all. Masturbating means any touching of your private parts that arouses you, not only masturbating to orgasm. So when you're abstaining, you're supposed to leave your penis alone except to urinate. When the time comes, masturbate using only your hand. Since you're not used to this method, it will take you longer than both what you're used to in prone and what it takes a typical man to masturbate to orgasm by hand. So expect it to take 30-60 minutes. That is not at all unusual. When you think you're getting close in that first session, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you ejaculate. By that I mean basically a jackhammer rhythm stroking up and down your penis 2-4 times per second. Once you've had that first hand orgasm, it will get easier and easier, and then you can work on having a lighter, slower stroke.

11/20/14


I switched from prone to normal recently and it feels great. Do I still have to take a week off? I was also wondering how long I should expect it to be before I can cum using the normal method.

A: Something is missing in your reasoning. You have only switched from prone to normal when you can masturbate to orgasm using only your hand. Since you haven't done that yet, you obviously have to take a week or more off before you can masturbate to orgasm using your hand, and then you will have switched.

11/20/14


I have been masturbating prone since I was 11. Two months ago, I found HealthyStrokes.com and learned the dangers of masturbating prone. I have stopped prone masturbtion and I have tried to masturbate the right way. First, I abstained for one week. But every time I've tried to masturbate normally, I wasn't able to ejaculate. Is it possible I've damaged my penis by masturbating prone for 11 years? I am really worried and frustrated because almost two months have passed and I still can't orgasm while I'm masturbating on my back. What should I do? (age 22)

A: Have you really not had an orgasm in two months, or have you cheated and gone back to prone? It is important to take a whole week off from masturbation, and that means no stimulation short of orgasm as well. After a week of no sexual stimulation, it is supposed to be pretty easy for a man to masturbate to orgasm. Please keep trying. Visual aids can help you reach orgasm more quickly.

11/21/14


I have been masturbating prone for over 45 years now. I have never had a problem with erections or intercourse, I have 2 kids, and I have never really enjoyed my failed attempts to convert to supine masturbation. I always felt doing it prone was the way most men did it, until just recently, when I found out otherwise. Why is "different" wrong here? (age 63)

A: I am happy for you, but please note that the overwhelming experience of sexuality for males who masturbate prone is an unhappy one. I think you should give up prone and learn to masturbate conventionally even at your age. Most of the men your age are experiencing age-related sexual decline right now, and a history of prone and inability to masturbate conventionally will only make it worse. Prone is not wrong because it is different, but because it is so forceful and puts so much pressure on the penis. It teaches males that they need a tremendous amount of force to have an orgasm. My message is that the lightest touch is the best.

An analogy I often use for men like you is smoking. We all know people who smoked and lived to an old age, but they were simply lucky. You've been lucky until now. I advise against pushing your luck.

11/26/14


I would like to thank you for providing info about prone masturbation. I masturbated in a prone way since 14. I'm 21 now and I stopped prone a month ago and I'm on L-Arginine.

I am masturbating the conventional way every single day. I find no improvement in my erections. Is it necessary for me to quit conventional masturbation for a while? I have tried intercourse many times in the past but I was not successful and doctors and tests have said that I am normal.

A: I think you're normal too. A male has to be over prone masturbation for about three months (sometimes longer) before he notices a change in his erections. You are doing the right thing by masturbating daily. L-Arginine is a food supplement, not a prescription drug. I don't know how it could impact your cure process.

11/30/14


I masturbate the conventional way. Ive stopped prone but I masturbate every day. My glans hurts when I touch it. My penis is not erect when I masturbate. I have to put my hand on it and then it becomes erect. Is this a common symptom for those who used to masturbate prone?

A: If you are circumcised, it is typical for the glans to hurt when you touch it. Circumcised males usually need to use lube in order to touch the glans when they masturbate. There is no problem with stimulating your penis to cause an erection. I doubt either of those are serious problems, and they are not related to your having masturbated prone in the past.

12/10/14


This is a marvelous, educational site. Thanks to you, I came to know about the troubles associated with prone masturbation. I usually jerk off at bedtime, lying on my bed prone. I have noticed that I can easily do it the usual way whenever I watch porn. So when I'm on my road to recovery from prone masturbation, would it be advisable to watch porn so that I masturbate the right way? I have noticed that without visual arousal, my foreskin doesn't seem to retract at all. I'm not a porn addict and I masturbate at least twice a week or sometimes every night, thrusting my penis against my bed. (age 21)

A: You don't want to masturbate prone at all. It doesn't matter whether you use visual aids or not. Whatever gets you to give up prone forever is fine.

12/11/14


I did masturbation prone for four years. I used to lie on my stomach and rub/press my penis against my bed, mattress and sometimes even the floor. I recently got married. Now I am unable to get an erection when I have sex with my wife. I am confused whether it is due to penis fracture. (age 30)

A: I have never heard of anyone getting a penis fracture from masturbating prone. I doubt that is your problem. Prone masturbation is problematic because it causes the male to get used to a high level of pressure that cannot be replicated in intercourse.

One thing I am confused about is that you say you masturbated prone for four years. Assuming you started masturbating in your early to mid-teens, you have been masturbating for about 15-18 years. So does that mean you switched from prone to conventional masturbation about 10 years ago? If so, then you should not still be affected by having done that so far in the past. Or did you switch from conventional to prone more recently?

12/15/14


I am in the right frame of mind to NEVER masturbate prone again and have quit for good. I quit prone masturbation for good three days ago, and I attempted the conventional way yesterday but didn't orgasm. Supposing I waited a week, would I have to wait another whole week after attempting to masturbate the conventional way, or would I just need to wait another five days seen as I wouldn't have ejaculated in a week. Is it best I keep practicing the conventional way until I orgasm?

A: You are making this more complicated than it needs to be. Wait seven days after the last time you ejaculated and then try to masturbate to orgasm using only your hand. If you make it, congratulations. If you don't, then wait a day or two and try again.

12/16/14


I've being doing prone masturbation for more than ten years. Now I'm realizing that I should quit, mostly because I've never been able to reach orgasm during fellatio and that I last too long when having intercourse with my girlfriend. Sometimes I even have to think about something that turns me on during sex to achieve orgasm even if I'm extremely excited and attracted to her. That happens also when she performs manually on me.

My situation is a little different. I usually masturbate the normal way too about 1/3 of the time for convenience, but I find it less interesting and I need to watch porn or I won't be able to ejaculate. Do you think the "willpower" method should work for me even if I'm already used to masturbating the normal way? Any advice for this kind of situation? (age 24)

A: If you already can masturbate conventionally, then you don't need to go through the abstinence period. All you need to do is decide to stop masturbating prone forever. I think you said you need to view porn to masturbate conventionally, and you're implying that you can masturbate prone without porn. Is this correct? If so, I think you should just accept the use of visual aids as normal, something that the vast majority of men your age use. The trade-off is not even a close call. I also don't think there's anything unusual about engaging in a sexual fantasy during intercourse; although I'm aware that males with a history of masturbating prone do this more often than males without.

12/18/14


I've been masturbating prone since I can remember. I heard about this site five days ago, stopped masturbating, and today, I masturbated the normal way. It wasn't as much fun, and it took about 15 minutes, and even then, only a little semen came out, and I didn't get an orgasm or climax. What's wrong? (age 18)

A: You're making a harsh judgment about conventional masturbation after having done it only once. Take some time to masturbate conventionally every day, and I think you'll enjoy it a lot better in the new year. 15 minutes is not so long. Many males need 45 minutes to an hour to reach orgasm their first time masturbating conventionally.

12/19/14


I recently quit prone after 10 years of exclusively masturbating prone. I'm now able to masturbate the normal way but I'm unable to do so without stopping in the middle and then continuing. Is this normal? Or will the ability to masturbate without stopping come with time? (age 19)

A: I'm not sure what you mean by stopping. Are you completely taking a break and losing your erection, or are you just stopping stroking for a minute but keeping your erection? Neither one of them is ideal, but it is obviously better for your sexual function if you don't have to stop and then regain your erection. Most males who switch from prone find that conventional masturbating takes a lot less time than they're used to once they get accustomed to the conventional method. When you're able to bring yourself to orgasm in 2-5 minutes, I think it's less likely you'll need a break.

12/22/14


I have been practicing prone masturbation ever since I started. I stopped prone and switched to the conventional way as soon as I came across your web site. The main effect from prone that I suffered was erectile dysfunction. I need a lot of stimulation (vigorous stroking and long durations to orgasm) yet most of the time I will be orgasming with a soft penis. I have a few questions regarding the cure program. If I can masturbate conventionally, is there a need for me to go through periods of abstinence? During the 30 day daily masturbation period, sometimes my penis is soft when I orgasm and sometimes it takes long for me to orgasm (30 minutes to an hour). Is that acceptable? Are 30 days enough? Some days during the 30 day daily masturbation period I get good erections and often I have a soft penis. (age 36)

A: The purpose of the abstinence period is so you can learn to masturbate conventionally. Once you can do that, you don't need to abstain. It is a bad idea to masturbate when you don't have an erection. You are teaching your body to reach orgasm without being properly aroused. You are old enough that you could probably get Viagra or another erection pill from your doctor. You probably would only need a small piece of a pill to get erect. 30 days is plenty to habituate yourself to conventional masturbation. You didn't say anything about having sex with a partner, so I'm guessing you will be masturbating conventionally well past the end of the 30-day period. The restriction of the 30-day period is not to have sex with a partner in that month.

12/23/14


I masturbated prone for five years. After finding out the danger of it, I waited five days and did it by hand in five minutes! I think about prone once in a while but not much because since late November, I have masturbated only by hand. I started dry and now masturbate with lotion. I feel the most sensation on the sides, underside, and glans of my penis. Is this OK? (age 17)

A: It is a lot better than OK!

12/30/14


Im very happy that I came across this web site. I have been masturbating prone since I was about 14. I can't believe that I am just now learning about prone masturbation. I just figured I had a unique way of masturbating that was harmless. I never took into account that this could cause problems achieving orgasm due to the difference in sensation in comparison to normal sex.

Unlike some people who have posted here, I have been able to lead a mostly normal sexual life with girlfriends. Although not totally, as I am unable to ejaculate in many positions, especially standing up. In fact, missionary and woman on top (cowgirl) are essentially the only two positions I have been able to reach orgasm from. Even this took time as many of my earlier sexual experiences consisted of me being very hard and having sex for a long time but being unable to finish. I always knew this was a mental thing and I was very pleased when I was able to orgasm for the first time during sex while in the missionary position. From there I branched out to a few other sexual positions but am still far less versatile than most men. I would definitely say whatever normality I have achieved in my sexual life in recent years came in spite of my prone masturbation.

After reading through your site, I gave up prone masturbation and actually tried normal masturbation that very night. I was very happy with myself as I was actually able to orgasm from normal masturbation on my back on my very first try, although it definitely took a while and will require some getting used to. I'm really pleased with myself and after doing it the normal way only twice, I'm already starting to really enjoy it. The orgasms seem maybe a little less intense in comparison to prone masturbation but they are still very rewarding in their own right. I'm sure it will get better over time and it is worth it for the confidence and sense of normality it gives during sex. (age 28)

A: Thanks for writing. Please be cautious over the next month or so and don't make the mistake of going into intercourse too quickly. You have only masturbated conventionally twice, and I don't think you're cured of prone until you've masturbated to orgasm by hand daily for a month. I hope you will keep me posted on your progress. Please refer to yourself as the 28-year-old from December 30, 2014.

12/30/14


I just want to thank you for your site. My husband had been practicing prone masturbation since he was a teenager and it was causing difficulties in our relationship. We had been together for 5 years and he had only ejaculated twice during intercourse. It made me feel inadequate as a partner and made sexual intercourse a very frustrating and unenjoyable act. After we were married, his anorgasmia made starting a family seem hopeless. I had learned that he practiced prone masturbation and had an idea it was harmful, but it wasn't until I showed him HealthyStrokes.com that he agreed to change his habits. HealthyStrokes.com showed him that we weren't alone. In the past year, we've been able to have intercourse ending with ejaculation but it has been a long process. As a partner of a former prone practitioner, thank you. Our marriage is so much healthier now that our sexual relationship is satisfying for both of us. (age 37)

12/31/14


Will sleeping on my stomach affect the curing process? (age 19)

A: No. Sleep however you want.

1/2/15


I've been masturbating prone for about 10 years thrusting into my hands. I'm scared that it's gonna have permanent effects on my genitals. Can prone masturbation lead to infertility? Can I have permanent deformation of my penis and scrotum from prone masturbation? (age 17)

A: No, you will be fine. Just decide to give up prone masturbation forever and learn to masturbate by hand. Thrusting into your hands is less severe than what a lot of prone males thrust into -- floors, mattresses, towels. Prone masturbation does not cause infertility. I've never heard of anyone being diagnosed with deformation of the penis. The scrotum is not in contact with anything when masturbating prone. You are young and can switch masturbating styles easily. Go for it!

1/3/15


I'm 17 and have been masturbating prone into my hands for 10 years now. Is it bad if my penis looks different from others and is more saggy? Can prone masturbation lead to infertility?

A: I've never heard of anyone developing infertility as a result of prone masturbation. Don't worry about that. I also doubt that your penis looks different from anyone else's. Have you asked a doctor? Doctors see penises every day and have a better idea about what's normal than you do. You are young and ought to take the opportunity to give up prone now.

1/3/15


I just want to say thank you. Your site not only helped me masturbate the conventional way, but also made me realize the dangers of prone masturbation. For a couple of months I've been trying to figure out why I was having ED. Even with my girlfriend I had some trouble maintaining an erection. I was embarrassed and disappointed because I really like her and my erectile trouble made me feel worse then she did. I started to eat more healthy, work out, and researched how to increase my libido. Nothing seemed to work and I was becoming a bit hopeless. Finally I thought maybe my masturbation style was part of the problem. I started masturbating prone when I began masturbating at age 12. I always knew about the conventional way, but I never saw it as a problem. When I finally discovered HealthyStrokes.com, I realized that proning was the problem.

I stopped masturbation for about 5 days and then tried the conventional way. First I tried it when I first woke up to no avail. Then I tried it later in the shower, and although I was erect, it still didn't work. Finally, later that night, when I was about to go to sleep, I wanted to masturbate prone badly. So I read some stories on HealthyStrokes.com which convinced me not to. After doing some reading, I tried the conventional way one more time and after 15 minutes, I reached orgasm. It was the best orgasm I've ever had. It was even better than my first time having sex. I felt so accomplished, and I slept like a baby. Thank you so much for providing information on prone masturbation. I'm honestly a lot happier now knowing my girlfriend and I can have sex without any ED. (age 19)

A: Thanks for sharing your happy story. You should not have expected to be able to masturbate to orgasm in the shower having never done it there before. Only change one thing at a time when you're making changes. Now that you've learned hand masturbation, within a few months, you'll be able to masturbate at the computer, in the shower, while seated -- basically anywhere you want.

1/5/15


I was prone masturbating for as long as I was capable of masturbating. I only found out by the pure luck of a random search that it was bad for you. I'd never heard that anywhere else and had assumed that I had found a unique way of pleasuring myself. I stopped prone as soon as I found HealthyStrokes.com and realized the problem I'd always had in intercourse was called anorgasmia. I followed the advice of stopping for a few days which was difficult as I'd always masturbated to help myself sleep. After resolve to not damage myself further, I managed to masturbate using my hand. I was so excited at having managed that, I couldn't sleep. I'm doing it with my hand frequently now and it feels better. I always have to stop myself from switching back to prone from habit especially in the first few days but I feel like this has been a real victory and I'm thankful for the advice on this site. Just remember to anyone reading this, it can be done. I managed after about 3 days. Don't give up! (age 20)

1/8/15


I masturbated prone (and sometimes conventionally) for years. In my mid- twenties, I started having prostate and bladder problems. I've been diagnosed with prostatitis and intersticial cystitis. (Many urologists now believe these are the same thing.) The symptoms are painful or burning urination/ejaculation, sharp pains in the bladder, and pain in the prostate. I am convinced I caused this by my prone masturbation, maybe by forcing bacteria up into the bladder or prostate. I also think I might have damaged my urethra. Have you heard of any studies linking prone masturbation and prostatitis?

I still have trouble ejaculating during sex a lot of the time. Although I stopped prone masturbation years ago, I don't use any lubrication. Instead, I use an aid such as a soft blanket between my hand and my penis. Is this as bad as prone? (age 40)

A: I have not seen any studies like that, and overall, the rate of diagnoses of infections is low among the prone males that have joined the online support group for prone males over the years. Not all prostate trouble is bacterial. There is also prostatodynia, which is prostate pain that has no obvious bacterial explanation. Please read my page about that for a brief discussion. Urethral damage is possible by prone masturbation, but only in extreme cases does this require surgery.

I urge you to give up the blanket masturbation. That might be as dysfunctional as prone masturbation. The same abstinence regimen I recommend for males trying to give up prone will help you learn to masturbate with lube. After a few days with no sexual stimulation, it will be easier for you to masturbate in an unfamiliar manner. I suggest starting to use a water-based lube. Once you have learned to use lube, you might enjoy a masturbatory sleeve like the Super Head Honcho (available on drugstore.com and Amazon) to help you get used to the pressure of vaginal intercourse.

1/9/15


I abstained for about 9 days, and finally ejaculated while lying on my back. Is it OK if I only went halfway up the shaft while stroking? (age 19)

A: Yes, that's fine, but the most sensitive part of your penis is at the top of the shaft. I assume you aren't using lube yet. Once you use lube, you will be able to stroke your whole penis. Without lube, most guys stroke up to at least brush against the widest part of the head, called the coronal ridge.

1/28/15


Before discovering your site I never thought that masturbating prone was a bad thing nor did I know that it had a name. I always did it because I thought it felt good and was honestly easier than conventional masturbation.

Recently I have been noticing that I have never really had an actual sex drive in the presence of my partner and she has noticed it too. I noticed that I want to have intercourse but can never get myself in the mood to do so and I struggle greatly to get an erection in these situations and most often do not. To this day we have never had intercourse, and I have never had intercourse period. That is something I would like to change. Could this be related to the fact that I have been masturbating prone since I was about age 10? (age 21)

A: I doubt it. I have never known prone masturbation to be related to a desire disorder. Obviously, though, you should give up prone masturbation and learn to masturbate conventionally, if you don't already. Then see if your sex drive improves. If not, perhaps see a doctor and have your testosterone level checked.

1/29/15


Thanks a lot for doing this and helping people overcome this issue. I was hoping you could help me just as I've seen you help others. I started prone masturbation at a very young age, like 4 or 5. My parents knew about it (I wasnt very discreet at all) but usually just told me to stop and that was it. I'm now 18 and in college and I recently realized this is an issue. I was having intercourse and it didn't really feel like anything was happening. I tried taking over a week off (12 days) and then tried to masturbate conventionally and I got an erection but it didn't feel like I was making any progress beyond that. Should I just wait longer or is there a specific approach I should take for my first time. I was also thinking about gradually switching to prone masturbation using my hand and then taking time off to switch to see if that works. This is something that is worrying me greatly and I would love to solve this problem. I really appreciate the help and thanks in advance!

A: When you got the erection after 12 days, you should have masturbated to orgasm by hand. At age 18, twelve days is an awfully long time to go without an orgasm! Are you still abstaining or did you go back to prone? If you've done prone, reset the clock from your last prone session and then try again after 7 days (maybe longer). If you're still abstaining, try again tomorrow. Work at having an orgasm by hand. You can do it. Do not go back to prone.

2/6/15

Follow-up: I broke my streak the night I e-mailed you. I started again and tonight I figured I'd try the conventional way and I actually got somewhere! I think I just gave up too easily before because I suspect conventional masturbation takes longer than prone. I just want to thank you again. You really helped restore my confidence! I wish you well in the future and once again, thanks!

A: Conventional masturbating by hand takes less time than prone. It just takes guys longer when they're learning because it's new. Keep making progress with regular masturbation, and don't break any more streaks!

2/11/15


'm 17 and I've been masturbating prone since I was little. I have a serious girlfriend now. We've done oral and hand stuff but I can't reach orgasm with her no matter how good it feels. I've stayed away from prone for about a week but I still can't make myself orgasm through hand masturbation. All I want to do is ejaculate with my girl. Any advice? (age 17)

A: I suggest you put off sexual activity with your girlfriend until you have learned regular hand masturbation and practiced it for at least a month. You should expect a learning curve with anything new you try sexually. You are trying too many different things at once and not achieving the results you want with any of them. So work on one thing at a time. Spend the next several weeks working at overcoming prone masturbation and learning to masturbate by hand. Then see how much better it feels to have your girlfriend stimulate you.

2/9/15


After the week or so when you masturbate, do you have to go all the way to orgasm by hand or is just masturbating short of ejaculation good enough? (age 18)

A: You seem to misunderstand the point of abstaining for a week. You are taking a week off from masturbating so you can masturbate to orgasm by hand for the first time. If you masturbate partway to orgasm in between, then you have ruined your days of abstaining and need to reset the clock to zero. Abstain from masturbating for a full week and then masturbate to orgasm by hand.

2/24/15


I have been practicing prone masturbation since I was young and have now read this web site. I quit prone masturbation 2 days ago, but now I feel depressed and am experiencing pain in my testicles. Is something wrong?

A: You should not be depressed. You should be happy that you will within a few days open a new chapter in your sexual life. Congratulations! The pain in your testicles is likely to go away once you masturbate again in five days.

3/11/15


I've been masturbating prone and now I have started to do it with my hands after following your advice and not masturbating prone for a week. I've been masturbating with my hands for 3 months now I think. But I've gotten used to masturbating with two hands. I don't feel enough when I'm doing it with only one hand.

1. Is it wrong for me to masturbate with two hands, and should I stop masturbating for a week and start getting used to it with only one hand?

2. I can now masturbate the conventional way with two hands and prone. Sometimes I still want to go prone and I do it. Is it wrong to "cheat" sometimes even though I can now do it both ways no problem? (age 16)

A: You keep using the word "wrong," by which I think you mean "bad for your sexuality" rather than morally wrong. There is nothing morally wrong with either masturbating prone or masturbating with both hands. Masturbating prone is bad for your sexuality; and masturbating with two hands is bad for your sexuality if that's the only way you can do it. Abstaining for a week ought to make it easier for you to masturbate with only one hand. But how hard have you tried to use only one hand without abstaining? Many guys switch hands when they masturbate, and there's nothing bad about that at all. Cheating by reverting to prone is a bad idea. You should resolve to give up prone forever.

3/19/15


I formed the bad of habit of prone masturbation when I was 5. I came across your site almost a year ago but I can't make it more than a week without prone. Tonight I'm going to try again. Do you have any helpful hints to help me last longer? (age 16)

A: You can do it. Have you not read my main page about prone masturbation where I discuss sleeping in the living room, making a weekly countdown chart by hour, going someplace you can't masturbate? I don't think you've been trying so hard. When you feel compelled to masturbate prone, think about how that's the only way you can do it and the only place you can do it, while every other guy you know and go to school with can masturbate whenever and wherever he wants. You want to be like those guys. You don't want to masturbate prone ever again.

3/21/15


I've been masturbating prone ever since I found masturbation and recently while having oral sex performed on me by a female, I realized that I couldn't ejaculate. That's when I started researching prone masturbation and found your site. I just wanna say that HealthyStrokes.com is the holy grail to masturbation. I abstained from masturbation for only four days and on the 5th day I tried regular masturbation and had an orgasm within 10 minutes. It was absolutely the greatest feeling ever and much better than prone masturbation. Thank you! (age 18)

A: That's some pretty fast progress. Good for you!

3/25/15


I started very frequent prone masturbation not knowing any better around 12 years old, and after reading HealthyStrokes.com, I quit 2 months ago (when I was still 15). Thankfully, I was able to quit with no slip-ups, and I achieved normal masturbation. The reason I researched the topic was that I was majorly struggling to get erect when my prone habits reached an all-time high. After about a month prone-free, I was able to get decently firm erections with the aid of porn (but nowhere like they were before). This period was very enjoyable, and I was masturbating 1-2 times per day. In the past few weeks, however, it has become very hard to become aroused even with porn. I am beginning to fear that I truly did damage the nerves in my penis or something. Throughout my recovery from prone masturbation, I have not been getting spontaneous erections like other guys my age. I do not wake up hard, and I can only achieve some level of arousal through porn now. When I am able to achieve a good level of hardness (rarely), it fades quickly. What should I do? Should I talk to my doctor about it? Could this be related to my daily masturbation over the past month or could I possibly have testosterone problems? I am very active, working out almost every day for football, and I eat right most of the time. I miss my full erections. (age 16)

A: I find it hard to believe you have permanent erection problems after masturbating prone for 3-4 years. I also doubt your masturbation frequency is a problem, since most males your age masturbate 1-2 times per day (closer to one). I think you're worrying about your erections too much. Most males find it takes them 3-4 months after they switch from prone to supine masturbation to notice a difference in their erections. Why don't you just take the next few months as part of your learning curve and not worry about it until the end of the school year.

3/27/15


Not a question - just a thanks! I've been masturbating prone since well before I knew what masturbation was. It just felt good. I realized I couldn't reach orgasm during sex - vaginal, handjobs, blowjobs, nothing. My partners thought something was wrong with them. After enough frustration, I turned to Google and found HealthyStrokes.com. I gave it a try - cold turkey for a week. My first attempt supine took a long time. I was getting frustrated, but after 20 minutes to a half hour I had a litttle success. In the attempts that followed, it was much better. Now I can masturbate supine, to completion, in 5-10 minutes, no problem. And it feels so much better! Thanks for this tremendous resource. It is really life changing. (age 23)

3/29/15


I have masturbated prone for a while now and have fixed that. I've been about 1 month without doing it prone and I am still experiencing ED. I was wondering how I might treat this or otherwise get help. (age 16)

A: A month isn't such a long time. But congratulations on giving up prone. You are apt to notice an improvement in your erections in another month or two. Stay away from prone and work at using less force when you masturbate.

03/30/15


I have masturbated prone for around 3 years and realize that my sensitivity on the bottom is reduced. Can I regain sensitivity completely? (age 16)

A: Yes, you can. At your age you can also recover fairly quickly.

4/29/15


I am a 24 year old straight male in India. I have had six sexual encounters so far and each one ended up with me unable to ejaculate. It was a very harrowing and puzzling time time for me. Such conditions are very embarrassing to reveal to your family doctor in India, especially if you are unmarried.

I practiced prone masturbation since I was 12, but I was never sure that was the cause of my dysfunction until I came upon your web site two weeks ago. HealthyStrokes.com spooked me enough that I have nearly been successful in switching to the hand method (in the past 11 days, only twice have I prone masturbated whereas I am on an overdose of the hand method). I believe I am enroute to solving my prone masturbation problem and I cannot thank you enough.

1. Is the only successful way to check if anorgasmia is cured to have sex? It is a challenge here in India to do so before marriage and I detest visiting prostitutes.

2. Although I am en route to weaning myself away from prone masturbation, a few isolated bouts of prone masturbation are leaving me sapped of energy and depressed. How do I ensure I do not relapse?

3. Can you direct me to any support group (online) that you are aware of, consisting of former prone masturbation sufferers who have made the transition or are making one?

4. How do I know when I am ready to have sex?

5. I noticed in the past 2 weeks, the hand method of masturbation did not diminish my libido as much as the prone masturbation method. In fact, the libido is even better than before, if you know what I mean. Is this normal or due to the sudden change?

6. Does it matter how one strokes in the hand method? My hand method at present is far from gentle. Any suggestions regarding this?

7. Am I free to discuss my journey and future problems with you on your web site?

A: You are not on the road to being cured until you give up prone masturbation. If you have masturbated prone twice in the past 11 days, then you are not being cured. It's good that you've learned to masturbate by hand, but cut out the prone altogether.

  1. You can't know that you are over your anorgasmia in intercourse without having intercourse. I highly recommend against prostitutes.
  2. Resolve to never masturbate prone again. If you must cheat by doing prone occasionally, at least wait until you've had a few months of masturbating by hand exclusively.
  3. You can find one at this link
  4. When you have masturbated by hand daily for a month.
  5. That is because prone masturbation is very exhausting. Hand masturbation uses less energy.
  6. Yes. You want to use a gentle touch. It is OK to be rough for now as you are still learning. As you get more accustomed to hand masturbation, work at using less force and a slower stroke.
  7. Yes. If you want me to update this page, remind me that you're the one who posted on May 7, 2015.

5/7/15


I recently found out about this and started masturbating by hand. It takes me a really long time. When can I expect to able to enjoy a hand job and reach orgasm quicker? It is embarrassing and I have had to lie about how I was finished. (age 19)

A: The first few times masturbating by hand after years of prone take a while, perhaps as long as an hour. Within a few weeks, it will be less and less, and soon you will notice you can stroke yourself off in less time than prone was taking you before. I recommend that you be able to masturbate by hand daily for a month before trying anything sexual with a partner. I also recommend that you abstain from masturbating for 3-5 days the first few times you try being sexual with a partner.

5/10/15


I have been masturbating prone since I was 13 or 14 and I am going to get married in the next 6 months. When I read your article, I got worried and I tried to masturbate by standing and taking strokes by hand and I was able to do so, but that was not easy. Am I going to suffer from erectile dysfunction or any other problem? I usually masturbate 4 or 5 times a day. (age 27)

A: If you are going to get married six months from now, great. You will have plenty of time to get used to regular hand masturbation by then. If by "in the next six months," you mean you might be married as soon as next month, then that's a problem. But decide to give up prone forever and work at masturbating by hand and enjoying it. Your masturbation frequency is extreme. As you learn to give up prone, masturbate by hand once a day (maybe twice sometimes). When you have been without prone for a month, you will be ready to try intercourse with a partner. If you and your fiancee are not having sex before the wedding, try to limit your masturbation to 5-7 times per week. Then you will have to worry less about erectile dysfunction than you do now.

5/14/15


I got rid of prone masturbation 8 days ago. I tried normal masturbation by hand yesterday. It took me like 20 minutes to ejaculate. It was a bit hard though. I had to tense up my butt and tighten my legs to get it but I did. Should I keep trying it daily or stop for a few days again? (age 18)

A: Congratulations to you! 20 minutes is a pretty normal time to masturbate. It is awesome for someone masturbating by hand for the first time after five years or more of prone. Do it again tomorrow. As you get used to regular hand masturbation, you will find that it takes you less time.

6/3/15


I have been masturbating prone for a long time but I used to do it the conventional way also sometimes. After reading about the hazards of prone masturbation, I have started to practice the conventional way more often but still I go for the prone way once in a while. Is it OK if I masturbate both ways? (age 19)

A: No, that will not help. If you still masturbate prone, even once a month or less, it will keep you from making progress sexually. Resolve to give up prone forever.

6/7/15


I quit prone about 6 months ago, and I can do it in bed and sitting down, but I can only cum when I do it very fast. The speed is faster than sex, so I can't cum in sex, and I can't masturbate slower. Is there any way I can? (age 21)

A: Try harder to masturbate more slowly. When you are at a point in a masturbation session where you think you need to stroke very fast, try stroking slowly instead and see how good it feels. Using the Super Head Honcho sleeve will not only help you masturbate more slowly but also teach you to use less force. I'm just guessing you also masturbate with a lot of force.

6/11/15


I've been masturbating prone since 14, and I'm looking to masturbate conventionally after seeing this web site. I am circumcised. Is this going to make it harder to masturbate conventionally? (age 19)

A: Your question is basically without meaning. Males of all circumcision types have masturbated prone and then given it up successfully. Even if it is harder for one group to switch than the other, what difference does it make? A circumcised male cannot become uncircumcised easily, and an uncircumcised male would never consider getting circumcised to give up prone. So give up prone and learn to enjoy the penis you have.

6/12/15


I first came across your site about a year ago, about June 2014. At the time, I had a girlfriend. I started dating her in December 2013. I lost my virginity to her a month later. My sex life with her was great for the first month and since then, I have never been the same. I have had erectile dysfunction since April 2014. I realized at some point that my prone masturbation techniques were not normal but didn't care because it seemed harmless at the time and I never had problems getting and maintaining rock-hard erections before I lost my virginity.

After about 8 or 9 months of ED, my girlfriend no longer wanted to date me. We still had sex during that time, but my erections were extremely week and could only be achieved by physical contact. It's also been about a year since I got an erection spontaneously or even by thinking about sex. I went to the doctor and the urologist said it was nothing physical. He said this meant that it was all in my head. (I never told my regular doctor or urologist about my prone masturbation.) So I tried different anxiety medicines for months and those did not help at all.

Now I am convinced that the cure method offered on HealthyStrokes.com is the only thing that will ever be able to help me get cured. Since getting ED, my penis has gotten noticeably small. It looks like it should belong to a 10-12 year old.

Last week, I started to masturbate supine while watching porn once a day. Surprisingly, it is easy for me to reach an orgasm within 10-15 minutes. However, when I'm masturbating and orgasm, I would say my erection is at about 50% of a normal erection. Will my erection become stronger? Will I ever return to spontaneous rock hard erections again? ED is literally all I have thought about for over a year. I just want to be normal again. (age 20)

A: Erections usually get stronger about 3-4 months after giving up prone. If you resolve to never masturbate prone again, you are apt to notice a difference in your erections this fall. That would be a good time to try having sex again. Masturbating will not affect your penis size.

6/15/15


Your website is absolutely fantastic and you are a true hero in life saving information. I'm really grateful for all the dedication you've put into teaching males about what they never learned.

I went a week without masturbation then tried on my back and within five minutes I had a tremendous orgasm. It used to take me ages and ages to even feel the slightest orgasm and I only ever finished a few times. But I understand what you mean about putting pressure on the penis shaft and how the vagina does not replicate that same feeling and now I totally understand why I was still causing big bad problems for the sex partner.

Whoever you are really take in how happy I am. I will be thinking all day tomorrow about how thankful I am. If I hadn't have come across this website I would be forever in trouble. And it's really all thanks to you. (age 24)

6/16/15


I have been masturbating prone (into my hand) for 5 years. I ignored that it was different from others until recently where I found this is dangerous and makes sex not so pleasureable. I've abstained for 3 days which has been very difficult. I cheated and tried the conventional method and I can feel myself getting close and get a pumping feeling in my pelvic area but cannot orgasm. It is very frustrating. It feels that it is impossible to reach orgasm this way. Is your only advice to abstain for the entire 7 day period? (age 18)

A: The seven days is only a guideline, but in your case, three days is not long enough. You are more likely to be successful if you go the whole seven. Seven days is not so long. Remember that time you went 13 years without masturbating?

6/21/15


My penis has a noticeable rotation to it. I don't mean it curves like a banana; it's more of a twist. Could prone masturbation have caused this? I am giving up prone right now. Will masturbating normally on my back or in a chair reverse it? It doesn't hurt or bother me but I'm concerned any partners I have in the future will find it strange. I'm a virgin. (age 17)

A: I have never heard of that, but only a doctor could rule out an anatomical problem. The twist was not caused by masturbating prone. I doubt a partner would even notice that unless you pointed it out.

6/25/15


I'm 26. I lost my virginity at 25. The first few times I tried to have sex, I couldn't get an erection, but eventually I was fine after that. In 1.5 years of sex with the same girl, I could never ejaculate. I masturbated prone all my life until I realized this could be causing my ED, so I stopped a year ago. However, I've still not learned to masturbate properly by hand, but I can do it on by back by rubbing my penis with my hand and applying pressure. I tried to have sex with a new girl but couldn't get an erection again. I'm really worried that a) being circumcised has damaged the nerves b) I'll never be able to learn to masturbate supine properly c) losing my virginity late has compounded these problems as it meant I was never used to women. Please help, I really don't know what to do next, I don't want to go through my whole life unable to get erect properly or gain pleasure from sex.

A: Don't give up so quickly. You have only been sexually active for a year and a half, and you haven't completely gotten over prone masturbation. I highly recommend buying a toy called the Super Head Honcho and masturbating with it frequently. It will help you get over the amount of pressure you need to reach orgasm and will help you be able to have an orgasm with a woman.

7/1/15


I masturbated prone for 14 or 15 years but made the transition to the hand with just a couple of days abstinance so everything is possible. You have to be strong minded to not give into your prone habit! (age 29)

7/11/15


I keep trying to stop prone masturbation but I often get frustrated because I can't ejaculate doing it conventionally. Is there a certain way to masturbate conventionally? I don't know if I'm doing it right. Sooner or later I'll be having sex and I really don't want to explain to my partner why I can't for a month. Any suggestions? (age 17)

A: You are not trying hard enough. You are also not reading HealthyStrokes.com carefully enough because the site is full of suggestions for masturbating conventionally. Switch now while you're not sexually active. Your body will thank you.

7/22/15


I have suffered from prone masturbation since I was very young. I recently got into a serious relationship and I could never seem to get a firm erection. At best I've gotten a 50% erection and I definitely attribute it to prone masturbation. I am trying to switch, but I just now read you recommend waiting a week. I tried masturbating with my hand today and I had a 50% erection doing it and I ejaculated rather quickly. ANY insight would be greatly appreciated. I'm just looking for help with something that has just ruined my life.

A: I don't think your life has been ruined. The week is only a guideline; if you can masturbate to orgasm by hand without waiting a week, then go for it. Resolve to give up prone forever.

8/3/15


I always thought that prone masturbation was unnatural, but I only truly realized the issue in my first sexual relationship. It wasn't impossible to maintain erections or even get them, but I could not ejaculate while erect. I KNEW something was wrong. I came across HealthyStrokes.com and after one week of abstinence, I began to masturbate successfully supine and my erections became more numerous and stronger over time. I've even cut down on porn massively, and I find my mental state has never been better. I just wanted to let anyone, teens especially, know that they can overcome this sexual dilemma. Success can happen. Thank you. (age 17)

8/21/15


I have been masturbating prone into my hand since puberty, I'm 31 now and after finding this site I know I need to change. I hope it's not too late. I've tried doing it the conventional way but I've been at it for hours and got nothing. I have spent my life trying to avoid sexual relationships because of this. Every time I've had sex, I've been unable to ejaculate.

A: You need to stop masturbating for about a week. Then try to masturbate by hand. If you can't reach orgasm in an hour, stop and try again after one or two days. Do not masturbate for hours at a time. It is not too late.

8/23/15


Would it affect the cure process if I have sex but do not masturbate prone anymore? I'm now in the third week without orgasm and I'm going to see my girl in 10 days. (age 20)

A: You don't seem to understand the cure regimen. You're not supposed to go three weeks without orgasm. You're supposed to take a week off (sometimes more, sometimes less) from all sexual stimulation including masturbation to help you learn to masturbate by hand. Then you're supposed to masturbate by hand daily for a month. Then you can have sex. If you haven't masturbated by hand yet, then you're not ready to have sex. Tell her sex will have to wait until the next trip.

8/25/15


I have masturbated prone about 3 times. Will I end up getting ED? (age 12)

A: Probably not. Why don't you decide to give up prone forever now that you know it's a cause of ED. You can't be too attached to it after only three times.

8/26/15


I've recently switched to hand masturbation after reading about the dangers of prone masturbation on this site. Before, when I humped my bed, I would ejaculate off of reading, thinking, and watching tickling or feet. When I started masturbating facing up using hands, I found I could not ejaculate by reading, thinking, or watching tickling or feet. In fact, I couldn't get off of anything erotic I watched, thoguht about, or read! I could only get hard. How long does it take until I can hand ejaculate off of my previous interests like I could before while prone? And will ejaculation still feel as good? (age 16)

A: You are pretty young and shouldn't be so dependent on a fetish. At your age, just about anything you see or think about should help get you to orgasm. Your mind should be overflowing with beautiful, arousing images. Masturbating by hand is about the same mentally as masturbating prone. Switching will not change your brain or make you fantasize about different things. If anything, it will be easier for you to make use of written, printed, or video materials, because you will not be constrained by lying face down and humping your bed. Give the new method a chance. Within a couple of months, you will be able to masturbate in ways you never imagined before, like sitting at a computer desk. Relax and let your fantasies fill you. You don't need to rush to orgasm. And once you are used to masturbating by hand, please work at finding additional things beside your fetish that arouse you.

9/3/15


A: Confidential to 23-year-old Christian virgin. You should take a week off from sexual activity before trying to masturbate conventionally. It's fine if you use photos. If you've never done anything physical with your girlfriend before, then she won't think it's strange if you don't do so for the next month while you're learning to masturbate conventionally. You are young and can overcome prone soon. I also think you should make a plan for becoming sexually active soon.

9/8/15


I am 42 years old and have been masturbating prone since I was a toddler. My erections are very weak unless I get them up doing prone. I have some nighttime erections but they are not like they used to be. I feel like my sex drive is much lower than it was 10 years ago. I used to get erections all the time until I was in my mid thirties and then they gradually decreased. I no longer get spontaneous erections during the day like I used to. Could this be due to my age?

When I masturbate prone, I do it between 3-5 times a day. Is there a way I can overcome this or is it too late? I am still a virgin and I am worried if I ever get the chance to have sex with a woman, I will not be able to get an erection.

A: It is not too late. You need to decide to give up prone masturbation forever. Once you do that, just take a week off and then you should be able to masturbate by hand. All the things you report about decreased erections are normal for your age. I suggest giving up prone and then looking for a chance to lose your virginity.

9/15/15


Thanks to HealthyStrokes.com I have been able to quit prone masturbation. Before that, I had premature ejaculation anytime I tried to have sex with my girlfriend. Can prone masturbation cause PE? (age 26)

A: Most men who masturbate prone have the opposite problem. Now that you have quit masturbating prone, you can work on your PE. Relax and take your time. Maybe it's all in your head.

9/15/15


I was doing prone masturbation for a long time and I stopped. Two days ago, I was able to ejaculate but my orgasm wasn't very strong. Is it normal? Yesterday I was tired and couldn't sleep so masturbated prone without putting a lot of pressure. Do I need to restart the process and take another week off? (age 13)

A: No, you don't need to take a week off, since you have learned to masturbate to orgasm by hand. But if you resort to prone in the first month, take at least two days off before trying again. Never go back to prone. It is typical for your first few hand orgasms to feel less intense than the prone orgasms that you've gotten used to.

9/22/15


I stopped for 15 days prone masturbation but I can't ejaculate. I tried to push with my pelvic muscles as much as I do when I masturbate prone, but I couldn't. Why do males who masturbate prone have difficulties when they masturbate in the normal way? It's really hard to control yourself for such a long time. Do you have a tip to help ejaculation? (age 25)

A: Pushing hard with your PC muscle is not necessary. The thing is to enjoy what you're doing and to have your mind stimulated properly so that ejaculation follows from stroking your penis up and down with your hand. Please try again tomorrow and don't go back to prone.

9/28/15


Thank you very much for this site. I learned today about prone masturbation and I thought all these years that I was the only one. I don't know how to do non-prone masturbation. I tried with soap and with nothing. I don't have access to lubes and that stuff. I use my hands and it gets erect but I can't finish. It is very stressful and weird using my hand. How should I have to masturbate correctly in order to finish using my hands because I don't find the same pleasure as prone masturbation. (age 20)

A: You seem ready to give up on the cure program even though you only learned about it today. Take a week off from all masturbating and other sexual stimulation. Then it will be easier for you to masturbate to orgasm by hand. Don't think of it being stressful and weird. Anything new is weird, by definition.

10/10/15

Follow-up: I have now more than 3 months of stopping jerking off with prone position and trying the hands with no success, but I have something I can't understand.

Before, I would masturbate every day; now, I can easily stop the feelings of masturbating prone, but I also struggle to get the motivation to begin to masturbate by hand. When I masturbate, my penis begins to contract the muscles of the pelvis every time I touch or rub my penis which in the process tires it.

When I hit the 30 minute mark or more while trying to masturbate by hand, my penis feels tired, starting to become flaccid. In prone I would masturbate by rubbing my balls with my sheets and my penis barely gets touched at all. Maybe I have problems because I wasn't using my penis to masturbate?

A: You are too obsessed with the mechanics of this. I don't believe you have given up prone masturbation for three months; I don't believe you have given it up at all. Resolve to give up prone forever. Spend a week with no masturbating or sexual stimulation at all. Then masturbate to orgasm by hand. If you are successful, do it again the next day. If you are not successful, wait two days and try again. Once you have learned to masturbate by hand, you will not be thinking about thrusting prone into your sheets.

12/25/15


I've adjusted to being able to masturbate with my hand, lying on my back, after two weeks of abstaining. However, I'm still not masturbating the way you recommend. I'm more thrusting upward into my hand, similar to prone. Basically a middle step. I'm wondering where to proceed from here, because abstaining didn't work out. (age 17)

A: You are almost there. I recommend abstaining some more until you can masturbate to orgasm by stroking without your hand and without thrusting. You can do it.

10/22/15


I have never been able to masturbate normally because I used prone masturbation before I even knew sex was a thing. Just today I got over my prone masturbation. I finally ejaculated using my hands going up and down my shaft, supine. HealthyStrokes.com gives me a lot of hope and help.

I still feel the urge to masturbate prone, however, because I can ejaculate multiple times in succession with that method. Will the urge to masturbate prone ever go away? (age 18)

A: Congratulations on learning to masturbate with your hand. In a few months, you will be surprised at how efficiently you can masturbate by hand, and in so many places. It is up to you to avoid temptation to masturbate prone, as that will only interfere with your progress. After masturbating by hand for a few months, you might not even remember what prone was like.

10/24/15


I tried prone masturbation twice a few years ago. I had never done it prone before. I saw HealthyStrokes.com and have never done it again. I think doing it twice led to something positive for me. It made it easier for me to adjust the time I wanted to ejaculate by hand. A normal time for me now is 15 minutes. (age 26)

A: I would never recommend prone for anyone, but I doubt that anyone would suffer negative consequences for masturbating prone twice after 10 years of regular hand masturbation. I also doubt that having masturbated prone twice a few years ago made any difference in how long it takes you to reach orgasm now. 15 minutes is pretty typical at your age.

11/3/15


I've been masturbating prone for almost two years now. I'm in my first day of those 7 days to get cured. Is it OK to watch porn during those 7 days without masturbating, or should I wait? (age 15)

A: Don't watch porn during your abstinence period. It's only going to make you want to masturbate.

11/4/15


I only found your site about 3 hours ago after following a link from another site. I have been experiencing serious ED, but have over the past 40 years or so had successful sex and many partners. I am 57 and recently divorced (obviously due to my sexual dysfunction). I had NO IDEA UNTIL NOW, that for my entire life, I'd been progressively making myself impotent!

After reading some of www.healthystrokes.com I feel it's too late and there is probably NO HOPE for me now. I am seriously considering SUICIDE.

I have been masturbating in the prone position, since I was probably 4 or 5 years old - long before I ever even knew there was such a thing as semen and in fact I used to get aroused by seeing girls in ballet costumes and get pleasant sensations and I would literally make love to the mattress until I reached orgasm. Nobody EVER discussed masturbation with me, let alone the potential harm that can be done by doing it incorrectly. My ED has been intermittent most of my adult life, yet I HAVE enjoyed various positions. I have spent most of my life living alone and can never hold down relationships for very long. The longest I had was about 6 years and most of that we were living together, but I could only enjoy sex if she dressed in short miniskirts or even a (very short) nurse uniform or school uniform (clothing fetish). At times my erections were very strong and orgasms intense, but that's was 15 to 20 years ago.

The last successful sex I had was with my now estranged wife who is 20 years my junior, where I was able to have full sex all day and night for 11 days. I literally wore my penis out and had to stop for a full day to let it heal.

I can and often do masturbate the conventional way, but I preferred prone.

I tried to get some arousal a couple of weeks ago by browsing various erotic and mildly pornographic web sites and they had NO EFFECT on my DEAD libido and erection whatsoever. I actually fell asleep from being totally disinterested!

I now have a 26 year old HOT babe who totally loves me, she is better than ANY girl I ever fantasized about, but I only just managed sex (to orgasm) twice during an 18 day holiday with her. Now I haven't masturbated for several days and when I did, it was in my bed in the prone position (making love to the mattress) and it took a long time to even get it partially erect. My penis did finally become fully erect, but only at the very same moment that I ejaculated.

The utter hopelessness of my dilemma and the reason it is such a dilemma was finally revealed only a couple of hours ago, by your website. I haven't experienced a morning erection for at least 2 years as far as I can remember. I now have NO HOPE of ever regaining my ability to have sex again.. Is there ANY chance for me to ever get an erection, let alone have sex with a partner? I am so numb with the pain of the shocking truth, which I had no idea was ruining my life until today. I am now so short tempered and ANGRY I am frightening myself! If I can't have sex again, I see no point in living another day.

A: You can and should live a lot more days. Keep in mind that some sexual decline is natural because of your age. You have been doing pretty well for having practiced prone for 53 years. I would urge you to resolve to keep living and give up prone forever. Since you already know how to masturbate conventionally, it will be a lot easier for you than for a male who doesn't. There is no reason to give up masturbating completely. Just practice it conventionally as often as you need to. You are apt to notice an improvement in your erections within a few months.

When the time comes to have sex again, sometime in early 2016, limit yourself to one session a day a few times a week, at most. Those long sex binges you've had didn't do you any good.

11/18/15


For a week, I haven't masturbated prone but I can't seem to masturbate by hand. If I go on too long, my penis becomes swollen. What do I do, just keep going? Is there any other way? (age 15)

A: Your penis will not become swollen. Try to masturbate to orgasm for 45 minutes to an hour. If you don't succeed, try again in another day or two. Do not go back to prone or you'll have to start over.

11/30/15


I have been doing prone for around 8 years. I want to quit because I have a girlfriend now. I haven't masturbated prone for 2 weeks now, but I actually have no desire to masturbate at all. Is this normal? I want to quit really bad but I don't feel much when doing it with my hand as opposed to prone. (age 22)

A: If you are newly sexually active, you might feel like you will never masturbate again, but you will. It is important for you to give up prone now, even if it means you can't be sexually active with your girlfriend for a month or so.

12/17/15


I have finally learned to masturbate conventionally but for some reason I notice I don't ejaculate as much. Is this normal? (age 15)

A: Yes, it's normal for your ejaculation to seem different for the first few months after you switch. Take time and the way you're ejaculating now will be the new normal. Your volume is apt to increase as you become accustomed to hand masturbation.

12/18/15


I am a 21 year old male who has masturbated prone for most of his life. I started when I was about 8 or 9, and have never stopped since. I am able to use my hand to ejaculate, without taking much longer than I would by doing prone, depending on my arousal and if I've been abstaining from doing so or not. I have resorted to prone due to laziness, I suppose. I've always had morning erections and no particular trouble getting one.

I have always taken extra long to reach orgasm during intercourse, but I didn't think much of it. Recently, however, I have a new girlfriend, with whom I have not had sex yet, so before I did, I tried to look for the cause of my taking so long to finish; that's when I found HealthyStrokes.com. When I was with her I was able to get an erection properly, but it was more complicated for me to get one on my own later. It all made sense to me.

Is it completely off-limits to have intercourse with her when possible? It won't happen more than once a week, or even less than that during the next month, so isn't it possible to start curing myself from prone with the possibility of intercourse, after the initial phase of sexual abstention?

A: Your situation is a complicated one. You know how to masturbate by hand but you still do prone at least some of the time. The first thing to do is resolve to give up prone forever. Since you already masturbate by hand, there is no reason to do a 7-day abstinence. Instead, start masturbating by hand daily. I don't advise any kind of intercourse until you have been masturbating by hand daily for a month. As a compromise, why not count 30 days from the last time you masturbate prone and then try to have sex then. I'm also slightly amused that although you have not had sex with this new girl, that you expect that it will happen in the next month.

12/25/15


I have masturbated prone since I was 10 years old. I discovered HealthyStrokes.com in August 2015 and resolved to give up prone masturbation and learn masturbation in the regular way. After the initial period of abstinence, I was able to ejaculate by stroking my penis with one hand by the end of September. It took me nearly 1.5 hours to reach orgasm. Afterward, I abstained for 2-3 days and then masturbated to orgasm within 10 minutes. Since then I have been masturbating daily with one hand. I take about 10-15 minutes to reach orgasm except for a few occasions.

  1. During the past 3 months on certain occassions (3-4 times) I took 20-25 minutes to reach orgasm. Is it normal?
  2. It is mentioned on this site that after 3-4 months of normally masturbating by hand, my erections would get stronger and more noticeable. But I have not noticed any change in my erections (but my erections are slightly stronger than before). Is it normal not to feel a difference in erections?
  3. I have suffered from slow body growth since childhood (almost from the time I started prone masturbation). My height is only 5 feet 2 inches and I have a very boyish face. I am 25 but look 14. Is there any relation between this and my previous habit of masturbating prone? Are there any cases suggesting slow body growth or hormonal growth due to practicing prone masturbation?
  4. I also suffer from phimosis. I have overcome prone masturbation. Have you got any research/tips/links to help me out with the phimosis problem that I am suffering with?
  5. I am against using lubricant for masturbation as I don't like the idea. Is it OK if I continue masturbating without lube?
  6. What is the ideal age for becoming sexually active with a partner? I have not been able to date any girls until now. In our culture marriage is normally done at age 28-29 years. Is 29 years OK for becoming sexually active?

A: Congratulations on following the instructions on HealthyStrokes.com and overcoming prone masturbation.

  1. That is fine.
  2. You say your erections are slightly stronger, so obviously giving up prone is working for you.
  3. Masturbating, prone or otherwise, will not affect your height or weight or how old you look. It's good to be young looking.
  4. Very few prone males (and I have dealt with thousands) suffer from phimosis. I doubt the conditions are strongly related. See your doctor for advice on phimosis; he is apt to recommend circumcision.
  5. Why are you "against" lube? It greatly enhances sexual pleasure. Why not try some different kinds of lube before deciding you're against it. Lube helps you use less force on your penis. Your penis has gotten more force than it needed for many years because of your prone masturbation.
  6. I would say age 18-21. You are already too old to be a virgin and will be even more so in 3-4 years.

1/3/16


I am a 24 year old virgin. If I decide to stop prone masturbation completely forever and also decide to give up masturbating completely, after 4 to 5 years of absolutely no masturbation, if I get a partner to have intercourse with, would I be able to ejaculate and finish it?

A: I urge you greatly to give up prone masturbation forever. After you are done masturbating prone, you will be masturbating by hand, probably for the rest of your life, whether or not you also have sex with partners. You are also too old to still be a virgin, so I urge you to find a partner ASAP instead of waiting 4-5 years.

1/4/16


I have been masturbating prone since 11 or 12. I have tried to stop for a while, ever since I discovered the health effects of it from HealthyStrokes.com. After refraining a week or so, what new sensations should I experience when trying to masturbate via hand? I've noticed an itchy feeling. I'm not sure if it's because I'm somewhat aggressive. (age 19)

A: I don't know anything about an itchy feeling. When you masturbate by hand for the first time, try to find what feels good about it and what leads you to orgasm. Your first hand ejaculation will feel a lot different from what you're used to prone. As you get more used to the feeling, you will like it better.

1/9/16


I finally managed to masturbate via hand. I abstained from masturbation since December 30th and masturbated to orgasm on January 10th today. Did I do it correctly? I might have thrusted into my hand which still counts as prone masturbation according to your site. Is there a new sensation I'm supposed to feel? Should I try it a few more times to see if it's good? (age 19)

A: Thrusting into your hand means you are still doing it prone. If you are doing it face up, then it doesn't hurt anything if you thrust into your hand a little. You will not feel a new sensation right away. Most guys, after a lifetime of prone, will masturbate by hand and the first few times wonder, "Was that it?" That is because for someone who's accustomed to masturbating prone, the force of hand masturbation does not seem as great. After a few weeks, you will be used to the different feeling and like it every bit as much as prone.

1/10/16


I have being doing prone masturbation for 10 years. I have abstained for 2 weeks and I tried today and could barely get a partial erection. So I tried prone masturbation and I got a hard boner. However, I stood up and it was at a 270 degree angle. Is it damaged for life? (age 16)

A: I'm not sure it's damaged at all, but you ruined your two weeks' abstaining by masturbating prone. Abstain again for 5-7 days and then masturbate by hand. Don't worry about how solid your erection is. Do not go back to prone.

1/18/16


I am 22 and have been a masturbating prone daily on the carpet for my whole life, or as long as I can remember. I always knew something was incorrect about it but didn't search for answers as I feared I was the only one who did it this way. I found HealthyStrokes.com a week ago and am worried about my future. I've never been able to ejaculate with a female (I have had sex with 10 different partners). I've tried supine a few times but I've never been successful.

It's been about 3 weeks now since I've given up prone and I've barely attempted supine yet. Do you have any tips on when/how I should attempt? I typically did prone while watching pornography, a habit I'm also desperately trying to kick. Also, my new girlfriend is a virgin and is wondering why I won't orgasm via hand or oral sex. Should I explain to her why this may be and how she could help? Sorry this is so scatterbrained but it's just a growing fear of mine.

A: It's good that you've given up prone. After three weeks, you should find it pretty easy to masturbate by hand. My web site is full of tips for how and when you should masturbate by hand. Did you really not read it? Don't give up your porn use right now; you will need it to help you reach orgasm by hand. Once you have become accustomed to masturbating by hand, you can decide if you want to give up porn.

I suggest telling your new girlfriend that you don't want to be sexual with her for a few months. It's up to you how much you tell her about why you don't want to.

1/20/16


I have been masturbating prone for 4 years. That is my most frequent but not only method of masturbating. I lie on my stomach and pull my shaft to the base and hold it there until I ejaculate. After a while I noticed that I am unable to derive pleasure from just stroking my penis.

After coming across HealthyStrokes.com, I figured it was masturbating in the prone position that what may have caused this. I abstained from masturbating for a week and although I am unable to masturbate by simply stroking my penis up and down, I am able to masturbate by pulling my shaft to the base of my penis and holding there until I ejaculate the supine position (lying on my back) or standing or sitting up.

Should I avoid this method of masturbating as well? (age 18)

A: What you describe is an atypical method of masturbating that might be as bad as prone. Go through the abstinence period again and teach yourself to masturbate the way every other male does, stroking up and down the penis with one hand.

1/26/16


I've been masturbating prone since I was about 6. I'm 16 now. I started on carpet (didn't really hurt). At 12 I moved to the bed because I got heavy and strong and I realized I could hurt myself thrusting against the carpet. I was urinating all the time and had to go to the doctor. The MRI said it wasn't my bladder. The first time I ejaculated was at 12 on my wooden floor. I tried masturbating the normal way about 5 times but have not had any success and it didn't feel good.

I now have a girlfriend and when we have oral or she gives me a hand-job I have no problem getting erections and it does feel good and I enjoy it, but I can't ejaculate no matter what and she is good at what she does for me.

I still can't masturbate by hand myself. I abstained for 20 days and went back and masturbated for three days in a row all prone. I tried the normal way and it didn't work but I'm not giving up and am going back to abstaining. Could I have messed up my inner lining or something? I feel fine down there but I don't know. Can I still change? I started very young and I did it a lot. And should I go to the doctor?

Thanks for your website and all the advice and effort you put into it. I'm sure you've changed a lot of people and their lives.

A: I really urge you to stick with the program and never masturbate prone again. You are obviously using a lot of force to masturbate prone, and it is keeping you from enjoying sex with your girlfriend. Decide you're serious about this and abstain from both masturbation and sex with your girlfriend for a full seven days and then try regular masturbation by hand.

2/11/16


If I can masturbate the normal method without needing to stop masturbation at first, is it possible to just try stopping the prone method and sticking to the normal method without an abstinence period?

I find myself bored from the usual method so my erection is not as hard but I have no problem ejaculating when I want to. I feel like I benefited from the prone method that I can last so long now using the normal method and only ejaculate when I want to. Can that be true or is there something I am not getting right?

Thank you so much for the informational web site. (age 22)

A: If you can already masturbate conventionally, then you don't need an abstinence period. Just vow to give up prone forever. Take some time masturbating exclusively in the conventional manner before you decide it's boring. After a few weeks, you will be able to do it in a variety of places and with more variation. Prone masturbation doesn't benefit anyone; it makes it harder to ejaculate when you want to. Decide to move on from prone.

2/11/16


I have have only been masturbating prone for a couple of months. Could this still affect my future if I stop now? (age 16)

A: No. You will be fine if you switch from prone to conventional masturbation right now. I wish you would.

2/14/16


I have masturbated prone since 11 and have tried the conventional way several times, but it has never worked. I took your advice and stopped masturbating for two days so far. I am concerned that when I begin to masturbate again, I want to use the conventional way, but I am scared that I won't be able to orgasm. (age 15)

A: You are pretty young, and the youngest males have the easiest time switching from prone to conventional masturbation. Keep abstaining for a few more days. I think it will be easier to masturbate by hand than you anticipate.

2/15/16


I masturbated prone from age 6-14, stopped, then started to properly masturbate. But I can't get erections very easily any more! And only semi-erect morning wood. When I masturbated prone, I got morning wood all the time! (age 17)

A: Congratulations on giving up prone for three years. You might be using more force than you need to when masturbating by hand. I recommend a sex toy called the Super Head Honcho to help you learn to use less force. Keep in mind that at your age, it is normal for males to wake up hard less often than they did at age 13-16.

4/1/16


I have been masturbating prone for about 13 years. Recently I have been finishing the normal way. I gave up prone for 5 days until I relapsed, starting prone but the majority the normal way. I'm guessing even just starting using the prone method is unhealthy but I was wondering if finishing the normal way is good. (age 22)

A: You need to give up prone forever. Don't do prone and then ask me to justify it. Masturbate by hand daily for a month, and then you might wonder what prone even felt like.

4/2/16


I have mounted multiple attempts to quit prone but after 1 week and then 2 weeks I have had very little success. I have little sensation when doing it by hand. However, I was able to reach climax using a pillow while lying on my back. I was applying a lot of pressure but I was wondering whether this would be a useful stepping stone or still a very harmful method. (age 15)

A: Your instructions were to learn to masturbate by hand. Lose the prone and the pillows and concentrate on masturbating to orgasm by hand. Don't expect the first times to feel as good as what you're used to prone. Just make them happen and then get used to the new feeling.

4/4/16


I have been masturbating prone my whole life. Never had a problem. Thought it was weird so looked it up. I tried with my hand and came. Let me tell you though after prone, I really know how to hit a woman's spots as opposed to hand when I'm just rapidly thrusting into her. (age 23)

A: Don't credit prone masturbation for sexual technique. Any man can learn to thrust at the right angle to please a woman.

4/14/16


I just wanted to say thank you for your site. I masturbated prone from age 12. Finding your site was such a relief for me - I finally had words for my condition. I abstained for a little over a week and just tonight was able to jerk off with my hands for the first time. It felt so good! I'm so happy that I can do it the normal way now! (age 21)

4/15/16


Let me just start by saying that this is a success story and I want to say thank you to whoever made this web site. My entire life, I thought I was the only one who masturbated face down. I have masturbated prone since I was 5 and I didn't stop until I was 21. I never knew that it was harming my body until I came across HealthyStrokes.com although I knew something was wrong because I could never properly orgasm when I was having sex. Upon reading that prone masturbation was the reason for me never having fulfilling orgasm in intercourse, I instantly stopped. I stopped masturbating for one week and then began to do it by hand the proper way. It was very very hard but I knew I had to do it. I never relapsed to prone despite urges to do so. It was 08/11/14 that I masturbated prone for the last time, and ever since that day my erections have improved and sex is now better than ever. I am currently at the level where I have been orgasming inside women without having to masturbate at all and I absolutely love it. I finally feel normal and again I just want to thank you for creating this site and I want to give hope and courage to all those out there like me. I am not a person to write on sites and blogs but I felt I just had to let you guys know that you can stop. It's all up to you.

4/19/16


I've noticed lately after years of prone masturbation, that I am finding it hard to get erect, and when I do, it only lasts a few seconds. Most of the time, it is much softer then usual. I am very concerned especially considering my age. Have I caused permanent damage? What can I do to try and reverse the symptoms? (age 24)

A: Quit masturbating prone now. You can be masturbating by hand at this time next week and notice a difference in your erections in a few months.

4/20/16


I've done prone my whole life, and now I am worried. I have no major problems yet, though I wonder if my erections are weaker because of it? Can prone masturbation do this? (age 40)

You didn't say anything about having sex with partners. If you're able to do so successfully, then you are OK. But you ought to give up prone and learn to masturbate conventionally because doing so is a basic sexual skill. Prone is also proven to be a cause of sexual dysfunctions in men. If you've dodged the bullet after masturbating prone for 30 years, consider yourself lucky.

4/21/16


I started prone masturbation when I was in 7th grade and I quit this year as an 11th grader. I have been able to switch to conventional masturbation but I find that I don't have many morning erections anymore and I can't get erect unless I stroke my penis. (age 16)

A: You did not ask a question, but it is normal for it to take a few months to notice a difference in your erections after you quit prone. Be glad you've done that. As an exercise, work on consciously avoiding touching your penis before you masturbate and see how easily you can produce an erection merely by fantasy.

4/26/16


If you think masturbating is making your heart rate faster, consider what gym class does to it. I am switching from prone and when I tried masturbating by hand, my heart started beating quicker and heavier and I had shortness of breath. I stopped because I was scared that I was going to have a heart attack or something. Is this normal and should I continue masturbating as this happens? (age 17)

A: Masturbating prone makes your heart race much faster and pump harder than conventional masturbation. You just don't notice because you're in the middle of prone masturbating. You noticed what your heart was doing when you were masturbating conventionally because you were lying mostly still and were better able to notice. Only a doctor can say for certain about your heart condition, but it is extremely unlikely that you will have a heart attack at your age.

4/26/16


I'm 19 and have practiced prone masturbation since I was 14. Last Sunday I had sex for the first time and I couldn't get off. I tried for 15-20 minutes but couldn't ejaculate. Then I came home and masturbated in the prone position and came off easily. At night I searched for it and found HealthyStrokes.com. Right away I went to the washroom and tried to masturbate in the conventional way but just couldn't ejaculate. For the past two years I have been masturbating daily. I followed your instructions and didn't masturbate until today. I tried for 30 minutes in the conventional way but just couldn't do it. I was erect for the whole 30 minutes. Will I ever be able to masturbate conventionally?

A: Yes. Keep at it. Congratulations on having sex! 15-20 minutes is not so long. Keep trying. But first learn to masturbate conventionally. Resolve to give up prone forever. Try again in a few days (if you have not gone back to prone). If it doesn't work, try again after a day or two.

5/3/16


I am a 29 year old male and I have been masturbating prone for almost all my life. I have been in a relationship for six years and I have not been able to ejaculate or finish when we are having sex, although my erections stay for a long time. I have been addicted to porn and prone masturbation and frighteningly, I prefer it to intercourse. For a long time I thought it was because I wasn't sexually attracted to my girlfriend, but I came across HealthyStrokes.com only recently and found out the dangers of prone masturbation. Could you please reassure me that if I follow your steps to shift to the supine position, I can lead a normal sex life? It has been most stressful and debilitating a condition.

A: I don't know why you need me to ask you to reassure you, when this site is full of testimony from men who say that switching to conventional masturbation either fixed their sexual problems or greatly reduced them. I also have to ask if you are really attracted to your girlfriend, because you're the one who raised that issue. Even if prone is mostly to blame for your inability to reach orgasm in intercourse, it could also be the case that you're not attracted to your partner.

5/8/16


I prone masturbated for 4 years and I was able to switch to conventional masturbation about 6 months ago. I usually reach climax at around 5-10 minutes into watching porn. Does my lasting that long have to do with my prone masturbation? Is it good that I was able to switch within one day? I know this is a complicated question but, do you think I did just damage to myself considering I was able to switch and I do it daily now? (age 17)

A: 5-10 minutes is average time for your age. You're doing just fine. Congratulations on switching in only one day. I think you will be OK.

5/14/16


I am an 18 year old male who has been masturbating prone from age 6 till now. I quit a week ago and have been masturbated the conventional way lying on my back 3 times within the last few days. However, it takes more than an hour to ejaculate. Do I have any sexual dysfunction?

A: A week is too soon to know, and you also can't fully know the answer to that until you have sex with a partner. Congratulations on giving up prone. I suspect within another week, you will be ejaculating in a lot less than an hour. Don't go back to prone.

5/18/16


When I masturbate prone, apply pressure and then release, my penis would sort of contract in the middle of it. I've looked around and can't find anyone talking about what it's called. Does the same happen in normal masturbation? I've waited a week without ejaculating but while masturbating it just doesn't feel good and I'm not sure if it's working. What sensation should I feel if it is working? Should I keep tugging regardless of sensation? (age 18)

A: The problem isn't tugging but masturbating prone. Your penis will react differently to the gentle force of one hand stroking as opposed to the massive force of thrusting your entire body weight against it. It will take a few weeks of regular masturbating for you to get used to the feeling, but once you are, you will like it a lot better than prone.

5/18/16


For about half a year now, I'm trying to give up prone. I can masturbate the conventional way but it takes longer and I don't know why, but I keep coming back to prone. Help me please! (age 14)

A: Congratulations on learning to masturbate conventionally. You are not enjoying it as much as prone because you keep going back to prone. Decide to never masturbate prone again. After a few months with no prone, you will enjoy conventional masturbation a lot more.

5/23/16


My penis and part of my scrotum have gone numb after two years of prone masturbation. I have stopped all prone masturbation. Five months later, my penis is regaining feeling but the left side of my scrotum still feels numb to the touch, as in I can't feel anything lightly touch it, but I can still barely sense temperature and pain. I can masturbate conventionally just fine. (age 21)

A: There is probably nothing wrong with your private parts. You might be using too much force to masturbate conventionally. I suggest using lube if you're not already and it might be worth trying a sex toy called the Super Head Honcho to help you learn to use less force.

5/23/16


I have masturbated prone since I was in the 8th grade. Now I am a 1st year in college. I can't masturbate the conventional way. When I went through HealthyStrokes.com, it made me believe that even I can do it like others. I made a chart and followed what you wrote. After one week I tried and failed and it made me frustrated and then I masturbated prone. I lost my patience. What went wrong and why didn't it work for me? (age 19)

A: It didn't work because you didn't give it enough time. The one week stated is only a rule of thumb. Some males can masturbate by hand for the first time after only 2-3 days of abstinence and some will need 10 days or two weeks. When you gave in and masturbated prone, you had to reset the timer to zero and start over. Be more patient this time and don't give in and do prone if your hand doesn't work. Take an extra day or two and then try again.

5/27/16


I discovered your web site and it is hard to quit prone masturbation. I am a virgin but the place between my penis and balls has a lot of wrinkles. Has prone masturbation caused this damage? Will I ever be good in bed and satisfy a woman? (age 17)

A: Prone masturbation did not wrinkle your scrotum. It is designed wrinkly so it can expand and contract as the temperature dictates. You can quit prone masturbation, and by the time you lose your virginity, you can be as good in bed as any other guy.

5/27/16


I've been masturbating prone for about 14 years now. Ever since I stopped masturbating on a binge, I've gotten morning wood for about 10 months every morning and some spontaneous erections randomly. For your ways on how to abstain from prone masturbation to learn how to masturbate the conventional way, you say, "Any masturbating, even short of orgasm, is counterproductive during this period." Do morning wood and spontaneous erections count as counterproductive during abstention? (age 19)

A: No. "Morning wood" and spontaneous erections are good. So is frequent masturbation. The only reason I advise males to abstain is to help them give up prone masturbation. Give that up and then masturbate often with your hand.

5/28/16


I read the tips on how to get out of the habit of masturbating prone. Would those necessarily be a way to cure anorgasmia? If not, are there any ways to help me successfully have an orgasm while doing it the normal way? (age 16)

A: Yes. If you give up prone, you ought to expect your erections and your orgasmic ability to improve. Better days (and nights) are ahead.

5/29/16


Thank you so much. I have been masturbating in the prone position for 25+ years and have had so much dysfunction in all areas of my sex life. I now have a better understanding of why conventional masturbation, penetration and climax with my partner is often unsatisfying. I always thought I wasn't "relaxing" or "hot enough" or focused enough. I clearly need to retrain my body, and while it sounds really hard, I am so grateful for this knowledge. Thank you. (female, age 31)

5/29/16


I just wanted to say a big thanks to you. I just gave myself my first orgasm in the standard masturbation position for the first time in 9 years. I had no idea there were so many afflicted with prone. It's a very embarrassing issue for me and it's just nice to finally know that I'm not alone in this and there is hope for me and others to recover.

I abstained from prone for a week and with help of some visuals after 25 minutes I was successful. For anyone else suffering from this, there is hope for you. After 9 years of prone masturbation, I never thought I would be able to ejaculate conventionally. Should I keep trying to masturbate conventionally daily? Is it bad that I had to use porn? (age 22)

A: As the instructions say, when you first learn to masturbate conventionally, do it every other day until you are confident to masturbate by hand daily. Using visual aids at your age is pretty normal whether or not one is trying to learn a new method.

6/21/16


I have experienced mental health issues due to masturbating prone. Now I know it's not normal, despite giving it up 5 years ago, I still worry there's damage and that I won't be able to have sex successfully. I always worry that I'm masturbating wrong - by hand. Part of why I worry is because I didn't give up after masturbating prone. I went straight to hand, no abstinence. It seems to have messed me up mentally, with bad memories and such. I also have anxiety that I'll experience erectile dysfunction due to it one day. I gave up prone in 2011, but I had an operation on my penis when I was very young. This combined with prone masturbation means I may be screwed. (age 21)

A: If you have mental health issues, you should seek professional help for them. I doubt that masturbating prone had anything to do with them. Prone masturbation is unlikely to affect your sexual future now if you gave it up five years ago at age 16. However, you seem to still be a virgin. Being a virgin at your age is bad for you, because males who stay virgins past the age of 21 have a higher likelihood of sexual dysfunctions. And don't worry about having erectile dysfunction; all men have it occasionally. I suggest you start working on finding a sex partner and stop worrying about sexual problems that are far in your past.

6/22/16


Two and a half years ago I came across this site and managed to get myself two whole months of masturbating the normal way, but I cheated by trying just one session of prone and ever since, I have been struggling to get cured. I eventually got so frustrated trying to cure myself again that at times I gave up and went back to prone but over the past year it's been a struggle to get cured and six months ago I went a month of the normal way and it was going fine until I woke up humping but I haven't humped or anything since. If I move in a funny position or my penis makes even slight contact with my mattress, it's as if I have to wait around about a week for sensitivity to come back.

My reduction insensitivity started 2 days ago when I was stopping masturbating for around 20 seconds and starting again which in total lasted 10 minutes roughly. Is it normal for guys to struggle getting cured because their penis comes into contact with a mattress or something like that? I sleep in my track suit bottoms just so my penis doesn't come into any contact with anything but I don't know if it's contact or death grip because when I feel less sensitive, I tense my body and my arm but not so much my actual hand, even though it may or may not be too tight I get the impression that it's a possibility. (age 20)

A: The problem is not occasionally touching your penis to your mattress. The problem is that you have not completely given up prone masturbation. Decide you're never going to masturbate prone again. Then enjoy masturbating with your hand. Work on using less force. A toy called the Super Head Honcho, available for about $15 on Amazon and Drugstore.com can help you learn to masturbate with less force.

6/25/16


Greetings from Colombia. Thank you for doing this page. After a lot of years of prone masturbation, I have decided to quit. This type of masturbation is really a problem and causes physical problems. I am glad I read this article being a teenager and before having intercourse for the first time. You are a really professional man and you know what you're doing. Thanks for making our lives better and helping thousands of men around the world. (age 16)

A: Congratulations on deciding to quit prone, and greetings to you from Columbia!


It's been a long hard few months trying to give up prone. I went about four days abstaining before relapsing then went three days abstaining. I masturbated successfully using my hand face up. I don't think my erection was anywhere near full strength though. Did I not wait long enough? Should I wait longer in the future? It took around 10 minutes. (age 23)

A: If you were able to masturbate to orgasm by hand in only 10 minutes, you waited long enough. Congratulations. Keep masturbating by hand every day or every other day until you've done it by hand daily for a month. Resolve to never masturbate prone again.

7/4/16


I have been masturbating prone for about 4-5 years(almost every day) and I just found HealthyStrokes.com. For the past 4 months I have been trying to masturbate the normal way every once in a while but I can't get myself to achieve orgasm, so I masturbate prone. I usually masturbate soft into my hand and that's what I've been doing, however I can also masturbate prone while erect. I'm going to immediately stop masturbating prone, but I know I will I crave orgasm. Any tips how to not masturbate prone? Also do you think I will ever be able to reach orgasm by having sex or masturbating normally? (age 13)

A: Yes, you will be masturbating conventionally and having a great time at it in a few weeks. Please review the main page of HealthyStrokes.com to help you get to that point. It's full of tips.

7/6/16


I used to prone masturbate from a young age until around 15 years old when I finally changed. I didn't fully kick the habit because now, the majority of the time that I masturbate, I flex/tense my legs out intensely while sitting in a chair for the entirety of the session. In a way it's like my body trying to cope in some way because I'm not going prone anymore. I have also developed this habit of squeezing/pulling my foreskin while masturbating for basically the entire session, very pleasureable but obviously not healthy.

I'm having a tough time not masturbating on a daily basis and just cutting it out for a good week or two. Do you have any advice for me? (age 19)

A: Most males and females stretch their legs out tight while they masturbate. There is nothing wrong with it. The purpose of it is to block out sensations coming from the legs that might interfere with having an orgasm. I advise you to cut out the squeezing/pulling. Why don't you just decide you're not going to do that anymore?

7/9/16


I am 19 years old and will be turning 20 in a couple of days. I have been masturbating prone since I was around 10 years old. I have attempted sex with different partners and for 6 months straight in my last relationship, but I could never hold an erection for more than 30 seconds and I could never even reach orgasm. I thought it was the absolute end of the world and that I would never be happy in a relationship or anything ever again. I tried going a week without masturbating prone, and then on the seventh day I tried the conventional way, and I was able to go a strong 10 minutes stroking but then I went flaccid and had to masturbate prone to finish which only took me a minute. The next day I did the same thing but I limited my time prone masturbating to less than 30 seconds and the rest was by hand and I was able to orgasm! The following day I tried to do the whole process the conventional way, and 25 minutes later I have reached my first orgasm the conventional way! I am still in shock and it has been a week and every night I have been able to masturbate supine and the conventional way!

When you think you're about to give up and revert to the prone method, DON'T!!!! The orgasm is so much more intense and real the conventional way and I will NEVER go back to the prone! Thank you SOOOO much healthystrokes.com and all of the insightful comments on this page! Thank you for pointing out an issue that I thought was perfectly normal and educating me on it!

7/6/16


I have been masturbating prone basically all my life but when I was 18 I decided to make a change. At first it was difficult because most of the doctors here have never heard of prone masturbation. HealthyStrokes.com has helped me a lot to get informed about this and treat it. So I tried to not masturbate for about a month but it wasn't enough. I still had really low sensitivity but one day I found this video which claims to increase penile sensitivity. After a week listening to these frequencies, I gained a lot of sensitivity and could masturbate normally. These frequencies will help you to regenerate massive amounts of nerve endings and it's completely free. (age 20)

A: Whatever works for you works, but I doubt the frequencies had anything to do with it. More likely it was the week of abstinence coupled with the belief that you were going to be able to masturbate by hand.

7/10/16


Thank you for this site and the help you've been providing to us. I've decided to quit the prone habit very recently.

I'm 16 and have been masturbating prone since I was 3 or 4 and have been doing it regularly since (at least 5 times a week, although sometimes I will go a week at a time without it because I am at boarding school). I smoke cigarettes and cannabis regularly and I occasionally do other drugs and I am aware that this is not good for penile health but I don't plan on quitting.

I have had a couple sexual experiences though never actual intercourse and I have never reached orgasm through anything but prone masturbation. I once tried to do it with a girl but I went flaccid at the wrong moment. After reading up about PM I know that I have to stop and I'm getting sick of it anyway. I have tried to masturbate by hand but it has never worked. Sometimes I just get tired of stroking and sometimes I just go limp from worry. When I masturbate prone, my penis is usually not fully erect. I feel I am ready for regular sexual activity and I definitely want to stop this bad habit.

A: You should be itching to give up prone, and it should be relatively easy for you to go a week or so without masturbating or other sexual stimulus since you report going a week at a time without masturbating while you're at boarding school. Why not get with the program now, and you can be masturbating by hand when school starts again?

7/18/16


Masturbating prone for about 7 years. Also masturbated conventionally fewer times. I have a small flaccid size but my erection is good but I cannot maintain for a reasonable time. It's been 45 days since I have masturbated. What can I do to increase my flaccid size as I am most concerned about it. It is embarassingly small, less than 2 inches. (age 22)

A: Your problem is not that you have a small flaccid penis; your erect size is good, you report, and that is what is important. Your problem is that you masturbate prone and have trouble maintaining erections. You should give up prone ASAP and vow to masturbate conventionally every time by this time next month. Then your erections will improve gradually and you will enjoy them more and worry less about your flaccid size.

7/19/16


I have just read about the harmful effects of prone masturbation but I have been practicing it for about 10 years. My erect penis is almost 180 degrees vertically upward which is close to touching my abdomen. A lot of men only erect to 90 degrees (straight out from their body). Have years of prone masturbation damaged my penile tissue such that my penis erected in this way? Will a 180 degrees upward erection pose any problem in real sex? (age 24)

A: Congratulations on having such a strong erection. That is a good angle for real sex, or any sex. It should give you plenty of incentive to decide to give up prone masturbation forever. Also, you are misinformed; not very many men your age erect as little as 90 degrees. That angle is more typical of elderly men.

7/20/16


I have been masturbating prone for about nine years. I lie on my stomach and then I put both of my hands under my penis somewhat leaning to the right and then I press both of my thumbs against the bottom of my penis vigorously and flex my thighs and put as much pressure as I can by lifting the bottom of my legs up until I ejaculate. I'm somewhat erect when do this. I still usually have full on erections when I wake up in the morning and sometimes sporadically during the day. I want to start your program and want to know exactly what to do because I have trouble locating the steps to do so on HealthyStrokes.com. Ever heard of something like this? Will I be OK because this is very stressful and I already suffer from anxiety. From reading all the posts online, I'm sure your program will work, but I am paranoid LOL. I have been doing this since I was maybe 14-15. When I was younger, I used to always lie stomach first on my couch armrest because it felt really good on my penis. Will I be OK because I don't hump anything like pillows or any of that? I use my one or both of my thumbs. (age 23)

A: What you do sounds a lot worse than thrusting into pillows, and I have heard of men doing that a lot. But you are young and can give this up easily. You can find my program for giving up prone on the main page of HealthyStrokes.com. Take a week off from masturbating and other sexual activity and then masturbate to orgasm using one hand. Make sure you're erect whenever you masturbate.

7/22/16


I just masturbated to orgasm for the first time using my hand! Thanks HealthyStrokes.com! (age 16)

7/24/16


I have been masturbating prone since I was 13. Because I have a low sex drive, I can go months without masturbating, and then maybe 1-2 times within a week, then a month or more again, etc. It is completely random, and never a daily/weekly craving. I am having difficulty starting to masturbate normally, finding that even with lube it is hard to maintain my erection and feel aroused. Do you have any advice on how to start, build up sensitivity, and any guides on how long I should try for? I find that after 5-10 minutes of pumping, I am not escalating toward anything and usually give up due to a lack of motivation. I really want to stop prone. (age 27)

A: If you really go months without masturbating (I usually don't believe guys who tell me that), it ought to be pretty easy for you to masturbate by hand. You might see a doctor about your low sex drive. It could be a hormonal issue, or a sign of a more serious illness. Most men your age masturbate daily or close to it.

7/25/16


I have always used prone masturbation; however, I also used normal masturbation a couple of times. I am on day 2 of abstaining but I feel like I could switch right into the normal method right now. Is that a good idea or should I stick to the period of abstinence? (age 16)

A: The abstinence period is to make it easier for you to masturbate with your hand. Having done it by hand only a couple of times (while masturbating prone at least 1000 times, right?) will not make much difference when you try to switch. Not having masturbated for about a week will make it much easier for you to masturbate by hand. The downside is that if you try masturbating by hand after only 2-3 days, you might get frustrated and masturbate prone, which means you have to start over. You are most likely to succeed after 7 days of no stimulation.

7/31/16


I used to masturbate prone. I saw your site five years ago and immediately transitioned to masturbating by hand.

I had an operation on my penis when I was younger, so Im extra worried about it.

I worry that Im still not doing it correctly. I worry that Im still harming it somehow. It doesnt hurt, there dont seem to be any issues with it, and I climax regularly. I worry regardless, that Im masturbating into my hand, I keep trying to masturbate conventionally, i.e., stroking it, but sometimes I climax without getting to fully stroke it. I have a horrible fear that I still get stimulated by masturbating using hard surfaces and that I unconsciously rub/masturbate into my hand, despite my best intentions.

This anxiety of not doing it the right way, that Ive done damage to it somehow, is driving me crazy. I hope Im doing it the right way, but I honestly dont know. The part of the penis I used to rub up against the mattress is more sensitive too, which worries me as well.

I worry what my sex life will be like. When I imagine having sex, all I can think of is when I used to masturbate prone. Masturbating prone has affected me mentally and caused me a lot of distress and mental anguish, regret, and bad memories. I feel embarrassed that essentially, I dont know how to masturbate. (age 21)

A: If you've given up prone masturbation for five years, and you masturbate by stroking with your hand, you are cured and don't have to worry about that anymore.

If you're really worried that you're using too much force, I recommend a stroker like the Super Head Honcho, which is available on Amazon and Drugstore.com for about $15.

Your penis feeling more sensitive is a good sign, not a bad one. I would also suggest getting sexually involved soon, because you're getting too old to still be a virgin.

8/1/16


I don't know where to begin. Less than 45 minutes ago, I came. I came using the conventional method. I've masturbated prone all my life. I found this site five or six years ago, but never took it too seriously. But now I want to take the time to personally thank you for helping me and so many others overcome prone masturbating. I'm sure I'll have trials ahead, but the hardest part is behind me. My prone masturbation is a bit unusual in that I did it face-up while lying down. And to finish, I noticed I stimulated the head a lot. Maybe that's why I was able to climax using the conventional method without an abstinence period. I have a few questions, though: Will there still be times I'll find it difficult or impossible to orgasm? And is it unusual or harmful that I don't grip my whole penis with my hand, but that I make a ring out of my index finger and thumb? Most of the stimulation for me comes from just below the head. In any case, thank you so much. I'm so beside myself right now. I never thought I could get over it, but I have. I'm so grateful and blessed. Thank you. (age 24)

A: If you were face up, you weren't masturbating prone. The ring device you make is fine. Just below the head is the most sensitive place on any penis. Keep up what you're doing now. I'm glad you like it better than what you described as prone.

9/6/16


Does prone masturbation stretch out the skin if done long enough/with enough friction? I masturbated prone for a couple of years and I'm noticing the skin on my upper scrotum/base of penis has gotten very stretchy. More than it used to be. I don't feel the pleasurable sensations in that area as much anymore. (age 22)

A: No. Prone didn't cause that. Work at using less force.

9/8/16


2 1/2 years ago I found your site and managed to cure in the first month. But two months after that I cheated and did prone again and since then I only got cured once about 8 months ago and after that I woke up thrusting. Now I have a problem where I have a tingling in my balls and if I try to scratch it, I lose sensitivity and my penis looks smaller and has the texture of a sausage patty. It really interrupts my cure because I get like two weeks in and even if I move the wrong way or the wrong speed the tingle will make me lose sensitivity. I have not proned in about 4 months.

Every day my penis gets more sensitivity and looks bigger and more full while flat up until I get the tingle in my balls. I can still consistently finish in under five minutes strangely though. And if I see a woman I like I can get a good erection but if I go to masturbate I lose it, and my erections don't last long. After I cheated that time 2 1/2 yrs ago I went through like 8 or 9 months of stoping and starting abstaining again but at that point in time I didn't have the tingling problem, the problem then was down to me because I would stop and start abstaining because I would death grip out of frustration and sometimes go back to prone. What should I do?

In my back I get a feeling, it's not an uncomfortable feeling, it's like a sensation I get in the gland or something where if I sit down I can feel the pressure on the gland. If I don't take my time when going to sit down I end up getting the sensation and I lose penis sensitivity. It might be a prostate problem. (age 21)

A: I'm thinking you're ejaculating too often and it's affecting your prostate, causing both the back sensation and what you describe as a tingling. Please see my page about prostatodynia (unexplained prostate pain for suggestions. You also need to resolve to give up prone forever. If you're going to cut down on masturbating to help with your prostate pain, it would be a good time to decide to give up prone forever.

9/15/16


When I was younger, I masturbated prone by putting my penis between my thighs and used my two hands and a part of the sheet to press my genitals against my thighs. I did this a lot and watched a lot of porn. Later, trying to have normal sex, I failed as I could not have a erection. That happened a few times and I figured it was from this wrong masturbation. I couldn't masturbate the normal way. If I tried to masturbate with my thighs in relaxed mode, I had no erection. That kind of frustation led me to isolate myself from everybody and to a path of drugs. I didn't know what to do. I went to some doctors and they all said that it was all from my head, like it was some kind of psychological impotence and anxiety issues.

I had this girlfriend last year. I didn't have sex with her. I had an erection but I had no condoms. The others times we tried, I had no erection mostly because of anxiety. I am traumatized because of this problem and paranoid, masturbating a lot every day, watching lots of porn. Sometimes I think maybe if I stop masturbating at all, I will get better. I have masturbated a lot from a young age. Thanks for all the help you are giving us on your site. Bless you! (age 32)

A: I recommend giving up prone and also giving up the thigh-pressing thing. Work at masturbating using the light touch of a single hand stroking up and down your penis. Until you can do that, you will not make progress in having sex with women. Once you get into the daily habit of masturbating by stroking with one hand, I recommend using a toy called the Super Head Honcho to help you learn to use less force when you masturbate. It is perfectly fine for you to masturbate, maybe even more than once a day sometimes.

9/15/16


I'm on day 4 of abstention after a decade of prone masturbation. I tried to use my hand this morning after I awoke from an erotic dream, but I wasn't quite able to get there.

How does the penis experience stimulation? I've always had a correlation in my mind between the base/underside of the penis as the prominent area that experiences stimulation. Is this a fallacy that results from prone masturbation? Does changing techniques cause the penis to have more overall sensation during intercourse and masturbation? (age 25)

A: If you're read HealthyStrokes.com, you know that I recommend you abstain from penile stimulation (masturbation or intercourse) for seven days before you try to masturbate by hand for the first time. It's not at all surprising that you weren't able to succeed after only three days, especially when you had just awoken.

The penis is basically a cylinder covered with sensitive nerve endings, which are concentrated in (1) the head (glans); (2) the coronal ridge (the part that sticks out farthest); and (3) the underside of the shaft just below the coronal ridge. Males who masturbate prone put too much force on area 3 and too little on the rest of the penis. The goal is to reach orgasm with as little force as necessary. Keep up with the program and don't worry so much about the mechanics of penile stimulation. Once you've been over prone for a few months, you'll find a whole lot of your penis feels better than before.

9/15/16


I am nearly 16 and have never been able to masturbate the conventional way, only by prone (scrunching up a bed sheet and grinding). When using the conventional way, my penis has no problem with an erection or keeping it but masturbating is boring/pointless. Porn does nothing. I have stopped for 30 days, tried again, nothing.

A: Resolve to stop prone forever. You really ought to enjoy masturbating to orgasm by hand after a week of no orgasms. You don't have to use visual aids if they're not helping, but put a usable fantasy into your head before you start.

9/16/16


I have been masturbating in the prone method before I reached puberty(probably 6 years). I read your article a week ago and I stopped masturbating prone the same day. Now I have tried masturbating the right way twice but have been unsuccessful. I even tried using visual aids because my imagination was no help. During these two attempts my penis got erect, but became soft before I reached orgasm. I don't know what to do. (age 17)

A: Resolve not to go back to prone. Wait two days after an unsuccessful attempt and try again. When you think you're getting close, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you reach orgasm. After you've learned to masturbate by hand, work at stroking more slowly and with less force. Don't go back to prone, because that will throw away the progress you've made and will mean you have to abstain longer.

9/17/16


I just masturbated normally for the first time in my life. This has been a huge burden on my mind since I realized other guys masturbate differently; feelings of estrangement, inadequacy, and anxiety that I might never have a normal relationship with a woman were common. But I followed your guidelines, and I DID IT! I know you must get tons of little testimonials like this, but I really, really want to thank you for what you've done for me. I feel like a new man. (age 17)

9/18/16


I've been doing it wrong my whole life. I just found a woman I really like and had trouble getting an erection, as well as anorgasmia. I left the woman happy, but she was concerned about what was going on with me. It was a stroke of luck that I found your web site just as this problem was blossoming. I owe you a debt of gratitude.

10/8/16


I have been following HealthyStrokes.com and want to get your advice. I had been masturbating prone pretty much all my life until I was 30 years old. I never realized it was damaging me until I googled this one day and it was quite eye opening. I have never been able to achieve an orgasm outside of masturbating prone. I still achieve and sustain erections easily with my girl but over the years have never had an orgasm. I have successfully quit prone masturbation for six months now yet I still can't have an orgasm. I also have been unable to masturbate the normal way. It just doesn't work for me. I have tried many times yet never even come close to having an orgasm. The first 3 months I had many wet dreams but for the last 3 months now I have basically just stopping cumming at all. I have lots of pre-cum when I'm having intercourse. So 6 months after quitting prone I'm still not having much success. I also have been seeing a urologist but nothing has helped. Do you have any advice for me? (age 31)

A: I recommend that males abstain from all sexual stimulation for at least seven days before learning to masturbate by hand. If you were having intercourse with your girlfriend these past six months while giving up prone, that might have been enough to keep you from being able to masturbate by hand. I would suggest telling your girlfriend you won't be able to have intercourse for at least a few weeks, perhaps a month.

Your situation also makes me wonder if you're taking medications that interfere with having orgasms, like an SSRI. If so, talk to your doctor about that.

May I ask how often you were masturbating when you were doing it prone?

Follow-up: I am not or ever have been on any SSRI medication. In fact, the only medication that I am taking right now is brand new (been taking it for 1 month) and was recommended by my urologist to increase my testosterone levels to help me potentially achieve an orgasm. The doc thinks this could be testosterone related even though my levels are average at 510 ng/dl. When I masturbated prone, I was doing it several times a week (2-3) and would always end with an orgasm. I get erections pretty easily and often. It has been difficult to not masturbate prone as I still have the urge but I will never do it again. I am a very disciplined guy and once I found out the damage I was doing to myself, I vowed to never practice it again. I also purchased a masturbating toy called the Fleshlight, but still no success.

A: Your low masturbating frequency is probably why you're able to have wet dreams. I recommend a different (and cheaper) sleeve (toy) called the Super Head Honcho. It would be better if you learned to masturbate by hand instead of using a sleeve.

10/13/16


If I masturbate with my hand instead of prone, will I be better in bed when I get older? (age 14)

A: I have no doubt about it. Prone masturbation can wreak havoc with your sexual functioning and take years to undo. Switch to your hand while you're young and inexperienced.

10/16/16


I'm a healthy 26 year old male. I have masurbated prone as long as I can remember. I'm one of the lucky ones since I can sustain an erection during intercourse. I don't think I have ever ejaculated during intercourse. I never struggle to ejaculate when masurbating prone. I'm getting to that age where I'm thinking about starting a family. I'm scared this will get in the way of my relationship. I'm also worried prone masurbating could have affected my sperm quality and therefore could make me infertile.

A: Prone masturbation does not affect sperm quality. You're wrong thinking you're one of the lucky ones even though you've never ejaculated during intercourse. For nearly all men your age, ejaculating in intercourse is inevitable. Please follow the instructions on HealthyStrokes.com for giving up prone masturbation and then see if you can ejaculate in intercourse.

10/26/16


I just stopped prone masturbating after 3 years and I actually prefer normal masturbation feeling so the transition is no problem for me! If I were to use something like a pocket pussy or Fleshlight, could it cause some of the similar issues that prone masturbation does? (age 18)

A: The point of giving up prone is to learn to masturbate by hand. Since you've done that, I don't know why you'd want to risk the progress you've made by adding a sex toy. Instead, once you've been away from prone for a month or so, I would recommend finding a partner and finding out how you are at intercourse. Only if you're having trouble at intercourse would I recommend trying a toy. The one I recommend for men having trouble reaching orgasm in intercourse is the Super Head Honcho, which has been specifically recommended for men with delayed ejaculation.

10/28/16


I have been masturbating using prone since I was 6. I recently changed and can now masturbate in the normal position. I cannot reach orgasm without tensing my legs/hips. I have tried to orgasm without tensing my legs, yet no success. I always used to tense my legs when doing prone masturbation. (age 15)

A: Congratulations on changing from prone to regular masturbation. You will enjoy it a lot more than you did prone. Don't worry about the leg-tensing thing. Most men do that. Even most men who never masturbated prone. The purpose of tensing your legs is to keep sensations within them from interfering with your orgasm.

10/31/16


I used to masturbate prone and I'm wondering if I have nerve damage. Is it normal to not feel temperature or pleasure sensations at the base (underside) of the penis? I'm pretty sure I used to be able to feel at least something in that area, but now I can't feel anything unless I'm really turned on. Am I just overthinking it or is there something up? (age 22)

A: How long has it been since you quit prone? Can you really not feel temperature? Can't tell the difference between hot (like shower temperature) and cold water? I've never known a documented case of nerve damage. It might be that you're using too much force in conventional masturbation since you quit prone. The Super Head Honcho sleeve, available on Amazon.com and other sites, is good training to help a male use less force.

11/1/16

Follow-up: Yes, on the underside of my penis there is an area about halfway up the length from the base where I can't detect temperature, pressure, or touch. I know this isn't normal because I used to get erections just from taking off my underwear but now I can't feel that "draft" anymore. I can still get erections but spontaneous ones are very rare simply because I don't have much feeling. I can still feel pain if I pinch the skin anywhere on that spot. Could it be that the nerves that detect pressure (and from that, pleasure) got damaged from all of the pressure of prone masturbation? It's been this way for a year now, and while it seems that sensation IS slowly returning in certain spots, the lack of feeling at the base of the penis is still there and has only improved by like 10% at most. The best way I can describe it is: You know how great it feels when your penis is fully inside of something? I can't feel that anymore. I've been trying to abstain and let my body heal itself and use some penile health cremes, but I don't know if it's really helping. When I abstain, the rest of my penis gets more sensitive like normal but the base seems to stay the same. I don't get aroused that much anymore because of this. Private parts don't seem so special when they aren't sensitive. I hope this just heals on its own. The only thing I haven't done yet is get an ultrasound of the area to check for any physical injuries or plaque buildup.

A: I advise against penile cremes. They might contain an anesthetic. Many of those cremes are designed to reduce premature ejaculation, and they do that with the same anesthetic (benzocaine) that you would put on a toothache. If ceasing the cremes doesn't help, then I suggest consultation with a urologist and possibly an ultrasound.

1/12/17


I'm a 26 year old male and only came across your site about prone masturbation recently. I had no idea it was bad for me but I've known over the years I had a different style from my friends. But I kept this to myself.

After many years struggling to ejaculate during sex, I figured I needed to do research and that's when I came across HealthyStrokes.com. I was devastated. I've been to the urologist and he said my anatomy is perfect but he took some blood tests. He had no idea about prone masturbation though which made me worry. I'm going back in to him on Monday but what are the questions I should be asking?

I have tried in the past stroking instead of using the prone masturbation technique but nothing works. I am circumcised so the sensitivity has always been low around the tip and there's no friction there for stroking to become effective.

Is it even possible for me to cure this prone masturbation problem after so long doing it? I'd estimate 14 years of doing it his way. Reading up on prone I realize it's pressure on the penis. I actually cup the scrotum up toward my penis while lying on my stomach. Is this slightly different or the same?

A: The first thing to do is resolve to give up prone masturbation and learn to do it manually. You can do it. You are young. Many men much older than you have given up prone and become successful sexually. Circumcised men masturbate about as well as uncircumcised men. Cupping makes no difference; the problem is prone masturbation.

Urologists are concerned with organic causes of disease and are unlikely to know much about sexual practices. Your blood tests will probably come back normal and he will therefore rule out organic causes of your sexual dysfunction. There is not much you need to ask the urologist; it's up to you to give up prone and learn to masturbate conventionally.

11/5/16


After reading your guide I abstained for a week from my hands-free method of prone masturbation that I had practiced since I was a toddler. After the week, I could not get any sensation from masturbating conventionally. However, instead of just resorting to my method, I discovered that I could initiate masturbation by starting with that method for a few seconds then raising my pelvic area off the bedsheets so that I could thrust into my closed hand without the damaging pressure on the base of my penis - basically masturbating the conventional way except facing the other direction.

However, when I simply turn onto my back even while feeling sensation with my new method, I still cannot achieve orgasm, which is very weird considering how the only single difference between the conventional method and my new method is the direction my penis is facing. What do I do now? My penis is not in contact with anything other than my closed hand. (age 17)

A: You have not given up prone masturbation. You have only changed from thrusting against your mattress to thrusting into your hand. Both are bad. In fact, based on a survey of males who masturbate prone and what they thrust into and the rate of dysfunctions they suffer, thrusting into the hand might be worse than the mattress. The way to overcome prone masturbation is to give it up completely and learn to masturbate conventionally. You are young and can do it.

11/10/16


I am an 18 year old male who has never had sex and masturbates prone. I don't have any issues getting an erection nor do I have issues ejaculating while masturbating prone. Should I still be concerned about what may happen if I continue to masturbate this way?

A: Yes, you definitely should. Masturbating prone causes sexual dysfunction in most of the males who practice it. Since you have never had sex, by definition, you haven't had any opportunity for dysfunction in intercourse. Please learn the regular way of masturbating so you'll be done with prone long before your first intercourse.

I think your situation is similar to young smokers who deny the harmful effects of smoking, because they aren't experiencing cancer, heart disease, or emphysema.

11/15/16


I recently quit prone masturbation and have tried the conventional method. I only abstained from masturbating for a day before I tried it. Now I've tried it for the past 4 days and have run into trouble. I can get an erection instantly with ease but I cannot seem to reach the climax and ejaculate like I can with prone. I use one hand and lube, and stroke for an hour before giving up the past four times I've tried it. My erection stays up long and I never go limp, but I only feel a small sensation while stroking the tip of my penis. I also notice that I sweat in my crotch and legs while performing this. It feels dejecting not being able to climax. Am I close to getting it right? Should I abstain from masturbating altogether for a week and then try again? (age 26)

A: Congratulations on being able to masturbate by hand only a day after giving up prone. Your problem is that you're doing it too often for right now, not that you didn't abstain long enough to begin with. With the trouble you're having, only masturbate every other day until you think you have it right. You ought to be able to masturbate daily again in a week or two.

11/16/16


Why does your site base all it's claims on one study of FOUR men? (age 55)

A: I don't think you read HealthyStrokes.com very clearly, and you didn't read any of the scholarly articles at all. There have been three clinical studies of prone masturbation, each of which included four patients, and a fourth clinical study of men with sexual dysfunctions who masturbate in atypical fashion (although not necessarily prone) with 10 patients. In addition, two large surveys conducted here on HealthyStrokes.com in 2007 yielded 8000 and 10000 respondents. That's a lot of respondents. A smaller survey done in 2002 on HealthyStrokes.com had only 200+ respondents, but it was good enough to be cited in the Journal of Sex Research, the most prestigious journal of sex research.

Why not read halfway down the main page of this site (where it says "What research has been done on prone masturbation since Sank's article?") and go through the links to those articles.

Also, you spelled "it's" incorrectly. "It's" is used only when short for "it is."

11/16/16


I have been masturbating prone since I was 12 and I want to quit but I can't. I usually masturbate twice a day. Can I quit? (age 16)

A: You are young and can give up prone more easily after only four years than men who've been masturbating prone for 20 years. If you're used to doing it twice a day, it obviously makes it more difficult to quit, but you can do it. Resolve to never masturbate prone again. You can be masturbating the regular way on Thanksgiving weekend!

11/17/16


I've been masturbating prone for almost two years now. I don't find the need to masturbate every day (I have easily gone a week to a month without it) but I have never been able to do it by hand. I'm quitting doing it prone and I'm wondering how long you think it will take for me to orgasm when I try it by hand in a week or so. (age 17)

A: If you can go a week to a month without masturbating, you ought to be able to give up prone and switch to hand masturbation pretty easily. You should expect it to take 45 minutes to an hour to masturbate to orgasm by hand the first time you try. It will get easier the second and third times.

1/3/17


I've been masturbating prone my whole life and recently lost my virginity at 26. When I had sex, I was able to get hard but unable to cum. If I quit masturbating (as in no more prone or even trying supine position) will sex be easier? I hate the supine method and am getting married soon. Can I just not masturbate at all and cum during sex or do I have to switch to supine position to cum during sex? (age 27)

A: I strongly recommend that you give up prone masturbation and learn to masturbate by hand before attempting intercourse again. Learn to reach orgasm with the lesser force of your hand (as opposed to the tremendous force of your legs) and it will be easier for you to reach orgasm in intercourse. You will not quit masturbating, so work at learning to masturbate conventionally.

1/6/17


I masturbated prone for most of my life, though am lucky I have not had any problems yet. I am concerned after reading HealthyStrokes.com and it makes a lot of sense. I would like to improve myself and get away from prone. Will it make my erections harder and last longer in bed if I train myself the normal way? Also, I have thought about getting a Fleshlight device. What are your thoughts on these? Thanks for your time and the good info on your site. (age 36)

A: You will get better erections if you give up prone. But lasting longer in bed is not usually a concern of prone males. Most prone males take a half hour or longer to reach orgasm in intercourse, so they would rather reach orgasm more quickly. I don't recommend the Fleshlight but instead recommend the much cheaper Super Head Honcho.

1/6/17


I am attempting to stop prone masturbation, and this site has been a HUGE help (thanks for that). But one problem is I primarily sleep on my stomach, and even when I don't I almost always wake up on my stomach. I haven't had wet dreams or anything but I do wake up hard. Am I going to undo all my work from trying to quit prone masturbation because I sleep on my stomach? (age 16)

A: No. Don't worry about that. Sleep however you like.

1/8/17


I've always masturbated prone, on top of a body pillow with the tip of my penis rubbing against the bed. I can reach orgasm within 3 minutes and ejaculate. I found your site and realized I should change to supine even though I haven't felt any bad effects yet. I've been trying supine lately and I notice that I get much harder erections quicker but I don't feel pleasure. The more I stroke it, the longer the erection stays, sometimes up until 6 minutes, which then dies down. How can I feel pleasure or reach orgasm? (age 16)

A: Give up prone forever and learn to masturbate by hand. Six minutes is not long for an erection to last. You will enjoy masturbating more within a few weeks, and your erections will be stronger and last longer.

1/11/17


I've been with a few girls. When I was 18, I tried to have sex but couldn't and I thought I was too scared. Now I'm with a girl and I've remained a virgin until now and we decided to do it. I stopped prone 3 years ago and started again so I can masturbate the conventional way too. So when we were trying to have sex, I couldn't be erect for long. I don't know if it's because of stress or fear, prone masturbation or a bent penis (average curve I guess) but I did have weed and that time I could go inside her and I did it once. How can I keep an erection and what should I do to make it straight? I am giving up prone completely now and I'll be meeting her again in 15 days. How do I keep myself erect? What's the problem of not keeping my erection for long? (age 23)

A: When you give up prone, it is not enough to only learn conventional masturbation and then mix the two. You need to give up prone forever. You ought to notice a difference in your erections within 3-4 months of giving up prone. Practice makes perfect. In addition to your history of prone, you are also a late virgin. Don't be afraid of having sex or not being perfect in bed. Tell your partner you're new to sex and need time and practice to get good at it.

1/13/17


I am circumcised and masturbate prone. Is it more difficult for a circumcised male to learn the conventional way of masturbation? (age 20)

A: No. Give up prone and then you can masturbate conventionally soon.

1/14/17


I stopped masturbating prone; now I do it conventionally and I like it. I can only cum if I tense and stretch my legs. Is that normal or do I still have a problem? (age 23)

A: That is normal. Most males and females with no history of prone also do that. It is how you keep sensations coming from your legs from interfering with your orgasm.

1/15/17


I just found out on New Year's Eve about prone masturbation over supine masterbation. I just thought guys did it differently, so when I read about the dangers of prone, I immediately stopped because I've had ED for quite some time. I have taken to supine like a duck to water for the last two weeks. It was hard at first but I got it down. Even though I've stopped prone (after almost 40 years of it) how long will it take to get a normal erection? (age 45)

A: Most men notice an improvement in their erections 3-4 months after giving up prone. Congratulations on giving up prone so quickly. Happy new year!

1/15/17


I need major help to quit masturbating prone. It is too addicting and I love the feel of it. I know it's bad but I just can't quit. Can you help me please? (age 13)

A: However good you think prone feels, it doesn't. It is causing you trouble. You are likely to have trouble when you first try to have sex with a partner (which I hope will be years from now). You are young and can switch easily. Think about how good regular masturbation will feel. Guys who switch masturbate conventionally about as often as they previously masturbated prone. They don't find it feels any less good. Just resolve to give up prone forever and then abstain for a week (perhaps less). You can be doing it by hand at this time next week.

1/17/17


I have been masturbating prone my whole life until I couldn't ejaculate when having sex with my girlfriend. After reviewing your site, I abstained for 6 days and tried the conventional way today. I felt a slight sensation and definately did pre-cum which I guess is a good step but did not ejaculate. How long should I wait before another attempt? (age 24)

A: Tomorrow would be good. The important thing is not to go back to prone if you don't succeed with your hand right away.

1/18/17


I have been doing prone since I was 15. I know that's only 3 years, but I have lost some feeling when masturbating normally. I have stopped prone for about a week now, but I still don't have a lot of feeling down there, and it's difficult to stay erect. I would appreciate some advice on why this has happened, and how to fix it. (age 18)

A: You will not notice a difference in your erections immediately. Expect them to feel different in 3-4 months. Stay away from prone and get better at masturbating by hand.

1/18/17


I masturbate prone but started abstinence now. I only get stimulated by rubbing the area around the frenulum since I'm most sensitive there. When I tried masturbating by hand some time ago, it felt too intense and not enjoyable on the other parts of the glans; only the frenulum area felt good. Is that normal? (age 22)

A: You are undergoing masturbatory retraining. You probably don't like touching the glans because it is very sensitive and usually can't be masturbated unless the male is using lube. Instead of touching only the area around the frenulum, when you resume masturbating after abstaining, stroke up and down the entire shaft of the penis, stopping short of the glans..

1/22/17

Follow-up: I was impatient and started masturbating after 3 full days of abstinence. I came after 25 minutes with lube and a lot of concentration. The day after I came three times without lube and today once without lube again. Each time it got easier and I can feel that it will get even easier in the future.

Thank you for this site. I didn't know how easy it could be to masturbate normally.

I have never had an orgasm from fellatio, and I still need to jerk rather intensely reach orgasm cum and can't imagine that I will orgasm from fellatio alone at this point. Do you think that will change or is this something I just have to live with?

A: Congratulations on giving up prone so easily. Wait 3-4 months before trying oral sex. After a month of daily masturbation by hand, you can try vaginal intercourse. See how that goes before trying oral.

1/26/17


I've been masturbating for as long as I can remember. Back then I thought it just felt good. But when I went through puberty, I could only ejaculate while flaccid thrusting into my hand. I'm currently trying to recover and I went a week without masturbating at all. But I was not able to ejaculate. (age 17)

A: Try again after two days. You will be ejaculating soon.

1/23/17


I did prone masturbation since I was 12, and when I finally lost my virginity last year, I couldn't finish. Throughout the relationship, I had issues with ED and delayed ejaculation. Since coming to HealthyStrokes.com, I have abstained and finally did it the conventional way with success. I also have severe phimosis. I was wondering whether this will help with my phimosis? (age 23)

A: Phimosis is a separate problem from prone masturbation. Masturbating prone will not help your phimosis, but it's unclear if regular masturbation will make a difference. I suggest you find online resources for men with phimosis and learn how others have dealt with this problem.

1/23/17


I stopped prone, did one week of abstinence and have been masturbating conventionally for two weeks and it feels great. But my penis is more sensitive now when it's not erect. Is that normal? (age 23)

A: You can't judge how your penis feels after only two months of a new way of masturbating. You will be more aware of penile sensitivity two or three months from now. Do not go back to prone.

1/24/17


I learned to masturbate by doing prone four or five years ago. For the past year or two, I have been trying to stop prone. I have been masturbating normally, but once in a while, I go back to prone. I'm often very horny when I wake up and I sometimes can't help humping the bed. It feels a lot better more quickly. I know it's bad, but it feels too good. I always tell myself that this is going to be the last time. When I finish, I immediately regret it. I get a burning feeling on the tip of my penis and right under it. I also have a dull pain in my right testis for a few days after. How do I prevent myself from giving in to prone? Is there a way to reverse any damage done?

Thank you for the work you do here. I stopped masturbating prone after coming across your site! (age 19)

A: Prone doesn't feel a lot better. It's giving you burning pains and a dull ache in your testicle, that actually originates in your overtaxed prostate gland. Resolve that you will never do prone again. You give up some of the progress you have made by masturbating with your hand every time you do prone. I suggest you get out of bed right away in the morning and not linger in bed and be tempted to hump it. Time and learning to masturbate with less force will help reverse any damage.

1/24/17


Thank you! Keep the good work up! For a long time I masturbated prone but after going through this site I came to know how bad it is so now a week later I can masturbate in the supine position with my hands. Now I am relaxed and happy. (age 29)

A: Everyone I've talked to about it is relaxed and happy after masturbating with their hands.

1/25/17


I've masturbated prone since 9 and in recent years I've been doing it 4 or 5 times a day. I quit prone a few months ago and tried conventional masturbation but I could not ejaculate. When I lost my virginity two months ago, I ejaculated but found it hard to stay erect. I went back to prone after having sex but very recently quit again. I can't get erect when I want to even if I'm aroused and I can never orgasm through conventional masturbation. What should I do? (age 15)

A: Your erections will get better after you are finished with prone for a few months. Do not go back. Relax and focus on having an orgasm when next you masturbate by hand. It could easily take an hour.

1/25/17


I did prone masturbation for six months and I'm facing the same problems others have reported. What can I do now? I have stopped prone. May I need any kind of medication? Will it restore automatically after a while? (age 27)

A: I'm worried I don't understand your message completely. Did you really start prone masturbating six months ago? That is very unusual. Or did you mean you did it since puberty and quit six months ago? Either way, you did the most important thing by quitting. You will not need medication and will notice an improvement in your erections in a few months.

1/28/17


I have quite a small penis, admittedly. About 4 inches. I find myself grasping at it, rather than stroking up and down. Is this why I don't feel like I'm masturbating right? I don't think I'm holding it too tight, but I don't know for sure. I could be.

Is this a fear for many people who used to masturbate prone? The fear that they might still masturbating the wrong way, even after changing to hand? Yes, I know that sounds stupid, but I have fear of causing harm to my penis Also, I used to masturbate prone with clothes on. Don't ask me why. Did this mean I harmed it more so?

I hate that I ever masturbated prone. So embarrassing and potentially could harm one of the most important parts of the body. I wish someone had told me how to do it the right way when I was a teen. (age 22)

A: Use less force. One way to do this is to use a stroker like the Super Head Honcho, available on Amazon.com and Drugstore.com for about $15. Lots of people worry that their penises are too small, so I don't think your worry is unique to males who used to masturbate prone.

2/1/17


I've stopped masturbating prone for 20 days now. The conventional method has worked fine so far but I still often masturbate 3-5 times a day. Is that too much? Tonight I am really aroused but can't get hard. Should I be worried? (age 24)

A: Your frequency is extreme. Most males your age are falling back from one masturbatory session a day. Once a day is often enough for someone who only recently switched from prone. Do it less and you're apt to enjoy your sessions more and get erect more easily.

2/1/17


I tried masturbation using my hand after abstaining for 7 days. I read literotica to get myself aroused. My erection would come and go and to maintain constant erection I had to be reading the stories continuously. Even a little distraction and my erection would start falling. I kept rubbing my shaft by encircling the shaft in my loose hand in a way that my glans was stimulated indirectly by my hand coming to it from the shaft. I didn't enjoy the feeling I was getting from it. It became uncomfortable and I had to stop masturbating. The feeling can be described as the feeling you get when you rub your penis just after you have orgasmed. So it made me stop using my hand. I didn't go back to prone, though I was tempted. Is it normal to have this feeling in the initial phases of trying to recover yourself from prone? I fear it's a sign of some nerve damage I did while thrusting my penis against bed for the past 15 years. I used to masturbate pretty excessively during the last 4 years, even 5-6 times a day. (age 24)

A: Try to avoid touching your glans. You might even try wearing a lubricated condom while you're trying to switch. I would avoid using lube from a tube or bottle because you're obviously not used to it. I also don't know anything about literotica to masturbate with. Most males your age (and any age) prefer visual stimulation like pictures or videos. I doubt you have nerve damage. It's just something new to get used to.

2/3/17


I am 21 and have been masturbating prone since I was 14. You say various times that the amount of time you should go without ejaculating is one to two weeks and then try to masturbate normally, but I want to take a long 90 day break from masturbating of any kind and then try the normal way. Do you think this would be OK, or perhaps make the transition even easier?

A: Men your age masturbate daily. You are not going to quit masturbating for 90 days. A lot of men have trouble making it the week that I recommend they abstain before switching. As I have suggested, take a week off and then masturbate to orgasm using your hand. And work at accepting masturbation as normal, healthy, and fun, and even necessary for male sexual health. It is something you will always do.

2/6/17


I have masturbated prone from a young age. Since puberty, I have used both the normal method and prone, probably 5:1 in favor of the normal method. Since coming across HealthyStrokes.com, I am obviously going to stop masturbating prone. In some of the entries I notice an inability - at least initially - from those who have masturbated prone to ejaculate employing the more common method, and that your responses state that upon being able to ejaculate using the normal method (and not reverting to prone) that they should not have any issues when it comes to sex (assuming that they are otherwise healthy). I am definitely giving up prone masturbation, but I'm just, quite naturally, worried about the effects it might have had on me considering some of the consequences you have noted on this web site, and would like to know if it's possible that I'll be OK if I only masturbate the normal way from now on. Thanks for HealthyStrokes.com and the work you do. (age 19)

A: You seem to be a virgin. You don't report any experience with intercourse or any trouble with intercourse. If you give up prone and then become sexually active, I think you will be fine. The men who have trouble are those who only masturbated prone.

2/9/17


I quit prone masturbation nearly a month ago and I don't have the desire to do it again. The conventional way works great and my erections have already started to get better. Some days I have to tense my whole genital region really hard to achieve orgasm, and when I start tensing, my erection gets weaker. Why is that? Should I try to unlearn the whole tensing thing? (age 24)

A: When you're tensing, you're trying really hard to masturbate. Maybe your body wants to wait until the next day to have another orgasm. When you're really relaxed and having a good time trying to get to orgasm, you don't need to tense like that.

2/10/17


I have been masturbating prone since my teenage years and have just come across HealthyStrokes.com and started an abstinence period before switching to practice the supine way. I was thinking of purchasing a Fleshlight to use when masturbating. Do you not recommended these as they involve inserting the erect lubricated penis into a silicone sleeve to simulate sex? (age 35)

A: I recommend that you cure yourself of prone masturbation by learning to masturbate with your hand. The thing I don't like about the Fleshlight is that they have a rigid case that doesn't feel like either sex or masturbating. If you want to try a sleeve after you have learned to masturbate with your hand, I recommend the Super Head Honcho.

2/11/17


I have been prone masturbating from the time I was four but I did not realize what it was. I basically just hump the ground and it feels really good but when I turned 12, when i did it, I noticed my pants were wet after doing it. Soon after I discovered I was masturbating. I knew that there was another way to do it, but I always prefered my way, not knowing how harmful it was. When I came across HealthyStrokes.com, I stopped. I masturbated normally for days but it didn't feel good. Clear liquid came out of my penis but that's as close as I got. I then tried again and again to give it up but I kept caving in and masturbating prone. Finally in the new year, I went twelve days without masturbating but I only went three full days of abstaining completely without touching myself. I caved again and on the first of February I tried again but only made 15 days with only 3 days abstaining and caved again. Is my penis never going to fix itself and can you give me tips? I know if I stay away from porn it'll be a lot easier. (age 15)

A: Why are you asking me when you already know the answer? Avoid touching yourself at all during the abstention period; stay away from porn; and do not go back to prone if you're not successful at masturbating conventionally at first.

2/12/17


How long should I expect to reach climax my first time conventionally? (age 19)

A: It could take as long as 45 minutes to an hour. If you can't masturbate to orgasm in an hour, stop and try again in two days.

2/13/17


I have read your prone masturbation article and I am very concerned at the damage I may have done prone masturbating. How much damage would I have done if I did this for example 300 times? And if I get back on a normal track will I completely fix this damage? (age 16)

A: At your age, males can switch to supine very easily. 300 times is not so many; most males masturbate more than that in only one year. Resolve to give up prone, and I think you will be A-OK within a few months.

2/17/17


I am 37 years old and just came across HealthyStrokes.com tonight. It was like being struck by a lightning bolt. I have been prone masturbating since I started masturbating in my early teens, and I always have problems climaxing with a partner, though I can occassionally. I never made the connection that the prone was the issue, and I blamed myself. With your site, I think I can fix what's wrong with me. THANK YOU!

2/20/17


I am 37 and just came across HealthyStrokes.com tonight. It was like being struck by a lightning bolt. I have been prone masturbating since I started masturbating in my early teens, and I have always had problems climaxing with a partner, though I can occasionally. I never made the connection that the prone was the issue and just blamed myself. With your site, I think I can fix what's wrong with me. THANK YOU!

2/20/17


I have been masturbating prone since I started. A couple years ago I switched to hand and after a few times it was easy to do it. But that was like for just one week and then I went back to prone. Do you think at my age I can solve it easily? (age 20)

A: Yes, I do. Since you already know how to masturbate conventionally, just give up prone. You will be glad you did.

2/22/17


I am trying to overcome prone, and I commonly use the Vaseline-in-plastic-bag method, except I wrap the bag with a rag and place hair ties over it. Is this OK, or should I be using my hand and my hand only? (age 17)

A: Use your hand and only your hand.

2/26/17


I just want to say thank you for making this site. With help from HealthyStrokes.com, I am finally nearly fully recovered from prone masturbating. I never masturbated by hand, ever. When I first discovered your site, I was 16 and I was crestfallen because I thought I'd never be able to do it. Now at the age of 21, I finally reached orgasm with my hand from start to finish. I used to masturbate by thrusting into my hands and when I was about to cum, I'd turn over and finish, and then I gave up for a little bit and I finally buckled down and did it normally. I was so proud of myself. You've changed my life so much. I was having major erectile dysfunction. Now I have good hard erections. I still have trouble keeping it up, but I know in time I'll get better. (age 21)

A: Many males at age 16 (or younger) find HealthyStrokes.com and switch to conventional masturbation that same week. I have no idea why you waited five years to switch.

2/26/17


I masturbated prone for nearly 10 years. I started when I was 8-9 humping the edges of tables, and then discovered doing it prone. I've been reading HealthyStrokes.com and it's really helpful, which is why I stopped masturbating prone about two months ago and tried the normal way. Even though I had no problem with the normal way, I still used to go prone often too. I ejaculate within a minute or two. Recently I had a make-out session with a girl (first time) and though I was hard for a long time, when she put her hand down my pants, maybe after an hour or so, I was limp. I don't have any problem masturbating but I think I might have a problem getting fully erect without touching. When I was making we were grinding and maybe that's why I ejaculated and lost my erection. What should I do? (age 18)

A: Decide to give up prone forever. Be sure to let your girlfriend know that you're inexperienced and that it might take a few minutes to get an erection whenever you change what you're doing. Instead of her reaching down your pants, get completely naked and take time to get relaxed so that you can get erect when you're ready. Ejaculating from grinding is not such a bad thing. Hooray for you.

2/28/17


I came across your article about a month ago and it scared me out of prone masturbation. I have not masturbated prone since then and have done it almost every day the regular way. Before quitting prone, I tried to have sex twice and both times I got hard and then went soft right away. Do you think this is from prone masturbation? I have been doing it as long as I can remember. (age 16)

A: Yes, I think your erectile trouble was caused by prone. But you were also new to sex. Now that you've been prone-free for a month, you can try sex with a partner any day now. Take your time and relax.

2/28/17


I will quit prone masturbarion, but I'm afraid that because of my age it will be difficult or even impossible. I'm a virgin and when I have had the opportunity to have intercourse, I couldn't achieve a good erection. (age 26)

A: You are young. You will be fine. Resolve to give up prone masturbation forever and start right now. You will be masturbating by hand at this time next week, and I suspect you will have nice erections for intercourse by the 4th of July, perhaps sooner.

3/1/17


I just switched from prone to conventional and can't orgasm at all no matter how long I masturbate. I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if it's part of the switch. (age 16)

A: When you think you're getting close to orgasm, masturbate as hard and fast as you can until you reach orgasm. Make sure your mind is in an aroused state. Once you're successful, work at stroking more slowly and using less force.

3/2/17


It is difficult for me to achieve a full erection during intercourse, fellatio or when receiving a hand job. Usually, I'm at like 80%. It also takes me a very long time to reach orgasm.

I masturbated prone for the first 5 years of my masturbation career, and am on the first year masturbating normally. I use the "death grip" technique and can only go slowly up and down the shaft. I believe this is because my penis is desensitized but I am no doctor. (age 19)

A: Congratulations on quitting prone. Now you need to work at using less force when you masturbate. I recommend a toy called the Super Head Honcho, available for about $15 on Amazon or Drugstore.com, among others. It will help you learn to use less force.

3/4/17


Will masturbating prone leaving any last damage or can you recover completely?

How do I know if I'm masturbating the right way? I do it by hand, but I'm still worried I may be doing it wrong somehow. (age 22)

A: All most males have to do is stop masturbating prone and learn to masturbate the conventional way and they are A-OK. I have never known a case where prone caused physical damage. You're doing it right when you masturbate to orgasm by stroking up and down with one hand and don't resort to prone.

3/11/17


I use prone to turn myself on and I thrust my penis into my hand. As soon as I feel comfortable, I switch to conventional masturbation. Is that OK? (age 17)

A: No, it isn't. You want to give up prone altogether and only masturbate conventionally. Take some time off from masturbating until you can masturbate from start to finish using only the up and down stroke of your hand.

3/16/17


I've been masturbating prone since I was 5 or 6 and I tried stopping just this week (on day 4) and I feel that it's just not possible for me to stop. I've been doing this for 20+ years and I just feel I'm in too deep now. I remember trying to stop years ago but I just couldn't. It didn't feel good or satisfying using my hand. I'm also not circumcised and I'm just not used to feeling my penis when it's erect. It feels weird and I can't get into this.

I really wish that they taught this kind of stuff in school. It would've saved a lot of us who have been afflicted with it. I haven't actually done the full deed of masturbating against the bed like I normally do but I catch myself lightly grinding against it whenever I'm bored. Does doing this affect the teaching and thus, I have to start over again? I'm just curious because this is my third attempt trying so I just wanted to know if I'm going to have to start over the minute I lie down and lightly grind/thrust? (age 25)

A: You are young. You can switch to hand masturbation. Many guys were much older than you and did it. Do not do any form of prone while you're abstaining. Take a full week off from any kind of sex or masturbation and then masturbate to orgasm by hand. You will enjoy it a lot.

3/16/17


Is there a medical issue for prone? Like a vein isssue or something? Are we just relaxing veins and arteries? Because there has to be a scientific reason for impotence.

A: Impotence is a strong word usually reserved for physical erectile dysfunction. There is also psychogenic erectile dysfunction. Prone masturbation causes psychogenic ED by habituating the male to have orgasms only with punishing force.

3/20/17


If I gave up prone at 16, does that my your penis should be OK, that there won't be any issues with it? (age 22)

A: Yes. If you gave up prone six years ago, you should be perfectly fine now.

3/21/17


I think I may have some skin damage on my scrotum from prone masturbation. I used to masturbate prone while favoring my left side, so my left testicle rubbed against the mattress more than my right. I've stopped masturbating prone for a year and a half but the front of my scrotum is still numb on the left side and I've lost some pubic hair there. However I can still feel pain from a pinch so I don't think it's nerve damage. Has anyone else had this problem? Will it heal if I just leave it completely alone for a while? (age 22)

A: Don't pinch. Don't worry about scrotal numbness. Don't worry at all. Just leave it alone and it will be fine.

3/27/17


Thanks for providing such great information on this site. I'm 36 and have been masturbating prone for as long as I can remember and have always had soft erections. I'm going to start re-teaching myself with the steps that you provided on your site.

Can I be cured at my age? I notice many of your questions were from teenagers and 20-somethings.

A: Yes. Many men your age have given up prone. Please read through the three prone comments pages and you will find many exchanges with men in their 30s and older.

4/4/07


For so many years I've been ashamed of the way I masturbated. I'm currently 20 years old and since I was 13 I have been masturbating using the prone method. Not only am I shocked that there is a name for "my way," I'm overjoyed that there are so many others like me, and spanning back so far at that.

For the lack of better words, I've recently began to worry about the state of my penis. Just today, I pleasured myself using this method 6 times; with only short, few minute breaks between each one before I got semi-hard again. I put a pressure right above my scrotum and I keep it there while my penis rests in the palm of my hand meeting the tip of my fingers. After that, I thrust until completion.

I recognize that I have a problem, but I don't know if I have the will to fix it. It is quite difficult for me to masturbate the normal way.

A: You can do it. You are young. Since you've found HealthyStrokes.com, you can see the stories on this page and the two previous ones with reports from men who were a lot older than you when they changed and had been masturbating prone for many more than seven years. Joining the "a href="support.html">online support group might help.

4/5/17


I've been masturbating prone since October 2011 on occasion and daily since December 2013 and so far have gone four days of not doing it, but I tried to conventionally do it today. Do I have to start over? (age 16)

A: If you did it prone, restart the clock and aim for seven days. If you didn't go back to prone, wait two more days before trying again.

4/5/17


Does prone masturbation cause male pattern baldness? (age 22)

A: No

4/6/17


I am a 22 year old virgin male. I discovered masturbation by rubbing myself against the seat of my bike. Later I started doing it prone but with a pillow or sheets stuffed between my legs while I lay down. After learning the harms of prone masturbation here on HealthyStrokes.com, I tried hard but was not able to do it the normal way even after a month's abstinence. When I tried stuffing a bed sheet and crossing my legs tightly and masturbating lying on my back, I was able to do it. I am not gay and am attracted to women. But sometimes I imagine myself in the woman's position while masturbating. I am afraid if I can engage in normal coitus. (age 22)

A: There is no woman's position. You seem to have replaced one dysfunctional form of masturbating with another. Please review the cure plan on HealthyStrokes.com more carefully and follow it. Do not go back to prone and do not do the sheet stuffing thing.

4/9/17


I have masturbating prone prone since age 14 and been struggling with anxiety disorder. During prone masturbation, I feel a pain in my heart after every session, but during conventional masturbation, I've not been experiancing pain in my heart. (age 23)

A: I've never heard that before. The solution seems to be to give up prone masturbation and only masturbate conventionally, which is what I've been encouraging anyway.

4/12/17


I just wanted to thank you for everything! I'm from Germany and it seems there are no German reports about prone masturbation. I stopped prone in January and noticed a great difference in my erections very soon and I feel so much better now! Does erection hardness depend on how often you masturbate? Because there are days I do it 3 or 4 times and after that my erections aren't as hard as when I stop doing it for 1-3 days. Then they are significantly better, really rock hard. (age 24)

A: Maybe you can write a web site about prone masturbation in German. I'd really like that. Yes, you are apt to have better erections and orgasms when you abstain for a few days instead of pounding yourself multiple times in one day. Congratulations on overcoming prone.

4/13/17


I have stopped prone for a month but I still can't masturbate using my hand. I can get erect but I can't ejaculate. Please help me!!! (age 15)

A: Do not go back to prone. Continue to try to masturbate by hand every other day. When you do, try to be as aroused as you can. You will succeed soon.

4/14/17



Can prone masturbation lead to a desensitization and thickening of the penile skin? I'm experiencing this now. My underside can feel almost zero pleasure and I've stopped prone for a while now. Can this be reversed or am I stuck like this? (age 22)

A: It is typical for males who masturbate prone to feel desensitized. Their erections and feeling will be much better 3-4 months after giving up prone. I doubt your skin has gotten any thicker. If it's still bothering you six months after you stopped prone, please see a urologist.

4/18/17


I have always masturbated prone. If I change to normal now, is it already too late? Will I suffer bad effects? (age 16)

A: No, you will be fine. It is never too late. I suspect you have never had intercourse. Better to change now than to endure more years of prone and then have to explain yourself to a partner.

4/21/17


I have been masturbating prone for 6-7 years, possibly longer. Will I have problems in intercouse? I masturbate 1-2 times a day. (age 21)

A: Your chances for success at intercourse are greatest if you stop prone now and start having intercourse later this year. You have both the problems of practicing prone (and doing it very often) and being a virgin at age 21. I suggest you swear off prone forever. You will be masturbating by hand by May Day, and enjoying it. Then start looking for opportunities to have intercourse around the end of May.

4/22/17


I just turned 20 a week ago. I have been masturbating prone for about 6 years, and when I surfed onto this site, I got the biggest shock ever sbout the dangers of masturbating this way. I immediately stopped doing prone. This was two days ago. I tried that day to masturbate conventionally but couldn't ejaculate. I took yesterday as a break and tried today and after 30 minutes or so, I couldn't do it, then after a break I decided to give it another try and I finally came in the conventional way using my hand! It definitely felt good but took about 10 minutes this time. I just wanted to thank you, you really helped me and made me aware of things I never knew. Should I masturbate again every other day? Only when I have an erection?

A: You went kind of fast, but congratulations. I would have advised you to wait a week before masturbating by hand for the first time, or at least four days. I suspect you're not going to wait, but every other day for the first week is typical, and then every day for a month. Only masturbate when you can obtain an erection.

4/22/17


Been doing prone 80% and supine 20%. Is it OK if I masturbate the conventional way 3 days later because I can get hard myself with visual aids? (age 20)

A: You don't need to abstain. Just swear off prone forever and make it prone 0% and supine 100%.

4/24/17


I am prone masturbation addicted. From the age of 15 I have only masturbated prone. Now I am 30 and am facing problems in intercourse. Can I become normal? Please help me and save me. Thanks in advance.

A: You are not addicted. You merely have a bad habit that you started 15 years ago. All you have to do is give up prone. Wait until it's a week since you masturbated last and then masturbate by hand. You will be a lot better right away and might not even remember what prone was like after 3-4 months.

4/26/17


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