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I've been masturbating prone for almost two years now. I don't find the need to masturbate every day (I have easily gone a week to a month without it) but I have never been able to do it by hand. I'm quitting doing it prone and I'm wondering how long you think it will take for me to orgasm when I try it by hand in a week or so. (age 17)
A: If you can go a week to a month without masturbating, you ought to be able to give up prone and switch to hand masturbation pretty easily. You should expect it to take 45 minutes to an hour to masturbate to orgasm by hand the first time you try. It will get easier the second and third times.
I've been masturbating prone my whole life and recently lost my virginity at 26. When I had sex, I was able to get hard but unable to cum. If I quit masturbating (as in no more prone or even trying supine position) will sex be easier? I hate the supine method and am getting married soon. Can I just not masturbate at all and cum during sex or do I have to switch to supine position to cum during sex? (age 27)
A: I strongly recommend that you give up prone masturbation and learn to masturbate by hand before attempting intercourse again. Learn to reach orgasm with the lesser force of your hand (as opposed to the tremendous force of your legs) and it will be easier for you to reach orgasm in intercourse. You will not quit masturbating, so work at learning to masturbate conventionally.
I masturbated prone for most of my life, though am lucky I have not had any problems yet. I am concerned after reading HealthyStrokes.com and it makes a lot of sense. I would like to improve myself and get away from prone. Will it make my erections harder and last longer in bed if I train myself the normal way? Also, I have thought about getting a Fleshlight device. What are your thoughts on these? Thanks for your time and the good info on your site. (age 36)
A: You will get better erections if you give up prone. But lasting longer in bed is not usually a concern of prone males. Most prone males take a half hour or longer to reach orgasm in intercourse, so they would rather reach orgasm more quickly. I don't recommend the Fleshlight but instead recommend the much cheaper Super Head Honcho.
I am attempting to stop prone masturbation, and this site has been a HUGE help (thanks for that). But one problem is I primarily sleep on my stomach, and even when I don't I almost always wake up on my stomach. I haven't had wet dreams or anything but I do wake up hard. Am I going to undo all my work from trying to quit prone masturbation because I sleep on my stomach? (age 16)
A: No. Don't worry about that. Sleep however you like.
I've always masturbated prone, on top of a body pillow with the tip of my penis rubbing against the bed. I can reach orgasm within 3 minutes and ejaculate. I found your site and realized I should change to supine even though I haven't felt any bad effects yet. I've been trying supine lately and I notice that I get much harder erections quicker but I don't feel pleasure. The more I stroke it, the longer the erection stays, sometimes up until 6 minutes, which then dies down. How can I feel pleasure or reach orgasm? (age 16)
A: Give up prone forever and learn to masturbate by hand. Six minutes is not long for an erection to last. You will enjoy masturbating more within a few weeks, and your erections will be stronger and last longer.
I've been with a few girls. When I was 18, I tried to have sex but couldn't and I thought I was too scared. Now I'm with a girl and I've remained a virgin until now and we decided to do it. I stopped prone 3 years ago and started again so I can masturbate the conventional way too. So when we were trying to have sex, I couldn't be erect for long. I don't know if it's because of stress or fear, prone masturbation or a bent penis (average curve I guess) but I did have weed and that time I could go inside her and I did it once. How can I keep an erection and what should I do to make it straight? I am giving up prone completely now and I'll be meeting her again in 15 days. How do I keep myself erect? What's the problem of not keeping my erection for long? (age 23)
A: When you give up prone, it is not enough to only learn conventional masturbation and then mix the two. You need to give up prone forever. You ought to notice a difference in your erections within 3-4 months of giving up prone. Practice makes perfect. In addition to your history of prone, you are also a late virgin. Don't be afraid of having sex or not being perfect in bed. Tell your partner you're new to sex and need time and practice to get good at it.
I am circumcised and masturbate prone. Is it more difficult for a circumcised male to learn the conventional way of masturbation? (age 20)
A: No. Give up prone and then you can masturbate conventionally soon.
I stopped masturbating prone; now I do it conventionally and I like it. I can only cum if I tense and stretch my legs. Is that normal or do I still have a problem? (age 23)
A: That is normal. Most males and females with no history of prone also do that. It is how you keep sensations coming from your legs from interfering with your orgasm.
I just found out on New Year's Eve about prone masturbation over supine masterbation. I just thought guys did it differently, so when I read about the dangers of prone, I immediately stopped because I've had ED for quite some time. I have taken to supine like a duck to water for the last two weeks. It was hard at first but I got it down. Even though I've stopped prone (after almost 40 years of it) how long will it take to get a normal erection? (age 45)
A: Most men notice an improvement in their erections 3-4 months after giving up prone. Congratulations on giving up prone so quickly. Happy new year!
I need major help to quit masturbating prone. It is too addicting and I love the feel of it. I know it's bad but I just can't quit. Can you help me please? (age 13)
A: However good you think prone feels, it doesn't. It is causing you trouble. You are likely to have trouble when you first try to have sex with a partner (which I hope will be years from now). You are young and can switch easily. Think about how good regular masturbation will feel. Guys who switch masturbate conventionally about as often as they previously masturbated prone. They don't find it feels any less good. Just resolve to give up prone forever and then abstain for a week (perhaps less). You can be doing it by hand at this time next week.
I have been masturbating prone my whole life until I couldn't ejaculate when having sex with my girlfriend. After reviewing your site, I abstained for 6 days and tried the conventional way today. I felt a slight sensation and definately did pre-cum which I guess is a good step but did not ejaculate. How long should I wait before another attempt? (age 24)
A: Tomorrow would be good. The important thing is not to go back to prone if you don't succeed with your hand right away.
I have been doing prone since I was 15. I know that's only 3 years, but I have lost some feeling when masturbating normally. I have stopped prone for about a week now, but I still don't have a lot of feeling down there, and it's difficult to stay erect. I would appreciate some advice on why this has happened, and how to fix it. (age 18)
A: You will not notice a difference in your erections immediately. Expect them to feel different in 3-4 months. Stay away from prone and get better at masturbating by hand.
I masturbate prone but started abstinence now. I only get stimulated by rubbing the area around the frenulum since I'm most sensitive there. When I tried masturbating by hand some time ago, it felt too intense and not enjoyable on the other parts of the glans; only the frenulum area felt good. Is that normal? (age 22)
A: You are undergoing masturbatory retraining. You probably don't like touching the glans because it is very sensitive and usually can't be masturbated unless the male is using lube. Instead of touching only the area around the frenulum, when you resume masturbating after abstaining, stroke up and down the entire shaft of the penis, stopping short of the glans..
Follow-up: I was impatient and started masturbating after 3 full days of abstinence. I came after 25 minutes with lube and a lot of concentration. The day after I came three times without lube and today once without lube again. Each time it got easier and I can feel that it will get even easier in the future.
Thank you for this site. I didn't know how easy it could be to masturbate normally.
I have never had an orgasm from fellatio, and I still need to jerk rather intensely reach orgasm cum and can't imagine that I will orgasm from fellatio alone at this point. Do you think that will change or is this something I just have to live with?
A: Congratulations on giving up prone so easily. Wait 3-4 months before trying oral sex. After a month of daily masturbation by hand, you can try vaginal intercourse. See how that goes before trying oral.
I've been masturbating for as long as I can remember. Back then I thought it just felt good. But when I went through puberty, I could only ejaculate while flaccid thrusting into my hand. I'm currently trying to recover and I went a week without masturbating at all. But I was not able to ejaculate. (age 17)
A: Try again after two days. You will be ejaculating soon.
I did prone masturbation since I was 12, and when I finally lost my virginity last year, I couldn't finish. Throughout the relationship, I had issues with ED and delayed ejaculation. Since coming to HealthyStrokes.com, I have abstained and finally did it the conventional way with success. I also have severe phimosis. I was wondering whether this will help with my phimosis? (age 23)
A: Phimosis is a separate problem from prone masturbation. Masturbating prone will not help your phimosis, but it's unclear if regular masturbation will make a difference. I suggest you find online resources for men with phimosis and learn how others have dealt with this problem.
I stopped prone, did one week of abstinence and have been masturbating conventionally for two weeks and it feels great. But my penis is more sensitive now when it's not erect. Is that normal? (age 23)
A: You can't judge how your penis feels after only two months of a new way of masturbating. You will be more aware of penile sensitivity two or three months from now. Do not go back to prone.
I learned to masturbate by doing prone four or five years ago. For the past year or two, I have been trying to stop prone. I have been masturbating normally, but once in a while, I go back to prone. I'm often very horny when I wake up and I sometimes can't help humping the bed. It feels a lot better more quickly. I know it's bad, but it feels too good. I always tell myself that this is going to be the last time. When I finish, I immediately regret it. I get a burning feeling on the tip of my penis and right under it. I also have a dull pain in my right testis for a few days after. How do I prevent myself from giving in to prone? Is there a way to reverse any damage done?
Thank you for the work you do here. I stopped masturbating prone after coming across your site! (age 19)
A: Prone doesn't feel a lot better. It's giving you burning pains and a dull ache in your testicle, that actually originates in your overtaxed prostate gland. Resolve that you will never do prone again. You give up some of the progress you have made by masturbating with your hand every time you do prone. I suggest you get out of bed right away in the morning and not linger in bed and be tempted to hump it. Time and learning to masturbate with less force will help reverse any damage.
Thank you! Keep the good work up! For a long time I masturbated prone but after going through this site I came to know how bad it is so now a week later I can masturbate in the supine position with my hands. Now I am relaxed and happy. (age 29)
A: Everyone I've talked to about it is relaxed and happy after masturbating with their hands.
I've masturbated prone since 9 and in recent years I've been doing it 4 or 5 times a day. I quit prone a few months ago and tried conventional masturbation but I could not ejaculate. When I lost my virginity two months ago, I ejaculated but found it hard to stay erect. I went back to prone after having sex but very recently quit again. I can't get erect when I want to even if I'm aroused and I can never orgasm through conventional masturbation. What should I do? (age 15)
A: Your erections will get better after you are finished with prone for a few months. Do not go back. Relax and focus on having an orgasm when next you masturbate by hand. It could easily take an hour.
I did prone masturbation for six months and I'm facing the same problems others have reported. What can I do now? I have stopped prone. May I need any kind of medication? Will it restore automatically after a while? (age 27)
A: I'm worried I don't understand your message completely. Did you really start prone masturbating six months ago? That is very unusual. Or did you mean you did it since puberty and quit six months ago? Either way, you did the most important thing by quitting. You will not need medication and will notice an improvement in your erections in a few months.
I have quite a small penis, admittedly. About 4 inches. I find myself grasping at it, rather than stroking up and down. Is this why I don't feel like I'm masturbating right? I don't think I'm holding it too tight, but I don't know for sure. I could be.
Is this a fear for many people who used to masturbate prone? The fear that they might still masturbating the wrong way, even after changing to hand? Yes, I know that sounds stupid, but I have fear of causing harm to my penis Also, I used to masturbate prone with clothes on. Don't ask me why. Did this mean I harmed it more so?
I hate that I ever masturbated prone. So embarrassing and potentially could harm one of the most important parts of the body. I wish someone had told me how to do it the right way when I was a teen. (age 22)
A: Use less force. One way to do this is to use a stroker like the Super Head Honcho, available on Amazon.com and Drugstore.com for about $15. Lots of people worry that their penises are too small, so I don't think your worry is unique to males who used to masturbate prone.
I've stopped masturbating prone for 20 days now. The conventional method has worked fine so far but I still often masturbate 3-5 times a day. Is that too much? Tonight I am really aroused but can't get hard. Should I be worried? (age 24)
A: Your frequency is extreme. Most males your age are falling back from one masturbatory session a day. Once a day is often enough for someone who only recently switched from prone. Do it less and you're apt to enjoy your sessions more and get erect more easily.
I tried masturbation using my hand after abstaining for 7 days. I read literotica to get myself aroused. My erection would come and go and to maintain constant erection I had to be reading the stories continuously. Even a little distraction and my erection would start falling. I kept rubbing my shaft by encircling the shaft in my loose hand in a way that my glans was stimulated indirectly by my hand coming to it from the shaft. I didn't enjoy the feeling I was getting from it. It became uncomfortable and I had to stop masturbating. The feeling can be described as the feeling you get when you rub your penis just after you have orgasmed. So it made me stop using my hand. I didn't go back to prone, though I was tempted. Is it normal to have this feeling in the initial phases of trying to recover yourself from prone? I fear it's a sign of some nerve damage I did while thrusting my penis against bed for the past 15 years. I used to masturbate pretty excessively during the last 4 years, even 5-6 times a day. (age 24)
A: Try to avoid touching your glans. You might even try wearing a lubricated condom while you're trying to switch. I would avoid using lube from a tube or bottle because you're obviously not used to it. I also don't know anything about literotica to masturbate with. Most males your age (and any age) prefer visual stimulation like pictures or videos. I doubt you have nerve damage. It's just something new to get used to.
I am 21 and have been masturbating prone since I was 14. You say various times that the amount of time you should go without ejaculating is one to two weeks and then try to masturbate normally, but I want to take a long 90 day break from masturbating of any kind and then try the normal way. Do you think this would be OK, or perhaps make the transition even easier?
A: Men your age masturbate daily. You are not going to quit masturbating for 90 days. A lot of men have trouble making it the week that I recommend they abstain before switching. As I have suggested, take a week off and then masturbate to orgasm using your hand. And work at accepting masturbation as normal, healthy, and fun, and even necessary for male sexual health. It is something you will always do.
I have masturbated prone from a young age. Since puberty, I have used both the normal method and prone, probably 5:1 in favor of the normal method. Since coming across HealthyStrokes.com, I am obviously going to stop masturbating prone. In some of the entries I notice an inability - at least initially - from those who have masturbated prone to ejaculate employing the more common method, and that your responses state that upon being able to ejaculate using the normal method (and not reverting to prone) that they should not have any issues when it comes to sex (assuming that they are otherwise healthy). I am definitely giving up prone masturbation, but I'm just, quite naturally, worried about the effects it might have had on me considering some of the consequences you have noted on this web site, and would like to know if it's possible that I'll be OK if I only masturbate the normal way from now on. Thanks for HealthyStrokes.com and the work you do. (age 19)
A: You seem to be a virgin. You don't report any experience with intercourse or any trouble with intercourse. If you give up prone and then become sexually active, I think you will be fine. The men who have trouble are those who only masturbated prone.
I quit prone masturbation nearly a month ago and I don't have the desire to do it again. The conventional way works great and my erections have already started to get better. Some days I have to tense my whole genital region really hard to achieve orgasm, and when I start tensing, my erection gets weaker. Why is that? Should I try to unlearn the whole tensing thing? (age 24)
A: When you're tensing, you're trying really hard to masturbate. Maybe your body wants to wait until the next day to have another orgasm. When you're really relaxed and having a good time trying to get to orgasm, you don't need to tense like that.
I have been masturbating prone since my teenage years and have just come across HealthyStrokes.com and started an abstinence period before switching to practice the supine way. I was thinking of purchasing a Fleshlight to use when masturbating. Do you not recommended these as they involve inserting the erect lubricated penis into a silicone sleeve to simulate sex? (age 35)
A: I recommend that you cure yourself of prone masturbation by learning to masturbate with your hand. The thing I don't like about the Fleshlight is that they have a rigid case that doesn't feel like either sex or masturbating. If you want to try a sleeve after you have learned to masturbate with your hand, I recommend the Super Head Honcho.
I have been prone masturbating from the time I was four but I did not realize what it was. I basically just hump the ground and it feels really good but when I turned 12, when i did it, I noticed my pants were wet after doing it. Soon after I discovered I was masturbating. I knew that there was another way to do it, but I always prefered my way, not knowing how harmful it was. When I came across HealthyStrokes.com, I stopped. I masturbated normally for days but it didn't feel good. Clear liquid came out of my penis but that's as close as I got. I then tried again and again to give it up but I kept caving in and masturbating prone. Finally in the new year, I went twelve days without masturbating but I only went three full days of abstaining completely without touching myself. I caved again and on the first of February I tried again but only made 15 days with only 3 days abstaining and caved again. Is my penis never going to fix itself and can you give me tips? I know if I stay away from porn it'll be a lot easier. (age 15)
A: Why are you asking me when you already know the answer? Avoid touching yourself at all during the abstention period; stay away from porn; and do not go back to prone if you're not successful at masturbating conventionally at first.
How long should I expect to reach climax my first time conventionally? (age 19)
A: It could take as long as 45 minutes to an hour. If you can't masturbate to orgasm in an hour, stop and try again in two days.
I have read your prone masturbation article and I am very concerned at the damage I may have done prone masturbating. How much damage would I have done if I did this for example 300 times? And if I get back on a normal track will I completely fix this damage? (age 16)
A: At your age, males can switch to supine very easily. 300 times is not so many; most males masturbate more than that in only one year. Resolve to give up prone, and I think you will be A-OK within a few months.
I am 37 years old and just came across HealthyStrokes.com tonight. It was like being struck by a lightning bolt. I have been prone masturbating since I started masturbating in my early teens, and I always have problems climaxing with a partner, though I can occassionally. I never made the connection that the prone was the issue, and I blamed myself. With your site, I think I can fix what's wrong with me. THANK YOU!
I am 37 and just came across HealthyStrokes.com tonight. It was like being struck by a lightning bolt. I have been prone masturbating since I started masturbating in my early teens, and I have always had problems climaxing with a partner, though I can occasionally. I never made the connection that the prone was the issue and just blamed myself. With your site, I think I can fix what's wrong with me. THANK YOU!
I have been masturbating prone since I started. A couple years ago I switched to hand and after a few times it was easy to do it. But that was like for just one week and then I went back to prone. Do you think at my age I can solve it easily? (age 20)
A: Yes, I do. Since you already know how to masturbate conventionally, just give up prone. You will be glad you did.
I am trying to overcome prone, and I commonly use the Vaseline-in-plastic-bag method, except I wrap the bag with a rag and place hair ties over it. Is this OK, or should I be using my hand and my hand only? (age 17)
A: Use your hand and only your hand.
I just want to say thank you for making this site. With help from HealthyStrokes.com, I am finally nearly fully recovered from prone masturbating. I never masturbated by hand, ever. When I first discovered your site, I was 16 and I was crestfallen because I thought I'd never be able to do it. Now at the age of 21, I finally reached orgasm with my hand from start to finish. I used to masturbate by thrusting into my hands and when I was about to cum, I'd turn over and finish, and then I gave up for a little bit and I finally buckled down and did it normally. I was so proud of myself. You've changed my life so much. I was having major erectile dysfunction. Now I have good hard erections. I still have trouble keeping it up, but I know in time I'll get better. (age 21)
A: Many males at age 16 (or younger) find HealthyStrokes.com and switch to conventional masturbation that same week. I have no idea why you waited five years to switch.
I masturbated prone for nearly 10 years. I started when I was 8-9 humping the edges of tables, and then discovered doing it prone. I've been reading HealthyStrokes.com and it's really helpful, which is why I stopped masturbating prone about two months ago and tried the normal way. Even though I had no problem with the normal way, I still used to go prone often too. I ejaculate within a minute or two. Recently I had a make-out session with a girl (first time) and though I was hard for a long time, when she put her hand down my pants, maybe after an hour or so, I was limp. I don't have any problem masturbating but I think I might have a problem getting fully erect without touching. When I was making we were grinding and maybe that's why I ejaculated and lost my erection. What should I do? (age 18)
A: Decide to give up prone forever. Be sure to let your girlfriend know that you're inexperienced and that it might take a few minutes to get an erection whenever you change what you're doing. Instead of her reaching down your pants, get completely naked and take time to get relaxed so that you can get erect when you're ready. Ejaculating from grinding is not such a bad thing. Hooray for you.
I came across your article about a month ago and it scared me out of prone masturbation. I have not masturbated prone since then and have done it almost every day the regular way. Before quitting prone, I tried to have sex twice and both times I got hard and then went soft right away. Do you think this is from prone masturbation? I have been doing it as long as I can remember. (age 16)
A: Yes, I think your erectile trouble was caused by prone. But you were also new to sex. Now that you've been prone-free for a month, you can try sex with a partner any day now. Take your time and relax.
I will quit prone masturbarion, but I'm afraid that because of my age it will be difficult or even impossible. I'm a virgin and when I have had the opportunity to have intercourse, I couldn't achieve a good erection. (age 26)
A: You are young. You will be fine. Resolve to give up prone masturbation forever and start right now. You will be masturbating by hand at this time next week, and I suspect you will have nice erections for intercourse by the 4th of July, perhaps sooner.
I just switched from prone to conventional and can't orgasm at all no matter how long I masturbate. I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if it's part of the switch. (age 16)
A: When you think you're getting close to orgasm, masturbate as hard and fast as you can until you reach orgasm. Make sure your mind is in an aroused state. Once you're successful, work at stroking more slowly and using less force.
It is difficult for me to achieve a full erection during intercourse, fellatio or when receiving a hand job. Usually, I'm at like 80%. It also takes me a very long time to reach orgasm.
I masturbated prone for the first 5 years of my masturbation career, and am on the first year masturbating normally. I use the "death grip" technique and can only go slowly up and down the shaft. I believe this is because my penis is desensitized but I am no doctor. (age 19)
A: Congratulations on quitting prone. Now you need to work at using less force when you masturbate. I recommend a toy called the Super Head Honcho, available for about $15 on Amazon or Drugstore.com, among others. It will help you learn to use less force.
Will masturbating prone leaving any last damage or can you recover completely?
How do I know if I'm masturbating the right way? I do it by hand, but I'm still worried I may be doing it wrong somehow. (age 22)
A: All most males have to do is stop masturbating prone and learn to masturbate the conventional way and they are A-OK. I have never known a case where prone caused physical damage. You're doing it right when you masturbate to orgasm by stroking up and down with one hand and don't resort to prone.
I use prone to turn myself on and I thrust my penis into my hand. As soon as I feel comfortable, I switch to conventional masturbation. Is that OK? (age 17)
A: No, it isn't. You want to give up prone altogether and only masturbate conventionally. Take some time off from masturbating until you can masturbate from start to finish using only the up and down stroke of your hand.
I've been masturbating prone since I was 5 or 6 and I tried stopping just this week (on day 4) and I feel that it's just not possible for me to stop. I've been doing this for 20+ years and I just feel I'm in too deep now. I remember trying to stop years ago but I just couldn't. It didn't feel good or satisfying using my hand. I'm also not circumcised and I'm just not used to feeling my penis when it's erect. It feels weird and I can't get into this.
I really wish that they taught this kind of stuff in school. It would've saved a lot of us who have been afflicted with it. I haven't actually done the full deed of masturbating against the bed like I normally do but I catch myself lightly grinding against it whenever I'm bored. Does doing this affect the teaching and thus, I have to start over again? I'm just curious because this is my third attempt trying so I just wanted to know if I'm going to have to start over the minute I lie down and lightly grind/thrust? (age 25)
A: You are young. You can switch to hand masturbation. Many guys were much older than you and did it. Do not do any form of prone while you're abstaining. Take a full week off from any kind of sex or masturbation and then masturbate to orgasm by hand. You will enjoy it a lot.
Is there a medical issue for prone? Like a vein isssue or something? Are we just relaxing veins and arteries? Because there has to be a scientific reason for impotence.
A: Impotence is a strong word usually reserved for physical erectile dysfunction. There is also psychogenic erectile dysfunction. Prone masturbation causes psychogenic ED by habituating the male to have orgasms only with punishing force.
If I gave up prone at 16, does that my your penis should be OK, that there won't be any issues with it? (age 22)
A: Yes. If you gave up prone six years ago, you should be perfectly fine now.
I think I may have some skin damage on my scrotum from prone masturbation. I used to masturbate prone while favoring my left side, so my left testicle rubbed against the mattress more than my right. I've stopped masturbating prone for a year and a half but the front of my scrotum is still numb on the left side and I've lost some pubic hair there. However I can still feel pain from a pinch so I don't think it's nerve damage. Has anyone else had this problem? Will it heal if I just leave it completely alone for a while? (age 22)
A: Don't pinch. Don't worry about scrotal numbness. Don't worry at all. Just leave it alone and it will be fine.
Thanks for providing such great information on this site. I'm 36 and have been masturbating prone for as long as I can remember and have always had soft erections. I'm going to start re-teaching myself with the steps that you provided on your site.
Can I be cured at my age? I notice many of your questions were from teenagers and 20-somethings.
A: Yes. Many men your age have given up prone. Please read through the three prone comments pages and you will find many exchanges with men in their 30s and older.
For so many years I've been ashamed of the way I masturbated. I'm currently 20 years old and since I was 13 I have been masturbating using the prone method. Not only am I shocked that there is a name for "my way," I'm overjoyed that there are so many others like me, and spanning back so far at that.
For the lack of better words, I've recently began to worry about the state of my penis. Just today, I pleasured myself using this method 6 times; with only short, few minute breaks between each one before I got semi-hard again. I put a pressure right above my scrotum and I keep it there while my penis rests in the palm of my hand meeting the tip of my fingers. After that, I thrust until completion.
I recognize that I have a problem, but I don't know if I have the will to fix it. It is quite difficult for me to masturbate the normal way.
A: You can do it. You are young. Since you've found HealthyStrokes.com, you can see the stories on this page and the two previous ones with reports from men who were a lot older than you when they changed and had been masturbating prone for many more than seven years. Joining the "a href="support.html">online support group might help.
I've been masturbating prone since October 2011 on occasion and daily since December 2013 and so far have gone four days of not doing it, but I tried to conventionally do it today. Do I have to start over? (age 16)
A: If you did it prone, restart the clock and aim for seven days. If you didn't go back to prone, wait two more days before trying again.
Does prone masturbation cause male pattern baldness? (age 22)
I am a 22 year old virgin male. I discovered masturbation by rubbing myself against the seat of my bike. Later I started doing it prone but with a pillow or sheets stuffed between my legs while I lay down. After learning the harms of prone masturbation here on HealthyStrokes.com, I tried hard but was not able to do it the normal way even after a month's abstinence. When I tried stuffing a bed sheet and crossing my legs tightly and masturbating lying on my back, I was able to do it. I am not gay and am attracted to women. But sometimes I imagine myself in the woman's position while masturbating. I am afraid if I can engage in normal coitus. (age 22)
A: There is no woman's position. You seem to have replaced one dysfunctional form of masturbating with another. Please review the cure plan on HealthyStrokes.com more carefully and follow it. Do not go back to prone and do not do the sheet stuffing thing.
I have masturbating prone prone since age 14 and been struggling with anxiety disorder. During prone masturbation, I feel a pain in my heart after every session, but during conventional masturbation, I've not been experiancing pain in my heart. (age 23)
A: I've never heard that before. The solution seems to be to give up prone masturbation and only masturbate conventionally, which is what I've been encouraging anyway.
I just wanted to thank you for everything! I'm from Germany and it seems there are no German reports about prone masturbation. I stopped prone in January and noticed a great difference in my erections very soon and I feel so much better now! Does erection hardness depend on how often you masturbate? Because there are days I do it 3 or 4 times and after that my erections aren't as hard as when I stop doing it for 1-3 days. Then they are significantly better, really rock hard. (age 24)
A: Maybe you can write a web site about prone masturbation in German. I'd really like that. Yes, you are apt to have better erections and orgasms when you abstain for a few days instead of pounding yourself multiple times in one day. Congratulations on overcoming prone.
I have stopped prone for a month but I still can't masturbate using my hand. I can get erect but I can't ejaculate. Please help me!!! (age 15)
A: Do not go back to prone. Continue to try to masturbate by hand every other day. When you do, try to be as aroused as you can. You will succeed soon.
Can prone masturbation lead to a desensitization and thickening of the penile skin? I'm experiencing this now. My underside can feel almost zero pleasure and I've stopped prone for a while now. Can this be reversed or am I stuck like this? (age 22)
A: It is typical for males who masturbate prone to feel desensitized. Their erections and feeling will be much better 3-4 months after giving up prone. I doubt your skin has gotten any thicker. If it's still bothering you six months after you stopped prone, please see a urologist.
I did prone mixed with regular (dry) masturbation for about 2 years. Then for about a month I did nothing but prone at least once per night. Then one night I noticed I had lost sensation in the exact area where my penis was contacting the mattress. Mainly the base of the penis and front of the scrotum. I can still feel pain when I poke there or pinch there so I'm pretty sure it's not nerve damage.
This happened nearly a year and a half ago and it hasn't gotten much better, which leads me to believe my brain is still used to the pressure from prone, or the nerve endings/penis skin have still not healed.
During this year and a half timespan I've still masturbated normally and have never had any problems having an orgasm. My penis is less sensitive to the same stimuli (I can't really feel a draft when taking off my underwear that much). I'm mainly concerned about the lack of pleasurable feeling I'm having. I'm just having trouble feeling stimulation. Is it going to come back?
A: Only a urologist could tell you for sure. I'm inclined to believe he would dismiss you rather quickly and tell you your anatomy is fine. If you think it isn't, then be sure you're only masturbating conventionally and have completely given up prone. I also suggest masturbating with lube if you're not already.
I have always masturbated prone. If I change to normal now, is it already too late? Will I suffer bad effects? (age 16)
A: No, you will be fine. It is never too late. I suspect you have never had intercourse. Better to change now than to endure more years of prone and then have to explain yourself to a partner.
I have been masturbating prone for 6-7 years, possibly longer. Will I have problems in intercouse? I masturbate 1-2 times a day. (age 21)
A: Your chances for success at intercourse are greatest if you stop prone now and start having intercourse later this year. You have both the problems of practicing prone (and doing it very often) and being a virgin at age 21. I suggest you swear off prone forever. You will be masturbating by hand by May Day, and enjoying it. Then start looking for opportunities to have intercourse around the end of May.
I just turned 20 a week ago. I have been masturbating prone for about 6 years, and when I surfed onto this site, I got the biggest shock ever sbout the dangers of masturbating this way. I immediately stopped doing prone. This was two days ago. I tried that day to masturbate conventionally but couldn't ejaculate. I took yesterday as a break and tried today and after 30 minutes or so, I couldn't do it, then after a break I decided to give it another try and I finally came in the conventional way using my hand! It definitely felt good but took about 10 minutes this time. I just wanted to thank you, you really helped me and made me aware of things I never knew. Should I masturbate again every other day? Only when I have an erection?
A: You went kind of fast, but congratulations. I would have advised you to wait a week before masturbating by hand for the first time, or at least four days. I suspect you're not going to wait, but every other day for the first week is typical, and then every day for a month. Only masturbate when you can obtain an erection.
Been doing prone 80% and supine 20%. Is it OK if I masturbate the conventional way 3 days later because I can get hard myself with visual aids? (age 20)
A: You don't need to abstain. Just swear off prone forever and make it prone 0% and supine 100%.
I am prone masturbation addicted. From the age of 15 I have only masturbated prone. Now I am 30 and am facing problems in intercourse. Can I become normal? Please help me and save me. Thanks in advance.
A: You are not addicted. You merely have a bad habit that you started 15 years ago. All you have to do is give up prone. Wait until it's a week since you masturbated last and then masturbate by hand. You will be a lot better right away and might not even remember what prone was like after 3-4 months.
I have been doing prone since age 11. Throughout my life, I could never reach orgasm with a woman during normal sex. I don't feel any sensations during penetration and it is very frustrating. I lost my marriage because of this, as my wife could never understand why I couldn't climax with her. This caused us to drift apart.
I was never successful masturbating by hand, only prone. I am very depressed and feel that prone has destroyed my life and that I can never have a normal sexual relationship with a woman. (age 43)
A: I suggest joining the support group for men who masturbate prone. Many of the men in the group have experienced what you have. It is very possible to change. You could be having successful intercourse with a woman as early as next month.
I feel odd about contacting you, but after coming across HealthyStrokes.com and realizing my prone masturbation was a problem, I figured talking to an expert might help.
I'm 17, and after a date last night I had the opportunity to have sex for the first time with my girlfriend. I was not able to become erect enough, which caused me to be very concerned, so I started searching for what the problem might be and came across your site.
I began masturbating prone when I self-discovered and did not realize it was a problem until now. In the past, I have been unable to become stimulated enough by oral sex or hands to finish, and have consequently had dry sex several times with my previous partner. I imagine this might have worsened the problem.
My current partner was cool about last night and suggested that we try again after her school prom in three weeks. She lives about an hour from me so I will likely not see her until then. I have known her for several years as a friend, have come to care for her a great deal, and worry about losing her -- she suggested that off-handedly that we may not have physical chemistry, which is worrying. In the long term I would like to normalize my masturbation. In the short term I would very much like to keep my partner and, if possible, have sex. Is three weeks without prone enough time for me to adjust to normal intercourse? And if I cannot finish by myself normally within that period, should I abstain altogether? (age 17)
A: If you have really stopped prone, I think you could masturbate conventionally as soon as this weekend and would have made enough progress in three weeks to have intercourse. The worst that could happen is that you would be the same as you were last night, so you have nothing to lose by trying. I say go for it.
I did not know about the dangers of prone masturbation until today. I realize that I have been using this technique for 23 years. I wonder if that's the record. I have been married 13 years and have two kids. I don't feel like intercourse often but I have been masturbating prone almost every day. (I masturbate with my penis straight up and pressing on the mattress with my entire penis getting the pressure.) I am not comfortable in any other position besides missionary. My wife understands and we never have tried anything different in 13 years of marriage. I cannot ejacuate in any other position. I always need support on my legs during intercourse. Today I realized that it's because of my prone habit.
Can you kindly suggest what should be my actions from now? I am really upset and at the same time happy that I at least came to know now about all this. (age 38)
A: 23 years is definitely not the record. Resolve to give up prone forever. Try masturbating by hand in about a week and then do it daily for a month. Then have intercourse in the missionary position. After a few months, you will be more confident about having intercourse in other positions.
I have been masturbating prone for years. I have been experiencing no erection even when watch I porn for a few days which is not common at all. How can I be normal again? (age 21)
A: I urge you to give up prone. You will be masturbating by hand within a week or so and will notice an improvement in your erections within a few months.
You saved my life! I tried one week of leaving prone and then I couldn't masturbate conventionally. Then I just left it alone for one more day! I just shifted and today had a orgasm that i never had before! I stroke it very fast and in a ring shape. Is that correct? (age 19)
A: Yes, that is typical. The one week stated on HealthyStrokes.com is only a guideline. Some males can masturbate conventionally very soon, and others take two weeks or more. If eight days worked for you, then it worked. You are doing it correctly and are apt to stroke less fast as you get more experienced at regular masturbation.
I really want to share my positive experience after visiting HealthyStrokes.com. I have been masturbating prone for more than 20 years and recently came across this site. I am able to masturbate by hand now daily and I was able to shift in less than a week. Masturbating by hand still takes longer time for me (sometimes up to 30 minutes), I feel it's a better practice.
I was having quick ejacuation. Will this new better habit will help me to delay my ejacuation and also give a better experience to my partner? (age 38)
A: I don't know much about quick ejaculation. Most men who masturbate prone (or have a history of it) have the opposite problem. I suspect giving up prone will make it easier to cure your quick ejaculation, but I don't know for sure. If the problem persists, perhaps you should consult a professional.
I masturbated prone for a few years and have since stopped. Is it normal for the skin around the base of the penis to become loose and stretched out from prone masturbation? I haven't seen anything saying so on your web site. (age 23)
A: You haven't seen that because I've never heard of it before. Skin doesn't get stretched out easily. Don't worry about that.
I have just stopped prone masturbating and no longer have the urge to do it. Will my erections get harder? They aren't as strong as I remember. (age 17)
A: Congratulations on giving up prone. That's tough for a lot of males to do. You will notice a difference in your erections in 3-4 months after stopping prone.
I have been masturbating prone since I was 12. During the past few year while talking to my friends, I have come to realize that they masturbate differently from me; however, I did not think that prone masturbation was wrong, so I continued. Recently, I got in a sexual relationship for the first time and the sex went on for almost half an hour without my having an orgasm. This led me to HealthyStrokes.com. For the past month I have been trying to masturbate using my fist and I have been successful within 10 minutes. However, I always need visual aids. I find it very difficult to masturbate not using porn. Also I have skipped the process of abstinence. All I want is an orgasm during sex. Should I try over again following abstinence? Or should I continue to masturbate using my fist using porn and wait patiently? (age 21)
A: The point of the abstinence period is to help you masturbate to orgasm by hand for the first time. Since you can do that, you don't need to abstain. There is nothing wrong with needing visual aids, especially at your age. You should expect to need them to masturbate. Good luck at reaching orgasm in intercourse. You ought to be able to do that now.
I'm used to masturbating prone since I was 9-10. It's been almost 13 years now. In November 2016, I tried having sex but I wasn't getting erect. I was completely shocked. The doctor gave me Cialis 20 mg. I tried it twice and it didn't work. Imagine a naked girl lying in front of me and I'm not even able to get it half erect. I guess prone really is harmful. If I follow your advice about switching to the conventional method, will I be able to get the proper erection for sex? (age 23)
A: Yes, your erections will improve within a few months. Please decide to give up prone forever.
I may be young but I think it's much better to cure prone masturbation at an early age. I started at the age of 11. Masturbation has to be performed privately, so can I practice the normal way in the bathroom? (age 15)
A: Yes, you certainly can, but I assume you masturbate prone in bed, so why wouldn't you practice the regular way there?
I have been doing prone masturbation for years. I stopped for a week and I am unable to get an orgasm by hand. Should I use a visual aid like porn to help me? (age 21)
A: Yes, you definitely should use some exciting visual aids. I can't imagine learning a new way to masturbate at your age without them.
You say, "While still a form of prone masturbation, thrusting into your hand is less harmful than thrusting against bedding, the floor, or some other object." How do we know if we're thrusting or not? A lot of us didn't realize prone was bad until recently, so how do we know if we're doing it the right way now?
I worry that the first couple of years of transitioning to hand, I was still thrusting somewhat. I don't think I'm thrusting now, but I still worry as I don't want to be harming my penis somehow, which is a big worry of mine. (age 22)
A: You're thrusting if you're lying face down and masturbating prone by forcing your penis into or against something, like your bedding, mattress, pillow, or your hand. If you lie on your back and stroke your penis up and down, then you're not thrusting. Although thrusting into your hand is only slightly less dangerous than thrusting into bedding, mattress, or pillow, I recommend that males who are having difficulty giving up prone switch to it as a transitional step. After a few months of thrusting into the hand, it will make it easier to start stroking by hand.
You always write that you do not know a case where prone masturbation cause physical damage. But in one reply you wrote, "Out of thousands of males I've interacted with, only a handful have reported any physical injuries attributable to prone masturbation." What type of injuries? (age 33)
A: You're right. That's a contradiction. My standard line is that prone does not cause physical damage. When I wrote that reply, I must have recently heard from one of the few males with a report of physical injury. A few males have had urologists tell them the opening to their urethra (called the meatus) is irregular (probably from years of thrusting against fabric), and a small number have had other kinds of penile injuries diagnosed via ultrasound. But overwhelmingly, males with a history of masturbating prone have completely normal penises, and even of the ones who don't, it's not a sure thing that prone caused their irregularities. Either way, a male who masturbates prone should give up the habit and learn to enjoy regular masturbation and regular sex.
Follow-up: From the few males with a report of physical injury diagnosed via ultrasound, do these cases concern venous leaks, plaques, etc., or urethral stricture? From what I understand, the only area of ??the urethra that can be damaged by prone masturbation is the meatus.
A: Again, I've dealt with tens of thousands of males with a history of masturbating prone, and only a small number (less than 10) have ever reported being diagnosed with a physical injury. So few that I can't remember them. I think we can conclude that prone masturbation does not cause physical damage to the genitals; but that a few who masturbate prone (perhaps about the same as the non-prone population) will be diagnosed at some point with a genital injury. Males need to give up prone as soon as they learn that it is a cause of sexual dysfunctions and not wait until they have a frank physical injury.
I've tried giving up prone masturbation before but wound up doing it in my sleep. What happens if I can't ejaculate from hand and I backslide in my sleep? (age 22)
A: I suggest wearing heavier clothing to bed. You're less likely to sleep masturbate if you're wearing warm-up pants and underwear as opposed to sleeping nude or only wearing thin underwear.
I've been prone masturbating from the age of 6 and like many only realized in my early teens that I was different. At 18 I lost my virginity but couldn't maintain and erection and couldn't ejaculate, a problem that has persisted and affected my confidence. I physically cannot have sex with women. I have tried and failed in giving up before and am now finding HealthyStrokes.com. I'm distraught that I've irreversibly damaged my penis/fertility because I started so young. Is it too late for me to have a normal sex life? (age 22)
A: Yes, you can. Many men have changed when they were a lot older than you and had been masturbating prone longer. It's never too late to change. Get on with the program now.
After abstaining from masturbation for a week, I attempted to ejaculate normally for the first time. I was getting into it and thought I was going to ejaculate when a more liquid substance came out. I think I just ended up urinating somehow but I'm not sure as the room was dark but it definitely wasn't thick like normal semen. I tried to start again but felt soft and more sensitive. Is any of this normal and what do I do next? (age 24)
A: It was probably pre-cum (bulbourethral fluid). Don't let it bother you. Be sure to urinate before masturbating so the feeling won't bother you in the middle. Try again tomorrow.
I've been masturbating prone daily since I was 13 and now I'm addicted to it. Can I be cured? (age 19)
A: Yes. You are younger and have been masturbating prone less than many of the males who have successfully switched. You are not addicted. You simply, like most males, find daily masturbation to be a pleasant habit.
I am 15 and have been masturbating prone since childhood. I read about the harmful effects of prone a week ago and I tried to do it the normal way but I couldn't ejaculate, so today I masturbated prone. Can I be cured also?
A: Yes, but you have to decide not to do prone anymore, especially if you don't succeed your first time masturbating by hand. Try again in two days. Do not go back to prone if you can't reach orgasm by hand. You might have to wait a full seven days before being successful by hand.
I have been masturbating prone for over ten years. When I masturbate, my penis is flaccid and I rub my foreskin against my hand, so I am not used to ejaculating with an erection. I have tried a few times to masturbate the normal way after a week, but I always get frustrated that I can't ejaculate and start doing prone again. I've now tried again and I came really close to ejaculating but it feels more intense and my penis aches when I get close. I think I have a fear of ejaculating the normal way. I am going to go another 24 hours and try again. What should I do when I get close? (age 23)
A: When you think you might reach orgasm by hand, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you have an orgasm. It's time to put prone behind you. As you get accustomed to masturbating by hand, you will use less force and a slower stroke.
I have been masturbating prone for over 10 years. I knew that it was different, but that is just the way that I learned. I mentioned it to my parents once and they said it was OK as long as I wasn't hurting myself.
I can masturbate with my hand too, it just takes 2-3 times longer. I do it occasionally to change things up because I think it gives me a more powerful orgasm. Having sex a few months ago (one of my first times) I noticed that I didn't have much sensation during vaginal or oral sex. I wasn't able to orgasm except for once during oral, but I usually had to think about a type of porn or something to do that. The past 5 days I have been masturbating with my hand only and with lube. If I never masturbate prone again, will it be as if I had never masturbated like that before? Will I regain sensitivity in my penis? I am worried that I have permanently damaged or altered my sexual experiences from now on. I know my problems are not as severe as some, but they are still worrying me.
If you can cure yourself from "death grip" or prone masturbation and not have any damage, then why do you urge people to quit ASAP? Is it just so they don't waste anymore time having a bad sex life? Or have I actually been doing damage to myself? (age 23)
A: You're the first male I've ever known who discussed prone masturbation with his parents. You can't erase 10 years of the legacy of prone simply by giving up prone, but it's a good start. You will notice a difference in your erections and sensitivity within 3-4 months. I urge people to switch ASAP because there is no good and only harm to come from masturbating prone. The sooner you switch, the sooner you can realize the benefits of giving up prone. The damage is not physical but is to the processes that let you reach orgasm.
I have been masturbating both prone and supine since I was 11. I do prone a lot more often. If I refrain from prone, will I be able to get erections easier when I'm with my partner? (age 18)
Prone is a dangerous habit. If you're having trouble getting erections with a partner at your age, your prone masturbation is almost certainly the cause. Since you already know how to masturbate supine, simply decide to give up prone masturbation forever.
I've been training myself to not masturbate prone, and I was wondering if I can keep it up, will my penis be able to fully straighten out, because my erect penis hangs downward from masturbating prone.
A: Once you give up prone, you're apt to notice an improvement in your erections in 3-4 months. You don't know for sure that the condition of your penis has anything to do with prone. Deal with one thing at a time.
I masturbated prone for about 3 years and I got pretty carried away with it for the last month before I quit 18 months ago. I've noticed I've lost pubic hair (the skin looks smooth as well) in the area where my penis/scrotum used to get the most friction from prone. I guess this makes sense, kinda like when you lose hair on your ankles from wearing socks for so many years. I assume it's not going to grow back though. Is this a normal consequence of masturbating prone? (age 17)
A: Yes, many have noticed that. Not only that, but hair is less likely to ever grow on the chest, abdomen, and even the tops of the legs. Many guys have noticed only stubbly hair on the tops of the legs, even when they have hair growing everywhere else on their legs. (I have not yet been able to get anyone to send me a photo documenting this stubbly leg hair growth.)
Many males have noticed that after they give up prone, hair suddenly comes in on their chests and abdomens where it wasn't before, and their leg hair becomes normal all over. All that vigorous thrusting does abraid hair and inhibit its growth.
I removed any mention of this from HealthyStrokes.com many years ago, because it was leading people to think the whole prone masturbation thing was a joke.
Follow-up: I used to shave my pubic hair but have stopped. Do you know if the pubic hair lost from prone (they call hair loss from repeated stress traction alopecia) will come back? I've noticed my skin has been less sensitive as well. I've been moisturizing the skin to see if it helps. Should I go to a dermatologist?
A: If you quit prone 18 months ago, whatever hair growth was inhibited should be back to normal. It might be that what you have now is what you have.
I quit prone masturbation after visiting your site 3 months ago. I'm a virgin. Three days ago I went to a massage center and I tried the happy ending session. I felt nervous during the session and didn't get an erection even when she was giving me manual intercourse. I don't have any problems having erections when I masturbate. I masturbate 4 times a week on average. (age 20)
A: I advise against the use of prostitutes. They don't help anyone get over sexual dysfynctions. They are a source of disease and dysfunctions. If you have never had intercourse and only gave up prone three months ago, it is not surprising that you had trouble getting an erection with a hooker. Find a woman you really want to have sex with. She will be willing to take the time to see that you get properly aroused before sexual relations.
I have always masturbated prone. I'm not able to ejaculate any other way. I'm not getting spontaneous erections. I didn't know there were more guys in this situation and it is a relief to find out I'm not the only one. Do you think I'm still on time to learn to masturbate the normal way? Does prone masturbating make it hard to reach orgasm in intercourse? (age 24)
A: I suspect you've never had intercourse. Now is an excellent time to give up prone and learn to masturbate conventionally. Get yourself used to regular hand masturbation before you need to try to reach orgasm with a partner.
I'm trying to masturbate the conventional way and it's really hard not to do prone! Could prone affect the way I look at women, because I feel like I'm really sexually attracted to girls. If I switch, could it help me mentally? (age 14)
A: I'm not understanding your question. Once you switch, you will have the same fantasies you do now. You will be aroused by the same people you are now. Why not give up prone while you're still young, and by the time you're ready to mount a partner, you will have completely put your time doing prone behind you.
I am on day 9 of abstinence. I tried yesterday (day 8) and today and had no orgasm, though I felt I was close. I am going to try again tomorrow. During the no masturbating period you say that it's important to not masturbate so that the penis becomes more sensitive. Is my attempting to masturbate yesterday and today going to negatively impact my future attempt tomorrow because my penis will now be less sensitive, even though I only masturbated in the correct position those two days? (age 19)
I suggest waiting two days if you don't reach orgasm while masturbating by hand. When you think you're close, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you reach orgasm. Once you're accustomed to masturbating that way, work at using less force and a slower stroke.
I quit prone masturbation many months ago yet I can't get or maintain an erection while lying on my stomach or going on all fours, unless I go all the way down so my penis is touching the bed. Is this normal for men with a history of prone? How can I fix it? I used to be able to keep an erection while on all fours before. (age 23)
A: I don't know why you need to have an erection like that. Lying on your stomach with an erection would tempt a lot of males who used to do prone to go back to it. You don't say how many months, but it usually takes at least 3-4 before a male notices an improvement in his erections.
I stumbled upon HealthyStrokes.com today after masturbating prone. I am a near virgin, have been proning since I was 11. I remember my first time at prone. I was just rolling around on my bed, and it felt good, and I ejaculated. It freaked me out. At that age, I proned because it felt good and it didn't seem like masturbation since I wasn't using my hands. I continue to prone because I honestly think it feels a lot better. And it lasts a lot longer. I think that most who masturbate by hand can't last as long as I do.
Are certain traits likely to lead a boy to prone? I was a very shy kid, sometimes bullied, and extremely skinny. When I turned 20, I suddenly became better looking. I am frequently complimented on my appearance, but I still am a romantic underachiever. I have a lack of confidence and lack of success.
Do you think that nebbish or late blooming males are more likely to start proning?
I think that proners know it is unusual, so we don't dare speak of it.
I have suffered erectile dysfunction. When I have a sexual encounter, it is rarely with a woman I actually desire. It is usually because she thinks I am handsome and she picked me up, so I am rarely really that into it. This is a chronic problem, and I never thought that my proning would be a cause of it. (age 33)
A: Males who masturbate prone don't share the same set of traits. They come from all walks of life. Some are shy and "nebbishy"; some are outgoing and sexually active precociously. The average age at first intercourse for a male who masturbates prone is nearly the same as for a male who doesn't.
In fact, males who start masturbating early are at higher risk for doing it prone. Your own story bears this out. Stroking a prepubescent penis is not likely to yield much, but that same boy might get a result if used the greater force of masturbating prone on his penis.
I suggest giving up prone and learning to masturbate by hand. Once you've accomplished that, find some women that you're generally interested in and have sex with them. You'll like sex a lot better under those circumstances.
Finally, stop thinking of yourself as a victim of prone. Prone is only a dysfunction, not a lifestyle. It's like throwing a baseball underhand. You can change. Many men were older than you when they changed.
If I don't enjoy using my hand as much as prone, can I still do prone? Should I be ashamed that I jack off? (age 14)
A: Prone is bad for you. Prone is dangerous. That's why you want to give up prone and use your hand to masturbate like a normal guy. You should not be ashamed, but many guys your age are. As you get older, it will be easier for you to accept masturbation as normal, healthy, and fun, and even necessary for male sexual health. You will like your hand much better than prone.
I have been masturbating prone since my teens. I know I have ED. I cannot get a good erection unless I am thrusting against my bed. I thought it was because of poor circulation but all my functions and blood work are normal. If I stop masturbating prone, can I regain my erection? (age 48)
A: Yes. You are apt to notice an improvement in your erections 3-4 months after giving up prone.
I just stopped prone for a week and I went to masturbate by hand and it took me about 20 minutes and then I gave up because nothing happened. Is that normal? What should I do? (age 14)
A: Yes, that is typical. Your first time masturbating by hand after quitting prone might easily take 45 minutes to an hour, and you might not succeed even then. Do not go back to prone. Take two days off and try again. When you think you're getting close, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you orgasm. After you're more experienced masturbating by hand, work at stroking less hard and fast.
I've been masturbating prone since I was 9-10 years old. Now I just came across HealthyStrokes.com and I notice that the skin around my penis hasn't retracted at all. The glans is still very sensitive, although I'm aware it shouldn't be at my age. Would masturbating in the conventional way help me with that too? (age 22)
A: A sensitive glans is a good thing. Masturbating prone will tend to desensitize the penis. If you give up prone (which you know I think you should), it will tend to make your glans even more sensitive. You might be describing a condition called phimosis, which a doctor could diagnose. Whether or not you have phimosis, you should give up prone and switch to conventional hand masturbation.
After the week of abstinence, I masturbated conventionally for 30 minutes with no success, so I tried again later that night, but when I did, my penis was aching. Is that a good sign? (age 14)
A: No. Aching means you're using too much force. When you didn't succeed, you should have waited two days before trying again. Keep at it.
I prone masturbated for 3 years and was able to switch to normal masturbation by hand within two weeks. When I masturbate by hand now, I find that I finish within 1-2 minutes if I think of something extremely arousing. It has been like this for two years and I haven't been able to last longer while maturbating. Is this a problem? (age 18)
A: If you think it is. Most males like to last longer than 1-2 minutes. But it's better than going for 20 minutes and not getting close. Work at lasting longer. Go for 2 1/2 minutes, then 3 minutes, and so on.
You don't mention anything about your time in intercourse. I'm guessing you're sexually inexperienced. Why not work at ending that. Maybe you'll find that your time in intercourse is just right.
I've been masturbating prone as long as I can remember. I've never been able to reach climax any other way and I've always wondered why. About 3 weeks ago I found HealthyStrokes.com and it freaked me out so I have completely stopped as suggested. After a week, I tried to masturbate conventionally to no avail. Then I waited a second week and tried again with the same non-result. It has now been three weeks and I'm not sure what to do at this point. I'm starting to really need sexual release but I don't want to give up and do prone. But you say that not ejaculating at all is also not good for the body. Any thoughts? (age 22)
A: I hope by this time you've been able to masturbate to orgasm conventionally. If not, when next you try, when you feel like you might be getting close, stroke as hard and fast as you can until you reach orgasm. Do not give up and go back to prone.
Can I just start masturbating the conventional way without having to stop seven days? If I can? (age 18)
A: If you can, fine. But you're unlikely to succeed that way. The seven day program was designed because nearly all males will be able to reach orgasm a new way after a week without one.
Iím not currently sexually active, nor do I expect to be for another few years. Why donít I just wait until that time gets closer to make the switch over to supine? (age 25)
A: Both masturbating prone and remaining a virgin are bad ideas at your age. Masturbating prone is destructive to sexual health. It causes sexual dysfunctions in most males who practice it. You want to get as far away from prone as soon as you can. Give it up now and you can be masturbating supine at this time next week. Males who remain virgins past the age of 21 also have more sexual dysfunctions than average. You shouldn't waste the best sexual years of your life being a virgin. You should want to have sex and go out and find it.
I understand that prone causes the inability to orgasm from other forms of stimulation. Why is that so? For males who masturbate prone, are they not able to feel enough physical sensation to be able to orgasm? Like the penis feels desensitized? Or can they feel the sensations they've always felt but simply cannot reach orgasm? (age 25)
A: Masturbating prone habituates males to a tremendous amount of force. When you're used to the amount of force that comes from thrusting with both legs, it is difficult for the gentle force of stroking with one hand to bring you to orgasm. It is kind of like the difference between typing on an old manual typewriter and typing on a computer keyboard. Or playing an old piano and playing a modern electronic keyboard. The penis isn't as much desensitized as it is accustomed to that tremendous amount of force to produce orgasm.
Follow-up: Can you elaborate more on this? What causes the difficulty of achieving orgasm? Is it because the guy cannot physically feel pleasurable sensations on the underside of his penis like he used to? Or is it more of a mental thing? I'm asking because I used to masturbate prone and I noticed that the base of my penis has become much less receptive to nearly all types of physical touch, except pain. Will switching to normal masturbation restore the pleasure I used to feel at the base?
A: No, the penis is probably fine. He is simply used to a lot of force. The hand doesn't produce as much force as thrusting with both legs. That is why I advise males to give up all sexual stimulation for a week (sometimes longer) and that period of abstinence makes it easier for him to learn to masturbate to orgasm by hand. Usually males who've just switched from prone use a tremendous amount of force when they're learning to masturbate by hand. Over time, they learn to use less force. A toy called the Super Head Honcho can also help with this.
I have been trying to quit prone masturbation for a week and I can masturbate conventionally now, but both times I've done it feels like I am urinating, and it feels different from the orgasms I get when masturbating prone. I have tried urinating right before masturbation and I still have that feeling. (age 18)
A: The feeling is a pleasant one, but it still takes time to get used to the new feeling. Congratulations on switching so fast. In a few days, you will better anticipate the feeling and know that it isn't urine. I often suggest to women who have the same problem to put a towel underneath themselves so they won't have to worry if some urine accidentally leaks. That might help you too. A month from now, you will reread this a laugh that you were worried about this.
I masturbated prone from 12-16. I am now 20 and still a virgin. I have a high libido and I get erect when I get intimate with girls, but I can't get it up to have intercourse. Could prone masturbation have caused permanent damage? Is there anything I can do about it?
A: If you gave up prone four years ago, I doubt it's still having an impact on your erections. Make sure that you only masturbate when you have an erection that's sufficient for intercourse.
Most likely, you're having anxiety that's inhibiting your erection at the moment you need one. Take time to relax and enjoy what you're doing, and don't worry about having an erection. If you get one, then have intercourse, and if you don't, enjoy things you can do without having intercourse. If the problem persists, seek professional help.
I am 28 and have been doing prone masturbation since 9 or 10 years old, some days more than once. I never knew it would be a problem until I read HealthyStrokes.com. I have never had intercourse. I am going to be married in 8 weeks, and I am apprehensive regarding whether I will be able to have intercourse. Do you think I will be able to have normal intercourse in 8 months when I get married, if I stop prone masturbation?
A: In one place you said 8 weeks and another 8 months. Either way, you need to resolve to never masturbate prone again. Take a week or so off from any kind of sexual stimulation and then learn to masturbate to orgasm by hand. Keep it up until the big day and you will be AOK.
I am a virgin. I've been masturbating prone for 10-12 years until I could not ejaculate from oral sex. I stopped masturbating completely for 25 days (not easy at all) and then in June, I successfully masturbated by hand for the first time in my life. I've now been masturbating exclusively by hand for three months and last week I still couldn't ejaculate when I was being given oral sex. I didn't even feel close. Is my body still adjusting or do I need to do something else? (age 25)
A: First, not everyone would agree that you're a virgin if you've been having oral sex. Second, it's easier for men post-prone to reach orgasm in vaginal intercourse, since that delivers more force than oral. I would suggest trying vaginal intercourse and seeing if it is to your liking. You might also masturbate some of the time with a toy called the Super Head Honcho. It costs about $15 and trains a man to use less force while masturbating by hand. Some say it simulates the feeling of fellatio.
I am 28 and I've been doing prone since I was 8. I have no problem in having sex or getting hard but reaching orgasm is the hardest part and sometimes I'm not able to cum until I am back to prone. Do you think the solution you offered works even with all this history in prone? Many thanks for your help!
A: You ARE having problems in having sex. Reaching orgasm should be fun, not "the hardest part." Please take a break from all sex and masturbating for a week or so and learn to masturbate by hand. Many men have changed after 20 or more years.
I used to masturbate by lying on my stomach and putting force on my penis, and I would ejaculate while soft. I did this for 4 years. I have since switched to normal masturbation for the last 2 years and when I do it now, I can finish within 1-2 minutes. Is this a problem? Did I do damage from my previous masturbation method? I'm also a virgin. (age 18)
A: If you've only masturbated conventionally for the past two years, you ought to be fine. Also keep in mind that 18 is the most common age for a male to lose his virginity. Maybe it's time to make that change too.
I have been masturbating prone since I was 12. I came to this site after encountering issues penetrating my girlfriend. That was the first time I came close to having sex with a woman. I went through your suggestions of quitting prone and not masturbating for 7 days before trying supine. However, two days after abstaining from masturbation, I tried to masturbate by hand and came in about 10-15 minutes. For the first 2-3 minutes I wasn't getting too erect and only got erect and came after I stroked myself fast and started fantasizing about a particular fantasy of mine. How good or bad is my situation? (age 26)
A: It's good that you were able to masturbate to orgasm by hand after only two days, but I recommend longer to increase chances of success. 15 minutes is very fast for a first time. Fantasize about whatever helps you orgasm.
I started masturbating in January 2017. For 2-3 months of masturbating, I masturbated prone twice a week. Will I be affected by this in any way? Since I am bad at remembering people's faces, I have only masturbated to online porn. Will this affect me? (age 12)
A: I think you will be fine if you only masturbated prone about 25 times and don't anymore. If you can't remember people's faces, try to remember their bodies so you don't need to use online porn every time at your age.
I've been masturbating since when I was 14-15 using prone technique. Now my penis is discolored, I have weak erections, and the tip of my penis is soft. If I quit masturbation forever, will my penis heal properly? (age 18)
A: Did you read my page about prone and the next page about how to overcome prone? I don't think you did. Prone masturbation does not discolor your penis. Don't worry about that. You don't need to quit masturbating. Simply decide to give up prone; take a week off; and then learn to masturbate by hand.
I've given prone up for about 8 days. I tried masturbating conventionally today but still couldn't reach orgasm. I started grinding on my bed for about two minutes and ejaculated. I immediately stopped and tried to make the rest come through the conventional method. Do I reset and go for 8 more days or can I have sex with my girlfriend? I've only been with her for 3 weeks and we've had no sex but I explained to her that I was to withdraw from sexual acts for two weeks and she understood. But I want her so badly! (age 21)
A: You should not have reverted to prone when the conventional method of masturbating didn't work. But I understand about the new girlfriend and I say to try sex with her and see how it goes. Then take a few days (perhaps eight) and learn to masturbate to orgasm by hand. I usually suggest to take a month of masturbating by hand before trying sex. But I don't expect you to wait six weeks before having first sex with your new girlfriend.
I have masturbated in the prone position since the age of 10. In the prone position, I apply pressure to my penis using a balled-up rag, or any similar implement. In this way I can become erect and orgasm.
Recently I was given manual intercourse ("hand job") by a partner but after 10 minutes I was no closer to orgasm. I will follow the advice on stopping prone masturbation and switching to the hand method, but have I done any permanent damage to my penis? (age 31)
A: You have not done permanent damage. Resolve to give up prone forever and then take a week off from all masturbation and sexual stimulation and then learn to masturbate by hand. You are also much too old to still be a virgin. Make a plan to become sexually active, perhaps with the partner who gave you the hand job. You will be glad you did.
Iíve been masturbating prone since I was 12 years old. I am a virgin and have not had any sexual encounters whatsoever. A unique aspect to my prone masturbation experiences is my ability to ejaculate with a fully flaccid penis. During some sessions (especially after round 2) I occasionally experience a sharp pain above and to the left of the base of my penis.
I discovered your site about a year ago and have trained myself to masturbate the conventional way. Iíve occasionally resorted to prone including a few times in the past few weeks. In the last few days, the realization hit me that I havenít had a 100% erection in a while. At best, Iím at semi-soft 80% of the time. Iím now concerned that Iíve caused permentant damage.
Do you believe that through abstaining from prone masturbation, that in time I can once again attain 100% or do you believe that medical intervention is necessary? (age 25)
A: Whether you do it prone or typically, never masturbate with an erection that wouldn't be suitable for intercourse. Congratulations on learning to masturbate conventionally; but to make progress, you need to resolve to give up prone forever. No cheating at all!
The sharp pain is a bad sign and might mean you need to be examined and tested by a doctor. The doctor might also give you a prescription for an erection pill (Viagra, Levitra, Cialis). You might not need a whole 50 mg Viagra pill. Cutting them into tiny pieces and taking only 5-10 mg might give you more powerful erections while you work to overcome prone.
I also think you're too old to still be a virgin. Make a plan to become sexually active soon. Never masturbate prone again.
Iíve been doing prone masturbation since I was roughly 5-6 years old and have always done it that way. Iím a senior in high school and I masturbate prone at least 1-2 times a day. Is too late for me to be ďcuredĒ? Iím really nervous because I haven't had any intercourse or oral sex yet. (age 17)
A: You can probably be cured easily. I hear every week from men twice your age overcoming prone and learning to masturbate by hand. Now is the time to give up prone, and you don't have to worry about having to explain to a partner why you can't be sexual with them for the next few weeks. You can be done with prone right now and be masturbating conventionally before the World Series is over. By your high school graduation; no, by Christmas, you might have even forgotten what prone was like.
Follow-up: I just got done with the abstinence period and masturbated to orgasm by hand but only had ďtinyĒ orgasms. Iím not sure if thatís normal or not for most people? How long should I wait to masturbate again?
A: Congratulations on giving up prone and learning to masturbate by hand. After masturbating prone for over 10 years, it is not unusual that your first orgasms by hand were not as intense as you had been getting prone. Take a day off before masturbating by hand again. Your orgasms will soon be up to what you were used to prone. And the World Series does not end until tomorrow!
Follow-up: Is it better to masturbate conventionally lying down on a bed, sitting, or in the bathroom? Is it harder for people who arenít circumcised to switch?
A: Lying in bed is best. As you get accustomed to masturbating conventionally, you will find you can do it more places. That is one of the ways you'll know you're over prone, when you can masturbate at the computer, in the shower, etc. I don't think overcoming prone is any different for males who are or aren't circumcised.
I have been prone masturbating since I was nine years old. It has been eight days since I stopped. I can get an erection, but I have not been able to ejaculate supine. Will this eventually happen? Should I go to a urologist? Does time make it easier to ejaculate? This has been really hard since I used to masturbate at least once a day up until a week ago. I really want to go back to prone since it felt so good, but if I do not break it now I never will.
A: Eight days is not so long. You ought to be able to ejaculate any day now. Concentrate on what arouses you. When you think you're close to ejaculating, stroke as fast and hard as you can until you do. Once you're familiar with masturbating to orgasm supine, work at using less force and a slower stroke. Do not go back to prone.
While sleeping, I accidentally make thrusts and ejaculate. What should I do for that? I am having back pain after masturbating when I try the conventional method.
A: Wearing heavier clothing to bed will keep you from masturbating in your sleep. Masturbating conventionally is obviously less stressful on your back than masturbating prone, so I have no idea why masturbating conventionally would cause you back pain. I think the back pain has a different cause.
I have been masturbating for a long time in the prone position at least once or twice a day and I am able to cum doing this. I am able to masturbate just thinking about sexual actions and no porn or images are required although they help. I want to stop doing it like this and I am able to get my penis to be very hard and wet by using my hand; however, I am never able to cum doing this method even after not masturbating at all for a week. What should I do? (age 18)
A: You are young, but your frequency is extreme. That might be why you are having trouble even after abstaining for a week. Try again. Resolve not to go back to prone. Decide that you WILL be able to masturbate to orgasm by hand after 9-10 days of abstinence.
When I masturbate supine, my penis eventually starts to ache slightly around the base and head. Is that maybe just because my body is so used to prone masturbation? Or am I perhaps masturbating incorrectly? (age 23)
A: I suspect you are using too much force. A sleeve called the Super Head Honcho might help you use less force.
The theory about prone is utter nonsense. Been doing it that way since I was eight years old and discovered it by mistake while playing a James Bond game. Had over 100 sexual partners after spending my youth working overseas in sport diving where picking women up was easy. Married 13 years now, normal in all positions although I prefer missionary only. Problems relating to ur article arise only after too many beers. I still pound the pillow occasionally. (age 52)
A: Thank you at least for agreeing that learning to masturbate prone was a mistake.
I'm used to masturbating prone but have masturbated supine in the past, on various occasions, and have reached orgasm from this method. How long do I have to abstain for? (age 16)
A: You don't need to abstain at all. Simply decide to give up prone forever. The purpose of abstaining is to make it easier for you to masturbate to orgasm by hand for the first time. You're already there.
I would like to thank you for spreading the message about the danger of prone masturbation and giving advice for overcoming it. I had been masturbating prone since I was 13 and didn't know that it could do damage to me, so thank you for spreading awareness. (age 15)
I masturbated prone for about 2 months before realizing it wasnít good for me, so I decided to give up masturbation of all kinds for over 2 months to regain my sensitivity. I only discovered HealthyStrokes.com today and Iím worried that because I didnít follow your process for overcoming prone that Iím screwed. About a week ago I masturbated normally for the first time since I quit prone 2 months ago. Iíve been able to masturbate 5 days in a row with no problem. Am I cured? (age 18)
A: You will be fine. Resolve to never do prone again and then masturbate often the regular way. You can call yourself cured in about a month after no more prone and frequent regular masturbation.
I'm 21 and I masturbate prone. But today after reading HealthyStrokes.com, I came to know the adverse effects of it. I've never had sex with a girl so I don't know if I have any problems in intercourse. If I stop masturbating prone now, will I be able to have sex in the future normally?
A: I urge you to give up prone now and then work at getting in a sexual relationship. After a few months of masturbating by hand, you ought to do as well at intercourse as a man with no history of prone. But you're also too old to still be a virgin. Work on both those things.
I used to masturbate prone. After waiting for a week, I was able to reach orgasm using the conventional method, but I feel turned off at the idea of doing it again because of how disgusted I felt afterward. Seeing the mess I made made me feel sick to my stomach. I don't want to go back to prone. What should I do?
A: Masturbation is normal, healthy, and fun, and even necessary for male sexual health. You've been ejaculating for years (I guess, although you didn't state your age) and have been spraying semen somewhere all that time. As you get more accustomed to conventional masturbation, you will learn how to control where your ejaculate goes. If it really bothers you, wear a condom. Do not go back to prone.
I have been masturbating prone since I was 12. Over the years I have realized I have built up extra skin on my penis. Do I need to go to the doctor about this? Will this affect my transition to the conventional way? (age 18)
A: Don't worry about that. No one gets extra skin as a result of prone masturbation. Work at giving up prone and learning the conventional method. If you still think you need a doctor four months after you've stopped prone, then go see one.
I'm uncircumcised and my head is too sensitive to touch. How can I get away from prone masturbation? (age 14)
A: Your body ought to produce its own lubricant that will help you masturbate. If that really isn't enough, try water-based lube.
I have been prone masturbating for years. My older sister introduced it to me saying it felt good to her and I should try it too. We didn't know what masturbation was. Now I am doomed. My penis gets erect and the head and shaft get really hard but the base is weak so my erections face the ground. What should I do? (age 18)
A: I've never heard of a male who learned masturbation from his sister. I urge you to give up prone masturbation and learn to masturbate by hand. Your penis is apt to get stronger. You are not doomed.
Will it be hard to achieve orgasm the first few times I masturbate using the normal technique? (age 17)
A: It will take longer and more effort than you've been using to masturbate prone. You will catch up pretty quickly.
I have been watching porn and masturbating from a very early age. I have always masturbated using a combination of prone and hand. My sexual fantasies have always been very innocent and normal but I would say in my mid to late teens I started turning to more deviant forms of porn. Somewhere along the way it got pretty bad but I've been forcibly toning it down recently because I know it is psychologically damaging to me. It was like an escalating addiction. The thing is that now it is very difficult for me to masturbate normally by hand and look at normal porn as I tend to relapse to these more psychologically stimulating but deviant forms of porn. When I masturbate prone, I am able to look at very normal porn and fantasize more healthily because it is very physically stimulating. So it is like I am stuck in this paradox of psychological vs physical damage to my sexual health. How can I break out of this? (age 22)
A: Giving up prone is critical. You can't make sexual progress until you do. Resolve to never do prone again. Once you're happily masturbating only by hand, you can work at cutting out the more extreme porn. You can do both.
I masturbate daily 3 to 4 times face down. I habituated to prone masturbation since my childhood. I am a virgin. How can I lose this type of masturbation. I have masturbated prone more than 10 years. (age 22)
A: You have three problems: 1) you masturbate prone; 2) you have an extreme masturbation frequency; 3) you are too old to be a virgin. Resolve to give up prone masturbation immediately. Within a week, you will be able to masturbate by hand. After you habituate to hand masturbation, do it no more than once a day (occasionally twice is OK). Then make a plan for becoming sexually active.
I was having an issue with prone masturbation. There was a time where I couldn't even do prone successfully for 2-3 weeks. Now I'm back to prone. I have never masturbated conventionally. I found out from HealthyStrokes.com why you shouldn't do prone. Do you think I can ever masturbate conventionally? (age 19)
A: Resolve to give up prone forever. You will be happily masturbating conventionally this time next week. I'm wondering about that 2-3 week period you couldn't masturbate prone. Have you recently started taking antidepressants? You might next to tell your doctor about that.
I've been prone masturbating for a few years now but I don't really thrust my penis into anything but more just rub it on my bed. Is this still bad? (age 16)
A: Yes, very bad. Don't try to lawyer the term. Prone masturbation is sexually disabling no matter what you call it. Make a point of giving it up now. You will be masturbating by hand next week.
I don't even know the method of masturbating non-prone. I've only done it prone, and I don't even know how to hold my hand. (age 13)
A: A lot of boys your age have never masturbated at all. They're learning, and so can you. Go a few days without masturbating and then you should be able to reach orgasm simply by stroking up and down with one hand.
I have been masturbating prone since around 2 years old. I donít use my hand to masturbate. Rather, I dry hump things. I know most males who masturbate prone lie face down and thrust against the floor or a mattress or pillow. I thrust against harder surfaces such as the backrest of a chair or a lounge arm. Thereís much more pressure put onto the penis than what is done by hand.
In past sexual relationships I have not been able to ejaculate through penetration, hand jobs or even blow jobs. I havenít ejaculated at all via my hand.
Iíve tried giving up prone masturbation in the past but after about a day Iíve always given into the temptation. Does your method work also for circumcised males such as myself? (age 21)
A: The method works fine for males of any circumcision status. You need to stick with the program. Plan to not do any masturbating or interaction with a partner for a full week. Then you will be able to do it by hand. Plan to never use your especially punishing method again.
I gave up prone a month ago and now only masturbate by hand. I've heard that masturbating by hand is the best way but people say it's nothing like the real thing. I masturbate around once a day and am worried that if I have sex with someone for the first time, then it wouldn't be the same and that I wouldn't be able to ejaculate. Do you have any insight on this? (age 17)
A: Masturbating by hand more closely mimics the feeling of vaginal intercourse than prone does. As you know, you were masturbating with a tremendous amount of force those years you did it prone. The gentle feeling of your own hand is closer to the force of the vagina. Keep masturbating by hand and in a few months, you will be ready to try intercourse.
My abstinence period is over so I tried masturbating conventionally today but was unable to ejaculate. I used lube because it was recommended by people in the support group but maybe that was a mistake. I never used lube when I masturbated prone and was always able to ejaculate. I've resolved to give up prone forever so I'm not going back. (age 21)
A: Only change one thing at a time. Masturbate dry for now because you're not used to lube. Once you're used to masturbating by hand, then try adding lube.
Follow-up: I took your advice to masturbate dry and was able to masturbate conventionally. I think it was the wetness of the lube that was tripping me up. So thanks for that. It took a little longer than the 15 minutes, but I'm just relieved it finally happened. Should I abstain for a couple of days before trying again?
If it doesn't work the next day, wait one more day.
I've been proning for about a year now, maybe every other day. If I stop now, will I be OK? (age 14)
Yes, fine. Decide to stop proning.
Wow. What an eye opener. I have always lain on my left side and grinded a pillow. I honestly have never masturbated any other way. I've tried by hand but it felt weird. It also seemed like I needed to immerse myself in a fantasy for it to work. I'd usually have a magazine or picture. Later, it became my iPhone.
I'm definitely going to change this. I've had very few relationships and am a virgin. I'm afraid at this point I'll never be able to have sex. Glad I found your site. (age 44)
A: That is not technically prone but it's close enough to be just as bad. I advise you to take a week or so off and learn to masturbate by hand. You'll like it a lot better than what you do now, and then you'll be ready for sex.
I can masturbate prone fine, but I don't feel the same pleasure masturbating conventionally, and I can't yet orgasm. I have only been masturbating prone for 2 years. I have stopped masturbating prone, and I have waited a week. Also, can I masturbate standing in the shower? (age 14)
A: You are terribly impatient. Your problem is that you don't enjoy masturbating conventionally. Nearly every other male you've ever met over the age of 12 does. Think about that. You give up prone and then abstain from all sexual stimulation for a week (or so) and then you can masturbate to orgasm by hand for the first time. Then you keep practicing it and will enjoy it more and more. After you have perfected masturbating by hand in bed, you can try it in the shower and at the computer desk, and everywhere else. Keep in mind that running water will affect how masturbating feels. Plenty of males don't like masturbating in the shower, and those who do generally keep their back to the water.
I am turning 42 and have been doing prone since I was 16. I have kids but sex has never been very enjoyable. I need help ASAP. I have tried but have failed. I was able to quit smoking after 20 years but I am still struggling with prone.
A: Follow the instructions on the page for overcoming prone masturbation You can do it. Men older than you have done it.
Is there a medicine to take so that you have orgasms when you masturbate by hand, because every time I try with the hand, I can go for hours without an orgasm. When having sex with my girlfriend, I have to force myself to ejaculate. Do I have to go see a doctor specialized in this field? (age 28)
Some men report taking two Sudafed tablets an hour or so before masturbation or intercourse helps them reach orgasm more quickly. If you're having ongoing problems, it might help to see a urologist.
Is occasional prone masturbation also harmful? I masturbate once or twice a week conventionally. Can I masturbate prone once a month or every two months? (age 25)
A: Any prone masturbation is bad for you. Ask any of the men who have given up prone masturbating but thought they could cheat occasionally and be OK. No more prone!
If I just gave up prone masturbation, and I'm in the abstain from any masturbation stage, is it bad if I masturbate with my hand at all during that time, even if I didn't reach orgasm? Do I have to reset the whole abstain timeline again? (age 22)
A: If you masturbate prone, you have to reset the abstention clock. It is not as bad to masturbate by hand short of orgasm, but that is not the point of abstaining. Don't masturbate by hand until you're ready to bring yourself to orgasm. Wait at least two more days if you don't.
I have been prone masturbating since I was in primary school and only realized at age 27 that what I was doing was the prone method. I have started to quit prone. Is there a chance for me to recover and learn the correct way of masturbation? (age 28)
A: Absolutely you can recover. Go for it.
I am unsure by what is meant by "I have started to quit prone." Either you have quit prone or you haven't. You won't make any progress until you do.
I am suffering from prone masturbation and when I was kid I had a circumcision operation. Please tell me how I can recover from this addiction. This has always caused me low self esteem and I can't do any work properly. Is there a chance for me to recover? I am willing to go through any regimen and improve my sex life. I want to be fit when I hit puberty before getting addicted to masturbation. I am a virgin. (age 19)
A: I'm not sure what you're talking about. Your puberty was over about five years ago. Prone masturbation is not an addiction; it is a dysfunctional method of masturbating. All you have to do is quit masturbating prone and in a week or so you can learn to masturbate by hand. Then you will masturbate by hand very frequently, but it will still not be an addiction. It is just something that men do. There is no reason to have low self esteem because of doing something normal that all men do. It will not keep you from working properly.
Thank you very, very much for hosting this content. It has changed my life. I am 34 years old and have been masturbating prone since I was 11 or 12 years old. This has led to numerous problems when having sex with partners. I have never been able to ejaculate except in the prone position.
After ceasing masturbation for four weeks, I was able to ejaculate using the supine position for the first time in my life. And I did it again this morning. These were the best orgasms I have ever felt. I am so excited but the problem is that, both times, it took me a little over an hour to ejaculate. How can I speed things up?
Again, thank you so much for all of your help!
A: You are new to supine masturbation. You should expect your first few times to take an extended time. 45 minutes to an hour (or more) is not at all unusual. As you get more familiar with conventional masturbation, it will take less and less time. In a few weeks, you will masturbate to orgasm by hand in less time than you were doing prone. Please keep me informed of your progress.
I stopped prone masturbation for 3 weeks. I tried conventional but was not able to do it. I went back to prone. How long do I have to abstain? What if I abstain and am not able to ejaculate forever? (age 30)
A: You don't have to abstain for three weeks. One week is plenty. Be strong and force yourself to have an orgasm with your hand. You will be very happy when you do. Do not revert to prone.
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